How did you all end up with the SO you're currently with?

[Atramental]

Thread title says it all but I'm curious how you all made it "work" with the person you're currently with.

Were things rocky at the start or was it just smooth sailing?

[bork]

Went on dates.  They went well.  Got hitched.  Here we are, nine years later.

[Phoenix Dark]

I go to the dollar store a lot, to buy stuff I probably shouldn't buy at the dollar store. One day I went in and saw a super cute cashier I had never seen before. I glanced at her a few times but didn't consider hitting on her or anything like that. Time went by and I kept seeing her there, glancing, etc. Finally one day while in line she said are you going to keep coming in and pretending you don't want to say hi. We talked a bit and shortly thereafter i got her number.

It was mainly fwb type shit for a long time, I had no intention of dating. And then it kind of just happened. So we've been officially together for most of this year. Smooth overall but there have been some bumps recently.

[Beezy]

[bork]

Oh, you want more details?  OK.

Believe it or not, I met my wife trying out speed dating.      Went there expecting nothing to come from it and got two numbers.  I ended up going out with my wife because she stayed after the event and kept talking to me, whereas the other woman hightailed it out of there.   We saw each other 1-2 times a week on average and never had a single problem while we were dating.   Her parents liked me so much that they even let me stay at their house when I'd drive up to their town to see her (this was in Japan).  I proposed after we'd gone out for about a year and we got married about six months after that.  Maybe that was a bit short, but I'm serious when I say we never had a single problem when dating.  It was after getting hitched that some stuff would come up.    We lived together for a year before we then had a ceremony.  Can't remember exactly why it was delayed so much at this point but I want to say it was to just make sure that our two families could get out to be there (we went to Hawaii).

The one thing that did not happen while we went out was living together-- she has some old-fashioned values and did not want to move in with a boyfriend until she got married.  I didn't really care but thought living together would be a good way to make sure that we would get along.  Fortunately we did or that would have been a quick turnaround. 

[I'm a Puppy!]

Met in senior year in high school in Japanese class (In my search to be able to communicate with anyone anytime I had taken French, italian and German but I had started mixing that with spanish to the point where teachers were unable to understand me and they suggested I take a non-western language so it was Japanese). She made my heart go doki-doki. We stayed friends even after graduation. We were best friends. I was in love with her and she friendzoned me. Eventually she got ready to serve a mormon mission when I asked her if she wanted me to wait for her she said, "What for?" I moved on.

About 7 years later she sent a mass email letting everyone know she moving. I was going through some shit and sent her an email congratulating her on the move and we traded some emails back and forth. I told her about the shit I was going through and she said she missed me and she wanted to be there for me. that triggered something and I sent back a screed telling her I wasn't going to follow her around like a puppy dog anymore and that if she wanted to be there for me then she'd really have to be there and be equal. It sorta surprised her but she was still there for me.

This time around I really went into things not expecting anything at all. I enjoyed her friendship but I had "stopped caring". This time around she fell in love with me first. She would call to chat daily and I eventually went out to see my family in the summer and she was there as well. I found that I still loved her. I lived in Washington at the time and she was in Utah. We spent Christmas together that year and we both knew that we wanted to live together at some point. then she went home to Utah.  We were both miserable. She called me about two weeks later and said "I'm miserable without you. Why don't we get married in two weeks?" I was like "OK." Two weeks later we were married. Best decision I ever made.

[Tasty]

Joined a gay bowling league in 2014 after my one gay friend recommended it. Immediately made a ton more gay friends and felt part of a community. Felt normal for the first time.

One of those people knew this guy who lived in Portland who came down sometimes. He showed up during one of the league nights last February. We all went to a bar after and he kinda "cornered me" but I went along with it since I thought it was flattering he was so obviously into me (to the point where I said "there's so many good looking guys here," and he drunkenly replied "there's only one person here I think looks good.") Could have hooked up that night but decided against it, half because I've never been in that position and half because it was right in front of my entire spread of gay friends and I was shy about teasing.

Went on a short casual lunch "date" the next day. Didn't see him for a few weeks but kept up with texts. He asked me on a formal date: restaurant and movie. Had a great time.

Continued on from there. Went up to his place in Maine twice. He spent most of Vegas with me. He makes me feel warm and happy.

Surprisingly, it's both of our first "real" relationship. We're mapping out uncharted territory together.

[chronovore]

Started platonic, so I was more myself than I'd been with anyone before. Turned out she liked the honesty, and I have consistently been in awe of how fearless and passionate she is. 20 years married next May.

[chronovore]

Joined a gay bowling league

Can we all just pause for a moment and reflect on the awesomeness of this sentence fragment?

[zomgee]

We worked together in retail.

We're coming up on 21 years together.

[I'm a Puppy!]

Joined a gay bowling league

Can we all just pause for a moment and reflect on the awesomeness of this sentence fragment?

Glad I wasn't the only one that was like "whoa!"

[Alcoholic Fish]

Caught a felony charge that the judge graciously dropped on the condition that I complete 500 hours of community service. Figured I could bang that number out as a volunteer at a summer camp that I used to attend.

She was a volunteer with me. I tried to nail her friend first and she hated me, but we grew on each other over the course of the month. Hooked up a few times and decided to roll with it. It was a long distance relationship for the next few years because of school.

She moved in with me a year and a half ago and I proposed on our 8 year anniversary this year. Couldn't imagine life without her.

[Tasty]

Are gay bowling leagues not really a thing? 🤔

[Atramental]

It probably is it's just not something most of us are actively looking for.

[Beezy]

Caught a felony charge that the judge graciously dropped on the condition that I complete 500 hours of community service.

This happens?

[Alcoholic Fish]

Caught a felony charge that the judge graciously dropped on the condition that I complete 500 hours of community service.

This happens?

Being white in the criminal justice system 

[Beezy]

[fistfulofmetal]

Online dating. Sent her a message, she responded a few weeks later. After a little bit of back and forth she asked me out (literally right before I was about to ask her out). We proceeded to go out every weekend doing various things. We saw a two plays together, went mini-golfing, ate gelato at a place. After a few weeks of this I was starting to run out of ideas and it was getting cold out. I was pushing to do a stay-in date so we could watch a movie she'd been talking about.

She finally agree'd to come over to my place on a Saturday. I had my place all cleaned up and dinner was planned. Then she texted me she had to cancel. She was super scared about the whole situation. I acknowledged that I understood and she offered to reschedule so we could do something else. In my head I knew I really liked the girl so I was willing to give her another chance.

The following week I was struggling to think of a thing to do and decided to just put the ball in her court. She then suggested she come over so we could watch a movie. This was the moment we went from casual dating to seriously dating. We started seeing each other far more often, I visited her place, she would visit during the week. Months passed and she started staying over occasionally on the weekends. It was definitely slow going, but I was willing to go at her pace.

Unfortunately she moved away for a huge job opportunity. Most people here know this part. We stuck through it doing long-distance. It sucked pretty bad. But I visited as often as I could. Eventually I finally managed to get a good job and moved myself to her. Since then we've moved in together and have been very happy. She's still a slow learner when it comes to relationships but like I said, I'm willing to go at her pace because I love her.

[I'm a Puppy!]

Are gay bowling leagues not really a thing? 🤔

No, it just highlights how awesome it is.

bowling league? 

GAY bowling leaguge?

[Tasty]

Are gay bowling leagues not really a thing? 🤔

No, it just highlights how awesome it is.

bowling league? 

GAY bowling leaguge?

I guarantee you it's just as dorky as a normal league (I assume.) It's just all the teams happen to be LGBT.

Although we do get flamboyant sometimes when we're on a hot streak.

[Takuan]

A single, particularly devastating creampie.

[Atramental]

Are gay bowling leagues not really a thing? 🤔

No, it just highlights how awesome it is.

bowling league? 

GAY bowling leaguge?

I guarantee you it's just as dorky as a normal league (I assume.) It's just all the teams happen to be LGBT.

Although we do get flamboyant sometimes when we're on a hot streak.

"YAAAAS! STRIKE!
STRIKE BIIITCH! STRU- IIIKE!"

[Phoenix Dark]

Caught a felony charge

Joined a gay bowling league in 2014

Met in senior year in high school in Japanese class

ride the #wave wherever you find it brehs. bless up

[Tasty]

Are gay bowling leagues not really a thing? 🤔

No, it just highlights how awesome it is.

bowling league? 

GAY bowling leaguge?

I guarantee you it's just as dorky as a normal league (I assume.) It's just all the teams happen to be LGBT.

Although we do get flamboyant sometimes when we're on a hot streak.

"YAAAAS! STRIKE!
STRIKE BIIITCH! STRU- IIIKE!"

Not far off.

The most common phrase is a flamboyant "HELLLLOOOOOO!! " on a strike.

[studyguy]

She shot me down twice but apparently folded on the third attempt.

Her loss.
 

[Trent Dole]

We 'met' on The GIA boards and both joined/started an offshoot when the site and its forums closed down along with having our own IRC channel. We talked a decent amount and found we had common ground beyond vidyas and I eventually flew off to see her, things went well, she moved to where I was, we got married some time after that.

[CatsCatsCats]

One of my brother's friends brought her to a party at my house and I swooped in

[nudemacusers]

stuck my weiner in one night and it's been stuck every since. 

[Trent Dole]

stuck my weiner in one night and it's been stuck every since. 

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[nachobro]

She was a student employee at the community college where I tutored at the time. I was basically a creepy weirdo and kept trying to get her to go out on a date, or to a thing with friends, or anything outside of work and was constantly rebuffed. Then I eventually convinced her to hang out at a Street Fighter tournament where she entered Smash Bros . But it still ended up working out and we started going out on dates, then she moved in a few months later and now we're getting married next year

[Tasty]

where she entered Smash Bros

She's a keeper for sure.

[Dickie Dee]

Joined a gay bowling league in 2014 after my one gay friend recommended it. Immediately made a ton more gay friends and felt part of a community. Felt normal for the first time.

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[TakingBackSunday]

Tinder date.  We love each other 

[I'm a Puppy!]

Tinder date.  We love each other 

You need to get in the relationship thread and tell Pallo the secret of your success.

[Atramental]

-Be attractive
-Don't be a neurotic mess of a human being

[Atramental]

Believe it or not, writing down my thoughts in the relationship thread is rather carthartic. I know you all find it annoying, insufferable, and alarming... but hey it's cheaper/less time consuming than going to a shrink.

[Phoenix Dark]

Believe or not, writing down my thoughts in the relationship thread is rather carthartic. I know you all find it annoying, insufferable, and alarming... but hey it's cheaper/less time consuming than going to a shrink.

And a lot less helpful

Not really. Trust me.

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