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Title: How did you all end up with the SO you're currently with?
Post by: Atramental on September 25, 2016, 10:59:18 PM: Thread title says it all but I'm curious how you all made it "work" with the person you're currently with. :doge

Were things rocky at the start or was it just smooth sailing?
Title: Re: How did you all end up with the SO you're currently with?
Post by: bork on September 25, 2016, 11:00:16 PM: Went on dates. They went well. Got hitched. Here we are, nine years later.

:idont
Title: Re: How did you all end up with the SO you're currently with?
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 25, 2016, 11:10:58 PM: I go to the dollar store a lot, to buy stuff I probably shouldn't buy at the dollar store. One day I went in and saw a super cute cashier I had never seen before. I glanced at her a few times but didn't consider hitting on her or anything like that. Time went by and I kept seeing her there, glancing, etc. Finally one day while in line she said are you going to keep coming in and pretending you don't want to say hi. We talked a bit and shortly thereafter i got her number.

It was mainly fwb type shit for a long time, I had no intention of dating. And then it kind of just happened. So we've been officially together for most of this year. Smooth overall but there have been some bumps recently.
Title: Re: How did you all end up with the SO you're currently with?
Post by: Beezy on September 25, 2016, 11:22:32 PM: https://youtu.be/O2lV8WVtMMg
Title: Re: How did you all end up with the SO you're currently with?
Post by: bork on September 25, 2016, 11:29:32 PM: Oh, you want more details? OK.

Believe it or not, I met my wife trying out speed dating. :lol Went there expecting nothing to come from it and got two numbers. I ended up going out with my wife because she stayed after the event and kept talking to me, whereas the other woman hightailed it out of there. We saw each other 1-2 times a week on average and never had a single problem while we were dating. Her parents liked me so much that they even let me stay at their house when I'd drive up to their town to see her (this was in Japan). I proposed after we'd gone out for about a year and we got married about six months after that. Maybe that was a bit short, but I'm serious when I say we never had a single problem when dating. It was after getting hitched that some stuff would come up. :lol We lived together for a year before we then had a ceremony. Can't remember exactly why it was delayed so much at this point but I want to say it was to just make sure that our two families could get out to be there (we went to Hawaii).

The one thing that did not happen while we went out was living together-- she has some old-fashioned values and did not want to move in with a boyfriend until she got married. I didn't really care but thought living together would be a good way to make sure that we would get along. Fortunately we did or that would have been a quick turnaround. :doge
Title: Re: How did you all end up with the SO you're currently with?
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on September 26, 2016, 12:05:11 AM: Met in senior year in high school in Japanese class (In my search to be able to communicate with anyone anytime I had taken French, italian and German but I had started mixing that with spanish to the point where teachers were unable to understand me and they suggested I take a non-western language so it was Japanese). She made my heart go doki-doki. We stayed friends even after graduation. We were best friends. I was in love with her and she friendzoned me. Eventually she got ready to serve a mormon mission when I asked her if she wanted me to wait for her she said, "What for?" I moved on.

About 7 years later she sent a mass email letting everyone know she moving. I was going through some shit and sent her an email congratulating her on the move and we traded some emails back and forth. I told her about the shit I was going through and she said she missed me and she wanted to be there for me. that triggered something and I sent back a screed telling her I wasn't going to follow her around like a puppy dog anymore and that if she wanted to be there for me then she'd really have to be there and be equal. It sorta surprised her but she was still there for me.

This time around I really went into things not expecting anything at all. I enjoyed her friendship but I had "stopped caring". This time around she fell in love with me first. She would call to chat daily and I eventually went out to see my family in the summer and she was there as well. I found that I still loved her. I lived in Washington at the time and she was in Utah. We spent Christmas together that year and we both knew that we wanted to live together at some point. then she went home to Utah. We were both miserable. She called me about two weeks later and said "I'm miserable without you. Why don't we get married in two weeks?" I was like "OK." Two weeks later we were married. Best decision I ever made.
Title: Re: How did you all end up with the SO you're currently with?
Post by: Tasty on September 26, 2016, 12:18:18 AM: Joined a gay bowling league in 2014 after my one gay friend recommended it. Immediately made a ton more gay friends and felt part of a community. Felt normal for the first time.

One of those people knew this guy who lived in Portland who came down sometimes. He showed up during one of the league nights last February. We all went to a bar after and he kinda "cornered me" but I went along with it since I thought it was flattering he was so obviously into me (to the point where I said "there's so many good looking guys here," and he drunkenly replied "there's only one person here I think looks good.") Could have hooked up that night but decided against it, half because I've never been in that position and half because it was right in front of my entire spread of gay friends and I was shy about teasing.

Went on a short casual lunch "date" the next day. Didn't see him for a few weeks but kept up with texts. He asked me on a formal date: restaurant and movie. Had a great time.

Continued on from there. Went up to his place in Maine twice. He spent most of Vegas with me. He makes me feel warm and happy.

Surprisingly, it's both of our first "real" relationship. We're mapping out uncharted territory together. :rock
Title: Re: How did you all end up with the SO you're currently with?
Post by: chronovore on September 26, 2016, 12:34:06 AM: Started platonic, so I was more myself than I'd been with anyone before. Turned out she liked the honesty, and I have consistently been in awe of how fearless and passionate she is. 20 years married next May.
Title: Re: How did you all end up with the SO you're currently with?
Post by: chronovore on September 26, 2016, 07:55:32 AM: Quote from: Tasty Meat on September 26, 2016, 12:18:18 AM
Joined a gay bowling league
Can we all just pause for a moment and reflect on the awesomeness of this sentence fragment?
Title: Re: How did you all end up with the SO you're currently with?
Post by: zomgee on September 26, 2016, 08:43:11 AM: We worked together in retail. :)

We're coming up on 21 years together.
Title: Re: How did you all end up with the SO you're currently with?
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on September 26, 2016, 08:52:25 AM: Quote from: chronovore on September 26, 2016, 07:55:32 AM
Quote from: Tasty Meat on September 26, 2016, 12:18:18 AM
Joined a gay bowling league
Can we all just pause for a moment and reflect on the awesomeness of this sentence fragment?
Glad I wasn't the only one that was like "whoa!"
Title: Re: How did you all end up with the SO you're currently with?
Post by: Alcoholic Fish on September 26, 2016, 08:55:11 AM: Caught a felony charge that the judge graciously dropped on the condition that I complete 500 hours of community service. Figured I could bang that number out as a volunteer at a summer camp that I used to attend.

She was a volunteer with me. I tried to nail her friend first and she hated me, but we grew on each other over the course of the month. Hooked up a few times and decided to roll with it. It was a long distance relationship for the next few years because of school.

She moved in with me a year and a half ago and I proposed on our 8 year anniversary this year. Couldn't imagine life without her.
Title: Re: How did you all end up with the SO you're currently with?
Post by: Tasty on September 26, 2016, 09:47:18 AM: Are gay bowling leagues not really a thing? 🤔
Title: Re: How did you all end up with the SO you're currently with?
Post by: Atramental on September 26, 2016, 10:04:38 AM: It probably is it's just not something most of us are actively looking for. :doge
Title: Re: How did you all end up with the SO you're currently with?
Post by: Beezy on September 26, 2016, 10:09:16 AM: Quote from: Alcoholic Fish on September 26, 2016, 08:55:11 AM
Caught a felony charge that the judge graciously dropped on the condition that I complete 500 hours of community service.

This happens?
Title: Re: How did you all end up with the SO you're currently with?
Post by: Alcoholic Fish on September 26, 2016, 10:14:42 AM: Quote from: Beezy on September 26, 2016, 10:09:16 AM
Quote from: Alcoholic Fish on September 26, 2016, 08:55:11 AM
Caught a felony charge that the judge graciously dropped on the condition that I complete 500 hours of community service.

This happens?

Being white in the criminal justice system :rejoice
Title: Re: How did you all end up with the SO you're currently with?
Post by: Beezy on September 26, 2016, 10:27:38 AM: (http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-RDJ5ZVnXpUY/UEMx2-pM4LI/AAAAAAAACkc/4fT2K3MAk-g/s1600/jimmy-mcnulty.gif)
Title: Re: How did you all end up with the SO you're currently with?
Post by: fistfulofmetal on September 26, 2016, 11:32:06 AM: Online dating. Sent her a message, she responded a few weeks later. After a little bit of back and forth she asked me out (literally right before I was about to ask her out). We proceeded to go out every weekend doing various things. We saw a two plays together, went mini-golfing, ate gelato at a place. After a few weeks of this I was starting to run out of ideas and it was getting cold out. I was pushing to do a stay-in date so we could watch a movie she'd been talking about.

She finally agree'd to come over to my place on a Saturday. I had my place all cleaned up and dinner was planned. Then she texted me she had to cancel. She was super scared about the whole situation. I acknowledged that I understood and she offered to reschedule so we could do something else. In my head I knew I really liked the girl so I was willing to give her another chance.

The following week I was struggling to think of a thing to do and decided to just put the ball in her court. She then suggested she come over so we could watch a movie. This was the moment we went from casual dating to seriously dating. We started seeing each other far more often, I visited her place, she would visit during the week. Months passed and she started staying over occasionally on the weekends. It was definitely slow going, but I was willing to go at her pace.

Unfortunately she moved away for a huge job opportunity. Most people here know this part. We stuck through it doing long-distance. It sucked pretty bad. But I visited as often as I could. Eventually I finally managed to get a good job and moved myself to her. Since then we've moved in together and have been very happy. She's still a slow learner when it comes to relationships but like I said, I'm willing to go at her pace because I love her.
Title: Re: How did you all end up with the SO you're currently with?
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on September 26, 2016, 02:18:15 PM: Quote from: Tasty Meat on September 26, 2016, 09:47:18 AM
Are gay bowling leagues not really a thing? 🤔
No, it just highlights how awesome it is. :doge

bowling league? :kobeyuck

GAY bowling leaguge? :phil
Title: Re: How did you all end up with the SO you're currently with?
Post by: Tasty on September 26, 2016, 02:35:27 PM: Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on September 26, 2016, 02:18:15 PM
Quote from: Tasty Meat on September 26, 2016, 09:47:18 AM
Are gay bowling leagues not really a thing? 🤔
No, it just highlights how awesome it is. :doge

bowling league? :kobeyuck

GAY bowling leaguge? :phil

I guarantee you it's just as dorky as a normal league (I assume.) It's just all the teams happen to be LGBT.

Although we do get flamboyant sometimes when we're on a hot streak. :P
Title: Re: How did you all end up with the SO you're currently with?
Post by: Takuan on September 26, 2016, 02:38:43 PM: A single, particularly devastating creampie.
Title: Re: How did you all end up with the SO you're currently with?
Post by: Atramental on September 26, 2016, 02:52:18 PM: Quote from: Tasty Meat on September 26, 2016, 02:35:27 PM
Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on September 26, 2016, 02:18:15 PM
Quote from: Tasty Meat on September 26, 2016, 09:47:18 AM
Are gay bowling leagues not really a thing? 🤔
No, it just highlights how awesome it is. :doge

bowling league? :kobeyuck

GAY bowling leaguge? :phil

I guarantee you it's just as dorky as a normal league (I assume.) It's just all the teams happen to be LGBT.

Although we do get flamboyant sometimes when we're on a hot streak. :P
"YAAAAS! STRIKE!
STRIKE BIIITCH! STRU- IIIKE!"

:doge
Title: Re: How did you all end up with the SO you're currently with?
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 26, 2016, 03:01:38 PM: Quote from: Alcoholic Fish on September 26, 2016, 08:55:11 AM
Caught a felony charge

Quote from: Tasty Meat on September 26, 2016, 12:18:18 AM
Joined a gay bowling league in 2014

Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on September 26, 2016, 12:05:11 AM
Met in senior year in high school in Japanese class

ride the #wave wherever you find it brehs. bless up
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Title: Re: How did you all end up with the SO you're currently with?
Post by: Tasty on September 26, 2016, 03:07:11 PM: Quote from: Pallando on September 26, 2016, 02:52:18 PM
Quote from: Tasty Meat on September 26, 2016, 02:35:27 PM
Quote from: I'm a Puppy! on September 26, 2016, 02:18:15 PM
Quote from: Tasty Meat on September 26, 2016, 09:47:18 AM
Are gay bowling leagues not really a thing? 🤔
No, it just highlights how awesome it is. :doge

bowling league? :kobeyuck

GAY bowling leaguge? :phil

I guarantee you it's just as dorky as a normal league (I assume.) It's just all the teams happen to be LGBT.

Although we do get flamboyant sometimes when we're on a hot streak. :P
"YAAAAS! STRIKE!
STRIKE BIIITCH! STRU- IIIKE!"

:doge

Not far off. :lol

The most common phrase is a flamboyant "HELLLLOOOOOO!! (http://i.imgur.com/PyzAw9h.gif)" on a strike.
Title: Re: How did you all end up with the SO you're currently with?
Post by: studyguy on September 26, 2016, 03:29:08 PM: She shot me down twice but apparently folded on the third attempt.

Her loss.
:yeshrug
Title: Re: How did you all end up with the SO you're currently with?
Post by: Trent Dole on September 26, 2016, 03:41:34 PM: We 'met' on The GIA boards and both joined/started an offshoot when the site and its forums closed down along with having our own IRC channel. We talked a decent amount and found we had common ground beyond vidyas and I eventually flew off to see her, things went well, she moved to where I was, we got married some time after that.
Title: Re: How did you all end up with the SO you're currently with?
Post by: CatsCatsCats on September 26, 2016, 06:24:16 PM: One of my brother's friends brought her to a party at my house and I swooped in
Title: Re: How did you all end up with the SO you're currently with?
Post by: nudemacusers on September 26, 2016, 08:21:22 PM: stuck my weiner in one night and it's been stuck every since. :-[
Title: Re: How did you all end up with the SO you're currently with?
Post by: Trent Dole on September 27, 2016, 04:14:33 AM: Quote from: nudemacusers on September 26, 2016, 08:21:22 PM
stuck my weiner in one night and it's been stuck every since. :-[
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Title: Re: How did you all end up with the SO you're currently with?
Post by: nachobro on September 27, 2016, 10:06:54 AM: She was a student employee at the community college where I tutored at the time. I was basically a creepy weirdo and kept trying to get her to go out on a date, or to a thing with friends, or anything outside of work and was constantly rebuffed. :gloomy Then I eventually convinced her to hang out at a Street Fighter tournament :o where she entered Smash Bros :-\. But it still ended up working out and we started going out on dates, then she moved in a few months later :doge and now we're getting married next year :D
Title: Re: How did you all end up with the SO you're currently with?
Post by: Tasty on September 27, 2016, 04:18:10 PM: Quote
where she entered Smash Bros

She's a keeper for sure.
Title: Re: How did you all end up with the SO you're currently with?
Post by: Dickie Dee on September 27, 2016, 09:34:51 PM: Quote from: Tasty Meat on September 26, 2016, 12:18:18 AM
Joined a gay bowling league in 2014 after my one gay friend recommended it. Immediately made a ton more gay friends and felt part of a community. Felt normal for the first time.

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Title: Re: How did you all end up with the SO you're currently with?
Post by: TakingBackSunday on September 28, 2016, 03:56:02 PM: Tinder date. We love each other :-[
Title: Re: How did you all end up with the SO you're currently with?
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on September 28, 2016, 04:45:26 PM: Quote from: BrandNew on September 28, 2016, 03:56:02 PM
Tinder date. We love each other :-[
You need to get in the relationship thread and tell Pallo the secret of your success.
Title: Re: How did you all end up with the SO you're currently with?
Post by: Atramental on September 28, 2016, 05:08:15 PM: -Be attractive
-Don't be a neurotic mess of a human being

:doge
Title: Re: How did you all end up with the SO you're currently with?
Post by: Atramental on September 28, 2016, 05:13:49 PM: Believe it or not, writing down my thoughts in the relationship thread is rather carthartic. I know you all find it annoying, insufferable, and alarming... but hey it's cheaper/less time consuming than going to a shrink. :doge
Title: Re: How did you all end up with the SO you're currently with?
Post by: Phoenix Dark on September 28, 2016, 05:47:15 PM: Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on September 28, 2016, 05:14:50 PM
Quote from: Pallando on September 28, 2016, 05:13:49 PM
Believe or not, writing down my thoughts in the relationship thread is rather carthartic. I know you all find it annoying, insufferable, and alarming... but hey it's cheaper/less time consuming than going to a shrink. :doge

And a lot less helpful
Not really. Trust me.

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