RELATIONSHIPS: helping wizards deplete their mana since 2011

[Huff]

I restarted on Tinder and Bumble, but after seeing my friends tinder and the girl side. I'm not sure how a normal person even stands a chance on here. There where like millions of body builders and other super in shape and good looking dudes.

I'm probably not returning back to tinder (or bumble) when I start dating again.

I plan on asking girls out the old fashioned way. At bars. 

Lol okay .gif

[Atramental]

Maybe it's just me, but I feel like Dating sites are better than apps. App's don't let you fill in certain sections to give a better idea who you are. Bumbl, Tindr, hell Grindr and the like are "this is my body/face picture, a few others of me laughing, with friends maybe, and then a short paragraph with a Spotify/Instagram/Facebook/Twitter linked account. Swipe me!"

Feels... impersonal? Meat-market-ish? to me.

I dunno. I had the worst luck on dating sites as opposed to tinder.

Sometimes giving too much info about yourself just kills any mystique/allure you happen to have.

I kept a lot of things about myself deliberately vague on my tinder bio so a potential match could fill in the blanks.

Lol okay .gif

I'll have my tongue down some bar thot's throat next year. Just you watch.

[thisismyusername]

Maybe it's just me, but I feel like Dating sites are better than apps. App's don't let you fill in certain sections to give a better idea who you are. Bumbl, Tindr, hell Grindr and the like are "this is my body/face picture, a few others of me laughing, with friends maybe, and then a short paragraph with a Spotify/Instagram/Facebook/Twitter linked account. Swipe me!"

Feels... impersonal? Meat-market-ish? to me.

I dunno. I had the worst luck on dating sites as opposed to tinder.

Sometimes giving too much info about yourself just kills any mystique/allure you happen to have.

I kept a lot of things about myself deliberately vague on my tinder bio so a potential match could fill in the blanks.

You don't have to fill in every section. Maybe it's just me being "older" but the dating sites were like the "SWM 40 year old, seeks 40 SWF for companionship" newspaper ads in the pre-internet days. You filled out the sections of what you were interested in, tell a little about yourself and generally found "like-minded" folks compared to the apps where you go "they look cool and their profile blurb sounds interesting" and then find out you have nothing totally in common with that person.

Getting old, I guess.

[MMaRsu]

MMaRsu should probably just stick to smoking weed and playing vidya.

He doesn't seem very good at this dating stuff. 

Haha I'm not sure exactly what I did wrong in this case? In my view, nothing.

[Atramental]

I didn't even read your latest post.

I'm just talking in general.

[MMaRsu]

I didn't even read your latest post.

I'm just talking in general.

Hmm ok well in general you don't even know who I am so I would think it's easy to make assumptions but hard to be correct .

I do have a habit of messing around with girls who have some fucking problems in their life. A LOT of times.

[Atramental]

I didn't even read your latest post.

I'm just talking in general.

Hmm ok well in general you don't even know who I am so I would think it's easy to make assumptions but hard to be correct .

I do have a habit of messing around with girls who have some fucking problems in their life. A LOT of times.

Why tho? 

Maybe it's just my introversion talking but that seems like a gigantic waste of time & energy.

[MMaRsu]

I didn't even read your latest post.

I'm just talking in general.

Hmm ok well in general you don't even know who I am so I would think it's easy to make assumptions but hard to be correct .

I do have a habit of messing around with girls who have some fucking problems in their life. A LOT of times.

Why tho? 

Maybe it's just my introversion talking but that seems like a gigantic waste of time & energy.

It's really not like I'm looking for it. But I can admit that a lot of girls I've hooked up with, dated with or had relationship with, turned out to have some serious personality issues or just in general are fucked up in their life. Now I'm not saying I'm perfect because noone is and I know I have my own flaws. But sadly I just can't seem to just find someone who has their heart in the right place, is not boring as fuck, and doesn't have a boyfriend.

But I also must admit that the past two/three years I havent been putting in any energy in meeting women at all. So hell yeah I've been out of the game and must get myself back into the finer subtleties of dating.

After listening to Patrice lately, I understand that my happiness comes first. My happiness is paramount. So I should also stop putting women on a pedestal which I have been doing for a long time now. I should put myself up on that pedestal instead.

[Atramental]

I'm all for not being a door mat but you can't be a steam roller either. There's a subtle balance that needs to be struck. And if you put yourself on a pedestal you're just going to fall off and hurt yourself when things don't go your way.

Put yourself on ~slightly~ even ground (have yourself be an "inch" higher than them at most) with the women you want to attract. You'll get much better results that way.

edit: Also, Patrice can/could back up his gigantic ego because he was a talented and successful comedian.

If you're not as successful in your life as Patrice was then you should dial back the ego stroking by half if not more.

[MMaRsu]

I'm all for not being a door mat but you can't be a steam roller either. There's a subtle balance that needs to be struck. And if you put yourself on a pedestal you're just going to fall off and hurt yourself when things don't go your way.

Put yourself on ~slightly~ even ground (have yourself be an "inch" higher than them at most) with the women you want to attract. You'll get much better results that way.

edit: Also, Patrice can/could back up his gigantic ego because he was a talented and successful comedian.

If you're not as successful in your life as Patrice was then you should dial back the ego stroking by half if not more.

You are right on the money. But I have been a doormat in the past and would do anything for a girl if I'm with her. I was the nice guy in the relationship 100% of the time. My ego wasn't always as high as it is right now, but these past few months have really done wonders for me. I get a lot of looks from girls these days and just feel a lot better.

Ofcourse Patrice got his confidence from his succes as a comedian, but the logic behind is stories makes too much sense to ignore. I'm not saying I'm taking all his advice at face value, but he has some great points on how to get out of the friendzone etc all that shit. How women test your manhood *unconsciously*.

For me personally I am at a succesfull level right now because I recently got a degree to work in finance/banks and got a new job at a bank which I'm really enjoying so at the moment I'm doing pretty well. Just need to get a bigger crib now, because this one bedroom appartment fucking sucks ass.

[CatsCatsCats]

Mutual super liked with a major cutie — and then she went back home across the country

[Mupepe]

Mutual super liked with a major cutie — and then she went back home across the country

Send her dick pics.  From what I understand chicks love that shit.

[Phoenix Dark]

Women been off dick pick for over a year. We sending vids of us jerking off/busting nuts now. Bless up.

[Joe Molotov]

Mutual super liked with a major cutie — and then she went back home across the country

Send her dick pics.  From what I understand chicks love that shit.

My dick is so big, the girl sent it in to the local news.

[Valkyrie]

Send girls good memes and cute cat pics

[MMaRsu]

Ok fuck I really could use your guys help here

Today we had a 'party and dinner' at work, and this girl who I had been talking about was asking for my attention constantly. She sat next to me during dinner, and before the party texted me if I wanted a ride with her, I didnt respond till I was already there so I could say no need. Then I told her she could bring me home lol, she said ok no probs.

So I talked with her in the car she told me this other guy basically broke up with her lol. So now I guess she's into me again or what the fuck man.

This is some manipulative bullshit.

[toku]

you're acting like such a little bitch and you haven't even hooked up with her yet 

[desert punk]

Ok this girl with a daughter I was messing with is a total fucking mess lol. I'm outta there, told her the truth and got the fuck out.

Stayed a gentleman but gave her the raw medicine she was asking for.

So much for that

[MMaRsu]

you're acting like such a littlebitch and you haven't even hooked up with her yet 

Yes I am a little bitch and I fucking know it. HOW DO I FIX THIS SHIT TOKU HEAL MY DUMB ASS WITH YOUR WISDOM

[CatsCatsCats]

Have you tried not being a little bitch? Nothing about what she did is manipulative, btw. You just need to learn how to Communicate

[MMaRsu]

Have you tried not being a little bitch?

How dude

Give me some fucking advice  I aint hard like Patrice :/

Should I have just tried to kiss her again?

She's picking me up tomorrow morning..so second chance?

HALP HOW DO I MAKE GOOD TIME HAPPEN I AM NOT GOOD WITH WOMAN

[CatsCatsCats]

Step one: delete all that Patrice shit from your memory banks

Step two: chill and get used to the idea that things won’t go as planned 90% of the time

Step three: Communicate 

[CatsCatsCats]

Also, get some advice from I’m a Puppy, that dude knows how to people

[MMaRsu]

Have you tried not being a little bitch? Nothing about what she did is manipulative, btw. You just need to learn how to Communicate

Why not? I've already asked her plenty of times is that if she wants to just be friends just come out and say it

I told her I'm digging you and I want you, you already know that shit but if you're not down for that then that's cool

What else do I need to ask/tell her?

[CatsCatsCats]

Well what did she say to that

[MMaRsu]

Step one: delete all that Patrice shit from your memory banks

Step two: chill and get used to the idea that things won’t go as planned 90% of the time

Step three: Communicate

Sure, but I think my problem is more that I don't remember Patrice his fucking style when I'm with her one on one.

I feel like I'm bitching out here.

Well what did she say to that

She ignored it completely. She doesn't admit to just wanting to be friends but she keeps asking for my fucking attention.

[CatsCatsCats]

She ignored it completely in person?

[MMaRsu]

She ignored it completely in person?

Nope through text. I havent actually said that shit in person. That's why I feel like Im bitching out.

It certainly could be that she just wants me to say that shit to her face and conquer her ass.

[CatsCatsCats]

Oh. Yeah, it’s cuz you are. Talk to her in the car. Ask her on a date or something don’t do some weird grand standing take it or leave it shit

[MMaRsu]

Oh. Yeah, it’s cuz you are. Talk to her in the car. Ask her on a date or something don’t do some weird grand standing take it or leave it shit

Allright I'll just ask her tomorrow in the car in the morning. I gotta man the fuck up man.

[MMaRsu]

I mean listen to this phone call from Randy & Phil here



I need to do that shit imo. This girl wants me to be straight with her and she has already said a bunch of times she has a dirty mind.

[Phoenix Dark]

why post Patrice videos if it's not the GOAT video

[shosta]

MMaRsu, you're being a little fuck boy. Just chill the fuck out and stop taking it so seriously. Obsessing over it probably isn't your only problem but it's clearly a huge one. Cats is right, offering someone an ultimatum is the weakest shit. You're not a doormat for going on a fucking date you trash monster. She's just warming up to you, probably will take some time, be cool and attractive and you'll get there in the end. If you think she's taking her sweet time, why don't you have a kid with someone and then go through a nasty divorce or something and see how long it takes you to open up romantically.

[hungrynoob]

She ignored it completely. She doesn't admit to just wanting to be friends but she keeps asking for my fucking attention.

Then have some self-respect and forget her. Flip flops are for the beach.

[BlueTsunami]

I will say one thing, as I get older I am able to relate more and more with Patrices opinions about hookups. They're only good for the jerk off session you'll use the memory from, in fucking peace

On another note, fear of the friend zone. Fear nothing, for fear is the mind killer

*upswelling of Lynchs Dune OST*

[bluemax]

Send girls good memes and cute cat pics

I've certainly seen more profiles saying they're into memes or .gifs than dick pics.

[MMaRsu]

MMaRsu, you're being a little fuck boy. Just chill the fuck out and stop taking it so seriously. Obsessing over it probably isn't your only problem but it's clearly a huge one. Cats is right, offering someone an ultimatum is the weakest shit. You're not a doormat for going on a fucking date you trash monster. She's just warming up to you, probably will take some time, be cool and attractive and you'll get there in the end. If you think she's taking her sweet time, why don't you have a kid with someone and then go through a nasty divorce or something and see how long it takes you to open up romantically.

Hey now I'm not saying relationship or nothing at all. But at least be up front if you feelin me the same way im feeling you

[MMaRsu]

So basically I just said what I posted above here, she said its not mutual

pretty happy bout this lol

at least i got some fucking clearity.

[hungrynoob]

Now how about next time you chill a bit and try not put too much pressure on the poor lass?There was a chance she was probably interested until you required confirmation.

[MMaRsu]

Now how about next time you chill a bit and try not put too much pressure on the poor lass?There was a chance she was probably interested until you required confirmation.

I doubt it dude. She's emotionally invested in this other guy who broke up with her.

Thats cool with me, just come out and say it lol.

[shosta]

I feel like my sperm count lowered just reading the last page of this thread

[Reb]

I want everybody to note that I've been lobbying to ban mmarsu for years now.
I'm a visionary.

[I'm a Puppy!]

Now how about next time you chill a bit and try not put too much pressure on the poor lass?There was a chance she was probably interested until you required confirmation.

I doubt it dude. She's emotionally invested in this other guy who broke up with her.

Thats cool with me, just come out and say it lol.

LOL. Dude, You gave her zero reason to like you and then gave her an ultimatum. The outcome is utterly unsurprising.

[MMaRsu]

Now how about next time you chill a bit and try not put too much pressure on the poor lass?There was a chance she was probably interested until you required confirmation.

I doubt it dude. She's emotionally invested in this other guy who broke up with her.

Thats cool with me, just come out and say it lol.

LOL. Dude, You gave her zero reason to like you and then gave her an ultimatum. The outcome is utterly unsurprising.

Breh, you dont know jack shit. If I gave her zero reason to like me, why has she been asking for my attention for 2 months now.

[Huff]

I will say one thing, as I get older I am able to relate more and more with Patrices opinions about hookups. They're only good for the jerk off session you'll use the memory from, in fucking peace

On another note, fear of the friend zone. Fear nothing, for fear is the mind killer

*upswelling of Lynchs Dune OST*

why would someone jerk it to the memory of a hook-up when porn exists?

[Rufus]

memories > porn
sometimes: imagination > porn (early mornings, for me)

[I'm a Puppy!]

Now how about next time you chill a bit and try not put too much pressure on the poor lass?There was a chance she was probably interested until you required confirmation.

I doubt it dude. She's emotionally invested in this other guy who broke up with her.

Thats cool with me, just come out and say it lol.

LOL. Dude, You gave her zero reason to like you and then gave her an ultimatum. The outcome is utterly unsurprising.

Breh, you dont know jack shit. If I gave her zero reason to like me, why has she been asking for my attention for 2 months now.

Oh my sweet summer child. Asking for attention != giving someone a reason to like you.
It's like you get someone into a restaurant and all you serve are mayonaisse sandwiches.

[CatsCatsCats]

Also, get some advice from I’m a Puppy, that dude knows how to people

[kingv]

Women been off dick pick for over a year. We sending vids of us jerking off/busting nuts now. Bless up.

Fuck, now I gotta save up a load just to sexually harass these hoes? Lame af.

As a side note, the other reason not to to tinder or bumbl is quality. Unless you are an Adonis, tinder tends to exaggerate your flaws and IMO you will end up with matches that are much lower quality than in person. Having the balls to walk up to a chick and introduce yourself/make a fool of yourself still counts for something even in today’s world.

[CatsCatsCats]

But the quantity

[BlueTsunami]

Women been off dick pick for over a year. We sending vids of us jerking off/busting nuts now. Bless up.

No lie, did this for a former work hookup on snap and she busted. I fear for the next generation though. Gonna be butthole related stuff dudes will need to send. Aside from the shame, the logistics of getting a well composed butthole shot seems particularly daunting. I feel for them.

[shosta]

How are you not already sending butthole stuff to chicks it's the year two thousand and seventeen

[BlueTsunami]

That'll be my old man yelling at cloud moment. If I ever have a son ill have to sit him down and tell him he shouldn't feel pressured into showing his butthole just because Conner was so willing to show Jassenia what that booty do. Conner a hoe.

[kingv]

How are you not already sending butthole stuff to chicks it's the year two thousand and seventeen

My girl says only snap me goatse tributes or keep it in your pants.

[I'm a Puppy!]

You want to see a butthole? I can get you a pick of a butthole by 3 o'clock.

[shosta]

I *hate* 3 o clock shadows on buttholes.

[shosta]

From 2 years ago:

-fears of commitment persist, and I worry I might do something stupid if I don't grow some balls and be happy for once

[toku]

nothing before its time

[hungrynoob]

Hit me with the 'one that got away' stories.

[shosta]

Hit me with the 'one that got away' stories.

girl told me straight up what was wrong in our relationship and what I had to do to fix it but I wasn't hearing any of it so I told her to fuck off and she fucked my friend. Two year relationship with a great girl down the drain.