Does anyone just have lame ball-less friends?
Was supposed to hang out a good friend today, go up the north side of Chicago. Hit up some record/retro games/dvd stores, maybe hit up a bar. You know things that would at least get someone such as myself outside of the house. But of course his gf I guess decided to all of a sudden make herself free today and well I guess he can't say no to that and bam! the day is canceled. I guess I'll play The Old Republic today and be a loser.
I mean I get it. As you get older, your free time dwindles and relationships of course eat what little time you have left. But I mean come on man! Is this what happens to all guys? Is the ball and chain real? It seems ounce a dude has a gf they really are unable to do anything else.
Well, just to get some clarity here, you say she made herself free. How much time does he ordinarily spend with his girlfriend? Do they live together? Do they have busy lives? What I mean is that it's one thing for someone like me to cancel because I've got to stay home and help take care of the kid because the Mrs. is spent and doesn't want to do it alone while I'm out all day and night. I can see making the whip sounds or invoking the ball and chain imagery.
But, particularly in the early phases of relationships, it's pretty easy to understand why someone would rather hang out with their girlfriend if they don't see each other all the time. Not to knock you, but I don't think opting to hang out with his girl and probably have sex as opposed to going out for a beer with you denotes ball-lessness.
I shall add some context for you.
How much time does he ordinarily spend with her? Well I would say 24/7. They do in fact live with each other and have so for a year. But living together was her idea since she was being kicked out of her house and needed a place to live. So they got an apartment and I guess she forced(his wording not mine) to live with her. Now for the more shitty part. I would say my friend and I are extremely immature. Lets just say are biggest concerns are "man how am I going to afford this game". Well I guess they were for him until he got into this situation. While you would think that living on his own would mean he has more responsibilities, he sure wouldn't reflect it. He still rather waste his money on games instead of I don't know food for their apartment. I guess this isn't a problem since his gf has 2 jobs and really handles the load, I mean I don't think a gig at Gamestop pays that well for him. That doesn't sound ideal to me either, but I don't really want to criticize how others handle their business. Still I guess I can understand why he would feel obligated to stay at home with her when she is actually off work. But another thing I find annoying is when she does have work, he is basically her taxi cab. She doesn't drive so he has to drive her to it and pick her up. So anytime we can hang out, which is only when she is at work, is on a timer. See when she isn't at work, she's with him, meaning he can't do anything else. Not even talk on the phone.
I don't quite understand relationships. I know if I ever was in one I would want time to myself. I also don't think I'm ready for an adult one. And I think that's the problem with my friend here. He's in one, but I don't quite think he is an "adult" either.
And you can still do those things without being led about by the inside of his pocket, you know.
Pshh I do the leading here. And well I just don't think I want to walk around up north by myself. I mean you could, but that dosen't sound fun. And besides, I was off today for special reasons and felt like going out and taking my mind off things. Instead I guess today I'm going to help my grandmother with her stuff.
