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General => The Superdeep Borehole => Topic started by: Bebpo on May 24, 2009, 05:05:05 AM

Title: Girl topic
Post by: Bebpo on May 24, 2009, 05:05:05 AM
I wouldn't normally post one of these as I stopped looking for women at this point and just letting it happen if I meet someone and we gel.  But I was looking through my quiver at Okcupid, which is where the site recommends people who it thinks you might gel with (note: it's usually wrong) and there was this girl:

(unfortunately you have to sign up to see her profile, which I feel may limit this thread)

And I read her profile and I was like  :o  She sounds amaaaaaazing and she lives in the same little town as me where like no one lives, at least no one on dating sites, and she's within my age bracket (I'm 27) so it's not loli territory or anything. 

I dunno what to do :(  I feel like Recursive right now :(

Wait.  Now that I think about it almost seems like it could be recursive if he was female hmmmmmm....
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on May 24, 2009, 05:06:51 AM
Message her? Getting messages from guys on a dating site isn't going to blow her mind, I think.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Bebpo on May 24, 2009, 05:10:09 AM
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Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Bebpo on May 24, 2009, 05:14:12 AM
Message her? Getting messages from guys on a dating site isn't going to blow her mind, I think.

 :lol , yeah but I'm just a little nervous cause she seems really cool so I don't want to come off as insincere.  Normally I'm not nervous when messaging girls as there are a million girls out there and if 10 of them never reply back to me I couldn't care less.  But it'd be cool to at least have a conversation with this girl and see if we get along, so I'm nervous  :ninja

Maybe I should practice with recursive.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Bebpo on May 24, 2009, 05:18:09 AM
Oh and there's another hitch, she's only on the site for "friends" not "dating".

But it does say she is straight and single, sooooo....
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on May 24, 2009, 05:19:01 AM
she ... seems a lot less dysfunctional than me, but I'm flattered, I guess.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Reb on May 24, 2009, 05:22:12 AM
She's a nerd, she's not as cool as you think.

So, no need to worry about your message.

spoiler (click to show/hide)
NERDS!
[close]
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on May 24, 2009, 05:22:55 AM
also, now you have to message her or else I will, telling her how much you lurve her, and she'll probably think you had me do it for you cuz you got cold feet lulz drama
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 24, 2009, 05:23:04 AM
You're attracted to her because she's half-Asian, right? Because I don't see the attraction. She's hiding her face in her two profile photos, she can't write a coherent summary about herself, and she only scored 94 on the verbal portion of an IQ test.

Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Reb on May 24, 2009, 05:24:49 AM
also, now you have to message her or else I will, telling her how much you lurve her, and she'll probably think you had me do it for you cuz you got cold feet lulz

:lol

You're attracted to her because she's half-Asian, right? Because I don't see the attraction. She's hiding her face in her two profile photos, she can't write a coherent summary about herself, and she only scored 94 on the verbal portion of an IQ test.

You see, she's beneath you, you can write her a condescending message.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on May 24, 2009, 05:25:30 AM
also also, I will regret this but: http://www.okcupid.com/profile/klaus-narr

compare and contrast
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 24, 2009, 05:28:04 AM
also also, I will regret this but: http://www.okcupid.com/profile/klaus-narr

compare and contrast

78% Match
73% Friend

 :-*
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Bebpo on May 24, 2009, 05:28:41 AM
You're attracted to her because she's half-Asian, right? Because I don't see the attraction. She's hiding her face in her two profile photos, she can't write a coherent summary about herself, and she only scored 94 on the verbal portion of an IQ test.

I'm attracted to her because she's lived a foreign life like I have and seen the world from a different perspective.  She is writing a thesis on "learning a 2nd language through videogames" which ummm...is how I learned Japanese (in addition to classes).  She is writing game design documents, which is awesome and learning C++, which I also tried to learn at one point when I wanted to make my own games.  I dunno, all that screams totally awesome person to me.

Visually, she just looks cute.  Don't have much more to say than that.  I don't find Asian women attractive tbh, but she doesn't look Asian in the pictures.  
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Bebpo on May 24, 2009, 05:30:05 AM
also also, I will regret this but: http://www.okcupid.com/profile/klaus-narr

compare and contrast

Wow.  You are pretty hot.  :-*

62% Match
46% Friend
36% Enemy
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Reb on May 24, 2009, 05:30:11 AM
I'll stick to my point, she's not super hot, she has nerdy interests, you can safely message her.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on May 24, 2009, 05:33:32 AM
I think you're better off learning something other than C++ as your first language in this day and age, even if you want to make games.  Have you looked at XNA or PyGame?
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: BobFromPikeCreek on May 24, 2009, 05:35:12 AM
I should get one of these dealies.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: FatalT on May 24, 2009, 05:37:59 AM
Listen to Rebiak. My department got a few new employees and one of them was this cute blonde girl. I looked her up on Facebook and she turned out to be the nerdiest person I've ever seen in my entire life. Cosplays. Has a gaia online account. Deviant art. Types kuwaii and all that crap. Went to Japan. Loves anime and stuff. I was amazed and couldn't wait to get to know her at work.

It turns out nerds fucking suck. She spends every shift I work with her blabbering about scientology or some book she's reading and being completely socially awkward. She also has a tendency of poking me randomly like a tard. Moral of the story is, just because they share the same nerdiness as you doesn't mean they share the same maturity level.

This was a waste of typing. Oh well, I wrote too much so instead of getting rid of it like I usually do with all my posts, I'm clicking Post.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: demi on May 24, 2009, 05:39:33 AM
Wow thanks for the side profile pic bebpo. wtf.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: FatalT on May 24, 2009, 05:44:16 AM
Hey tyler, whats your gaia username?

I don't have one.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 24, 2009, 05:48:56 AM
she's EmCeeGrammar with a vag.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on May 24, 2009, 05:56:45 AM
nerdy girls I know are pretty cool, maybe the problem is YOU :smug
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Bebpo on May 24, 2009, 06:21:50 AM
Ok, I messaged her with a 4000+ character message that told the story of my life in how it relates to her thesis.

Normally I just say hey, that's a funny cat you're wearing!  But like I said I was nervous and when I'm nervous I ramble and write hundreds of words (see all my freelance writing done under pressure).

Would be cool if I she replies, but I'll not think about it since who knows if she will.  She hadn't checked her profile for a week at this point, so she might have left the site already.  Oh well, sure gave an interesting night either way :P
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: demi on May 24, 2009, 06:24:09 AM
Ok, I messaged her with a 4000+ character message that told the story of my life in how it relates to her thesis.

Normally I just say hey, that's a funny cat you're wearing!  But like I said I was nervous and when I'm nervous I ramble and write hundreds of words (see all my freelance writing done under pressure).

Would be cool if I she replies, but I'll not think about it since who knows if she will.  She hadn't checked her profile for a week at this point, so she might have left the site already.  Oh well, sure gave an interesting night either way :P

lol. you blew it. delete your account before she reads it
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Bebpo on May 24, 2009, 06:26:20 AM
nerdy girls I know are pretty cool, maybe the problem is YOU :smug

I've never met a nerdy girl in real life >_<  All the girls I've met in person and/or dated have been totally normal/psycho normal girls into normal girl things like pink and disney and drinking at bars.  Which is ok if they're cool people, but it would be nice to meet someone who was a punk/nerdy person like myself.  I really don't know anyone much like me at all IRL.  My friends IRL are awesome and I love 'em but they do not play games in Japanese and read One Piece and get incredibly excited that the Rancid album is finally coming out in 2 weeks.  I want to meet someone like that one day before I die.  Just to see if the world explodes  ;)
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Bebpo on May 24, 2009, 06:27:51 AM
lol. you blew it. delete your account before she reads it

You're not tricking me into trying to give up on women and join the evilbore wilde homo club :P  I slept in the same bed as duckroll and nothing happened so I am definitely straight!
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Bebpo on May 24, 2009, 06:32:19 AM
FOR THOUSAND CHARACTERS!?!

Why don't you send a diamond ring to her while your at it?

All you had to say something like:

Hi, I'm "Whatever the fuck your name is"

I came across your profile recently and would like to chat with you sometime.

Thanks!

But noooo you had to write some long winded reply talking about you life story. Jesus dude, why didn't just send her some pick up lines in Japanese. Or sent pictures of your dick like normal men on dating websites?

 :'(
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Bebpo on May 24, 2009, 06:34:32 AM
When I took the Greek Mythology Personality Test it said I was Prometheus.  It basically said I was awesome but then ended with this paragraph:

"Relationships are your kryptonite. It isn't that you don't want them -- in fact, you would very much like a very close relationship with someone who understands you. They're just the one thing in the world that you're naturally bad at."

 :-\
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Bebpo on May 24, 2009, 06:36:25 AM
And on the general personality test it said I was The Last Man on Earth (which actually sounds kind of badass and cool to me) but...

"Shit, rejected again. You are The Last Man on Earth.

Sorry, but most women would rather see the human species wither to an end—and therefore deny the most fundamental instinct that living creatures have—than sleep with you.

We’ve learned the following: you don’t think things through. You’re haphazard. You’re dangerous. You’re somewhat inexperienced. It’s totally obvious that you’re a horny bugger, as well. Everybody knows that and steers clear.

To top things off, when you do find your way into a relationship, you tend to be a dick somewhere down the line and fuck it all up.

There’s a small, but negligible, chance we’re wrong. In any case, your friends find your shit hilarious. There’s nothing cooler than a dude reducing himself to human rubble."

 :-\
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Bebpo on May 24, 2009, 06:40:50 AM
Wait, you took those before doing this and yet you still did it? Come on man, open your damn eyes!

So wait, I'm supposed to just give up on meeting someone in life because every personality test tells me I have a 0.00001% chance of actually having a working relationship?

Fuck the tests, I'm awesome and somebody out there has to appreciate it.  So I just gotta find them, despite being horrible with introductions and the opposite sex.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on May 24, 2009, 07:04:51 AM
Quote
Ok, I messaged her with a 4000+ character message that told the story of my life in how it relates to her thesis.

Normally I just say hey, that's a funny cat you're wearing!  But like I said I was nervous and when I'm nervous I ramble and write hundreds of words (see all my freelance writing done under pressure).

i actually think it might be ok.  your rambling writing tends to be fairly laid back and likable.  but what do i know.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Bebpo on May 24, 2009, 07:11:57 AM
Quote
Ok, I messaged her with a 4000+ character message that told the story of my life in how it relates to her thesis.

Normally I just say hey, that's a funny cat you're wearing!  But like I said I was nervous and when I'm nervous I ramble and write hundreds of words (see all my freelance writing done under pressure).

i actually think it might be ok.  your rambling writing tends to be fairly laid back and likable.  but what do i know.

Thanks :)  Btw, I really liked your profile.  It reads nicely and you come across as laid back, funny, and smart.  I hope you meet someone with it!  Although you seem so busy, do you even have time for a gf?  I kind of got the same feeling with this girl's profile; it's like...how would she ever have time to have a bf?  Maybe that's why her profile just says she's looking for friends.

One time I wrote a girl this loooong story of driving in the snow in Japan and pinballing off the barricades to keep from dying and she liked it.  So occasionally women seem to be unoffended by long tales.  Though I do agree with the general idea that it's best to keep it brief.  Save all the juicy long tales for when you meet in person.  But I feel like I have a lot of stories so I'm ok on that end for a while.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Powerslave on May 24, 2009, 07:13:07 AM
Girls :drool
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Bebpo on May 24, 2009, 07:16:26 AM
Girls :drool

Yep.  You go months not thinking about them and stacking up your cards; then suddenly one catches your eye and the house of cards you built falls apart leaving you back at square one.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Human Snorenado on May 24, 2009, 09:44:37 AM
Yup, you totally blew it.  Writing her a bible as an introductory message?  Should have just sent her a pic of your jrpg collection and said "let's get busy."
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Sho Nuff on May 24, 2009, 10:14:30 AM
Hi Bebpo, Patel's EB account is dead but he asked me to post this:

"Hey Bebpo, That's Rachel, we dated for a month last fall. She looks good on paper but I don't think it would work out long term. The good news is she lives like a block from you so maybe she'll want to play Street Fighter! She's better at that than dating. Luv, Patel"
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: WrikaWrek on May 24, 2009, 10:39:20 AM
I'm not an expert on this, and to be honest most of the "rules" shit you are told about are for the most part just a bunch of bs, because girls aren't the same and the rules only work as far as your looks go and the sound of your voice and etc.

There's only one rule that i would say applies to the majority of people. That rule is, you can't look needie, you gotta look confident even if you are just faking it, doesn't matter. Which means you don't tell the story of your life in detailed fashion as an introduction.

But, depending on how desperate and emotionally unstable she is, it might just work. Usually not the kind of girl you want to be dealing with but hey.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: tiesto on May 24, 2009, 12:26:43 PM
Hey, girls into nerdy type stuff ARE out there. I went on a date the other night with a girl who beat the Guardian Legend, loves oldskool games (we were talking about Battletoads, StarTropics, Double Dragon, etc), and is a major RE fangirl (even has an RE related tattoo). So, they're out there. I just gotta hope this one picks up when I call her.

And the other day I got a msg from a 34 year old from NYC, who listens to the exact same type of music as me. Too bad she hasn't responded yet when I mailed her.

But anyways, yeah the girl looks cute, and I wish you the best of luck. OKC is kinda weird since you'll meet people on there who look great on paper, but they won't write back to you... I usually try to keep the messages pretty brief and basic... like mention one or two things in the profile and talk how they relate to you. 2 or 3 paragraphs seem sufficient for a first message.

And my dorky-ass OKC profile for those who are interested:

http://www.okcupid.com/users/sssa (http://www.okcupid.com/users/sssa)
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Cyanista on May 24, 2009, 12:36:58 PM
That's her thesis?  She sounds like a tard.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on May 24, 2009, 12:41:09 PM
Hi Bebpo, Patel's EB account is dead but he asked me to post this:

"Hey Bebpo, That's Rachel, we dated for a month last fall. She looks good on paper but I don't think it would work out long term. The good news is she lives like a block from you so maybe she'll want to play Street Fighter! She's better at that than dating. Luv, Patel"


lol, if true.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Bloodwake on May 24, 2009, 12:52:56 PM
Lol. I did OKCupid for two or so years and had no success other than maybe a message back every once in a while.

Good luck, but I wouldn't hold your breath.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Sho Nuff on May 24, 2009, 01:14:31 PM
Hi Bebpo, Patel's EB account is dead but he asked me to post this:

"Hey Bebpo, That's Rachel, we dated for a month last fall. She looks good on paper but I don't think it would work out long term. The good news is she lives like a block from you so maybe she'll want to play Street Fighter! She's better at that than dating. Luv, Patel"


lol, if true.

Straight up tru, got it direct from Patel. I don't post in Real Talk anyhoo
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Positive Touch on May 24, 2009, 01:45:06 PM
:rofl the best part is that you posted it here for everyone to see instead of sending a PM
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 24, 2009, 02:13:30 PM
okcupid is a joke
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Bebpo on May 24, 2009, 02:24:22 PM
Hi Bebpo, Patel's EB account is dead but he asked me to post this:

"Hey Bebpo, That's Rachel, we dated for a month last fall. She looks good on paper but I don't think it would work out long term. The good news is she lives like a block from you so maybe she'll want to play Street Fighter! She's better at that than dating. Luv, Patel"


 :lol

The internet is too small.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 24, 2009, 04:43:12 PM
Of course she's bad at dating but good at Street Fighter;  her verbal intelligence is nearly three standard deviations below her spatial intelligence. (http://www.okcupid.com/iqadventure?describe=Spatial+(136)&score=110792589) I don't think your average assburger has that kind of mental disparity.

Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on May 24, 2009, 04:51:40 PM
There are some intelligent women I know that say some of the dumbest shit online.

Especially if it is MySpace or Facebook.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: archie4208 on May 24, 2009, 05:07:45 PM
She's cute.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on May 24, 2009, 05:18:26 PM
I don't do dating. I rape.

 :teehee
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on May 24, 2009, 05:21:25 PM
What the fuck, MyNameIsMud is back?

Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on May 24, 2009, 05:29:28 PM
Yeah you shot way past insecure into "Lonely and needy"
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Mondain on May 24, 2009, 05:34:53 PM
Aren't these okcupid "matches" completely meaningless and random BS?
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on May 24, 2009, 05:37:31 PM
i think YOU'RE completely meaningless and random BS  :maf
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 24, 2009, 05:41:31 PM
Aren't these okcupid "matches" completely meaningless and random BS?

The match percentage is based on how similar your answers to meaningless questions are to another user's answers.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on May 24, 2009, 05:43:31 PM
TBH, she seems like the typical Juno type scene girl - a girl who relies on her attempt to be quirky and shore up her indie cred, which often gets mistaken for intelligence.

Of course she's bad at dating but good at Street Fighter;  her verbal intelligence is nearly three standard deviations below her spatial intelligence. (http://www.okcupid.com/iqadventure?describe=Spatial+(136)&score=110792589) I don't think your average assburger has that kind of mental disparity.



I lol'd like an idiot at this post.

Maybe EmCeeGrammar should take this test to see if you're right.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 24, 2009, 05:45:27 PM
Unfortunately the test is offline.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: demi on May 24, 2009, 05:58:17 PM
Patel never mentioned if he did in fact hit dat. Wouldn't want Bebpo getting some sloppy Patel seconds. That would be kind of weird
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on May 24, 2009, 05:59:30 PM
I bet he did
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 24, 2009, 06:02:13 PM
The fact that he omitted to mention whether he did "hit dat" indicates that he didn't. Also, the best thing he could say about her was that she's good at SFIV. This means she didn't put out or just wasn't very good.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: demi on May 24, 2009, 06:02:36 PM
Also, I wouldnt be distraught by Patel's words. He comes across as more of a prude than you would be, Bebpo.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Bebpo on May 24, 2009, 06:10:50 PM
This has been entertaining, especially the completely unexpected wtfff Patel reveal, but since I don't really expect a msg back I think the laughs are probably at an end.  :P

Also, I wouldnt be distraught by Patel's words. He comes across as more of a prude than you would be, Bebpo.

Stop trying to get on my good side  :-*
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Bebpo on May 24, 2009, 06:12:18 PM
It is too bad that the IQ test thingy is down as I'm pretty curious where I would fall. 
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: demi on May 24, 2009, 06:13:43 PM
Patel should help a bro out and hook you two up. Maybe he is just jealous you will save the princess and win the game.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 24, 2009, 06:23:14 PM
Patel is an English major. Surely he could invent a better, more logical metaphor. For example: "She's bad at dating, but boy is she good at Missle Command."
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on May 24, 2009, 06:32:14 PM
When we're playing Defender she sure sucks at hyperspace.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Joe Molotov on May 24, 2009, 08:08:57 PM
He meant Strip Fighter.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Fresh Prince on May 24, 2009, 09:01:48 PM
4000 words?

stalker much?

smh. smh.

:lol@ Patel
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 24, 2009, 09:02:44 PM
In his defense, he said 4000 characters, not words.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Fresh Prince on May 24, 2009, 09:04:44 PM
Where did I get 4000 words from? mojovino smh.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Flannel Boy on May 24, 2009, 09:21:01 PM
He needs to post the message.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Fresh Prince on May 24, 2009, 09:22:14 PM
The amount of characters in his message prolly sent her off :teehee
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on May 24, 2009, 09:23:48 PM
She probably figured "why read this losers message when I can play with the emotional heart strings of other young turks who like video games"
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: archie4208 on May 24, 2009, 09:36:37 PM
Couldn't you have just sent her a message and been like "hey I noticed we have some things in common wanna hang out sometime"? ???
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Fresh Prince on May 24, 2009, 09:40:21 PM
As if that hasn't been said a million times already.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: archie4208 on May 24, 2009, 09:44:23 PM
I just want to pour more salt on the wound.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: MyNameIsMethodis on May 24, 2009, 09:45:02 PM
4000 characters? What are you trying to do? Bathe her in a sea of despair?
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: chronovore on May 24, 2009, 11:41:44 PM
Yup, you totally blew it.  Writing her a bible as an introductory message?  Should have just sent her a pic of your jrpg collection and said "let's get busy."

This.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Bebpo on May 24, 2009, 11:49:58 PM
I wrote a few paragraph short amusing story about how I learned Japanese through videogames and where that led me as support for her thesis, jeez.  You guess make it seem like I sent a 10 page rant of emotion or something, lol.

Anyhow, like I said at the start: she hadn't even been online/checked her mails for a week.  There's a good chance she left the site or took a break from it meaning that she'll never even read it, there won't be a msg back, and this thread will lack the funny ending it deserves.

Although Patel could still make a funny end to this thread.  Or if it turns out that the girl in question actually posts here, that could be a lol-material finale as well.  But most likely there will be no final chapter.


And I'm not going to repost my msg here because it's kind of boring to the EB crowd.  If it was a 10 page emotional rant I would repost it for the amusement of others.  But I think the response it would elicit from you guys would be "...oh".
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: tiesto on May 25, 2009, 03:28:12 AM
These dating sites are great, because they could lead to actually going and meeting someone. But you can't fucking depend on them. Stop being such fucking assbergers and talk to a random girl IRL every once and a while. You don't have to be trying to get in to her pants or anything, but work on your social skills.

Sending a 4000+ word message and opening up to a complete stranger is worrying, bud. Reign yourself in.

I do both dating sites and talking to girls I meet at bars/hangout spots... They supplement each other.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Bebpo on May 25, 2009, 03:40:05 AM
I've never been to a bar.  I wonder if I should check one out to see what it's like one day.  I always imagined bars would be filled with the people you see at bars in movies, which are kind of like the biker bar tough burly people.  But a lot of cute girl profiles says they go to bars/dive bars on the weekends.

I randomly talk to people in real life, but they're just little "oh hey, blah blah blah" conversations that last like a minute and I never see the person again.  I guess you could say I'm fine at starting conversations, but I don't carry them for too long.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Bebpo on May 25, 2009, 03:45:42 AM
One thing interesting that came out of this thread is why do like half of EBers live in Oregon???  There seems to be a lot of you guys there.  We should have an EB convention in Oregon one year.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: demi on May 25, 2009, 03:54:10 AM
tell her u like scratches
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Bebpo on May 25, 2009, 03:59:39 AM
tell her u like scratches

I'll tell you I like scratches

spoiler (click to show/hide)
if I like scratches
[close]
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: demi on May 25, 2009, 04:02:24 AM
*scritch scritch*
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on May 25, 2009, 10:20:50 AM
Bars are ok for friends but bad for pick ups.  Most women know why you're there and as a result, the odds are stacked against you as soon as you walk in the door.  If you go in there wanting to have a good time first and pick up women second, I think you will have fun if you go with friends.  If you get a girl, it is a nice bonus.  If you go in there expecting to get your pencil wet right off the bat, you will probably find yourself disappointed, unless waiting at the tail end to see whatever drunk chicks are left, which of course is pretty seedy.

The downside of course is that everything is fucking expensive.  What I did during my college days was just get loaded before going to the bar by pounding down a few shots.  By the time I got into the bar, I had a pretty good buzz going and just maintained it.

You should go to some sometime.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: tiesto on May 25, 2009, 11:19:16 AM
Sadly, by the time you're my age, out of school and working full time, you really have very little options other than the bars or online. Some bars can be fun, the more relaxed, low-key ones, or gimmick ones. But your typical college-hangout Irish pub filled with frat boys and/or guidos... DO NOT WANT
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Cyanista on May 25, 2009, 12:28:45 PM
So you learned Japanese from video games.  If you're ever in Japan and need to tell everyone around you to transform, or need to alert passerby to the fact that you are being raped by a tentacle demon, you will be set.


SMH.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on May 25, 2009, 04:02:10 PM
a bar is just a place where people go to hang out and drink, the fact that it's a bar doesn't really determine its clientele.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Human Snorenado on May 25, 2009, 04:38:24 PM
a bar is just a place where people go to hang out and drink, the fact that it's a bar doesn't really determine its clientele.

But they have a stigmata.

yeah, with whiny little pussies
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on May 25, 2009, 06:15:51 PM
Quote
stigmata
hot
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Reb on May 25, 2009, 06:27:52 PM
Quote
stigmata
hot

a stigmata
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Fresh Prince on May 25, 2009, 06:46:42 PM
mojovino is the new arvie.

Bars are good with friends, don't be that guy that sits alone.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on May 25, 2009, 06:50:03 PM
I'm that guy  :-\  The problem is while I have friends, I don't have any friends I'd want to go to a bar with. 
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Fresh Prince on May 25, 2009, 06:51:25 PM
Lounges?
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on May 25, 2009, 06:51:57 PM
wtf is a lounge, besides a kind of chair?
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Fresh Prince on May 25, 2009, 06:57:47 PM
Just a type of bar which is more relaxed, uppercrust etc.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on May 25, 2009, 07:11:58 PM
I guess that's sort of what the small bar down the street from my apartment is.  I don't go there with friends, but I have quasi-friends who are there all the time.  Everybody there knows my name, though I'm not sure if they're always glad I came, or if our troubles are all the same.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: OptimoPeach on May 25, 2009, 07:25:26 PM
Everybody there knows my name, though I'm not sure if they're always glad I came, or if our troubles are all the same.
:teehee
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Phoenix Dark on May 25, 2009, 07:31:27 PM
I wrote a few paragraph short amusing story about how I learned Japanese through videogames

[youtube=560,345]_Xm1XErUvXo[/youtube]
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Fresh Prince on May 25, 2009, 07:38:33 PM
Whatever happened to that vampire chick, PD?
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: drohne on May 25, 2009, 07:40:14 PM
if you go to bars regularly, make a point of talking to people, and are not hideous or hideously awkward, you will get laid soon enough. if that's what you're looking for. apparently alcohol weakens inhibitions or something, who would've guessed

i'm somehow moved into the exact epicenter of all the bars i used to drive out to, and i guess they're all crammed with useless hipsters, but it's funny how characteristic and distinct each bar's breed of useless hipsters is
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on May 25, 2009, 07:41:51 PM
:bow useless hipsters :bow2
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Fresh Prince on May 25, 2009, 07:44:41 PM
:piss useless hipsters :piss2
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: drohne on May 25, 2009, 07:51:03 PM
never mind
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Fresh Prince on May 25, 2009, 07:59:10 PM
Now I'm intrigued  >:(
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Eric P on May 25, 2009, 08:50:00 PM
:bow hipsters :bow2
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: tiesto on May 25, 2009, 11:54:28 PM
I'd kill to replace the guidos and fratboys at the majority of Island bars with hipsters...

especially hipster chicks, yum!
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on May 26, 2009, 01:28:00 AM
why don't you just move to Portland then?
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Loki on May 26, 2009, 04:39:31 AM
Thread hijack, since it's not worth its own thread.  What would you guys do in this situation:


I have a VERY attractive friend whom I've known since freshman year of college (12 years).  We've lost touch for longish periods of time here and there, but she's always flirted with me (in fact, she said that the reason she first started talking to me was because she thought I was cute).  She's always had a BF whenever we've actively been communicating (emails/calls or hanging out).

Now, she's been with her current BF for about 2 years and is planning on moving to Cali with him since he'll be attending Berkeley grad school there.  Thing is, I've gotten pretty close with her over the past couple of months, and it turns out that I completely misjudged her as a person.  All these years I viewed her as a sophisticate -- very cultured, refined, and slightly aloof and impassive (though she was always pleasant).  Now, while I have no problem with that type of girl, it's not my cup of tea; I tend to prefer more down to earth girls who can watch a movie and dig into a bowl of ice cream with me in addition to doing other stuff like visiting museums etc.  I also love girls who have a good sense of humor.  Long story short, it turns out after hanging out with her a couple of times recently that she's actually very sentimental and does have a good sense of humor (the determinant of which is whether or not she laughs at my bad jokes ;)). 

So I was pretty blown away by this.  Here's this girl who I'm INSANELY attracted to physically, and it turns out that she's really sweet underneath it all.  This is pretty stunning because I'm generally a very good judge of character/personality.  Now I find myself growing closer and closer to her.  She's forever flirting with me, and flat out tells me how attractive I am, what a wonderful smile and sense of humor I have etc.  I flirt with her too, but try to do it more subtly, since I take moral issue with blatantly hitting on another dude's GF.


My question is this: given the fact that I see her in a completely different light, and feel that there might be romantic potential there, is it proper for me to pursue it?  I mean, I do realize it's improper, but on a scale of unethicality, how wrong is it to pursue a girl who isn't engaged? (Being engaged would be a clear "off limits" sign for me.)  Another issue I have is that I'm not head over heels in love with her or anything, in which case I might be inclined to go the "all's fair in love and war" route; I simply think that there's romantic potential there and would like to date her.  But I can't bring myself to possibly ruin a dude's life just because something might work out between us, since he loves her and is (presumably) prepared to go the distance with her.  After all, what if I threw a wrench in their relationship and then decided down the road that she wasn't right for me -- now she's shit outta luck, and that would suck.  I'm generally not a selfish person and do not endorse selfishness (as anyone who's been subjected to my moralizing can attest to :P); in fact, I've basically never acted selfishly to anyone outside of my immediate family...but I'm having a hard time with this.


She's staying with her dad now in another state until she moves to Cali (her BF was on a visa that expired, so he can't get back into the US until the Summer).  I figure if she comes to NY again to visit her family that we can spend a day in the city doing semi-romantic things (dinner, maybe an off-Broadway show and a nighttime cruise), and I'll be able to gauge her reaction to that as well as to my flirting.  I think it'll just get to a point where I say "if things ever don't work out with you and X, I'd like to date you."  We're both old enough, and mature enough, where saying that wouldn't be a total fail (and, as I said, she definitely sends enough signals to suggest it isn't one-sided).  Then again, I might just go to kiss her at the right moment and see how she reacts.

I'm very conflicted.  Mostly because I've always done the right thing in my life (yeah, laugh it up, but I try my best to be a decent guy).  Yes, there are many other girls, and I date fairly regularly, but now I'm kinda smitten.


I also realize that this is partly (okay, mostly) a thinly veiled attempt to have others help me rationalize my selfishness and push me past my self-imposed ethical boundaries. :lol  I've just never been - or wanted to be - "that guy" (i.e., a dick), but I'm very tempted to be that guy in this case.  HALP!   :-\

As usual for my posts, there isn't an abridged tl;dr version.  Sorry. ;)

Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: WrikaWrek on May 26, 2009, 04:43:18 AM
If you like her then go for it.

It's simple.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Loki on May 26, 2009, 04:56:03 AM
If you like her then go for it.

It's simple.

I just don't think it's that simple.  I like her, not love her.  Her BF, however, does love her, and is willing to move to another state with her.  What if things don't work out with us (assuming she's game)?  I'd feel terrible, since we're not 20 years old anymore. :P

The other side, of course, is to wonder how strong their relationship was if it could so easily be torn apart; perhaps they weren't meant for one another.  But that strikes me as more rationalization.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: WrikaWrek on May 26, 2009, 04:59:26 AM
Who's to say you can get her? Who's to say if you get her you won't fall in love with her? She might be your future wife, and he might never become anything more than he is now.

Life is too short. I'm not telling you to jump on her like you are in a hurry, but don't dismiss the idea, and see where it goes. You never start by loving someone. 
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Loki on May 26, 2009, 05:04:39 AM
Who's to say you can get her?

There's definitely something there on her end.  Whether it's enough to cause her to end her relationship, who knows.  I won't know until I try (if I decide to do so, which I likely won't).

Quote
You never start by loving someone. 

I realize that; I'd just like to have a bit stronger of a feeling than attraction/interest considering the rules I'd be breaking.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on May 26, 2009, 05:07:05 AM
> $len = ([string](gc ~\loki-dilemma.txt)).Length; $len
4662
> $len -gt 4000
True

will reply after bebpo's girl does
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: WrikaWrek on May 26, 2009, 05:17:46 AM
Who's to say you can get her?

There's definitely something there on her end.  Whether it's enough to cause her to end her relationship, who knows.  I won't know until I try (if I decide to do so, which I likely won't).

Quote
You never start by loving someone. 

I realize that; I'd just like to have a bit stronger of a feeling than attraction/interest considering the rules I'd be breaking.

Unless the guy is a big friend of yours, or she's married, you aren't breaking any rules so don't worry.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: chronovore on May 26, 2009, 05:34:13 AM
If you like her then go for it.

It's simple.

I just don't think it's that simple.  I like her, not love her.  Her BF, however, does love her, and is willing to move to another state with her.  What if things don't work out with us (assuming she's game)?  I'd feel terrible, since we're not 20 years old anymore. :P

The other side, of course, is to wonder how strong their relationship was if it could so easily be torn apart; perhaps they weren't meant for one another.  But that strikes me as more rationalization.

See, that's you being considerate of a guy you don't know, over a girl you do know, and like. That's chivalrous. Or romantic. Or something. But she's flirting with you -- why? Isn't it a little creepy that she's got a guy who's really into her, but she's still flirting and giving you hope that things might work out?
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: drohne on May 26, 2009, 10:36:45 AM
going after taken girls probably isn't very nice -- most of us don't give a fuck about the dude, but it tends to make the girl unhappy too. but somehow the fact of a girl having a boyfriend never really has any weight with me unless he's a good friend. i don't know, it seems like all the girls i meet have boyfriends

but yeah, don't say the 'if you break up with him i'd like to date you' thing. actually i think most of the things under the 'why not we're both adults' heading are best left unsaid
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: muckhole on May 26, 2009, 01:37:47 PM
but yeah, don't say the 'if you break up with him i'd like to date you' thing. actually i think most of the things under the 'why not we're both adults' heading are best left unsaid

Very true. It's a pretty prickly situation though, if she's waiting for a sign that he's interested and won't act until she feels that's the case.

See, that's you being considerate of a guy you don't know, over a girl you do know, and like. That's chivalrous. Or romantic. Or something. But she's flirting with you -- why? Isn't it a little creepy that she's got a guy who's really into her, but she's still flirting and giving you hope that things might work out?

Yeah, there's this too. It's corny, but there's always that thought of "If she's in a serious relationship, and she's still flirting that much with me, will she be doing the same when we're together with someone else?".

As for considerations for "the other guy", you may be saving him from a much bigger heartbreak down the road.

So hell if I know.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Loki on May 26, 2009, 02:33:09 PM

Very true. It's a pretty prickly situation though, if she's waiting for a sign that he's interested and won't act until she feels that's the case.

That's the only reason I'd be saying it, really.  I probably won't, but if I did, it's because I think she may be at that point you described.

Yeah, there's this too. It's corny, but there's always that thought of "If she's in a serious relationship, and she's still flirting that much with me, will she be doing the same when we're together with someone else?".

Believe me, I've thought about that too. :P  I mean, she flirts, but it's never in a sexually suggestive way, just an "I find you very attractive and appealing" kind of way.  She does say things that she probably wouldn't (or at least shouldn't) say in front of her BF, though.

Quote
As for considerations for "the other guy", you may be saving him from a much bigger heartbreak down the road.

So hell if I know.

Yeah, hell if I know either.  I'll probably just let this blow over and get over it, to be honest.  Not worth the trouble or the compromising of my character.

Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Bebpo on May 26, 2009, 02:42:28 PM
> $len = ([string](gc ~\loki-dilemma.txt)).Length; $len
4662
> $len -gt 4000
True

will reply after bebpo's girl does

I got my reply, so you can help loki now  :P
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Ganhyun on May 26, 2009, 03:48:41 PM
> $len = ([string](gc ~\loki-dilemma.txt)).Length; $len
4662
> $len -gt 4000
True

will reply after bebpo's girl does

I got my reply, so you can help loki now  :P

and where pray tell is this reply? You must share with us. One does not awaken EB and then leave it hanging.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: demi on May 26, 2009, 03:52:19 PM
yeah i will ban you. you cant end the story here
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Human Snorenado on May 26, 2009, 03:59:46 PM
yeah i will ban you. you cant end the story here

:bow demi :bow2
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: WrikaWrek on May 26, 2009, 04:05:14 PM
You better post that reply Bebpo.

We ain't playing games, this is real talk bitch.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: disgruntled_jojo on May 26, 2009, 05:28:59 PM
Dude, when I tried to look at her profile, it said she'd deleted it

WHAT DID YOU SEND HER

Did the reply look like this?
(http://www.fortattaway.com/Injunction_6_30_2006/InjunctionGranted_Pg1_6_30_06W.jpg)

Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Joe Molotov on May 26, 2009, 05:56:14 PM
Dude, when I tried to look at her profile, it said she'd deleted it

WHAT DID YOU SEND HER

 :lol  :lol
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Human Snorenado on May 26, 2009, 05:58:54 PM
Oops, bet she somehow figured out what was going on.  BEBPO FAIL.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Bebpo on May 26, 2009, 07:44:07 PM
Sorry, was internetting from the phone most of the day and typing anything long is  :dizzy on it.

The reply was basically something like: hey long msg.  There are parts that interested me but I'm too tired to reply.  Here's my e-mail.  I'm leaving okcupid.  Well you have my e-mail.

So yeah, nothing too crazy.  Just hellos.

disgruntled_jojo's post made my day though  :lol  It should be coincidence, but this is like the 3rd time I message someone on okcupid and then the next day they reply to me (or not) and then delete their profile  :-X
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: demi on May 26, 2009, 07:55:17 PM
ROFL
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Fresh Prince on May 26, 2009, 08:06:45 PM
So have you checked if the e-mail is fake yet? Verify with Eric P.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on May 26, 2009, 08:32:45 PM
wait, how is that not a good sign?  she clearly doesn't want anybody else, now that she has you.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Fresh Prince on May 26, 2009, 08:39:07 PM
Yeah if you're a narcassist.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Bebpo on May 26, 2009, 09:20:27 PM
.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Reb on May 27, 2009, 02:35:04 AM
Bet she has AIDS.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Bebpo on May 27, 2009, 05:03:50 AM
.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Bebpo on May 27, 2009, 05:16:37 AM
.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Reb on May 27, 2009, 05:24:24 AM
Fuck Patel.
Icon Green Shinobi.

spoiler (click to show/hide)
Yes, this is a joke post.

Really though, as long as Patel didn't transmit or contract some venereal disease, you should keep his story in mind, but not more than that.
[close]
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Barry Egan on May 27, 2009, 09:42:12 AM
she's not interested
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: chronovore on May 27, 2009, 10:22:07 PM
She's at least mildly interested, or she wouldn't have dropped her personal email addy on him. But that "4000 character" post was a bad idea. XBL messages top out at 250 characters; he sent her a missive 16 times as long as the longest XBL message you've ever read.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: demi on May 27, 2009, 10:35:07 PM
i can read edited messages you know.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Fresh Prince on May 27, 2009, 10:59:18 PM
Abuse your privileges!
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Bebpo on May 27, 2009, 11:13:07 PM
Ah, so I guess Patel didn't think it was a good idea to share more info.

No.  I think patel is a super awesome guy that I would not go gay for and so I felt like curtailing some things I said especially because this thread stopped being lol a while before.

spoiler (click to show/hide)
Also to protect the innocents like Dragnet  :cop
[close]
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: chronovore on May 27, 2009, 11:46:08 PM
i can read edited messages you know.

But do you know what color underwear he's wearing?
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Bebpo on May 27, 2009, 11:50:00 PM
i can read edited messages you know.

But do you know what color underwear he's wearing?

he might  :-*
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Loki on May 28, 2009, 01:40:13 AM
Update (for the few who read my post :P):

I was talking with her on IM just now and it turns out that she just broke up with her BF.  Of course, one never knows when a relationship has lasted a couple of years (I figure it could be up to 2-4 weeks before any breakup is "official"), so I'm trying not to get ahead of myself.

But needless to say, I was pretty floored when she said that.  Looks like I may not have to be a jerk after all (even though I was leaning against saying anything anyway).  And no, the breakup had nothing to do with me at all.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Fresh Prince on May 28, 2009, 02:14:20 AM
I wouldn't be the rebound guy.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Loki on May 28, 2009, 02:15:36 AM
I wouldn't be the rebound guy.

I don't plan on being.  Hopefully she moves back to NY and we can casually hangout/date for a while.  That won't happen for at least another 3-4 weeks, though, even assuming the breakup is final.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: Fresh Prince on May 28, 2009, 02:18:30 AM
Well it seems likely that she'll lean on you for some sort of emotional support in any case.
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: recursivelyenumerable on May 28, 2009, 02:39:00 AM
women who just turned 30 > women who just broke up with their BFs

ime
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: tiesto on May 28, 2009, 12:49:12 PM
I wouldn't be the rebound guy.

Rebound sex :drool
Title: Re: Girl topic
Post by: tehjaybo on May 28, 2009, 12:58:54 PM
Girl topic real talk:  My girlfriend is owning Jewco on facebook.