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Title: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: TakingBackSunday on August 20, 2013, 11:33:21 PM
As in: emotional, tears down the cheeks, possibly even sobs.

For me: a week ago.  It had been several months since the last time.  Reason?  Went to a wedding by myself (UGHHH I KNOW) and just got über depressed about how I haven't made strides in my life ala the married couple I was there for.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Phoenix Dark on August 20, 2013, 11:39:04 PM
when my last grandparent died last year
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YNKgUnKPhOE
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Madrun Badrun on August 20, 2013, 11:48:40 PM
I haven't cried since I was in highschool because I am a manly man.  And even then it took Grave of the Fireflies to break my manly composure. 

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Once when I was a little kid and sick with a fever, I cried; The cause? The episode of Mr. Bean where he loses his car.  Man he loved that car.
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Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: nudemacusers on August 20, 2013, 11:53:27 PM
When I found out about ducky.  :(

Serial answer

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family drama related emotional breakdown a couple years ago
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Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: nudemacusers on August 21, 2013, 12:03:54 AM

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family drama related emotional breakdown a couple years ago
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but you seem so happy, bro
That's because I no longer have anything to do with them. It was a rough few years before I fully nutted up, so to speak.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: ToxicAdam on August 21, 2013, 12:08:22 AM
There's a couple songs that will make me well up every time. I listen to them when I want a good release.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Tasty on August 21, 2013, 12:10:30 AM
For some reason I've become more emotional as I've gotten older, and not just with sad stuff. Today if I watch Looney Tunes I burst out laughing every three minutes, but when I was a kid I just sat and stared. Same with Courage, etc. Maybe being in the world has made me realize how absurd these cartoons are.

Anyways I can't remember really bawling in the last ten years, but I've cried during some movies and TV shows. (The Fountain, The Body (Buffy), and The Gift (Buffy) consistently do me in.)

Yeah yeah, :supergay

For non-media stuff? I don't think so. Not even at the funeral for my cousin, even though I wanted to. Real life stuff is harder to justify for some reason. It's a bit too real. Media stuff I can just shrug off afterwards.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 21, 2013, 12:23:53 AM
i cried when i came in andrex's mom's mouth. i mean, the consideration touched me, especially given that my bell end was spelunking her anterior gapecave not three minutes previous
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Steve Contra on August 21, 2013, 12:37:16 AM
i cried when i came in andrex's mom's mouth. i mean, the consideration touched me, especially given that my bell end was spelunking her anterior gapecave not three minutes previous
cry evry time
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Mr. Gundam on August 21, 2013, 12:39:43 AM
When my daughter was born. Everyone says it happens, but you've got no idea just how much you're overcome with emotions.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Van Cruncheon on August 21, 2013, 12:44:04 AM
i didn't cry when my daughter was born! i don't think i've cried since i was like 12. my old man said cryin' was for pussies, and i took that shit special fellow SERIOUSLY
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: lennedsay on August 21, 2013, 12:47:20 AM
I'm pretty sure my husband still tears up at least once a day over our baby girl. I'm the same way. I think I married a woman.

Can't complain though. He does a great load of laundry.



 :mynicca
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: hampster on August 21, 2013, 01:00:57 AM
When ever the last time I saw a dog die in a movie was :'(
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: CatsCatsCats on August 21, 2013, 01:02:43 AM
This thread is crazy to me how rarely you guys cry.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Momo on August 21, 2013, 01:02:47 AM
The last time I honestly cried was when a girl I adored died of an overdose.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: nudemacusers on August 21, 2013, 01:04:02 AM
This thread is crazy to me how rarely you guys cry.
Well I'm talking 'true crying'. Not movie misting and etc. Like a real hardcore crying jag.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: naff on August 21, 2013, 01:17:40 AM
I'd just finished watching season 1 of forbrydelsen, was quite high and it was the first time (and only time)  I really broke down and cried since my dad died and I broke up with my girlfriend of 5 years. Had insomnia the other night and felt pretty emo and tried to cry for the catharsis and hopefully some sleep but I couldn't  :'(
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Tasty on August 21, 2013, 01:28:40 AM
i cried when i came in andrex's mom's mouth. i mean, the consideration touched me, especially given that my bell end was spelunking her anterior gapecave not three minutes previous

 :leon
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Mr. Gundam on August 21, 2013, 01:28:49 AM
This thread is crazy to me how rarely you guys cry.

I'll get emotional/sad/misty eyed regularly, but the last time I experienced full on tears crying was when Lil' Gundam was born.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 21, 2013, 02:11:14 AM
The last time I legit cried was a little more than a year and a half ago, when I thought my dog was going to have to be put down.  I didn't know it at the time, but he has a condition called degenerative disk disease, which basically means his back is fucked up and he's not as spry as he used to be, but sometimes it can get extra fucked up and he doesn't walk right, or if it's really bad, he can't walk at all until he lays down for like a day.  I didn't know that, and thought I was leaving him at the vet overnight for observation, and that the next day he wouldn't be any better and I would have to tell them to put him down.

Anyway, I went home and cried like Brandnew at a sewing circle.  Serious, full body sobs, face buried in a pillow kind of shit.  I have no clue what the fuck is going to happen to me when that fucker does actually die.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Himu on August 21, 2013, 02:11:28 AM
last fucking week. a good cry is therapeutic and feels good.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: king of the internet on August 21, 2013, 02:18:28 AM
Full cry? Honestly can't remember. Probably in an exhausting fight with an ex. Almost broke earlier this year when I had to take someone really close to the airport and say goodbye to them for a long time. Had to step into a bathroom stall all red eyed and shit. But I suppressed it like a man. Totally don't feel that shit all the time, that would be so lame if I did.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 21, 2013, 02:22:11 AM
Also, some true bitches up in hurr (Himuro, Lends and Van Cruncheon not withstanding).  Y'all need to go back and ready our BOOK ON MANLINESS, where it describes how a man deals with feels: by bottling them up until you cry while watching something stupid like Dodgeball. 
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: nudemacusers on August 21, 2013, 02:29:24 AM
Also, some true bitches up in hurr (Himuro, Lends and Van Cruncheon not withstanding).  Y'all need to go back and ready our BOOK ON MANLINESS, where it describes how a man deals with feels: by bottling them up until you cry while watching something stupid like Dodgeball.
I can usually hold it together until I go to a strip club. One lapdance and it's waterworks.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Himu on August 21, 2013, 02:32:43 AM
Y'all need to go back and ready our BOOK ON MANLINESS, where it describes how a man deals with feels: by bottling them up until you cry while watching something stupid like Dodgeball.

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Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on August 21, 2013, 03:15:01 AM
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Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Himu on August 21, 2013, 03:20:25 AM
last fucking week. a good cry is therapeutic and feels good.

What a pussy.

thank god
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Vizzys on August 21, 2013, 04:03:09 AM
suffering silently is what I do best

men dont cry

Im sure this method wont backfire horribly
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Polari on August 21, 2013, 05:33:03 AM
Crying takes the sad out.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Atramental on August 21, 2013, 07:38:22 AM
The last time I remember crying hard was when I saw the Planet Earth trailer for the first time with the Sigur Ros song "Hoppipolla". This was about 2 years ago.

I don't know why that set me off so badly. Heck, I'm even choking up right now just thinking about it.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: fistfulofmetal on August 21, 2013, 07:58:14 AM
Can't say. I don't react to sad stuff with crying. I get misty eye'd and stuff but never straight up crying. Maybe when I was really young but I wouldn't remember exactly.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Shaka Khan on August 21, 2013, 08:12:48 AM
Last year when my mom underwent a major surgery, my sisters were acting all melodramatic around when she came back to her room and my dad let out one of his signature roars to shut them up. Minutes later I went to the bathroom next to a small waiting room and witnessed my dad having a semi-breakdown in a way I've never seen in my entire life.

Fuck your gay ass wedding.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Polari on August 21, 2013, 08:15:40 AM
Oh man I didn't even read the OP. What a pussy.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Shaka Khan on August 21, 2013, 08:17:09 AM
There's a couple songs that will make me well up every time. I listen to them when I want a good release.

Fast Car used to do it for me. I related to that song too strongly for my own good.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Polari on August 21, 2013, 08:18:47 AM
Also my grandma died last year but I didn't cry because she was really old and had dementia. Fucking dementia. That and Alzheimer's are the two last things I ever want to get.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Eli Gulgin on August 21, 2013, 09:09:02 AM
Yeah my last living grandparent has really bad dementia and she's been in a dementia home for years already and turned 97 last week. I don't think she'll last long anymore but then again I thought that 5 years ago too. She seems to be in pain so when she goes it won't be that sad since she hasn't really been here ever since her stroke and it will end the pain. Fuck dementia for sure.

The last time I really cried was a few weeks ago when I had a super frustrating fight with my sister and I was thinking "I'll never speak to that bitch again". We're cool now though lol.

I have to say those dog movies are the WORST. When my dog died, who had been my absolute best friend since childhood, I had quite the nervous breakdown and yadda yadda yadda, I spent the rest of the year just basically crying after my dog :-\ So as a result I can not watch a movie with a dog in it because they always die and I'd cry for days so fuck that.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Polari on August 21, 2013, 09:45:58 AM
Yeah my remaining grandma has it too and has been trucking along for like 10 years now. They thought she was gonna die a few weeks ago from an infection or something but nope. Seems pretty healthy otherwise. The one that died got pneumonia and it took her out within a couple of days so I guess that side of it was quick at least.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Polari on August 21, 2013, 09:48:48 AM
Premium's one :fbm
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on August 21, 2013, 09:57:46 AM
Well I might as well say it, last week we went for an early echo and the foetus had no heartbeat. The last few days have sucked and I have cried more then once.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Polari on August 21, 2013, 10:07:34 AM
Sorry man, that sucks.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Polari on August 21, 2013, 10:47:10 AM
Oh OK. Yeah I was never really quite clear on the distinction.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Rufus on August 21, 2013, 10:49:53 AM
Well I might as well say it, last week we went for an early echo and the foetus had no heartbeat. The last few days have sucked and I have cried more then once.
:-\ Now I feel bad for laughing at the Roman Polanski thread so much.

Condolences to both of you.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 21, 2013, 10:51:50 AM
Jesus Lager, I'm sorry.  Condolences, sorry for being a shithead to you.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Mupepe on August 21, 2013, 10:58:09 AM
I think last October.  I had a super real dream where my dad was still alive and he called me to tell me that he loved me and missed me.  I was fine when I woke up but as I was getting ready for work I couldn't stop thinking about it and realized I hadn't heard my dad's voice in so long and that before my dream I couldn't remember what it had sounded like.  I had to go to work and have an important performance review too.  Bah.

Well I might as well say it, last week we went for an early echo and the foetus had no heartbeat. The last few days have sucked and I have cried more then once.
Holy shit, man.  My condolences.  I can't imagine what you're going through.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Shaka Khan on August 21, 2013, 11:37:29 AM
Well I might as well say it, last week we went for an early echo and the foetus had no heartbeat. The last few days have sucked and I have cried more then once.

Ah shit. My condolences bro. :(
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Momo on August 21, 2013, 11:41:58 AM
I'm not the kids type, but reading that hits heart. Stay strong Lager :(
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: TakingBackSunday on August 21, 2013, 12:07:53 PM
it was all part of the plan to set the pussy pole so low (high?) to get true feels from you people
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: nudemacusers on August 21, 2013, 12:13:45 PM
lager that sucks.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Momo on August 21, 2013, 12:17:55 PM
it was all part of the plan to set the pussy pole so low (high?) to get true feels from you people
What are you, a feels vampire?  :gurl
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: TakingBackSunday on August 21, 2013, 12:25:42 PM
Oh I'm incredibly embarrassed.  Shit like that makes a lot of sense though since I'm an ninthing
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Diunx on August 21, 2013, 12:43:53 PM
When my grandma died three years ago.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: TakingBackSunday on August 21, 2013, 12:45:39 PM
oh good lord no.  I actually had a decent enough time there, buddied up with a couple of people my age and drank a few beers.  But I was otherwise pretty fucking depressed, seeing as though I was surrounded by happy couples.  Went home, cracked a beer, cried.

But I also cry during many movies so meh
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Himu on August 21, 2013, 01:05:42 PM
Well I might as well say it, last week we went for an early echo and the foetus had no heartbeat. The last few days have sucked and I have cried more then once.

Kosma I wish I could hug you. :(
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Mupepe on August 21, 2013, 01:05:55 PM
I had a grandma who started to get "a bit senile" when I was a kid. For a long time it wasn't so bad. She would sometimes ask the same questions twice during a conversation, and she couldn't really follow along with movie plots very well. Then one year, she came over for Thanksgiving. About an hour after she and her husband went home, we got a call from her asking what we had done for Thanksgiving. I think that was when it really hit most of us that she was in serious and irreversible decline. It only got worse after that. She died a few years back, but she was a heartbreaking shell of herself for the better part of a decade before passing.
This kind of stuff is frightening and depressing :(

My great grandmother had alzheimers.  I was too young to really understand (6 or 7), but I remember her chasing me and my siblings around the house when we stayed the night once.  We locked ourselves in a room.  She thought we were intruders and she called my uncle who had to calm her down.  She was scared shitless.  That always stuck with me.  Then there were little things.  Like she would give us pumpkins for Halloween and then my mom would tell us we had to give them back because now she was accusing us of stealing them.  She'd ask me to plant flowers with her and then when they'd start to grow she'd yell at me for planting in her garden.  But she wasn't that bad.  I still mostly remember the good things.  I used to "shoot" her with my finger.  "Pew pew" and she'd grab her heart and fall to ground.  She was incredible.  She'd stay with us for hours watching Beavis and Butthead and all sorts of stupid shit.  She just wanted to be with us.

It really broke my heart when I got older and my mother told me that before she died she kept asking where my grandpa was (her son in law, but he took care of her until the day he died. My grandma had passed from cancer years earlier).  He had died about 2 years earlier and my mom at first would try to get her to remember that he had died.  But she said it killed her everytime because it was like the first time she heard it.  She would break down and my mom had to watch it and try to comfort her.  She said she learned after a while to just tell her that he was at work or that he had gone to the store and she would just hope that she would forget about it soon. 
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on August 21, 2013, 01:11:15 PM
Thanks guys, in for a second scan today to make sure. Then we will have to have it removed as its a missed miscarriage :/ Its the worst thing ive had to deal with and it sucks cause we are both abroad away from our families. We really need to move back. I dont really know how to deal with any of this, today i left work midday cause I couldnt concentrate. Ive also passed on a job offer two weeks ago cause I wanted security for the baby.

But the worst thing is i cant think of anything to make my fiancee feel better.

On grandma's, mine had Alzheimers and the disease is horrible.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Himu on August 21, 2013, 01:18:34 PM
I'm so sorry. Maybe you guys should consider moving back. Where is home for her? Isn't she Irish?
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Steve Contra on August 21, 2013, 01:20:51 PM
That's awful Kosma.  At least it was caught soon enough so that your fiancee's health wasn't jeopardized.  Cold comfort now I know.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Rufus on August 21, 2013, 01:22:45 PM
My grandparents are all in the ground already. I don't think any of them made it to 70, but I'm not sure on my father's side. Mostly heart disease I think. I'm not counting on living till 70 either, but you never know. Part of me is happy that they were lucid when they went, but then again, they went fairly early, so... Count yourself lucky if you live till 90 and are mostly healthy.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Mupepe on August 21, 2013, 01:37:00 PM
Thanks guys, in for a second scan today to make sure. Then we will have to have it removed as its a missed miscarriage :/ Its the worst thing ive had to deal with and it sucks cause we are both abroad away from our families. We really need to move back. I dont really know how to deal with any of this, today i left work midday cause I couldnt concentrate. Ive also passed on a job offer two weeks ago cause I wanted security for the baby.

But the worst thing is i cant think of anything to make my fiancee feel better.

On grandma's, mine had Alzheimers and the disease is horrible.
When she's ready, you should try and find an option for counseling and let her talk it out in some way shape or form. She might not want to, but it will help.
I agree with this.  It's not something she should bottle up and it can be very destructive emotionally.  Just be strong for her and when you feel like the time is right push her to talk to a professional about it.  Both of you.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Brehvolution on August 21, 2013, 01:41:20 PM
I know what you are going through Lager. Back in April, my wife's sister went into labor at 22 weeks. The doctors tried to stop it but couldn't. The baby didn't live 3 days.
Stay strong for her.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Shaka Khan on August 21, 2013, 02:14:20 PM
The grandparent stuff scares the hell out of me as the kid who always sought his old man's approval. He's in his seventies and I'm close to getting my shit together. It will probably kill me if he doesn't get a chance to see me doing okay in life, after almost giving heart attacks on multiple occasions due to my fuck-ups. Shit, my eyes are welling up just from typing this.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Shaka Khan on August 21, 2013, 02:19:34 PM
I know what you are going through Lager. Back in April, my wife's sister went into labor at 22 weeks. The doctors tried to stop it but couldn't. The baby didn't live 3 days.
Stay strong for her.

My sister went through one (week 20 I believe) literally two weeks ago. She's been dealing with kidney failure for the past 18 years. My father donated her a kidney 12 years ago but her body rejected it, so she's been on dialysis 3 times a week since then. That recent miscarriage was her third. She's not supposed to be getting pregnant but she's crazy-- She wants nothing more than having one. :-\

All i'll say is treasure the time you have with him. When you're with him, drill him with questions about your family and funny stories and stuff, because one day you might come back and he's not the same guy anymore. That's pretty much what happened to me during undergrad and I regret not spending more of my free time over at their house immensely.

:'(
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Mupepe on August 21, 2013, 02:45:50 PM
The grandparent stuff scares the hell out of me as the kid who always sought his old man's approval. He's in his seventies and I'm close to getting my shit together. It will probably kill me if he doesn't get a chance to see me doing okay in life, after almost giving heart attacks on multiple occasions due to my fuck-ups. Shit, my eyes are welling up just from typing this.
One of my biggest regrets is not asking my dad more about his early life.  I had a very complicated relationship with my dad and he wasn't the best father and I held quite a grudge for a long time.  But I was still the only person in my family that talked to him anymore.  But I let all that bullshit get in the way of learning about my dad and his past and it kills me that I'll never get an answer.  I also sometimes hate myself (seriously... hate) for going weeks and months without calling him.  Like I said, our relationship was very complicated but the moment he died I realized how being so damn bitter made me miss out on so much.  It literally took seconds for me to realize it.  It's a powerful thing.

I know it's not the same as the relationship you're describing with your dad.  But I guess what I'm trying to say is make sure you don't have any "should haves" when he passes.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Himu on August 21, 2013, 02:49:13 PM
I tried asking my grandma about her earlier life and she just brushed it aside and didn't want to talk about it when I was clearly trying to get to know her better.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Mupepe on August 21, 2013, 02:54:52 PM
I tried asking my grandma about her earlier life and she just brushed it aside and didn't want to talk about it when I was clearly trying to get to know her better.
My dad always wanted to talk about it but I brushed them aside as old man ramblings :(  Yeah, I'm fucking terrible.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 21, 2013, 03:04:24 PM
When I was a kid, I was really pissed at my dad for a long time, which I guess lots of kids whose parents go through a divorce experience being mad at one or both of the parents.  I was fortunate in that as I got older and had relationships of my own, I could then understand how (god love her, but SERIOUSLY) my mother's personality traits would make her just about the most annoying fucking person to be in a relationship with.

So, I'm glad I got to get closer with my dad as I got older, because that motherfucker has some hilarious stories.  He was a young surf punk in Florida, those are some of the best.  I also never knew he got shot- that was a crazy story to hear.  By some chick's drunk father who HAD THE WRONG ADDRESS AND WAS SHOOTING AT THE WRONG PEOPLE.  Thank god the dude was drunk and a shitty aim, or I'd never be here.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: PigSpeakers on August 21, 2013, 08:18:37 PM
I think it was 2009. There may have been other times in between then, but that's definitely the big one. Not a single one of my friends was talking to me, and despite trying to reach out, none of them invited me to things either. One of my brothers was in california, the other was in brazil, then my sister was stationed somewhere out of state. Maybe out of country. Can't remember. The band I was in kicked me out, which really sucked because I considered them close friends and then found out they were all talking behind my back about me. I also didn't have my driver's license nor a job and wasn't taking classes over the summer. So, basically I felt like I was all alone and didn't have a single friend or person that cared about me. I remember going up to my dad and telling him this, and then I just let loose with the tears. My dad reminded me that him and my mom still cared about me. I don't know what I would have done if my parents weren't still around.

Since then, I haven't really cried that I can remember. I went to a funeral of a friend that I'd only just met a few months prior. She had cancer and died at the age of 19 sometime around february. They asked me to play piano with the choir and they had me do a sort of improvised solo partway through (really I was just playing the song, but broke it into arpeggios so nothing too crazy for a funeral service). Then a couple people in the audience started to choke up during this and then I started to feel it to, but I can't exactly cry while I'm playing, so I didn't.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Positive Touch on August 21, 2013, 11:00:03 PM
I tried asking my grandma about her earlier life and she just brushed it aside and didn't want to talk about it when I was clearly trying to get to know her better.

this is my whole damn family. WHO ARE YOU PEOPLE JUST LET ME KNOW FFS
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on August 21, 2013, 11:14:09 PM
A long, long time.

Although when my hound dies, I know for sure I'll be crying.  A lot.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Steve Contra on August 21, 2013, 11:25:13 PM
Yeah imma lose my shit (along with certain forum members) when my dog dies.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Human Snorenado on August 22, 2013, 12:13:12 AM
Yeah imma lose my shit (along with certain forum members) when my dog dies.

...your dog is immortal.  IMMORTAL, YOU HEAR ME???
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: ToxicAdam on August 22, 2013, 12:15:52 AM
I didn't cry when my kids were born, but when my wife told me we were having twins, I (legit) cried out of sheer terror and dread.

That was an unusual experience.

Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Reb on August 22, 2013, 05:07:29 AM
Still though guys, he was like lonely, and unwanted.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: radioheadrule83 on August 22, 2013, 05:56:36 AM
I never cry. Good films, TV and music have sometimes moved me to near tears, but if we're talking emotional distress - I'm normally really chilled out...

The last time was after travelling 115 miles to see someone and having a meal together, I got dumped in public on a street in London. It came with the added injury that she'd considered it over for a long time. I don't really blame her, because I can't have been fun -- I was at peak stress in my job and being pushed towards redundancy, I was being crushed financially, and she had her own problems too. Doing things together had become difficult and I'd sensed there were problems for a while. My attempts to try and talk feelings actually pushed her away, and gave her a totally false impression of what I wanted out of the thing. When I cried it wasn't like bawling, it was more like head in my hands - a silent tears type thing. I remember feeling false -- like it wasn't really because of the dumping itself, although obviously that did upset me and I still cared about her...... but I think it was more because I felt like I didn't know how to handle anything. I remember scrambling my words and saying all sorts of things I don't really mean before and after. I completely lost my shit for a while. I think I was actually in the midst of a mental breakdown and depression of some sort, because I don't recognise the person I was then in myself right now.

Money stress is the fucking worst. I'm no mercenary or anything, I'm not in love with money -- but it has an important influence on our happiness and those around us. It's been way over a year since then now and just thinking about that time, not just things with her, brings back all kinds of horrible feelings and memories of stress and anxiety...

Overall, I don't think I'd react like that again. I'm never again going to stay loyal to a job that causes me problems. I will never try long distance again unless I've got the money to support it. I don't think I'll feel so 'in love' with anyone again either. "Catching feels" as they say, has always been the dumbest thing I've ever done.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Eli Gulgin on August 22, 2013, 05:34:08 PM
My living grandmother is really starting to lose it. She just mistook me for my father. And I've just realized that this is probably the last time I will ever set foot in my grandparents' house. Many of my best childhood memories are here.

Auugh yeah I still have dreams about my grandparents' house since I spent so much time there as a kid and it was such a nice place. And they had a dog and a cat that were so important to me as a kid too. Never getting that time with my grandparents at their house with their pets back :'( All the cool old stuff in the scary attic that I'll never get to explore again :fbm
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Sausage on August 23, 2013, 12:13:57 AM
It was 2 years ago when I was in India and my mom was keeping me from visiting my dad's side of the family on my birthday. That whole trip was a nightmare, and I don't think I'll ever go back to India and visit family because of it. It kinda makes me feel sad that all of you guys have such strong connections with your grandparents, I've only visited them like 5 or 6 times and don't have that strong of a bond with them or anybody else in my family.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on August 23, 2013, 12:22:05 AM
It was 2 years ago when I was in India and my mom was keeping me from visiting my dad's side of the family on my birthday. That whole trip was a nightmare, and I don't think I'll ever go back to India and visit family because of it. It kinda makes me feel sad that all of you guys have such strong connections with your grandparents, I've only visited them like 5 or 6 times and don't have that strong of a bond with them or anybody else in my family.

I don't have a strong bond with them either.  I spent several months in the same town as one of my grandparents and never bothered to visit.  It wasn't out of some angsty decision, it was just some shit I kept putting off until it was too late.  Oh well.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Rufus on August 23, 2013, 12:31:59 AM
I'm no different, If it makes you feel any better. I don't know anyone on my father's side of the family and have never spent any quality time with anyone on my mother's side either. No strong connections with anyone besides my mother, really. And I don't think I've ever had a real conversation with her, either. Can't remember any, anyway, just a handful of stories she's told.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: pickle on August 23, 2013, 08:08:31 AM
I wish I could cry more, I always feel so good afterwards.

The last time I really cried was about a month ago when I realised just how fucked I am, and how debilitating this whole psychiatric illness thing actually is. The last time I felt normal was when I was in hospital and they had me tripping on benzos. Of course they don't prescribe those anymore for long term treatment. Too addictive and organ destroying.

 :-\
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Mupepe on August 23, 2013, 09:56:49 AM
I don't talk to my grandparents on my father's side.  Or anyone from there actually.  They pretty much disowned me for getting a mexican pregnant at 17.  For my high school graduation I got a card that told me I was an embarrassment and they weren't coming.  Why the fuck even bother to get a card at that point?  I saw them at my dad's funeral but didn't speak to them except my grandfather.

I also don't talk to my family on my mom's side.  She owned a bar and her brother stole everything from it while she was visiting us in Tennessee (living with my dad).  TV's, pool tables, jukeboxes, beer, everything.  I remember it was only about 20 minutes after they first found my grandpa's body that my cousins were trying to get into his safe.  His body was less than 3 feet away while they sat in a circle trying to figure out how to open it without the combination.
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: TakingBackSunday on August 23, 2013, 11:28:51 AM
dudes I was just being honest  :(
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: Madrun Badrun on August 23, 2013, 12:57:45 PM
Maybe refraining from honesty should be your thing?
Title: Re: When is the last time you've truly cried and why?
Post by: PigSpeakers on August 24, 2013, 01:37:04 AM
I don't talk to my grandparents on my father's side.  Or anyone from there actually.  They pretty much disowned me for getting a mexican pregnant at 17.  For my high school graduation I got a card that told me I was an embarrassment and they weren't coming.  Why the fuck even bother to get a card at that point?  I saw them at my dad's funeral but didn't speak to them except my grandfather.



Is there a section for that at hallmark?