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Title: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on June 30, 2017, 10:46:06 AM
I hope this doesn't hurt anyone's feelings and that they are written in good faith.

1. Feminism. I support women and women's rights. But feminism is also double edge. For example, instead of women's virginity being placed on a pedastal, now women are expected to put out. Femenism freely brag about how feminists have lead to the sexual revolution, allowing men to get laid with abandon. But this means that women are the gatekeeper to sex. This leads to a situation where women feel forced to have sex before marriage by societal standards, even if they don't want to, because it's what's expected. A movement aimed at giving women more choice actually gives the same choice as before: no choice.

2. Maybe sex before marriage isn't good after all. People would laugh about that. Haha, no sex before marriage? Haha! Or whatever. But...I mean. Look at our generation. We are a loveless generation and those who are in love seem to be exceptions. Between things like tinder, we now have a situation where most dudes don't want to put a ring on it. Why bother if they can they can get it for free? We have cultivated a culture where people are expected to put out on date one. Where people are seen as nothing but outlets for pornographic desire. Where you have STI and pregnant scares. I feel awful for participating in it. Clearly, hook up culture isn't making us happier. It's so bad it's almost impossible to find an actual date, never mind that I'm already trans. I don't want to fuck them. But it's expressed that I should because that is expected. Why reject sex, after all. This also manifests in real harmful things like virginity. People are expected to lose it at a specific expiration date and you don't, you're a loser. We saw things like Atra chase the v card, an arbitrary thing that doesn't ultimately doesn't fucking matter and yet brought unjust stress.

I came to these conclusions by watching the LGBT community. Just recently, were only able to get married in all states. The sex is so rampant. I don't expect it not to be rampant any time soon. But it's just kind of expected. So you have a culture that is all about shallow hook ups. There's certainly relationships and love within the community. I've seen it myself. But the hookups? It's just business. And yet there's always sex involved with every fucking thing in the culture, which is expected but it gets too much at times. It feels so shallow. For this reason I didn't go to Pride this year.

3. I'm not sure about the science worship.i was always bad at sciences besides biology, which I was surprisingly amazing at. I struggled in high school and college in physics and chemistry like a confused leper. I worked hard to pass those classes and it meant staying after school a lot. So I won't claim to be an expert in the sciences. But it bemuses me how we now have a society that takes sciences word like gospel, when this approach betrays science. It's treating science like a religion without the philosophy or ecclesial or ontological processes. I find the atheist life style to be wanting. Maybe it's not for everyone. Maybe I'm projecting my own experiences towards everyone else but most atheists don't seem happy and we have a generation of mostly atheists. Many of whom support the prior two points brought up. Yet we have all this science and tech but no true answers and no one is happy. Maybe not being happy is part of the human condition. Maybe it's based on location? Maybe it's generational? I don't know. But it's not our generation, and while we've been dealt some really bad deals, it's hard to think we haven't helped contirubute to that pain and suffering by heedlessly buying into it. I support the sciences, but the science fetishism is confusing especially in light of criticisms aimed at religion. People say,"religion has done bad things" but science has done awful things as well. But for some reason it gets a pass.

Just some truly random thoughts. I hope they make sense and were written with clarity and respect.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on June 30, 2017, 11:24:59 AM
I'm not sure what you mean.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on June 30, 2017, 11:31:34 AM
I get what you're trying to say on the feminism part. Like with anything there are some negatives that come with the positives. But I do think that overall when the tally is done there are there are more positives than negatives on this though. I suspect you'd agree on that, but we'd likely disagree on the proportion of positive to negative.

On your pre-marital sex thing? Having grown up in a society where pre-marital sex was literally almost as bad a murder, all I can say is "LOL, no." I've seen dozens and dozens of divorces that happened because people didn't find that they were sexually incompatible until after they were married. I do think though what you're talking about is a symptom of what my belief that goes against societal expectations is and that's not everyone can have love. The ability to give and receive love is not an "innate" ability, it's something that you have to learn and sometimes people never learn that and sometimes mental health issues get in the way of that. This whole sex thing that you're describing does get in the way of people learning to love, but it doesn't make it impossible.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on June 30, 2017, 11:43:26 AM
I dunno. Is it really sexual incompatibility?

The sexual incompatibility argument kind of rings hollow to me. Let's say you lose your virginity but you think you're not sexually compatible. So you break up with them. But now you're with other people and you might eventually come around to the fact that the first one was actually the person you were most compatible with. It's such a callous way to treat a relationship with a person and treats them like they have RPG stats and as if sex is the most important aspect of a relationship.

The sexual compatibility thing is part of a larger problem of society placing sex as higher than other things. Surely people can learn to make it work? That's what love is. And yet for all the sex before marriage we've had since the sexual revolution, divorce is kind of considered a basic guaranteed thing. So the divorce argument doesn't make much sense because plenty of people who have sex before marriage end up in divorces.

The sexual compatibility argument is so, so awful and really needs to stop being used.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Atramental on June 30, 2017, 11:57:30 AM
I totally get where you're coming from, Queen.

I think a lot of people need to dial their hedonism down by a couple of notches and incorporate more elements of stoic philosophy into their daily lives.

BUT... I know better than to get all preachy/judgy about this kind of stuff since that was what I was like at the peak of my religiousness.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on June 30, 2017, 11:59:07 AM
Maybe my problem isn't the sex itself but the abject hedonism. I'm not really sure.

And yeah, I don't want to get preachy. I get it.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Mupepe on June 30, 2017, 12:01:57 PM
I dunno. Is it really sexual incompatibility?

The sexual incompatibility argument kind of rings hollow to me. Let's say you lose your virginity but you think you're not sexually compatible. So you break up with them. But now you're with other people and you might eventually come around to the fact that the first one was actually the person you were most compatible with. It's such a callous way to treat a relationship with a person and treats them like they have RPG stats.

The sexual compatibility thing is part of a larger problem of society placing sex as higher than other things. Surely people can learn to make it work? That's what love is. And yet for all the sex before marriage we've had since the sexual revolution, divorce is kind of considered a basic guaranteed thing. So the divorce argument doesn't make much sense because plenty of people who have sex before marriage end up in divorces.

The sexual compatibility argument is so, so awful and really needs to stop being used.
The bolded part sounds like a timing issue.  Timing of discovering yourself.  Timing of maturing to be able to discuss needs/desires.  Timing is a huge part of a relationship.  Right person, wrong time is very much a real thing

Sexually compatible is definitely a thing too though.  Even the most open minded person will likely draw a firm line in the sand on what they're willing to do and accept.  And that's okay.  If your lines are really that far apart then yes, it's a sexual compatibility issue.

I do think many give on relationships way too quickly in regards to sex because they can't even be open minded and honest with their partners.  That is a symptom of culture assigning a one size fits all definition of sexuality and marriage.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: benjipwns on June 30, 2017, 12:15:34 PM
Quote from: Pierre-Joseph Proudhon
The more I think about it, the less I can justify the destiny of woman outside the family and the household. Between harlot or housewife, I see no halfway point.
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okay, so i may be stretching the actual topic just to have an excuse to share this Proudhon quote/piece i recently came across for the first time :doge
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Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on June 30, 2017, 12:21:08 PM
I dunno. Is it really sexual incompatibility?

The sexual incompatibility argument kind of rings hollow to me. Let's say you lose your virginity but you think you're not sexually compatible. So you break up with them. But now you're with other people and you might eventually come around to the fact that the first one was actually the person you were most compatible with. It's such a callous way to treat a relationship with a person and treats them like they have RPG stats and as if sex is the most important aspect of a relationship.

The sexual compatibility thing is part of a larger problem of society placing sex as higher than other things. Surely people can learn to make it work? That's what love is. And yet for all the sex before marriage we've had since the sexual revolution, divorce is kind of considered a basic guaranteed thing. So the divorce argument doesn't make much sense because plenty of people who have sex before marriage end up in divorces.

The sexual compatibility argument is so, so awful and really needs to stop being used.
I don't think I can sign up for this. People have needs and some of those are affection and physical too. You can't just ignore these because the nature of the need. I'm not talking about dude x is into bdsm and his wife isn't. I mean a guy's wife literally never wants to have sex. Should she have to force herself to have sex with him? Should he have to go without for the rest of his life? That's not fair to either. And yeah some people can work it out, but sometimes they can't. I see this all the time in mormondom a wife will be OK with sex every few months and the husband wants more and she feels he's a perv for wanting it more often and he feels like she's a prude. Are you saying one of them should feel used or the other feel resentful because they can't get their needs met? That's unfair to both. If they had been able to know what they were like sexually before they got married perhaps she would have chosen a guy with a lower sex drive and he a woman with a higher one. I've heard in mormon circles that marrying someone that has had pre-marital sex is like buying already chewed gum, but at the same time if I'm buying a pair of shoes that I'm going to wear for the rest of my life you'd better believe I'd try them on before I bought them.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on June 30, 2017, 12:30:14 PM
That argument still falls flat.

One man's girlfriend may have been highly sexual; one man's wife might not be. So are we supposed to divorce until everything goes our way? Marriage is love until death do us part through health and sickness. If you can't stay with someone because they won't have sex with you, is that really love? Sure, you may have urges. But perhaps she won't have sex with you because she's not attracted to the gut on your belly? Why isn't this communicated both ways? It cuts both ways, too. If a man loses his ability to get up, does this justify a woman divorcing him?

I'm not saying sexual compatibility doesn't exist, but this description is zero sum, shallow, and treats people like objects. You're comparing human beings to shoes.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on June 30, 2017, 12:32:38 PM
Let's say dude becomes paralyzed and will have a hard time having sex now. What then? Divorce because you're not sexually incompatible? It's not that sexual compatibility isn't important. The problem is that it's stressed as most important.

Himu, is your newfound christianity the reason for believing all of this?

Can we not speak of this?
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: CatsCatsCats on June 30, 2017, 12:33:10 PM
I mean, yes not having a healthy sex life is a deal breaker for a lot of folks, male or female

(http://i.makeagif.com/media/4-16-2015/4Tl5MT.gif)

Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on June 30, 2017, 12:35:40 PM
uhhh.....have you been married? Sexual needs are like emotional needs. If you ignored your spouses emotional needs you'd be a monster. Marriage isn't "Remember you're here forever!" It's "take care of each other forever, be there for each other forever."

I'm not saying toss people away because sex is bad. But what I am saying is that sex is part of relationships and when it's good it's 10% of the relationship, when it's bad it's 90% of the relationship. It's like any facet of the relationship, if it's left unattended and neglected it will seep into other parts of the relationship until love is replaced by resentment.

edit: and I do have a friend that became paralyzed, there still are things that he and his wife do to connect on a sexual level.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on June 30, 2017, 12:36:15 PM
Himu, is your newfound christianity the reason for believing all of this?

Can we not speak of this?

I'm not shutting you down or anything, just saying it falls in line with said beliefs. I'll drop it now if it bothers you.

The answer is no, though.

uhhh.....have you been married? Sexual needs are like emotional needs. If you ignored your spouses emotional needs you'd be a monster. Marriage isn't "Remember you're here forever!" It's "take care of each other forever, be there for each other forever."

I'm not saying toss people away because sex is bad. But what I am saying is that sex is part of relationships and when it's good it's 10% of the relationship, when it's bad it's 90% of the relationship. It's like any facet of the relationship, if it's left unattended and neglected it will seep into other parts of the relationship until love is replaced by resentment.

I can understand that, but I also think it's clearly I'm also calling for better communication in said relationships.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on June 30, 2017, 01:14:15 PM
Capitalism hasn't really helped us "progress" as a species. Sure technologically it's done marvels. But we're not happier as a whole because we have an iPhone.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: CatsCatsCats on June 30, 2017, 01:14:55 PM
Capitalism hasn't really helped us "progress" as a species. Sure technologically it's done marvels. But we're not happier as a whole because we have an iPhone.

We were better off in the trees

(Posted from my iPhone 📱)
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: benjipwns on June 30, 2017, 01:17:14 PM
But we're not happier as a whole because we have an iPhone.
Well until they showed up with the search warrant some people were.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on June 30, 2017, 01:18:24 PM
But we're not happier as a whole because we have an iPhone.
Well until they showed up with the search warrant some people were.
Wait. You're right. I take it back.

Can I have a mod delete that prior post? If this was GAF that'd be simple.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: benjipwns on June 30, 2017, 01:22:46 PM
i remember there being a little debate about science fetishism a couple years ago there was like a series of memes that were like pictures of stars or a lightning storm or like a picture of Neil deGrasse Tyson and then a caption of like "SCIENCE!" or "FUCK YEAH SCIENCE"

and it was really more like people loving magic than anything to do with the actual processes of science
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Human Snorenado on June 30, 2017, 01:25:09 PM
Human beings are not good at making decisions and when at all possible, we should let algorithms do so.

(This isn't just a "thing I think" but something that's been proven repeatedly.)
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: CatsCatsCats on June 30, 2017, 01:26:08 PM
OnT: to a degree, true belief shapes reality
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on June 30, 2017, 01:27:21 PM
No I haven't been married. I'm not sure why you think I'm downplaying the importance of sex. My problem is the way you're framing the argument. You said that sexual compatibility is important - and it is - to find out your mate and justify marrying them. Which is reasonable. But you also mention things like your wife not having sex with you, thus not being sexually incompatible. Your argument for having sex before marriage is one of sexual compatibility. While it's true that your wife who you were abstinent with may not want to have sex with you after you get married, it's also true that this may happen even if you did have sex before marriage. Essentially, sexual compatibility isn't a state that constantly exists. It's something you continuously work on. And if it's something you continuously work on, using it as an argument for sex before marriage undoes your own argument because you can just as easily do this with abstinence until marriage. Even if you're sexually compatible before marriage doesn't guarantee that will be after, which negates the argument towards compatibility.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: benjipwns on June 30, 2017, 01:35:36 PM
ha found the classic example:
(http://static.fjcdn.com/pictures/FUCK+YEAH+SCIENCE_5d39da_3394182.jpg)
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on June 30, 2017, 01:36:31 PM
I just know that many of the people who like that stuff couldn't get an A in an high school science class.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: TVC15 on June 30, 2017, 01:41:35 PM
Jesus, Himuro is going to be voting Republican by the time the midterms come around.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on June 30, 2017, 01:41:37 PM
Don't think that's fair because that's often a personal choice, isn't it?
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on June 30, 2017, 01:41:48 PM
No I haven't been married. I'm not sure why you think I'm downplaying the importance of sex. My problem is the way you're framing the argument. You said that sexual compatibility is important - and it is - to find out your mate and justify marrying them. Which is reasonable. But you also mention things like your wife not having sex with you, thus not being sexually incompatible. Your argument for having sex before marriage is one of sexual compatibility. While it's true that your wife who you were abstinent with may not want to have sex with you after you get married, it's also true that this may happen even if you did have sex before marriage. Essentially, sexual compatibility isn't a state that constantly exists. It's something you continuously work on. And if it's something you continuously work on, using it as an argument for sex before marriage undoes your own argument because you can just as easily do this with abstinence until marriage. Even if you're sexually compatible before marriage doesn't guarantee that will be after, which negates the argument towards compatibility.
I whole heartedly agree. Sexual compability does TOTALLY change over time. And I'm not saying pre-marital sex is a cure-all for sexual compatibility. But, gaining the skills to have a mature sexual relationship is difficult and in some ways the honeymoon phase can be the perfect time to gain those skills, and in others it's the worst. But here's where I come at it from, if there is a severe sexual incompatibility (Like maybe someone is really rough in sex and refuses to change, or somesuch) it would be better to find out before both parties are locked and loaded for life.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: jakefromstatefarm on June 30, 2017, 02:07:23 PM
Quote from: Pierre-Joseph Proudhon
The more I think about it, the less I can justify the destiny of woman outside the family and the household. Between harlot or housewife, I see no halfway point.
spoiler (click to show/hide)
okay, so i may be stretching the actual topic just to have an excuse to share this Proudhon quote/piece i recently came across for the first time :doge
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Quote from: Schopenhauer
One need only look at a woman’s shape to discover that she is not intended for either too much mental or too much physical work. She pays the debt of life not by what she does but by what she suffers — by the pains of child-bearing, care for the child, and by subjection to man, to whom she should be a patient and cheerful companion.
Quote from: Voltaire
It is not astonishing, that in every country man has rendered himself the master of woman, dominion being founded on strength. He has ordinarily, too, a superiority in both body and mind.
Quote from: Nietzsche
Woman wants to become independent - and for that reason she is beginning to enlighten men about "woman as such" - that is among the most deleterious developments in the general process of making Europe ugly.
Turns out a whole bunch of canonical thinkers had some choice things to say about women that today we find reprehensible.

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I wanted to include the de Sade quote from Juliette where he claims women are a different species altogether from men -"like monkeys" or something like that- but couldn't find it. :doge
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Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Raist on June 30, 2017, 02:11:12 PM
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People say,"religion has done bad things" but science has done awful things as well. But for some reason it gets a pass.

I'm sorry, what?
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on June 30, 2017, 02:16:38 PM
No I haven't been married. I'm not sure why you think I'm downplaying the importance of sex. My problem is the way you're framing the argument. You said that sexual compatibility is important - and it is - to find out your mate and justify marrying them. Which is reasonable. But you also mention things like your wife not having sex with you, thus not being sexually incompatible. Your argument for having sex before marriage is one of sexual compatibility. While it's true that your wife who you were abstinent with may not want to have sex with you after you get married, it's also true that this may happen even if you did have sex before marriage. Essentially, sexual compatibility isn't a state that constantly exists. It's something you continuously work on. And if it's something you continuously work on, using it as an argument for sex before marriage undoes your own argument because you can just as easily do this with abstinence until marriage. Even if you're sexually compatible before marriage doesn't guarantee that will be after, which negates the argument towards compatibility.
I whole heartedly agree. Sexual compability does TOTALLY change over time. And I'm not saying pre-marital sex is a cure-all for sexual compatibility. But, gaining the skills to have a mature sexual relationship is difficult and in some ways the honeymoon phase can be the perfect time to gain those skills, and in others it's the worst. But here's where I come at it from, if there is a severe sexual incompatibility (Like maybe someone is really rough in sex and refuses to change, or somesuch) it would be better to find out before both parties are locked and loaded for life.

I'm not sure why you think this is impossible to achieve while being abstinent. No sex before marriage doesn't mean no sex talk before marriage. I think it's unrealistic to not talk about sex at all before marriage or what you like. I also think it's unreasonable in this case for a man with a micro penis to not his future wife this fact for instance.

But honestly I'm not sure what good sex marriage even does. Every time someone breaks up with me, who I had sex with, it feels gut wrenching. It's another person who I gave myself to, physically and emotionally and it ended up not being that special someone. I worry that if I do find that person, I'll have sex with them and it won't mean much because I've had sex with emotionally and physically with many people prior to them that I'll be numb towards it.

I understand that you think sexual compatibility can change. I respect that and agree with it. But that's not how it's often framed when arguing for a pro pre marriage position.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on June 30, 2017, 02:31:39 PM
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People say,"religion has done bad things" but science has done awful things as well. But for some reason it gets a pass.

I'm sorry, what?

Here. Let me help you with that.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Scientific_racism

And a recent vox article to make it clear it still happens.

https://www.vox.com/the-big-idea/2017/3/28/15078400/scientific-racism-murray-alt-right-black-muslim-culture-trump

Walrus' iq and eugenics posts while not having anything to do with race are a part of that legacy.

You could easily say,"that was in the past and wasn't science" but atheists like to laugh at theists for saying things like,"those weren't real ______."

You could also say,"that doesn't happen anymore" but...

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/monkey-cage/wp/2015/09/28/born-that-way-scientific-racism-is-creeping-back-into-our-thinking-heres-what-to-watch-out-for/?utm_term=.6c22af746568

https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/08/how-racism-creeps-into-medicine/378618/

Essentially, placing all 100% faith into science is dangerous as it is just as suspectible as everything else. Science can be a great, wonderful thing. The fetishism? Lol.

Jesus, Himuro is going to be voting Republican by the time the midterms come around.

Lol. Never.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Raist on June 30, 2017, 02:41:15 PM
Science is a tool. It's like arguing that knives can do evil too because they can be used to stab people. There is nothing about science intrinsically potentially telling people to be pieces of shit. Also, it's universal, and as such, unbiased.

Religion, on the other hand, much like any other belief (political etc) can easily be the driver of disgusting shit. It also leads to division (us vs. them).
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: CatsCatsCats on June 30, 2017, 02:56:11 PM
Science is a tool. It's like arguing that knives can do evil too because they can be used to stab people. There is nothing about science intrinsically potentially telling people to be pieces of shit. Also, it's universal, and as such, unbiased.

Religion, on the other hand, much like any other belief (political etc) can easily be the driver of disgusting shit. It also leads to division (us vs. them).

Only counter argument to this I might make is something along the lines of science calling for definition/categorization and definition/categorization also leading to division (us vs them)
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on June 30, 2017, 03:08:44 PM
Science is a tool. It's like arguing that knives can do evil too because they can be used to stab people. There is nothing about science intrinsically potentially telling people to be pieces of shit. Also, it's universal, and as such, unbiased.

Religion, on the other hand, much like any other belief (political etc) can easily be the driver of disgusting shit. It also leads to division (us vs. them).

Science is used to be purported as fact. It is a belief as any other. It also has been used for disgusting shit. Scientists will sometimes do things for the research regardless of the harm. The creation of the atom bomb is a great example.

I shouldn't have to tell you the potentiality for harm in believing something as fact and the ways it can be abused. Saying science is "just" a tool is naive, and renders science from responsibility.

Denying the potential science to harm is the fetishisn I speak of.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Raist on June 30, 2017, 03:19:51 PM
Right. I'm outta here  :donot
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on June 30, 2017, 03:23:22 PM
Good. It's not like you responded to my posts anyways.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: seagrams hotsauce on June 30, 2017, 03:29:05 PM
Uhh, marriage only relatively recently had anything to do with love in western society, and still has dick-all to do with it in many parts of the world? And half of people who get married get divorced anyway? What objective advantage do married people have, apart from legal rights?

"science is a belief like any other" lmao. Yeah, I guess I 'believe' in gravity
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on June 30, 2017, 03:39:38 PM
No I haven't been married. I'm not sure why you think I'm downplaying the importance of sex. My problem is the way you're framing the argument. You said that sexual compatibility is important - and it is - to find out your mate and justify marrying them. Which is reasonable. But you also mention things like your wife not having sex with you, thus not being sexually incompatible. Your argument for having sex before marriage is one of sexual compatibility. While it's true that your wife who you were abstinent with may not want to have sex with you after you get married, it's also true that this may happen even if you did have sex before marriage. Essentially, sexual compatibility isn't a state that constantly exists. It's something you continuously work on. And if it's something you continuously work on, using it as an argument for sex before marriage undoes your own argument because you can just as easily do this with abstinence until marriage. Even if you're sexually compatible before marriage doesn't guarantee that will be after, which negates the argument towards compatibility.
I whole heartedly agree. Sexual compability does TOTALLY change over time. And I'm not saying pre-marital sex is a cure-all for sexual compatibility. But, gaining the skills to have a mature sexual relationship is difficult and in some ways the honeymoon phase can be the perfect time to gain those skills, and in others it's the worst. But here's where I come at it from, if there is a severe sexual incompatibility (Like maybe someone is really rough in sex and refuses to change, or somesuch) it would be better to find out before both parties are locked and loaded for life.

I'm not sure why you think this is impossible to achieve while being abstinent. No sex before marriage doesn't mean no sex talk before marriage. I think it's unrealistic to not talk about sex at all before marriage or what you like. I also think it's unreasonable in this case for a man with a micro penis to not his future wife this fact for instance.

But honestly I'm not sure what good sex marriage even does. Every time someone breaks up with me, who I had sex with, it feels gut wrenching. It's another person who I gave myself to, physically and emotionally and it ended up not being that special someone. I worry that if I do find that person, I'll have sex with them and it won't mean much because I've had sex with emotionally and physically with many people prior to them that I'll be numb towards it.

I understand that you think sexual compatibility can change. I respect that and agree with it. But that's not how it's often framed when arguing for a pro pre marriage position.
But you're asking people with no experience in anything to discuss said things maturely. It'd be like me talking about how I like to drive my F1 race car.

It makes me sad that you don't see what good sex in marriage does. It seems you only view it as a negative.  That's a sad thing.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: etiolate on June 30, 2017, 03:39:39 PM
There's a facebook group that is some sort of  Isn't Science Great! or something like that. I wish I could hijack it to put up something like "99% of species on earth propagate through seasonal rapings." See how that goes over with the wippersnappers.

It's just twee culture. Trying to make everything cute and happy fun. Science is a tool as in its a process. It doesn't need to be political or pop culture. It actually shouldn't be political.

I think your issue with it may be the authority science is given by people who do not even understand the science, so it essentially operates as faith on the larger public scale.

Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on June 30, 2017, 03:47:33 PM
No I haven't been married. I'm not sure why you think I'm downplaying the importance of sex. My problem is the way you're framing the argument. You said that sexual compatibility is important - and it is - to find out your mate and justify marrying them. Which is reasonable. But you also mention things like your wife not having sex with you, thus not being sexually incompatible. Your argument for having sex before marriage is one of sexual compatibility. While it's true that your wife who you were abstinent with may not want to have sex with you after you get married, it's also true that this may happen even if you did have sex before marriage. Essentially, sexual compatibility isn't a state that constantly exists. It's something you continuously work on. And if it's something you continuously work on, using it as an argument for sex before marriage undoes your own argument because you can just as easily do this with abstinence until marriage. Even if you're sexually compatible before marriage doesn't guarantee that will be after, which negates the argument towards compatibility.
I whole heartedly agree. Sexual compability does TOTALLY change over time. And I'm not saying pre-marital sex is a cure-all for sexual compatibility. But, gaining the skills to have a mature sexual relationship is difficult and in some ways the honeymoon phase can be the perfect time to gain those skills, and in others it's the worst. But here's where I come at it from, if there is a severe sexual incompatibility (Like maybe someone is really rough in sex and refuses to change, or somesuch) it would be better to find out before both parties are locked and loaded for life.

I'm not sure why you think this is impossible to achieve while being abstinent. No sex before marriage doesn't mean no sex talk before marriage. I think it's unrealistic to not talk about sex at all before marriage or what you like. I also think it's unreasonable in this case for a man with a micro penis to not his future wife this fact for instance.

But honestly I'm not sure what good sex marriage even does. Every time someone breaks up with me, who I had sex with, it feels gut wrenching. It's another person who I gave myself to, physically and emotionally and it ended up not being that special someone. I worry that if I do find that person, I'll have sex with them and it won't mean much because I've had sex with emotionally and physically with many people prior to them that I'll be numb towards it.

I understand that you think sexual compatibility can change. I respect that and agree with it. But that's not how it's often framed when arguing for a pro pre marriage position.
But you're asking people with no experience in anything to discuss said things maturely. It'd be like me talking about how I like to drive my F1 race car.

It makes me sad that you don't see what good sex in marriage does. It seems you only view it as a negative.  That's a sad thing.

Er, you read that wrong and I wrote it on my phone so it was a typo. I mean, I'm obviously talking about sex before marriage. Not good sex marriage? It's obviously missing the word 'before'? I'm not sure why you think I view sex as a negative? I'm not sure what any good sex before marriage does. Seems to fuck things up more than it helps.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Verdigris Murder on June 30, 2017, 03:49:24 PM
Human beings are not good at making decisions and when at all possible, we should let algorithms do so.

(This isn't just a "thing I think" but something that's been proven repeatedly.)
Good point.


Also lisps and other speech deviances. Why are people so quick to judge? It's not like one of those manifestations of sins conducted in lives previously like wheelchair folk and larpers.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on June 30, 2017, 04:08:10 PM
There's a facebook group that is some sort of  Isn't Science Great! or something like that. I wish I could hijack it to put up something like "99% of species on earth propagate through seasonal rapings." See how that goes over with the wippersnappers.

It's just twee culture. Trying to make everything cute and happy fun. Science is a tool as in its a process. It doesn't need to be political or pop culture. It actually shouldn't be political.

I think your issue with it may be the authority science is given by people who do not even understand the science, so it essentially operates as faith on the larger public scale.

It's really quite odd. Seagrams showed a great example of this distinguished mentally-challenged fetishism. They treat all science as 100% fact no matter your views on the subject. Critique science? "Why don't you jump off a cliff?" Science is great and all, but the "science can never do no wrong" is the shit I'm talking about. Like scientists don't have biases or their own beliefs and are fucking robots that don't have emotions. Scientists can never be wrong because of the scientific method and the nature of science is to be wrong, to find the truth. Thus it can never be critiqued.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on June 30, 2017, 04:12:20 PM
No I haven't been married. I'm not sure why you think I'm downplaying the importance of sex. My problem is the way you're framing the argument. You said that sexual compatibility is important - and it is - to find out your mate and justify marrying them. Which is reasonable. But you also mention things like your wife not having sex with you, thus not being sexually incompatible. Your argument for having sex before marriage is one of sexual compatibility. While it's true that your wife who you were abstinent with may not want to have sex with you after you get married, it's also true that this may happen even if you did have sex before marriage. Essentially, sexual compatibility isn't a state that constantly exists. It's something you continuously work on. And if it's something you continuously work on, using it as an argument for sex before marriage undoes your own argument because you can just as easily do this with abstinence until marriage. Even if you're sexually compatible before marriage doesn't guarantee that will be after, which negates the argument towards compatibility.
I whole heartedly agree. Sexual compability does TOTALLY change over time. And I'm not saying pre-marital sex is a cure-all for sexual compatibility. But, gaining the skills to have a mature sexual relationship is difficult and in some ways the honeymoon phase can be the perfect time to gain those skills, and in others it's the worst. But here's where I come at it from, if there is a severe sexual incompatibility (Like maybe someone is really rough in sex and refuses to change, or somesuch) it would be better to find out before both parties are locked and loaded for life.

I'm not sure why you think this is impossible to achieve while being abstinent. No sex before marriage doesn't mean no sex talk before marriage. I think it's unrealistic to not talk about sex at all before marriage or what you like. I also think it's unreasonable in this case for a man with a micro penis to not his future wife this fact for instance.

But honestly I'm not sure what good sex marriage even does. Every time someone breaks up with me, who I had sex with, it feels gut wrenching. It's another person who I gave myself to, physically and emotionally and it ended up not being that special someone. I worry that if I do find that person, I'll have sex with them and it won't mean much because I've had sex with emotionally and physically with many people prior to them that I'll be numb towards it.

I understand that you think sexual compatibility can change. I respect that and agree with it. But that's not how it's often framed when arguing for a pro pre marriage position.
But you're asking people with no experience in anything to discuss said things maturely. It'd be like me talking about how I like to drive my F1 race car.

It makes me sad that you don't see what good sex in marriage does. It seems you only view it as a negative.  That's a sad thing.

Er, you read that wrong and I wrote it on my phone so it was a typo. I mean, I'm obviously talking about sex before marriage. Not good sex marriage? It's obviously missing the word 'before'? I'm not sure why you think I view sex as a negative? I'm not sure what any good sex before marriage does. Seems to fuck things up more than it helps.
You always think what you don't have is better. I grew up in a abstinent until marriage society and I saw a lot of problems with it. Likewise people that grew up in areas of promiscuity do the same. :trumps
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: seagrams hotsauce on June 30, 2017, 04:13:36 PM
There's a facebook group that is some sort of  Isn't Science Great! or something like that. I wish I could hijack it to put up something like "99% of species on earth propagate through seasonal rapings." See how that goes over with the wippersnappers.

It's just twee culture. Trying to make everything cute and happy fun. Science is a tool as in its a process. It doesn't need to be political or pop culture. It actually shouldn't be political.

I think your issue with it may be the authority science is given by people who do not even understand the science, so it essentially operates as faith on the larger public scale.

It's really quite odd. Seagrams showed a great example of this distinguished mentally-challenged fetishism. They treat all science as 100% fact no matter your views on the subject. Critique science? "Why don't you jump off a cliff?" Science is great and all, but the "science can never do no wrong" is the shit I'm talking about. Like scientists don't have biases or their own beliefs and are fucking robots that don't have emotions. Scientists can never be wrong because of the scientific method and the nature of science is to be wrong, to find the truth. Thus it can never be critiqued.
I'm sorry if not thinking science is a religion is 'distinguished mentally-challenged fetishism' now  ::)
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Raist on June 30, 2017, 04:16:26 PM
Good. It's not like you responded to my posts anyways.

I just did, and you replied with nonsense straight out of the young earth creationist playbook. I don't have time for this shit.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on June 30, 2017, 04:22:19 PM
Good. It's not like you responded to my posts anyways.

I just did, and you replied with nonsense straight out of the young earth creationist playbook. I don't have time for this shit.

Bullshit.

I responded with my opinion and said nothing about creationism - which is even bigger bullshit. You took my post which posits actual evidence of abuse of science and scientific fanaticism and turned it into religion vs science you chuckle fuck.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on June 30, 2017, 05:36:25 PM
You can say religion, much like science and whatever else, is not inherently evil as much as it's used by people to gain power and do awful things. But science is an actual tool you can use to move the human species forward, while religion is a hindrance that holds us back.

Where's my fedora at?

Religion is the corner stone of many modern science beliefs. In fact, the Age of Enlightenment was a result of the Catholic Church using science to prove God's existence. Specifically through Newton who was obsessed with doing just this, and Aquinas' Rule of Contingency. Once they posited that God was proven fact, through again, science (or "science"), atheism arose as a natural rebuttal.  Religion and science are like peas and carrots. Two completely things but touch upon each other, mingle with each other, and flirt with one another. Big Bang theory was put forth by a Catholic priest. Human Genome Project was helmed by a Christian.

It's very funny how the atheists who said that religion results in us vs them are actually using us vs them to make religion come off as outdated and unnecessary.

Meanwhile, the theist (me) thinks religion and science both touch upon each other and both reflect two different things and two different realities and doesn't consider science to be an enemy.

Shocking.

(Not really)
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Human Snorenado on June 30, 2017, 05:52:08 PM
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Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on June 30, 2017, 06:44:26 PM
My stance: religion can be bad, science can be bad; religion can be good, science can be good.

To me, anything else is a symptom of stanning for a team in a shitty ass culture war. Considering that almost half of scientists are believers, the case is made that any attempt to cast religion as "holding us back" through the lens that science is all we need through its observance of the material, as something that doesn't really exist in the real world.

To be fair, creationists and anti-science rhetoric brought forth by silly religious people created this mess. They were overly defensive towards things that actually help belief even easier (through science), cast laws teaching crony creationism and the Bible. This fuels creating atheists.

But the response is that you don't need religion. And if you're religious you're clearly evolution denying dumbass. So they make assumptions about your person and joke you're going to vote republican. Which funnily, fuels more theists because atheistic science nerds have sold us a hollow ideology based off of shitty Cosmos quotes.

Both are extremes and both don't reflect the actual world. They're symptoms of a crappy culture war and nothing more.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: brawndolicious on June 30, 2017, 07:18:37 PM
The catholic church wasn't using science to prove God exists, they were trying to use "miracles".

Science cannot prove or disprove a supernatural thing. It cannot tell you who is good or evil. It cannot even decide when a stock is a good buy or not.

The reason is that all three of those things are based on faith and/or irrationality which are completely human traits. That's why people wholeheartedly believe in a particular religion when 80% of the world disagrees with them. Why they feel morally correct killing and then feel guilt. And why the absolute best stock market algorithms aim for like a 95% confidence interval.

It sounds like your problem is with people who have different moral beliefs than you rather than science. Simple example:

Science would be proving that a turbocharger will allow you to get more power and efficiency out of an engine. Somebody you morally disagree with would be doing street racing while drunk in a school zone using a car with such an engine.

That doesn't mean that guy is representative of how engineers think, he's just some asshole.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on June 30, 2017, 07:23:19 PM
I don't have any problem with science and that isn't what I've said at all.

Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Huff on June 30, 2017, 07:33:29 PM
I mean plenty of science or research is bad/falsified/etc but that's because humans and money are involved

The pursuit of science/medicine/answers is never wrong
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on June 30, 2017, 07:39:26 PM
My problem is the science worship.

STEM and undervaluing the arts.

Stuff like I Fucking Love Science, which posts things that aren't a even science.

"Science" as used to fuel hate and descrimination (I.e. "Blacks are not smart as other races, and science has proved this." "Psychologists say all white people are racist")

 A shallow view of science that is used as the sole thing that is seen as a manner to explore and explain the world. With history, art, religion, philosophy anything else thrown to the way side.

The scientific idea that undervalues philosophy. Many science dork atheists make fucking terrible philosophers and couldn't make it through a philosophy text.

Treating science as fact. "I read on the Internet the other day that ____ is _____ in a study" even if it's just one study and it's not even peer reviewed or it has a small sample size. It is now treated as fact. This is obviously dangerous depending on what that fact is.

The problem isn't science, and never has been science. It's people who worship science and find it to be the sole thing needed to explain our world and have decided that anything that goes outside of materialism is deemed unnecessary. People like Bill Nye are great examples of this. The man isn't even a scientist.

Bishop Barron is far more learned, patient, and eloquent than me so I'll post this video.

https://youtu.be/3ZkHv8iTJPo

https://youtu.be/SH_Njsa0zVQ
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: brawndolicious on June 30, 2017, 07:46:10 PM
So your problem is with assholes who use science as an excuse to justify why it's normal and all right for them to be an asshole,  correct?

Because ya know I work around scientists and engineers all day but they don't do that Facebook stuff in real life.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on June 30, 2017, 08:30:06 PM
I've spelled out my problem multiple times and even said that actual scientists often don't believe these binary things and arbitrary and one-dimensional idea of what science is. My problem is science worship, which often comes from people who aren't scientists. It's like you're not even reading my posts.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on June 30, 2017, 09:29:52 PM
Even scientists agree with me.

http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/974116
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Mandark on June 30, 2017, 09:39:15 PM
re: abstinence

Like a lot of other fun, taboo behaviors, it's not really a choice between allowing or preventing premarital sex. It's much more about how much secrecy we want around it, and how much punishment we want to inflict on a segment of the people who get caught (and which segment that will be).

People have been fucking for yeeeeaaaaaarrrrrs.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Madrun Badrun on June 30, 2017, 09:48:20 PM
Get real Mandark, no one fucked before the hippies. 
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: seagrams hotsauce on June 30, 2017, 11:07:14 PM
Himu finds a new thing, takes a hard stance against anything opposing it, ridicules people for not seeing her point of view, softens her hardline view against said thing. rinse repeat zzzzzzzzzzz
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 01, 2017, 03:07:38 AM
How is my stance hard line? :lol

You're just triggered like usual. I've had this opinion on science fetishism for years for example. At least as far back as this Maddox write up.

http://thebestpageintheuniverse.net/c.cgi?u=youre_not_a_nerd

I've felt the usefulness for religion and thought that science and religion don't necessarily contradict each other, also for years. I never understood evangelicals for this exact reason. Although I had a stint when I was kind of anti-theist in my early 20's, I've come to realize the use for religion years and years ago and have respected it in kind. You're saying that it's a recent thing that someone who has been to meditation class at Buddhist temples has a sudden change of heart on valuing religion? :lol You don't know shit Seagrams.

There's lots you don't know about me and there's lots of views I don't tell. I was pretty respectful, at least in the OP, and you've acted like a complete dick the entire thread.

Go jack off to science or whatever.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 01, 2017, 03:26:17 AM
So tell me: what's the hard line?

1. Science is great, but people who fetishize it are dangerous and the people who claim it's all you need to understand the world are sad as fuck. I'm actually quite pro-science. Science is how I'm allowed to transition and not shoot myself in the head, fuccboi. And you don't see me jacking it off. The hard stance in this case is: "I think scientists are lying and they can't be trusted. What about magnets, brehs?" or "Science is the only means for reliably understanding the world."

2. Feminism has done great, wonderful things. But it also has a record of not necessarily being looking out for the interests they advertise. Which to be fair, many groups don't. I've also criticized feminism harshly in the past for its record with women of color. But you won't know that because you're again, a fuccboi.

3. Abstinence is really the only new thing here on the table, and honestly, I'm just sick and fucking tired of giving my body up for some fuck ass to leave me. I'm also sick and tired of participating in a hedonistic culture that expects that I put out and fuck you for saying that I'm taking a "hard line" on this because it's my "new thing".

I have certainly expressed extreme things in the past. I've said things like "fuck white people", but what I framed this thread is hardly extreme. You just disagree with it. You have been nothing but an ass and disrespectful in a thread that was written in a respectful manner.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 01, 2017, 10:45:11 AM
Hard lines, brehs.

https://sites.nd.edu/origins-natures-futures/2017/02/16/giant-microbes-the-fetishism-of-science-and-a-virtuous-habit-of-caution/

You can clearly tell who fetishizes science. It's pretty easy to see. Any criticism towards science worship "culture" means that you are criticizing science itself. You've insulted their religion. It's really easy to tell going by how they respond.

Clearly out of the mind of a young earth creationist:

Quote
It is common on Reddit when in debate, to see Redditors dip into what I like to call the 'scientific style'. When describing women's behaviour, for example, they go into (unfounded) talk about how evolution brought about the outcome. This is, of course, common pseudoscience, but I would propose that they are trying to imitate people who do science in order to add to the 'correctness' of their arguments. They can also be agitated is you propose a contrary theory, as if you do not see the 'logic and reason' of their arguments. Make note of this for the next section.

https://www.reddit.com/r/TheoryOfReddit/comments/xoafm/the_cult_of_reason_on_the_fetishization_of_the/

another young earth creationist:

http://www.centerforinquiry.net/oncampus/blog/entry/for_people_who_love_science/

I forgot the name of that one comic that jacks off science all the time. fucking blows specifically for its science fetishism. You can tell that the author masturbates into a beaker. Much like Seagrams.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 01, 2017, 12:35:57 PM
ah perhaps this will be an interesting thread let me se -

1. Feminism. I support women and women's rights. But feminism is also double edge. For example, instead of women's virginity being placed on a pedastal, now women are expected to put out.

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Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: etiolate on July 01, 2017, 12:36:02 PM
My stance: religion can be bad, science can be bad; religion can be good, science can be good.

I'd say religion can be good for an individual with their place in life, but any sort of wide spread belief is ultimately damaging. Science, on the other hand, is a process that doesn't hide the fact that it is and is a lot more transparent in it's conclusions, while also done to push humanity forward.

Any attempt to conflate the two or merge them is doomed to fail. As all religion can be is an aid for a person's fear of death or the giant universe they're in; it's old laws to make people feel better at best and act horribly at worst. Science, no matter what, is a collection of facts as we know them, not what we want to believe out of them.

I think religion on a large scale actually serves a purpose that is valuable. I have begun to think that functional human society absolutely requires the element of faith and that a healthy religion serves as a backbone to that interpersonal faith required to have society.  The idea is if you can have some little bit of faith in a God, an idea for which there can be no proof or direct access, then the continuous requests for faith in society become easier.

Currency is a form of faith. We can hoard it, but when the state falls its worthless. We believe it represents trade, but the only thing that backs up that trade is the continuous existence of the state. At the same time, its worth in trade continually devalues. A 1920 dollar bought a lot more than a 2017 dollar. Why should we have faith in that dollar bill when it seems to crawl its way to being worth less and less? So we have to have faith in the dollar, faith int he state. Our faith in the state has repeatedly been abused by the state, but we sort of know that we still have that faith in the state in order to function. We have faith in each other even though I imagine many people here have been betrayed over and over, meaning they have plenty of evidence to not trust human beings. However, if we couldn't have a sense of faith that humans can and will improve or that next time they'll do right then we would probably have chaos.

Religion also represents the big idea that there's something out there we can't truly know or the big idea that there's something beyond our current understanding. Science is then the search for those bigger ideas. You said science is a collection of facts, but that's not quite right. It's a collection of what we know so far.  I grew up believing in the Brontosaurus. Science class and kid science books taught me about them. But the Brontosaurus was a mistake. They put it together wrong and called it a different dinosaur. This wasn't even a new discovery. IT was old. The brontosaurus was outdated by the time I learned it. It was popular with kids, so they kept the falsehood around....

....and now there's evidence that there was a Brontosaurus, so opinion is changing. So fact isn't quite the right the term. You could argue that childhood faith in the dinosaur got someone to search it out and bring new knowledge to light.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 01, 2017, 03:33:16 PM
As a group, religions are wonderful.

Religion gives community. In today's society of isolation, it's beautiful to go to mass and have community. It's arguable that America's division today is caused by its increasing secularism. When I was struggling with hating white peoole, I would ask people for advice. The atheists said things like,"it's okay to hate us, it's understandable" as if living in a hate filled existence is ok and helpful. The theists today me to forgive them so I could move on. Guess who was right?

A large amount (majority? Not going to make an ass of myswlf and assume here) of charities in the US are religious based. Most orphanages are religious based. Priests and nuns help the dying. While it's true you can offer help to people outside of religion, it's also true that by pure numbers, religious organizations offer the easiest access to charity. Go to a volunteer group and I bet you at least half are Christian. That says something.

Despite what many atheists say, human beings are in a way hard wired to respond to matters of religion and something more than the material. Religion offers an outlet for this in terms of theological expression.

In World War II, the Catholic Church saved millions of Jews lives. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rescue_of_Jews_by_Catholics_during_the_Holocaust But going by what Wrath said, it offers nothing.

Having a religion also requires hard time examining ones self. In modern individual society, which stresses emphasis on the individual above all else, this is valuable. I have a lot of flaws, many shown on this very page (have a problem with anger) and religion gives me reason to soften them. In today's society of "gotta get mine" we have breeder a society of selfish domination. Community doesn't matter. What matters most of all is me. Religion goes outside of this.

To say that religion offers nothing towards groups is an extreme opinion. But I don't blame wrath as he's in Saudi Arabia which is a theocracy and Islam in particular is a religion of law, not belief. And when your religion is ultimately just a list of rules....well.

Although I agree with the bulk of your post Etiolate, your definition of faith, at least theologically, and I hope this doesn't offend, is kind of simplistic. It renders faith as "all you gotta do is believe". Faith is not something that you just believe in. It's an ongoing relationship. Faith is actually really hard; it isn't easy.

And quite honestly the biggest case for religion is Bill Nye's My Sex Junk.

https://youtu.be/VtJFb_P2j48

If there's anything this video teaches, it's that we need religion.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Mandark on July 01, 2017, 03:42:04 PM
In World War II, the Catholic Church saved millions of Jews lives.
Get the fuck out of here.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 01, 2017, 03:46:22 PM
FOUND IT!

https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2017/04/breaking-faith/517785/?utm_source=atlfb

Essentially, at its core, America's church problem is why things are so divisive. That is the power of religion and why it is needed.

As an aside, I also found a great article I posted months ago which touches upon things I've talked about.

Problem With the March for Science (http://www.slate.com/articles/health_and_science/science/2017/04/the_march_for_science_was_eerily_religious.html)

:yuck :piss science worship :piss2 :yuck

Another good one, although completely off topic.

https://blog.heartsupport.com/lets-stop-pretending-christianity-is-actually-relevant-okay-ade4c00dabcc

Religion is fascinating.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Rufus on July 01, 2017, 03:47:25 PM
The Himu rollercoaster is quite the ride.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 01, 2017, 03:50:13 PM
I'll keep my opinions to myself then. Mupepe is absolutely right in that sharing an opinion on the Internet is distinguished mentally-challenged. I should be more like him. :bow
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 01, 2017, 03:51:22 PM
No amount of "religion is good for community" is ever going to work on me, himu. I understand that you found jesus and it brings you peace and shit, but as a dude who lived most of his life in the worst example of it I see it as meaningless horseshit people peddle because they're that afraid of death and can't handle their own lack of importance to the universe.

That's just me, though.

I hope you'll grow on it and experience the fruit of religion. Have an open mind to it.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 01, 2017, 03:55:02 PM
:)
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 01, 2017, 03:56:05 PM
Why should virginity be placed on a pedestal? You say you're a feminist which presumably means you support equality for women, so why hold women to an antiquated standard of morality that men created for them. A standard that no one applies to men, by the way. If a woman wants to be a virgin until marriage that is her decision. If a woman wants to explore HER sexuality...that is her decision. Neither is morally wrong. Do what the fuck you want.

Brehette you sounding like a conservative who doesn't get laid. Young people aren't getting married because they're fucking broke and have other things to do. How about we fix the economy and healthcare instead of complaining about Tinder.


Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 01, 2017, 04:01:22 PM
Said nothing about placing virginity on a pedastal. I after all am not a virgin.

It's interesting that what you took from my posts is some binary party lines that only exists to divide. No, I am not conservative. Yes, we should fix healthcare, but that isn't an opinion that goes against societal expectations, it's mainstream. And for that reason has no place in this thread. But please go on, keep accusing of me being conservative and trying to fit me into a hole. :)
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: etiolate on July 01, 2017, 04:02:36 PM
I don't think you can even vacate religion from society.

Anytime a nation tries to be atheist or heavily agnostic, something religious-like takes up the empty space.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 01, 2017, 04:05:29 PM
Anytime a nation tries to be atheist or heavily agnostic, something religious-like takes up the empty space.

:rejoice The fruit of Mao

https://www.ft.com/content/a6d2a690-6545-11e4-91b1-00144feabdc0
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 01, 2017, 04:07:31 PM
Said nothing about placing virginity on a pedastal. I after all am not a virgin.

It's interesting that what you took from my posts is some binary party lines that only exists to divide. No, I am not conservative. Yes, we should fix healthcare, but that isn't an opinion that goes against societal expectations, it's mainstream. And for that reason has no place in this thread. But please go on, keep accusing of me being conservative and trying to fit me into a hole. :)

your words:

"For example, instead of women's virginity being placed on a pedastal, now women are expected to put out."

I don't think it's unreasonable for me to take that to mean you hold weird views on womens' bodies and what they should/shouldn't do.

In terms of healthcare I don't mean that's not a mainstream view. I'm saying that people aren't getting married because costs are high/they have more important shit to do. Having a family is too expensive. Having sex is cheaper.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 01, 2017, 04:21:05 PM
You read my words wrong. I'm not saying that because women are expected to put out that the only other recourse is that virginity should be placed on a pedestal. Essentially, back in the day, a man would deny a woman marriage if she weren't a virgin. Wrath has told me in SA, women have anal sex to avoid having vaginal intercourse. These days, it's expected for a woman to put out. If a woman said she's celibate until marriage, she would be dropped like a venomous snake. Feminism, which brags that its ideology has allowed men to get laid before marriage, essentially has lead to a situation where there's still no choice. Before the revolution it was, don't have sex before marriage. Now it's "if you don't have sex before marriage you're not finding a man." I know for a fact most of the men here on this site and elsewhere wouldn't date a woman who said she didn't want to have sex before marriage. Essentially, this isn't a choice and now pressures women who otherwise wouldn't want to have sex, to have sex. Because if you don't have sex, you're considered trash and thrown away.

Ergo, the only conclusion is: there is no choice. Feminism has allowed men to still be the gate keepers of who is worthy. Before it was virgins. Today it is women who aren't virgins. If feminisms goal to allow choice and women's freedom were true, more than one option would be viable.

I don't think you have properly considered the ramifications of being female and wanting to own your sexuality to the point where you want to lose your virginity until marriage (a respectful act) in modern society. You should really meditate on what I've written and stop reflexively pidgeonholing.

:)
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: etiolate on July 01, 2017, 04:27:12 PM
I don't think you can even vacate religion from society.

Anytime a nation tries to be atheist or heavily agnostic, something religious-like takes up the empty space.

I find there's a big difference between a nation operating under religious laws and a religion existing within a nation. I don't mind mosques being around but I hate that everything has to close during prayer times and women have to cover up because some bearded dudes said so centuries ago.

Of course. You have to have healthy religion and contain/oust the unhealthy religion. Keep a Westboro Baptist Church or Wahhabism powerless. Leave the harmless, moderate faiths alone. This is also why people work against SJW stuff because I would categorize it as unhealthy religion seeking state power/influence.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 01, 2017, 04:36:16 PM
Also, PD. For consideration, I've talked to many a woman who have told me and I quote: "I don't want to have sex with him before we marry but I'm afraid he'll leave me." "The second I tell a man I want to wait until marriage, they disappear. I'll never find a man." This is feminisms legacy. An ideology that said that they value women's right to choose. Clearly, there's much work to be done.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Mandark on July 01, 2017, 04:39:57 PM
Again, people had sex before marriage. A LOT. Society was just more punitive to some of the people who did it, which created a layer of secrecy which doesn't really benefit anyone (except I guess adulterers and rapists?).

People have the right to set their own boundaries and expectations, sexual and otherwise, for potential relationships, but I'd be very leery of someone saying they're being "forced" into something because a decision they made shrank their dating pool. There are absolutely people dating without sex and without the expectation of sex, for a variety of reasons that includes premarital celibacy, they're just a minority.

Likewise, someone practicing polyamory is going to have limited options. Or someone whose career involves extensive travelling. Or someone trying to date strictly within a specific ethnicity/religion/subculture.

It sucks and maybe feels unfair, but we can't expect social movements to get us dates.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 01, 2017, 04:41:24 PM
Also, PD. For consideration, I've talked to many a woman who have told me and I quote: "I don't want to have sex with him before we marry but I'm afraid he'll leave me." "The second I tell a man I want to wait until marriage, they disappear. I'll never find a man." This is feminisms legacy. An ideology that said that they value women's right to choose. Clearly, there's much work to be done.

Oh, and the best part in all of this. Feminists like Devo would probably laugh at them for choosing this and think of them as stupid. "I got mine" rears its ugly head again.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Mandark on July 01, 2017, 04:44:34 PM
"Guys, don't put words into my mouths or shoehorn me into your preconceived notions! Please engage honestly with my ideas."

"Also Devo would probably call a virgin woman a prude, then karate chop her in the throat."
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 01, 2017, 04:46:46 PM
Also, PD. For consideration, I've talked to many a woman who have told me and I quote: "I don't want to have sex with him before we marry but I'm afraid he'll leave me." "The second I tell a man I want to wait until marriage, they disappear. I'll never find a man." This is feminisms legacy. An ideology that said that they value women's right to choose. Clearly, there's much work to be done.

Sounds less like feminism's fault and more like men's, to be honest.

It's not just this. It's other things like work. I have a friend who is a stay at home mother. People, especially feminists, laugh at demean her choice. Despite the fact that, again, feminism was all about giving women a choice.

That said, feminism is still a worthy cause. But again, lots of work to be done and certainly not the perfect feminist power bullshit that they like to spout. You even made a great example of this bullshit earlier by saying a woman who wears hijab cannot call herself a feminist. Are you one of the men who is the problem? Probably! Feminism dresses it up as choice, but in reality, the choice truly is the one that goes in feminisms direction. So if you choose to wear hijab, you're not a feminist because you have conflated wearing hijab with an exercise in merely surrendering to man's power.

Your posts taps into the mind set I have talked about regarding feminism.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: etiolate on July 01, 2017, 04:48:59 PM
I think people have a choice on their own sexual activity. Abstinence is taboo, but I don't think its so taboo that women are coerced away from it.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Mandark on July 01, 2017, 04:49:40 PM
My mother was a stay-at-home mom and a feminist.

Some of the first actual feminist stuff I read was a series of blog posts about how domestic labor was undervalued by society.

I'm sure there are some people who identify as feminists who are shitty about that (it's a big group of people), but you're painting a pretty distorted picture right now. Would be nice if you were half as generous in your interpretation of feminists as you are to, say, the Catholic Church's behavior during the Holocaust.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 01, 2017, 04:53:47 PM
We all have our blind spots and I never claimed to be perfect. I'll read up on the subject more later, Mandark.

I may have a distorted view of feminism, but it didn't come about in a vacuum.

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2010/apr/10/white-feminism-black-woman-womanism
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 01, 2017, 05:26:10 PM
Anyways, I'm surprised at some of the responses here. Stuff like "lol himu's new thing".

Have you ever experienced hate? Like, actual hate? I'm not talking about "I hate broccoli" but "every time I see a white person I get nervous and I hate them" kind of hate. How do you go about ridding yourself of that? I don't know. All I know is that I'm a sinner and a bad person.

The transition is natural.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: etiolate on July 01, 2017, 05:35:36 PM
I think you might like Tolstoy's Confessions & Other Religious Writings.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 01, 2017, 05:51:57 PM
Your racism brought you to leaving religion; my racism brought me to joining one.

Nuts.

I know I have a predisposition to extreme opinions so I clearly need something to ground to me. It's good you can do that without a guideline. I can't do it.

The last page shows why I need religion - I'm a giant flaming asshole.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: CatsCatsCats on July 01, 2017, 06:04:51 PM
I really don't want to be that guy, but I'm a sinner and a bad person is the kind of thing I would have said that one week I was Christian after being brain washed at a youth group camp where they cornered me and made me cry because I didn't believe in Jesus
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 01, 2017, 06:06:05 PM
No one really brain washed me. I came to the conclusion myself before stepping in a church.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 01, 2017, 06:25:03 PM
Etiolate, that Tolstoy sounds amazing and really relatable.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/cr/B003TU1OHG/ref=mw_dp_cr

Is it a tribute to Augustine's Confessions?
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: etiolate on July 01, 2017, 06:44:49 PM
I don't remember if he references Augustine. It's a collection of works and essays. The Confession is itself a literary style that he's using.

It's been awhile since I read it, so I don't remember every subject in there but he goes over a lot of things and lays out his philosophy. The work was influential on Ghandi and MLK.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 01, 2017, 07:05:11 PM
People had a lot of sex outside of marriage "back in the day" too.

I think it's corny to restrict your sexual growth as a person based on religious texts, but then again my views on Abrahamic religions are well known. If you're doing it for personal reasons though more power to you.

Bringing up white feminism to defend yourself seems like goal post moving, when black feminists are just as sexually free. I have problems with "white feminism" as well, but that was not the focus of your post.

Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Valkyrie on July 01, 2017, 07:08:20 PM
As a born and raised Christian in a country of like 90% Christians, I kinda wanna say a few things, but this thread seems so toxic. Maybe I'll check back later. :doge
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 01, 2017, 07:14:19 PM
People had a lot of sex outside of marriage "back in the day" too.

I think it's corny to restrict your sexual growth as a person based on religious texts, but then again my views on Abrahamic religions are well known. If you're doing it for personal reasons though more power to you.

Bringing up white feminism to defend yourself seems like goal post moving, when black feminists are just as sexually free. I have problems with "white feminism" as well, but that was not the focus of your post.

I did say feminism and not womanism. I didn't say black feminists at all. And yes, black feminists are sexually free as well. Either way, I think it's the right thing. I do think it's important for women to be able to choose. So you could still call me a feminist if you want to and I have no problem if other women want to have sex before marriage because that is their perogative. You may find it corny, but you ended up with erectioe dysfunction due to over use of porn, no? Maybe I'm just tired of the loss of intimacy because of our hedonistic society? I've said that's how I feel on it multiple times.

And I'm not naive enough to think people didn't have lots of sex outside of marriage before the sexual revolution. But it clearly mostly benefited men more than it did women. And today, it's the opposite. Sex before marriage is the norm and it still clearly benefits men more.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: etiolate on July 01, 2017, 07:24:08 PM
As a born and raised Christian in a country of like 90% Christians, I kinda wanna say a few things, but this thread seems so toxic. Maybe I'll check back later. :doge

Speak yo mind!

If you get heat, trust me I have statements that will trigger everyone and draw all the attention.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 01, 2017, 07:29:06 PM
As a born and raised Christian in a country of like 90% Christians, I kinda wanna say a few things, but this thread seems so toxic. Maybe I'll check back later. :doge

:beli
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Huff on July 01, 2017, 07:39:20 PM
I, a catholic, personally saved the life of my jewish best friend while we were blackout stumbling back from bars. He tried to fall into the street and I pulled him back from traffic

Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Huff on July 01, 2017, 07:40:00 PM
Or maybe I tried to push him into the street? Its a pretty fuzzy memory
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Madrun Badrun on July 01, 2017, 07:52:51 PM
Either way I bet you felt guilty and he needed therapy. 
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: nudemacusers on July 01, 2017, 09:21:58 PM
Cargo shorts should be illegal
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: tiesto on July 01, 2017, 10:28:29 PM
Liking bigger women seems to be that way, I've received a lot of flack for it in the past.  :-\
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Madrun Badrun on July 01, 2017, 11:44:55 PM
Liking bigger women seems to be that way, I've received a lot of flack for it in the past.  :-\

is this a reply to the post above yours?  Cause that forbidden love should be like cargo pants.

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Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: TVC15 on July 02, 2017, 12:05:28 AM
Cargo shorts should be illegal

It’s not really sex if it doesn’t involve a tarp.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: nudemacusers on July 02, 2017, 12:26:23 AM
That's why I keep a patent leather tarp under my bed
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: benjipwns on July 02, 2017, 01:29:02 AM
Have you ever experienced hate? Like, actual hate? I'm not talking about "I hate broccoli" but "every time I see a white person I get nervous and I hate them" kind of hate. How do you go about ridding yourself of that? I don't know.
Maybe this is why I'm so ignorant about everything but I can't for the life of me remember ever doing this. It sounds like putting in a lot of constantly exhausting effort to accomplish nothing.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Mandark on July 02, 2017, 02:12:13 AM
People generally don't feel strong emotions, especially upsetting ones, because they're making an effort, so yeah.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: benjipwns on July 02, 2017, 02:29:26 AM
Like I noted it's probably a function of my gross worldly ignorance. But for me, maintaining an active and directed hate (or anger) would be something I would have to actively switch on and perpetually intentionally feed, not at all like other strong emotions, even highly upsetting ones, which require no effort or decision making regarding targets to maintain.

I could see hating someone specifically, but at least even that I'd find difficult to maintain at a level I'd consider "hate" without being proactive about keeping the level up.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: seagrams hotsauce on July 02, 2017, 02:31:52 AM

Go jack off to science or whatever.

I think I'll go fuck someone I'm not married to instead, thanks
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 02, 2017, 02:40:50 AM
Have you ever experienced hate? Like, actual hate? I'm not talking about "I hate broccoli" but "every time I see a white person I get nervous and I hate them" kind of hate. How do you go about ridding yourself of that? I don't know.
Maybe this is why I'm so ignorant about everything but I can't for the life of me remember ever doing this. It sounds like putting in a lot of constantly exhausting effort to accomplish nothing.

It isn't something you expect and it's most certainly something you don't want. You feel it anyways.


Go jack off to science or whatever.

I think I'll go fuck someone I'm not married to instead, thanks

Enjoy the pregnancy scares, sti scares, emotional attachment with the possibility of relationship ending;etc. Whatever, I don't like you, you don't like me. It's settled.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: seagrams hotsauce on July 02, 2017, 02:42:47 AM
I like you just fine. Sorry for being a jerk.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: benjipwns on July 02, 2017, 02:44:02 AM
Scientists will sometimes do things for the research regardless of the harm. The creation of the atom bomb is a great example.
I think the people who made the atom bomb were pretty intent on creating something with hopefully highly destructive potential what with it being a bomb and all.

Others seemed to use the splitting of the atom in far less intentionally destructive ways. (Except to those atoms of course.)
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 02, 2017, 02:47:02 AM
I like you just fine. Sorry for being a jerk.

Sorry for being a bitch. Again, I'm a bad person. So I honestly don't blame you.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Mandark on July 02, 2017, 02:51:01 AM
The idea of someone being a good or bad person is mostly dumb.

(This serves as both a response to Himu's last post and the OT.)
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: benjipwns on July 02, 2017, 03:00:00 AM
the jews were the world's greatest evil, so in a way I was taught that as fact. I wasn't outwardly hateful and it was more views I held due to how casual the hatred was for the most part. But me giving up on it is mostly tied to growing up and realizing you're not always taught facts here, and it persisting was mostly what I've been told about Israel and propaganda relating to that.
oh no, (((they))) got to you
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: seagrams hotsauce on July 02, 2017, 03:02:50 AM
I like you just fine. Sorry for being a jerk.

Sorry for being a bitch. Again, I'm a bad person. So I honestly don't blame you.

You're really not. I just find a lot of what you're saying very frustrating. My brother is born again and that has lead to some difficult experiences in my family recently, so I have a hard time discussing the topic with aplomb
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: benjipwns on July 02, 2017, 03:15:09 AM
I may have also been making the mistake of thinking about hate as an active emotion vs. passive bigotry. The mention of comedy thing made me think about this because it made me recall like say people telling a racist joke, their bigotry may not raise to a level I'd consider "hate" and simply be a sort of "they're the out group" situation and I suppose that's how some people justify "the good ones" or whatever. Or heck, all the Amir0x jokes we've been piling up the last few days but I wouldn't inherently say I hate child porn possessors as a group necessarily. (Or even Amir0x, let alone fellow permanently banned member Dennis.)

I may also be entirely too forgiving of people either individually or collectively in this regard. I could probably rack up a list of other emotions or views (like sad maybe, I'm not sad, but the whole affair being sad), but maybe I'm just too hesitant of a dope to go for that active hate/anger route. I can't even be negative about someone going that route!

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Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: TVC15 on July 02, 2017, 03:18:53 AM
I’m only here for the Amir0x jokes. I’m gone again once he’s in prison getting spit-roasted by Aryan Nations members. That's probably true for most of the increased traffic here.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 02, 2017, 03:20:53 AM
I like you just fine. Sorry for being a jerk.

Sorry for being a bitch. Again, I'm a bad person. So I honestly don't blame you.

You're really not. I just find a lot of what you're saying very frustrating. My brother is born again and that has lead to some difficult experiences in my family recently, so I have a hard time discussing the topic with aplomb

I'm not born again, though. I can't stand Evangelicalism and to a larger extent, Protestanism in general, due to my experiences with the religion growing up. It tainted my view of Christianity for so long that I honestly don't blame you.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: seagrams hotsauce on July 02, 2017, 03:37:24 AM
I didn't mean to imply you were, just offering why i get aggy when topics like abstinence and sex before marriage etc  come up
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 02, 2017, 08:31:59 AM
I didn't mean to imply you were, just offering why i get aggy when topics like abstinence and sex before marriage etc  come up

For me personally it doesn't come down to "marriage is soemthing between MAN AND WOMAN!!!" but the fact that I just don't like participating in a culture that forces me to have sex even I don't want to. I also find it quite romantic. To be able to save each other until your wedding day is really beautiful I think. I think that if a couple truly believes in it, and works toward it, then it's fine. Also, I mean, does a man really like me if he can't get his stick happy within weeks of dating me? I might be open to sex if we get to know each other after a long time before marriage. Shit happens. But the "have sex on third date" thing is kind of gross/weird to me in how I have to trust this practical stranger physically and emotionally.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 02, 2017, 06:08:31 PM
That...definitely ruffled my feathers. I haven't been able to watch wrestling ever since Daniel Bryan retired from too many concussions. They put their all into entertaining us, sacrifice their bodies, their livelihoods, their families. Owen Hart died doing that stunt work. I respect it a lot and I can't watch them suffer. Watching the stuff like Jeff Hardy or Edge do backflips off ladders just...it really bothers me. I can't watch "hardcore" wrestling anymore either. It really bothers me and I've become more sensitive towards it as I age. Like,"am I contributing to these people's pain?" even if I recognize that it's their job and they signed up for it. But they have no Union. Punk almost died because of malpractice. I love wrestling with all my heart: the in-ring storytelling, the make believe, the childlike feeling of forgetting that it's scripted and going along with it to the point where it feels real... I love all of that. But I don't know anymore.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: etiolate on July 02, 2017, 06:37:29 PM
I am wearing cargo shorts.  :-*
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: tiesto on July 02, 2017, 07:10:47 PM
I'm not a fan of babies (or little kids). Don't find them cute or charming, and probably won't have kids unless any potential marriage partner really wants them. I'm not a fan of seeing baby pics on FB and quickly scroll past them. Most of my friends and peers are at the age where they're having babies too.

I'm gonna be an uncle later this year too, so I'm at an extra large loss of what to do.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Madrun Badrun on July 02, 2017, 08:02:52 PM
Here's one that might ruffle some feathers:

I don't see why anyone is shocked that football, boxing, mma, prowrestling, etc. can cause concussions and isn't very healthy. I think there really shouldn't be any attempt to try to make it healthy, all it does is weaken some of the entertainment value to delay the inevitable issues. It should be common sense at this point that if you want to be a part of it it's a massive risk on your health and you probably won't live for too long.

ProWrestling is a weird one considering it's essentially voluntary masochism in the form of a violent ballet. It's a stuntman circus sometimes. Sure, it sucks that a lot of the stars die at a young age and shit, but that's part of the program.

I'd honestly be OK with bringing back gladiatorial sports. 
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: brawndolicious on July 02, 2017, 08:32:15 PM
I'm just making an assumption here but it sounds like you've never worked with people in science-based fields which may explain the reason you feel the need to jump to religion. Because at a very shallow level, people treat it like the opposite of science. Gonna come back to this...

But first, I have to bring up that the way you bring up Facebook groups and Bill Nye, it's fucking disgusting. There are scientists in this world who spend their entire lives actually doing research and trying to make the world a better place. They don't do that on Facebook or on TV. If I said Bruce Jenner is a fraud and deceptive, two horrible stereotypes that people attribute to transpeople, and I just politely asked you to respond, I wonder HOW THE FUCK WOULD YOU FEEL? Is that a springboard for constructive, healthy conversation to use bad examples of a group to debate how worthwhile transpeople are in society?

Back on the topic of religion, I myself have a dozen relatives or family friends who are fucking physicists and still deeply religious. That's why I never got the people who think science is an ideology. Religion is something you have to justify like any other belief system. Science is something that's just true and you fit your religious beliefs on Adam & Eve or creation of the universe around whatever known facts there are.


Oh and as an antisocial opinion of mine, I fucking hate anybody who complains "politely" in public. So passive-aggressive. If you're gonna be mad don't be a pussy.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 02, 2017, 09:02:24 PM
I'm just making an assumption here but it sounds like you've never worked with people in science-based fields which may explain the reason you feel the need to jump to religion. Because at a very shallow level, people treat it like the opposite of science. Gonna come back to this...

But first, I have to bring up that the way you bring up Facebook groups and Bill Nye, it's fucking disgusting. There are scientists in this world who spend their entire lives actually doing research and trying to make the world a better place. They don't do that on Facebook or on TV. If I said Bruce Jenner is a fraud and deceptive, two horrible stereotypes that people attribute to transpeople, and I just politely asked you to respond, I wonder HOW THE FUCK WOULD YOU FEEL? Is that a springboard for constructive, healthy conversation to use bad examples of a group to debate how worthwhile transpeople are in society?

Back on the topic of religion, I myself have a dozen relatives or family friends who are fucking physicists and still deeply religious. That's why I never got the people who think science is an ideology. Religion is something you have to justify like any other belief system. Science is something that's just true and you fit your religious beliefs on Adam & Eve or creation of the universe around whatever known facts there are.


Oh and as an antisocial opinion of mine, I fucking hate anybody who complains "politely" in public. So passive-aggressive. If you're gonna be mad don't be a pussy.

Again. I have nothing against science or scientists. I am quite pro-science. You are assuming that I am religious because it's the opposite of science when I have said repeatedly that it's not the case. In fact, I humbly and personally believe that modern science makes belief even easier.

If you had bothered to read my posts you would realize that my problem isn't with scientists but how people people who aren't scientists (ordinary people) treat science. They place it on a pedastal and treat it as gospel even if they lack base understanding of the material. If they read something on the Internet about a basic test about the prognosis of curing ____ they say that science has cured ____. Racists use science to curate "facts": they take conclusions in lieu of the data to conclusions like "black people murder at a higher rate than the rest of the population, I have stats on my side" or "science says all white people are racist, I knew those cacs couldn't be trusted!" People use science to justify their beliefs all the time even if those belief goes against science and is completely irrational. Modern average non-science people treat science like a new magic. I don't have to understand the process, I just place faith in science. This breeds online (and offline) what is seen almost as a cult of personality, where science is seen as objective truth always and forever. And if it's not true, then that's okay, because science is always improving, and thus perfect.

This taps into what I wrote and posted about Bill Nye. Nye isn't even a scientist. He's an engineer. Yet he uses science as a platform to spread oft ignorant views on things he's ignorant about outside of his domain (which isn't even science, as he's not a scientist). He's deified as a cult figure even despite his lack of science creditials. While he does so to spread information on very important topics like climate change, he also talks about important things like philosophy and reduces important fields to being "rational" when they're anything but. But he gets a pass, despite not being a scientist, because of cult of personality. Cult of which personality exactly? The cult of pop science.

You have not considered a word I've said and instead injected overly emotional platitudes and assumed that I turn to religion in order to reject science, which is biased almost as much as it is uninformed. Continue to assume all religious people are fundamentalists. Keep doing it and make an ass of yourself.

I highly suggest taking a step back and reading the links I provided.

Science is great. It's very important but science illiteracy among the public is dangerous. So tomorrow during your work day I highly suggest talking to your colleagues about how science is perceived by the general populace and whether or not people have a tendency to treat anything science to confirm their already biased views. Again, not talking about scientists, but every day people. Ask them about what they think about sites like I Fucking Love Science, pop science in general, and the online obsession with Neil DeGrasse Tyson, Richard Dawkins, and  Carl Sagan. I'd be interested in reading the answers.

You are really sounding unnecessarily butt hurt. Real talk.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 02, 2017, 09:23:56 PM
Frankly, your response is kind of what I'm talking about. Any criticism aimed at science is presumed to be an anti-science position. It truly highlights the culture surrounding science fetishism - particularly among liberals - all by itself. I barely criticized science or scientists, and what I did say merely addressed that they were human and prone to error - which any scientist would agree with. However, the bulk of my science posts in this thread were aimed at treating science almost as a faith or a cult, which diminishes and insults actual science. But you didn't get that. You assumed I was criticizing actual science, much like Raist and Seagrams.

Frankly, you prove me right.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: brawndolicious on July 02, 2017, 09:50:53 PM
Yes I get that you're saying there are people who believe science proves something without knowing yet what the empirical evidence is. But in real life, the only people who NEED to make large assumptions that they can't back up are economists (not a science) and high schoolers (old enough to be angry but not smart enough to understand anything).

Everybody else seems to be able to understand how basic things work if they are open minded about it. How a greenhouse gas causes climate change or how blood sugar burns out insulin receptor are things a person with no college education could understand the basics of in 5 minutes or less.

But your argument that there is a large, society wide battle between science and religion, that's just a victim complex. I've seen it in very religious people who are intimidated by science. And I've seen very religious scientists who just come up with weird, complex arguments that resolve everything like the finale of Lost.

The reality is, there's no threat of using science to disprove religion as that's all based on supernatural shit anyways. On the other hand some people would love for scientists to get a bad reputation when they show that oil companies are ruining the environment or that lead isn't so good for your kids. That's why I'm saying the whole science-warriors vs religion-warriors shit is shallow, most adults don't debate at that level.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on July 02, 2017, 10:02:22 PM
Here's one that might ruffle some feathers:

I don't see why anyone is shocked that football, boxing, mma, prowrestling, etc. can cause concussions and isn't very healthy. I think there really shouldn't be any attempt to try to make it healthy, all it does is weaken some of the entertainment value to delay the inevitable issues. It should be common sense at this point that if you want to be a part of it it's a massive risk on your health and you probably won't live for too long.

ProWrestling is a weird one considering it's essentially voluntary masochism in the form of a violent ballet. It's a stuntman circus sometimes. Sure, it sucks that a lot of the stars die at a young age and shit, but that's part of the program.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FbVVT3KOLAI

Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 02, 2017, 10:05:32 PM
One of my favorite examples of the modern science fetishism is the health food craze and food industry in general.

People trust with their lives that because some article they read about scientists saying ____ diet is the healthiest that it's perfect and you'll live forever.

"Soda is bad for you and I read you should drink smoothies instead so I'm going to drink this 60g of sugar smoothie."

Ah, humanity. Ever irrational; completely flawed. :lol Where "science" (note: not actual science) has become nothing more than astrology to help you lose those final five pounds. But don't consume olive oil, I heard it gives you cancer! I read it on HuffPo Science.

Of course, once you're aware of it that doesn't stop you from doing the same shit. :lol
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Joe Molotov on July 02, 2017, 10:11:08 PM
I doubt most "one weird trick to lose belly fat and cure cancer" articles are actually based on very good science.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 02, 2017, 10:15:44 PM
Often, they take studies and come to conclusions the studies don't even posit. Or they'll say ____ study says you can cure cancer and grow a 10 inch penis!  Except the study was conducted on animals.

Ah yes, another fucking hilarious example of "science" as sponsored by the US government: the food pyramid! :lol Where 50% of your daily value should be spent chugging milk and bread. Another example of how "science" can be bought. But sssshhhhhh, don't bring that up, you filthy young earth creationist.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Valkyrie on July 02, 2017, 10:19:08 PM
As a born and raised Christian in a country of like 90% Christians, I kinda wanna say a few things, but this thread seems so toxic. Maybe I'll check back later. :doge

We don't really hate christians, or at least I don't. All we're doing here is debating topics. I feel we can do that without calling someone an asshole.

I don't think Himu is an asshole, I just don't agree with her on some matters. And I have my own bias against religions(mostly islam) because of my own experiences with it. It is what it is.
I just wanted to say that despite growing up a Christian and going through the typical Christian traditions like being baptized as a baby, confirmation, and such, we were never told by anyone to not have sex before marriage, probably because it isn't mentioned in the bible (I think). Religion can be so drastically different. Even the same religion in different countries or areas. It's not really a "lifestyle" in the sense of Buddism in Thailand to compare, but it is a small part of growing up. Although it's not really a common thing to visit church other than for events (like the ones I mentioned + sometimes Christmas etc). Actually I went to Sunday school in church as a child where we learned about Jesus through drawing, reading and singing (even that isn't common for kids there). Yet we never once were told to not have sex before marriage. We knew it was a "thing" but no one ever tried to enforce us about it, really. Honestly it was more of a thing we associated with other cultures. I think what I've seen on TV and such about Christianity in the US is far more "insane" and "more heavy/extreme" than where I was born (Norway). Not sure how else to put it, because I never talk about religion so my way of thinking isn't as easy to type out if that makes sense. It puts my English to test. lol

Also Christianity in Norway is a bit weird. Most do the normal traditions, yet if you ask them, they sometimes say they're not Christians because they don't really believe in God. And I'm the same, I guess, at least halfway. Was born and raised one but I don't know if I consider myself one by other countries' standards.

Anyway, I do believe it's practiced WAY different depending on where you are, and also the church. I could never relate to people who claim to be Christians that yell shit like "Being gay is a sin", and "Abortion is murder". I think most from my country are raised through Christian traditions but most wouldn't really call themselves an "active" Christian (I hope that's not a term that means something completely different than what I mean here). If people ask what religion I am I will say Christian, but at the same time I'm a huge sinner. :lol :-*

tl;dr: Grew up in a 90% Christian country where no one ever cares about the "no sex before marriage" thing, since it isnt enforced or made into a big deal. Good on people who wanna wait though, it's very cute and I respect it (as long as they acknowledge that those who don't wanna wait don't wanna be called bad people). But anyway waiting is not for me and my human needs.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 02, 2017, 10:28:40 PM
I was raised Christian too. In my denomination (extremely liberal) in my state region, we had what we call it,"sex camp". Well not officially. But it's what we teens called it. It was actually called Eighters camp and it was a summer camp for those who were entering high school. A time full of hormones and temptation we were given sex education we wouldn't get in an average Texan high school. They never had an abstinence only teaching. The camp director in fact told us how she lost her virginity at 16 and said it wasn't awful or inherently sinful. They advised us not to have sex, but that if we did, to use protection. On the final day of camp they took out a cucumber and taught us how to put it on safely. Yep, I was taught safe sex at Christian camp. We were even given condoms.

I hindsight, theologically I disagree with it. Not the birth control thing, which is really responsible, but teaching kids that it's okay to have sex. I'm just glad they did so responsibly.

Anyways, I'm not sure what denomination you are, Valkyrie but fornication is definitely in the bible. Check Corinthians. That said, it's good to use your own judgement and common sense. The Bible isn't everything. It's okay to have sex before marriage, so long as it's what you really want and you don't feel forced into it, and you also know how to do it safely.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 02, 2017, 11:16:14 PM
Yes I get that you're saying there are people who believe science proves something without knowing yet what the empirical evidence is. But in real life, the only people who NEED to make large assumptions that they can't back up are economists (not a science) and high schoolers (old enough to be angry but not smart enough to understand anything).

Everybody else seems to be able to understand how basic things work if they are open minded about it. How a greenhouse gas causes climate change or how blood sugar burns out insulin receptor are things a person with no college education could understand the basics of in 5 minutes or less.

But your argument that there is a large, society wide battle between science and religion, that's just a victim complex. I've seen it in very religious people who are intimidated by science. And I've seen very religious scientists who just come up with weird, complex arguments that resolve everything like the finale of Lost.

The reality is, there's no threat of using science to disprove religion as that's all based on supernatural shit anyways. On the other hand some people would love for scientists to get a bad reputation when they show that oil companies are ruining the environment or that lead isn't so good for your kids. That's why I'm saying the whole science-warriors vs religion-warriors shit is shallow, most adults don't debate at that level.

Um. I dislike the religion vs science thing, and use science to help my belief. I think you should read back. For one thing, I'm not the person who brought up religion. Wrath originally did. Raist continued it. In fact, I acknowledged that a lot of people participate in some culture war of religion vs science no matter the side, and it's not one I participate in. You are again, assuming that I am separating religion from science when I find them perfectly compatible. My Church has a storied history with science. Why would I deny or reject science or think it incompatible with my religion when that's partially what drew me to it in the first place?

In fact, I'm pretty positive I wrote this.

My stance: religion can be bad, science can be bad; religion can be good, science can be good.

To me, anything else is a symptom of stanning for a team in a shitty ass culture war. Considering that almost half of scientists are believers, the case is made that any attempt to cast religion as "holding us back" through the lens that science is all we need through its observance of the material, as something that doesn't really exist in the real world.

To be fair, creationists and anti-science rhetoric brought forth by silly religious people created this mess. They were overly defensive towards things that actually help belief even easier (through science), cast laws teaching crony creationism and the Bible. This fuels creating atheists.

But the response is that you don't need religion. And if you're religious you're clearly evolution denying dumbass. So they make assumptions about your person and joke you're going to vote republican. Which funnily, fuels more theists because atheistic science nerds have sold us a hollow ideology based off of shitty Cosmos quotes.

Both are extremes and both don't reflect the actual world. They're symptoms of a crappy culture war and nothing more.

I don't support this culture war and I don't participate in it. At the same time, that doesn't mean I can't criticize science worship in the general population.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 03, 2017, 02:17:34 AM
Religion can have a positive effect on some people that need guidance or reassurance, that is nice.

 Ultimately though I consider it a crutch and pointless.

Obviously science has its limitations so I cant exlcude there being "something" but I sleep easy knowing for sure the answers are not in the bible or whatever.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: ToxicAdam on July 03, 2017, 03:32:07 PM
I think men and women are hardwired to only stay together for 5-10 years. After that, it just becomes a battle of attrition until something breaks.

Also, we love groups and we love ritual. Religion fills that need for less imaginative people who can't sate it in other ways.

 
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 03, 2017, 04:30:38 PM
I think it is natural for humans to seek God. And I quote Pascal:

"What else does this craving, and this helplessness, proclaim but that there was once in man a true happiness, of which all that now remains is the empty print and trace? This he tries in vain to fill with everything around him, seeking in things that are not there the help he cannot find in those that are, though none can help, since this infinite abyss can be filled only with an infinite and immutable object; in other words by God himself."

Humanity tries to fill our life with any sort of thing, whether it be material (money, belongings, entertainment;etc) or immaterial (power, fame, sex, violence;etc). We can fill it with these things for a short amount of time. Money is helpful for instance in paying bills, but there's a point where it stops making you happy. The rich and powerful aren't content. Eventually, it comes to a point where we continue to need to fill it again. So we get more of what helped before. But it never satiates and we always crave more. The only thing that fills it is God.

I firmly believe humans have a predisposition to seek faith and God. Even atheists seek it, because they want to know if they're wrong. Even the most anti theistic at least ponders it, considers, tries it. A common atheistic tangent is that we are born atheists, but it conveniently ignores the human desire to seek the eternal truth. And that truth is God.

I think religion is the best manifestation available for helping people seek this truth. I think all of the major religions have their own very correct interpretations of this truth. I find spiritual but religious to be a convenient cop out that lacks teeth and more importantly, conviction.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 03, 2017, 04:42:29 PM
There is more peace knowing there is no god then in following some crazy writings from 2000 years ago

I live my life in perfect peace knowing this is all there is and when I die I will be cosmic dust again

if you're scared go to church
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Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 03, 2017, 04:43:09 PM
And yet through the attempt of making sense of things, they all come to remarkably similar conclusions, just with different language. It's interesting noting the similarities between Taoism, and the essential theology of Christianity for example. All major religions find the ego a hindrance and yet cultivate different means for taming it. It's really fascinating and I don't think humans came to these similar conclusions by mere chance.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 03, 2017, 04:44:28 PM
There is more peace knowing there is no god then in following some crazy writings from 2000 years ago

I live my life in perfect peace knowing this is all there is and when I die I will be cosmic dust again

The writings are kind of besides the point. The writings were not canonized until 300~ AD. What matters most is God and God is love.  :preach
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 03, 2017, 04:48:51 PM
I think it speaks volumes that all these religions where penned when science was dank

Would there really be place for a jesus or mohammed fairy tale in a world where man has split the atom and traveled into the stars?
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 03, 2017, 04:50:53 PM
And yet through the attempt of making sense of things, they all come to remarkably similar conclusions, just with different language. It's interesting noting the similarities between Taoism, and the essential theology of Christianity for example. All major religions find the ego a hindrance and yet cultivate different means for taming it. It's really fascinating and I don't think humans came to these similar conclusions by mere chance.

Or the fact that religions tend to plagiarize each other, especially abrahamic religions.

Muhammad for instance is essentially that fat dude writing about Captain Kirk and Spock making out.

Of the Abrahamic religions only one I could think that is probably plagiarism is Islam.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 03, 2017, 04:57:28 PM
or any christian holiday basicaly usurping some ancient pagan one
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 03, 2017, 04:59:51 PM
I think it speaks volumes that all these religions where penned when science was dank

Would there really be place for a jesus or mohammed fairy tale in a world where man has split the atom and traveled into the stars?

Yes, absolutely! Man is limited and science is even more limited. Science doesn't tell us objective truth about the immaterial or even morals. It says nothing of philosophy or any remotely any kind of creed. It's a manner of testing and observation reality and the top of its own thing but nothing that exists beyond that.

The fact that atoms and dna exist shows the infinite complexity required to make life. The human dna has 3 billion letters, and it would take 50 years to type it. Science makes this claim. Only a designer could make something so complex. Modern science makes religion even more beautiful and fascinating. If the Big Bang were were off by just a little bit we wouldn't be here. And we are. Life is nothing short of a miracle itself. :preach
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 03, 2017, 05:00:30 PM
also im pretty sure the bible says to kill gays, dont you need to jump through some cray mental gymnastics to be able to worship a god that wants you dead?

I mean no offense but i dont get it. Why even bother trying to be a part of that nonsense.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 03, 2017, 05:01:29 PM
I’m only here for the Amir0x jokes. I’m gone again once he’s in prison getting spit-roasted by Aryan Nations members.
This is definitely sex before marriage that isn't good.

Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 03, 2017, 05:04:44 PM
also im pretty sure the bible says to kill gays, dont you need to jump through some cray mental gymnastics to be able to worship a god that wants you dead?

I mean no offense but i dont get it. Why even bother trying to be a part of that nonsense.

yeah but thats the old testament

and my church doesnt interpret gods word this way
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 03, 2017, 05:05:48 PM
also im pretty sure the bible says to kill gays, dont you need to jump through some cray mental gymnastics to be able to worship a god that wants you dead?

I mean no offense but i dont get it. Why even bother trying to be a part of that nonsense.

yeah but thats the old testament

and my church doesnt interpret gods word this way

i see so gods word is like a cheap buffet where you can pick and choose what you want
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 03, 2017, 05:07:04 PM
yeah, not like Jesus is a rip off of Mithras or anything

This myth was created on incorrect information. It's really ignorant and amazing it still exists. It's really shows ignorance of the subject and an attempt to find facts without much verification, which is amusing in how this is presumed religious people are.

Good reading material:

https://withalliamgod.wordpress.com/2011/05/28/busting-the-dying-and-rising-gods-myths/
http://skepticproject.com/articles/zeitgeist/part-one/
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: TVC15 on July 03, 2017, 05:19:18 PM
also im pretty sure the bible says to kill gays, dont you need to jump through some cray mental gymnastics to be able to worship a god that wants you dead?

I mean no offense but i dont get it. Why even bother trying to be a part of that nonsense.

yeah but thats the old testament

and my church doesnt interpret gods word this way

It's in Romans, too.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 03, 2017, 05:24:47 PM
The Old Testament was written for the Jews. (Pauline portion of) New Testament was written for Gentiles.

common denominator: gays :piss2

told you Abrahamic religion was wack
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Madrun Badrun on July 03, 2017, 05:25:22 PM
yeah, not like Jesus is a rip off of Mithras or anything

This myth was created on incorrect information. It's really ignorant and amazing it still exists. It's really shows ignorance of the subject and an attempt to find facts without much verification, which is amusing in how this is presumed religious people are.

Good reading material:

https://withalliamgod.wordpress.com/2011/05/28/busting-the-dying-and-rising-gods-myths/
http://skepticproject.com/articles/zeitgeist/part-one/

Fair enough, christianity still plagiarizes the fuck out of judaism though.

Fan fiction will do that
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 03, 2017, 05:44:31 PM
or any christian holiday basicaly usurping some ancient pagan one

This is an over simplification. Many of these holidays that people claim to be "stolen" are the byproducts of pagans converting to Christianity. Christianity molds itself to different beliefs, which forms different takes on Christianity, even within the same denomination - in my case, Catholicism.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: etiolate on July 03, 2017, 06:21:08 PM
I don't see the point in arguing over adapting celebrations to standardized celebrations.  Annual festivals are pervasive. The Soviets struggled to wipe out the religious holidays despite several bizarre campaigns against them.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 03, 2017, 06:24:43 PM
also im pretty sure the bible says to kill gays, dont you need to jump through some cray mental gymnastics to be able to worship a god that wants you dead?

I mean no offense but i dont get it. Why even bother trying to be a part of that nonsense.

First off, I'm transgender. Not gay. Secondly, as you later joked, the Old Testament was meant for Jews. Judaism is a religion of law. There are hundreds of laws within the Jewish tradition. What you are trying to articulate is Mosaic Law. It is very much true that Jews were homophobic. However, as I am a Gentile and not Jew, Mosaic Law does not impact me. Christianity isn't a religion of law; it is a religion of belief and works. In the New Testament, which - PD is wrong about ("NT was written for the Gentiles") - Paul's letter to the Romans definitely mentions homosexuality, but I think you should also consider the context of it. Romans, as we know, participated in horrific hedonism. It isn't clear if what Paul talks about is the homosexuality you'd see on Rome or actual monogamous relationships between gay couples. Another thing to consider is that unless you're reading a Greek Bible the Bible you're reading has been translated. The word "homosexual" did not exist until the 19th century, far beyond Paul's letter. In fact, Paul used a word he made up, which could very well be interpreted as fornication.

Continuing, the Bible says nothing of being trans. You could point to Leviticus (or was it Deutronomy?) about the cross dressing quote, but I'm not cross dressing. And again, I'm not Jew. Nothing in the NT says a thing about trans people and the only hint that does (eunuchs) gives trans people thumbs up.

This is before mentioning the fact even if they are considered sin, God loves me anyways. Jesus met face to face with an adulteress and treated her with kindness and respect, not judgement. Jesus meets a tax collector who goes to the temple and pleads himself as a sinner. Jesus doesn't say,"hate the sin, love the sinner" he witnessed a person aware of their flaws. He doesn't say "stop your livelihood at once." He doesn't even judge. He appreciated a man full of grace in all of his humility and reference towards his creator.

God made me this way. God knows what's in my heart and that's all that matters. Those people who say that gay, lesbian, bi friends and I are sinful are acting on hate and using scripture as law. They act as if modern day Pharisees, and even if they are right, as Saint Paul said,"Faith without love is dead." I know God loves me, and those who use their religion to rule over me and others for just being as God intended are misguided and we pray that they see the wrong of their ways. Until then, we must have faith things will change, and things have changed.

More interestingly is the acknowledgement that theologically, the biblical use of and posits a language meaning that of "between" or "everything within that". When it says God created Heaven and Earth, it generally means Earth and everything between it and heaven, for example. So when the Bible says God created man and woman, it is acknowledging that God created everything between thst scale and said,"it was good."

God loves me. :preach
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: etiolate on July 03, 2017, 06:43:12 PM
You know nobody ever doubts a gay man is gay in the way they doubt the sexuality of others. A gay dude can comment on how big a girl's boobs are or they can say to their friend "Trish, your ass is great in those pants." Yet as soon as a straight guy says another man has a large, beautiful penis then he's marked as PhoenixDark for life.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Raist on July 03, 2017, 07:18:56 PM
yeah, not like Jesus is a rip off of Mithras or anything

Adam and Eve are a rip off of Enkidu and Shamhat.
Noah is a rip off of Gilgamesh.
Satan is an evil retcon of Baal.
Yawveh was just one of many canaanite gods, and a rip off of Marduk anyway.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 03, 2017, 08:32:38 PM
Sorry for the lack of replies. I'm at work.

The following posts are very troubling as they show the writer as either ignorant of Christian theology and history or merely misinformed.

also im pretty sure the bible says to kill gays, dont you need to jump through some cray mental gymnastics to be able to worship a god that wants you dead?

I mean no offense but i dont get it. Why even bother trying to be a part of that nonsense.

yeah but thats the old testament

and my church doesnt interpret gods word this way

i see so gods word is like a cheap buffet where you can pick and choose what you want

You are actually demonstrating strong ignorance of not only scripture but Christianity as a whole. Mentioning "picking and choosing" regarding Old Law disregards most of your opinions towards the religion because it shows you have no idea of what you are talking about, much less what you're criticizing. The very basis of Christianity is a new covenant. Jesus even gives two simple commandments. The reason Old Law isn't regarded is in, you guessed it, the very book you said people are picking and choosing to believe. In St Paul's Epistles, he writes they haven't had much luck convincing their fellow Jews of the gospel. But they were having plenty of success with Gentiles. And the question came up whether or not Old Law still applied to Gentiles, since as the original Christians were mostly Jews, it was curious whether or not Gentiles should be considered Jews, and thus, be under the new covenant. St Peter, the leader of the Apostles, agreed. This in the very book you just criticized. :)

yeah, not like Jesus is a rip off of Mithras or anything

This myth was created on incorrect information. It's really ignorant and amazing it still exists. It's really shows ignorance of the subject and an attempt to find facts without much verification, which is amusing in how this is presumed religious people are.

Good reading material:

https://withalliamgod.wordpress.com/2011/05/28/busting-the-dying-and-rising-gods-myths/
http://skepticproject.com/articles/zeitgeist/part-one/

Fair enough, christianity still plagiarizes the fuck out of judaism though.

If that's fair then you will find my above dialogue with Lager even more interesting. You are demonstrating even greater ignorance than Lager. The original Christians were Jews. All of the original 12 were Jews. All of the books of the New Testament were written by Jews with the notable exception of Luke, St Paul's disciple, who was a Gentile. Christianity did not "usurp" Judaism. It split from it. The reason the OT is incorporated is because it's a good library of books with lots of poetry and wisdom deemed important by the original Church fathers - who were again, Jews. Jesus himself was a Jew and valued Judaism. He routinely quoted stories from Judaism, spoke in the language of the prophets through the tone of Psalms. Given that Jesus is a Jew and the original Christians were Jews, why would they discard their entire heritage. Before Christianity was, well, Christianity, Jews such as the future Saint, Saul, outright persecuted Christians as blasphemers to prevent the further growth of the religion for the Roman Empire. Please inform yourself. Using this argumentation against any informed Christian will make you scoffed at and (deservedly) made fun of. You can start here: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jewish_Christian

It isn't surprising that you reject Christianity because the one you reject is something that doesn't even exist. But more than that, your argument is really embarassing and I hope you're not serious. It just looks like you read atheist "factoids" rather than actually study for yourself.

The Old Testament was written for the Jews. (Pauline portion of) New Testament was written for Gentiles.

common denominator: gays :piss2

told you Abrahamic religion was wack

The Epistles weren't written for the Gentiles outright. It just happened that many of their converts in the cities Paul wrote to were Gentiles. They were mostly written in the purpose of managing Church affairs, not specifically for Gentiles, especially since many of the original Christians were Jews.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 03, 2017, 08:39:21 PM
I'd say to read early Christian history but that's how you become a Catholic or Orthodox, so...:lol

But it's worth posting anyways if it'll make people more informed of what they're saying.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Early_Christianity
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on July 03, 2017, 09:24:35 PM
Over a decade ago I made a thread asserting that Phil Collins and Genesis were better than Michael Jackson: http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?t=113310

I still stand by my assertion
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 03, 2017, 09:45:07 PM
yeah, not like Jesus is a rip off of Mithras or anything

Adam and Eve are a rip off of Enkidu and Shamhat.
Noah is a rip off of Gilgamesh.
Satan is an evil retcon of Baal.
Yawveh was just one of many canaanite gods, and a rip off of Marduk anyway.

Can you provide evidence for these claims? :)
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Olivia Wilde Homo on July 04, 2017, 11:32:44 AM
Over a decade ago I made a thread asserting that Phil Collins and Genesis were better than Michael Jackson: http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?t=113310

I still stand by my assertion

You're Wrath? I thought Kaffir was Wrath.

I gave my account to him when I was tired of NeoGAF
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Raist on July 04, 2017, 12:51:39 PM
yeah, not like Jesus is a rip off of Mithras or anything

Adam and Eve are a rip off of Enkidu and Shamhat.
Noah is a rip off of Gilgamesh.
Satan is an evil retcon of Baal.
Yawveh was just one of many canaanite gods, and a rip off of Marduk anyway.

Can you provide evidence for these claims? :)

I'm not sure what "evidence" means in the context of mythologies but... there's been a ton of stuff written about comparative studies of religions.

Enkidu, for instance, from the Epic of Gilgamesh, was a wild man created by gods from clay, who lived in the "edin", was friends with beasts and basically grazed just like them, ended up being tempted by Shamhat, had sex with her, and got initiated to the ways of the gods (in this context, eating bread and wearing clothes and shit - yes, Enkidu was roaming the edin butt-naked before this point). As a result, the beasts rejected him, he left the edin, he became pals with Gilgamesh.

I mean you could view these as incredible coincidences, but considering that this story was written in the same part of the world and predates the bible by several centuries, it's rather difficult to not see these as the basis for the story about Adam and Eve.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 04, 2017, 02:37:01 PM
Not to mention how judaism/christianity got "influenced" by zoroastrianism.

source: my degree in history
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Huff on July 04, 2017, 02:42:11 PM
Lol history degrees
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 04, 2017, 02:55:15 PM
I hope next time you will pick buddhism or something more original himu as arguining with christians is like a flash back to high school. I think that would actually fit you very well.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: jakefromstatefarm on July 04, 2017, 04:17:24 PM
Why does evidence of 'plagiarism' within a religious tradition necessarily undermine ones beliefs in that tradition? No one itt has demonstrated why this is the case. It's perfectly possible to believe in a universal, eternal and transcendent truth while maintaining that this truth is revealed historically. In fact, in the case of Christianity, this has pretty much been the norm since jump.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: TVC15 on July 04, 2017, 05:34:03 PM
I hope next time you will pick buddhism or something more original himu as arguining with christians is like a flash back to high school. I think that would actually fit you very well.

I recommend mantra-based meditation, 20 minutes, twice a day. Handles all your spiritual needs. You can also attach as much or as little woo as you like to it.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: VomKriege on July 04, 2017, 06:33:08 PM
yeah, not like Jesus is a rip off of Mithras or anything

Adam and Eve are a rip off of Enkidu and Shamhat.
Noah is a rip off of Gilgamesh.
Satan is an evil retcon of Baal.
Yawveh was just one of many canaanite gods, and a rip off of Marduk anyway.

Can you provide evidence for these claims? :)

I'm not sure what "evidence" means in the context of mythologies but... there's been a ton of stuff written about comparative studies of religions.

Enkidu, for instance, from the Epic of Gilgamesh, was a wild man created by gods from clay, who lived in the "edin", was friends with beasts and basically grazed just like them, ended up being tempted by Shamhat, had sex with her, and got initiated to the ways of the gods (in this context, eating bread and wearing clothes and shit - yes, Enkidu was roaming the edin butt-naked before this point). As a result, the beasts rejected him, he left the edin, he became pals with Gilgamesh.

I mean you could view these as incredible coincidences, but considering that this story was written in the same part of the world and predates the bible by several centuries, it's rather difficult to not see these as the basis for the story about Adam and Eve.

Thomas Römer has had an excellent cursus on the First Testament at the Collége de France for several years but obviously it's in French.
But really I would expect any esteemed university with such a department (Oxford has one, I don't know if they have lectures available in podcast form however) to cover at one point some the similarities of some of the myths in the First and Second Testament to older myths from the same regions or the discrepancies in the text in using El, Elohim, Yahweh. Or the debate about the historicity of Jesus as a person. To name a few.

Kaffir and Raist posts were of course blunt and provocative but their substance are fairly accurate to the current interdisciplinary understanding of the texts and the history surrounding them (the people, their beliefs, the region), within which there is of course large leeway for discussion about how it came to be, how much is borrowed, and what makes the originality of those beliefs (because no one is really arguing that Judaism and Christianism are not, at the very least, remarkable by their endurance and success).
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 05, 2017, 11:59:14 AM
yeah, not like Jesus is a rip off of Mithras or anything

Adam and Eve are a rip off of Enkidu and Shamhat.
Noah is a rip off of Gilgamesh.
Satan is an evil retcon of Baal.
Yawveh was just one of many canaanite gods, and a rip off of Marduk anyway.

Can you provide evidence for these claims? :)

I'm not sure what "evidence" means in the context of mythologies but... there's been a ton of stuff written about comparative studies of religions.

Enkidu, for instance, from the Epic of Gilgamesh, was a wild man created by gods from clay, who lived in the "edin", was friends with beasts and basically grazed just like them, ended up being tempted by Shamhat, had sex with her, and got initiated to the ways of the gods (in this context, eating bread and wearing clothes and shit - yes, Enkidu was roaming the edin butt-naked before this point). As a result, the beasts rejected him, he left the edin, he became pals with Gilgamesh.

I mean you could view these as incredible coincidences, but considering that this story was written in the same part of the world and predates the bible by several centuries, it's rather difficult to not see these as the basis for the story about Adam and Eve.

This only matters if you consider Adam and Eve and Noah to be literal.

I think you'll agree that these are religions in the same area. There is zero evidence of which story came first. And which story came first doesn't matter. You are also assuming that through similarities that these stories are actually telling the same story. These were stories that were told orally and since they happened to exist in the same region they were well known and were memes. These stories are often told in parables. They'll start off with how the story is usually told, but then warp it to change societal expectations. For instance, in Jesus' parable for the Prodigal Son. It was common in those times for Jews to revere their parents. When the prodigal son comes home to his father, and, for the sake of this experiment pretend you're 1st century Jew, it's expected for the son to run to his father for forgiveness. That is the societal expectation. But what happens? The father runs to the son - forgiving him in full and embracing him with love, and in doing so, flipping the expectation of the story. That is how a lot of Jewish parables and storytelling functioned: by taking previous knowledge and flipping it.

Speaking of Hebrew storytelling, you mentioned Noah but neglected that there are over 200 flood myths in the world. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_flood_myths Coming to the conclusion that Noah rips off Gilgamesh is a stretch. These stories spread wide and fast. Given the sheer amount, what evidence do you have that Noah rips off Gilgamesh?

Also, you mentioned Satan is Baal when Baal is mentioned in the Bible with both being mentioned as two separate figures. The people who worshipped Baal did not consider him bad so saying he's a rip off of Satan is also a stretch.

None of your points have much credence beyond an atheistic "gotcha". Which funnily, has a fundamentalist ring to it. Used in an example, you lash out at religious fundamentalists, but you are offering an argument that rests its laurels on fundamentalism being the only valid interpretation.

I asked for evidence of your claims and you provided none. You literally said that characters of the Torah are rip offs of other characters. Making such a claim, you should be able to provide evidence that the other stories came before the Torah. You didn't. Your only argument is that they are similar. But even with those similarities, they aren't even remotely the same stories nor are they arguing similar things. Your arguments against Christianity - and by further extension, Judaism - are weak. Can you prove that the Hebrew stories did not come first? And if they didn't, does it matter? And since you posit literalism, the only way make your argument credible is to prove - with evidence - that these other stories were imported to the Hebrews.

I always find it funny how atheists as fundamentalist as the religious people they critique.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 05, 2017, 12:05:50 PM
If that's fair then you will find my above dialogue with Lager even more interesting. You are demonstrating even greater ignorance than Lager. The original Christians were Jews. All of the original 12 were Jews. All of the books of the New Testament were written by Jews with the notable exception of Luke, St Paul's disciple, who was a Gentile. Christianity did not "usurp" Judaism. It split from it. The reason the OT is incorporated is because it's a good library of books with lots of poetry and wisdom deemed important by the original Church fathers - who were again, Jews. Jesus himself was a Jew and valued Judaism. He routinely quoted stories from Judaism, spoke in the language of the prophets through the tone of Psalms. Given that Jesus is a Jew and the original Christians were Jews, why would they discard their entire heritage. Before Christianity was, well, Christianity, Jews such as the future Saint, Saul, outright persecuted Christians as blasphemers to prevent the further growth of the religion for the Roman Empire. Please inform yourself. Using this argumentation against any informed Christian will make you scoffed at and (deservedly) made fun of. You can start here: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jewish_Christian

Umm you just proved my point.

Never said Jesus wasn't a Jew nor that Christianity wasn't started by Jews. Rebranding your argument as "Christianity split from Judaism, it didn't rip it off" is just a massive goal post move. Which takes your Islam plagiarism comment and makes you a bit of a hypocrite. Jesus is highly regarded in Islam and Islam itself paints Christianity as failing Christ, but I wouldn't go around calling it a sub genre made by old school christianity fans who felt like it got too commercialized, even though that's sorta accurate.

Hell, the main reason Islam even exists is Muhammad's disgust at the worship for what is essentially Arab versions of Pagan and Greek gods, vying to return to abrahamic religion like Judaism and Christianity. And the looooooooooooooooong beef between arabs and jews stems from arabs claiming they're the new direction for Abrahamic religion and the jews are dustheads who can't keep with the times, while the jews see them as blasphemous because it's their religion so they get to dictate where it goes.

No. You literally argued that Christianity ripped off other religions. In the original case, you argued that Jesus is a rip off of Mithras. You were shown evidence that isn't true. Instead, you argued - like Lager - that Christians ripped off the Jews. I provided evidence that that wasn't the case; Christians couldn't rip off the Jews considering that the earliest Christians were Jews and observed Jewish tradition, just with Jesus added on top. Your original claim, that Christians usurped and ripped off the Jews, was proven false. Unless you actually meant by the use of the word "usurp" to overthrow. It is arguable this happened, as anti-Jew was a very real thing as Gentile Christianity grew. But this hold no water towards whether Christianity is true or not and is irrelevant to the current discussion. Either Christians ripped off the Jews, or they didn't. And since we know that original Christians were Jews, we are already know the answer to that.

I hope next time you will pick buddhism or something more original himu as arguining with christians is like a flash back to high school. I think that would actually fit you very well.

I tried Buddhism. I was going to make my rakusu this year. But then in an election year of injustices, racism, xenophobia, attacks on democracy, Buddhists were silent. They had to make articles justifying that Buddhism is a "apolitical religion" as if adhering to common good is an "apolitical" position. My fellow Christians do awful things politically, but at least they have opinions. Buddhists have no objective truth or objective morality. They'd rather sit on their zafu's and let the world pass them by, deep in meditation, in search of enlightenment while the world burns. I saw American Buddhism as a selfish religion.

In a toxic political landscape, where liberals insist on labeling all white people are racist or Nazis or _____ and that conservatives "can't be reasoned with" and conservatives justify wanton cruelty in  the guise of "traditional values" there was a teaching about this man named Jesus who gave the commandment of love your neighbor.

Buddhism has truth in it, I find. Buddha was an amazing teacher but the religion does nothing for me and I have gained so much more being Christian than I ever would have as a Buddhist. I still value meditation however, and instead opt to practice Christian meditation. I will still visit my old Zen Center to say hi, though. I made friends there.

Not to mention how judaism/christianity got "influenced" by zoroastrianism.

source: my degree in history

If you have a degree in history then you'll also know that Jesus existed, right? Provide evidence of your claim that was influenced by Zoroastrianism, please. :)
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: seagrams hotsauce on July 05, 2017, 12:38:51 PM
Nevermind
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 05, 2017, 12:50:41 PM
If that's fair then you will find my above dialogue with Lager even more interesting. You are demonstrating even greater ignorance than Lager. The original Christians were Jews. All of the original 12 were Jews. All of the books of the New Testament were written by Jews with the notable exception of Luke, St Paul's disciple, who was a Gentile. Christianity did not "usurp" Judaism. It split from it. The reason the OT is incorporated is because it's a good library of books with lots of poetry and wisdom deemed important by the original Church fathers - who were again, Jews. Jesus himself was a Jew and valued Judaism. He routinely quoted stories from Judaism, spoke in the language of the prophets through the tone of Psalms. Given that Jesus is a Jew and the original Christians were Jews, why would they discard their entire heritage. Before Christianity was, well, Christianity, Jews such as the future Saint, Saul, outright persecuted Christians as blasphemers to prevent the further growth of the religion for the Roman Empire. Please inform yourself. Using this argumentation against any informed Christian will make you scoffed at and (deservedly) made fun of. You can start here: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jewish_Christian

Umm you just proved my point.

Never said Jesus wasn't a Jew nor that Christianity wasn't started by Jews. Rebranding your argument as "Christianity split from Judaism, it didn't rip it off" is just a massive goal post move. Which takes your Islam plagiarism comment and makes you a bit of a hypocrite. Jesus is highly regarded in Islam and Islam itself paints Christianity as failing Christ, but I wouldn't go around calling it a sub genre made by old school christianity fans who felt like it got too commercialized, even though that's sorta accurate.

Hell, the main reason Islam even exists is Muhammad's disgust at the worship for what is essentially Arab versions of Pagan and Greek gods, vying to return to abrahamic religion like Judaism and Christianity. And the looooooooooooooooong beef between arabs and jews stems from arabs claiming they're the new direction for Abrahamic religion and the jews are dustheads who can't keep with the times, while the jews see them as blasphemous because it's their religion so they get to dictate where it goes.

No. You literally argued that Christianity ripped off other religions. In the original case, you argued that Jesus is a rip off of Mithras. You were shown evidence that isn't true. Instead, you argued - like Lager - that Christians ripped off the Jews. I provided evidence that that wasn't the case; Christians couldn't rip off the Jews considering that the earliest Christians were Jews and observed Jewish tradition, just with Jesus added on top. Your original claim, that Christians usurped and ripped off the Jews, was proven false. Unless you actually meant by the use of the word "usurp" to overthrow. It is arguable this happened, as anti-Jew was a very real thing as Gentile Christianity grew. But this hold no water towards whether Christianity is true or not and is irrelevant to the current discussion. Either Christians ripped off the Jews, or they didn't. And since we know that original Christians were Jews, we are already know the answer to that.

Yeah, that they did rip off judaism. Glad you ignored the rest of my post though.

I don't think I believe I said that Islam ripped off Christianity? If I did, you probably misunderstood me. My posts have barely touched Islam, if at all. You say I'm moving goal posts but I'm arguing literally the same thing: that Christianity did not "rip off" these religions.

In any case, you still have not provided historical evidence that Christianity ripped off Judaism. I have provided evidence that it didn't.

Your bringing up Islam is a straw man to divert from the subject at hand.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 05, 2017, 12:56:45 PM
Anyways, Lager, I'm glad I'm not Buddhist and if you want to know how I got to this point, although I didn't write it, it captures the state of my views. Buddhism helped me find the value in religion and I will always be thankful of that. But it was just a stepping stone.

https://www.reddit.com/r/Christianity/comments/68ohks/from_staunch_atheism_to_searching/
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Raist on July 06, 2017, 05:40:38 AM
yeah, not like Jesus is a rip off of Mithras or anything

Adam and Eve are a rip off of Enkidu and Shamhat.
Noah is a rip off of Gilgamesh.
Satan is an evil retcon of Baal.
Yawveh was just one of many canaanite gods, and a rip off of Marduk anyway.

Can you provide evidence for these claims? :)

I'm not sure what "evidence" means in the context of mythologies but... there's been a ton of stuff written about comparative studies of religions.

Enkidu, for instance, from the Epic of Gilgamesh, was a wild man created by gods from clay, who lived in the "edin", was friends with beasts and basically grazed just like them, ended up being tempted by Shamhat, had sex with her, and got initiated to the ways of the gods (in this context, eating bread and wearing clothes and shit - yes, Enkidu was roaming the edin butt-naked before this point). As a result, the beasts rejected him, he left the edin, he became pals with Gilgamesh.

I mean you could view these as incredible coincidences, but considering that this story was written in the same part of the world and predates the bible by several centuries, it's rather difficult to not see these as the basis for the story about Adam and Eve.

This only matters if you consider Adam and Eve and Noah to be literal.

I think you'll agree that these are religions in the same area. There is zero evidence of which story came first. And which story came first doesn't matter. You are also assuming that through similarities that these stories are actually telling the same story. These were stories that were told orally and since they happened to exist in the same region they were well known and were memes. These stories are often told in parables. They'll start off with how the story is usually told, but then warp it to change societal expectations. For instance, in Jesus' parable for the Prodigal Son. It was common in those times for Jews to revere their parents. When the prodigal son comes home to his father, and, for the sake of this experiment pretend you're 1st century Jew, it's expected for the son to run to his father for forgiveness. That is the societal expectation. But what happens? The father runs to the son - forgiving him in full and embracing him with love, and in doing so, flipping the expectation of the story. That is how a lot of Jewish parables and storytelling functioned: by taking previous knowledge and flipping it.

Speaking of Hebrew storytelling, you mentioned Noah but neglected that there are over 200 flood myths in the world. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_flood_myths Coming to the conclusion that Noah rips off Gilgamesh is a stretch. These stories spread wide and fast. Given the sheer amount, what evidence do you have that Noah rips off Gilgamesh?

Also, you mentioned Satan is Baal when Baal is mentioned in the Bible with both being mentioned as two separate figures. The people who worshipped Baal did not consider him bad so saying he's a rip off of Satan is also a stretch.

None of your points have much credence beyond an atheistic "gotcha". Which funnily, has a fundamentalist ring to it. Used in an example, you lash out at religious fundamentalists, but you are offering an argument that rests its laurels on fundamentalism being the only valid interpretation.

I asked for evidence of your claims and you provided none. You literally said that characters of the Torah are rip offs of other characters. Making such a claim, you should be able to provide evidence that the other stories came before the Torah. You didn't. Your only argument is that they are similar. But even with those similarities, they aren't even remotely the same stories nor are they arguing similar things. Your arguments against Christianity - and by further extension, Judaism - are weak. Can you prove that the Hebrew stories did not come first? And if they didn't, does it matter? And since you posit literalism, the only way make your argument credible is to prove - with evidence - that these other stories were imported to the Hebrews.

I always find it funny how atheists as fundamentalist as the religious people they critique.

Lovely moving of the goal posts!

Quote
The Epic of Gilgamesh is an epic poem from ancient Mesopotamia that is often regarded as the earliest surviving great work of literature. The literary history of Gilgamesh begins with five Sumerian poems about 'Bilgamesh' (Sumerian for 'Gilgamesh'), king of Uruk, dating from the Third Dynasty of Ur (circa 2100 BC).

So you're telling me that the bible might have been first to tell that story? You could have taken 10s to check when the Epic of Gilgamesh was written.
It seems quite obvious that your knowledge of religions is incredibly lacking - not that I'm surprised, many studies have shown that atheists are actually generally more knowledgeable on the topic that religious folks. But please, by all means continue to pretend that maybe the hebrews predated the sumerians. The evidence is that we have sumerian texts dating CENTURIES earlier than any hebrew texts.

Satan, AKA Beelzebub (Lord of the Flies), is widely accepted to be a corruption of Ba'al Zebul (Lord of the Heavens). Like many things in religion, this was done for political reasons - mocking other gods, which are apparently not the real one true god. Or similarly, how Yawveh, the god of war of a pantheon with many gods, was over time turned into the Only One True God by people with an agenda - Extremist Yawhists. This was mostly started around the time Babylon conquered Judah, primarily by the prophet Jeremiah, and finalized when hebrews were exiled, by the prophet Isaiah (the second one).

You're asking for details and evidence, but then dismiss it, and preempt by saying "well even if you give me evidence it doesn't matter". Typical of strongly religious people, who will make claims, get debunked, and go on to say well it doesn't matter. You don't seem to be open to any sort of discussion and new knowledge. If you somehow still are a bit, I suggest "A History of God" by Karen Armstrong, that's a good place to start.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 06, 2017, 12:05:53 PM
yeah, not like Jesus is a rip off of Mithras or anything

Adam and Eve are a rip off of Enkidu and Shamhat.
Noah is a rip off of Gilgamesh.
Satan is an evil retcon of Baal.
Yawveh was just one of many canaanite gods, and a rip off of Marduk anyway.

Can you provide evidence for these claims? :)

I'm not sure what "evidence" means in the context of mythologies but... there's been a ton of stuff written about comparative studies of religions.

Enkidu, for instance, from the Epic of Gilgamesh, was a wild man created by gods from clay, who lived in the "edin", was friends with beasts and basically grazed just like them, ended up being tempted by Shamhat, had sex with her, and got initiated to the ways of the gods (in this context, eating bread and wearing clothes and shit - yes, Enkidu was roaming the edin butt-naked before this point). As a result, the beasts rejected him, he left the edin, he became pals with Gilgamesh.

I mean you could view these as incredible coincidences, but considering that this story was written in the same part of the world and predates the bible by several centuries, it's rather difficult to not see these as the basis for the story about Adam and Eve.

This only matters if you consider Adam and Eve and Noah to be literal.

I think you'll agree that these are religions in the same area. There is zero evidence of which story came first. And which story came first doesn't matter. You are also assuming that through similarities that these stories are actually telling the same story. These were stories that were told orally and since they happened to exist in the same region they were well known and were memes. These stories are often told in parables. They'll start off with how the story is usually told, but then warp it to change societal expectations. For instance, in Jesus' parable for the Prodigal Son. It was common in those times for Jews to revere their parents. When the prodigal son comes home to his father, and, for the sake of this experiment pretend you're 1st century Jew, it's expected for the son to run to his father for forgiveness. That is the societal expectation. But what happens? The father runs to the son - forgiving him in full and embracing him with love, and in doing so, flipping the expectation of the story. That is how a lot of Jewish parables and storytelling functioned: by taking previous knowledge and flipping it.

Speaking of Hebrew storytelling, you mentioned Noah but neglected that there are over 200 flood myths in the world. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_flood_myths Coming to the conclusion that Noah rips off Gilgamesh is a stretch. These stories spread wide and fast. Given the sheer amount, what evidence do you have that Noah rips off Gilgamesh?

Also, you mentioned Satan is Baal when Baal is mentioned in the Bible with both being mentioned as two separate figures. The people who worshipped Baal did not consider him bad so saying he's a rip off of Satan is also a stretch.

None of your points have much credence beyond an atheistic "gotcha". Which funnily, has a fundamentalist ring to it. Used in an example, you lash out at religious fundamentalists, but you are offering an argument that rests its laurels on fundamentalism being the only valid interpretation.

I asked for evidence of your claims and you provided none. You literally said that characters of the Torah are rip offs of other characters. Making such a claim, you should be able to provide evidence that the other stories came before the Torah. You didn't. Your only argument is that they are similar. But even with those similarities, they aren't even remotely the same stories nor are they arguing similar things. Your arguments against Christianity - and by further extension, Judaism - are weak. Can you prove that the Hebrew stories did not come first? And if they didn't, does it matter? And since you posit literalism, the only way make your argument credible is to prove - with evidence - that these other stories were imported to the Hebrews.

I always find it funny how atheists as fundamentalist as the religious people they critique.

Lovely moving of the goal posts!

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The Epic of Gilgamesh is an epic poem from ancient Mesopotamia that is often regarded as the earliest surviving great work of literature. The literary history of Gilgamesh begins with five Sumerian poems about 'Bilgamesh' (Sumerian for 'Gilgamesh'), king of Uruk, dating from the Third Dynasty of Ur (circa 2100 BC).

So you're telling me that the bible might have been first to tell that story? You could have taken 10s to check when the Epic of Gilgamesh was written.
It seems quite obvious that your knowledge of religions is incredibly lacking - not that I'm surprised, many studies have shown that atheists are actually generally more knowledgeable on the topic that religious folks. But please, by all means continue to pretend that maybe the hebrews predated the sumerians. The evidence is that we have sumerian texts dating CENTURIES earlier than any hebrew texts.

Satan, AKA Beelzebub (Lord of the Flies), is widely accepted to be a corruption of Ba'al Zebul (Lord of the Heavens). Like many things in religion, this was done for political reasons - mocking other gods, which are apparently not the real one true god. Or similarly, how Yawveh, the god of war of a pantheon with many gods, was over time turned into the Only One True God by people with an agenda - Extremist Yawhists. This was mostly started around the time Babylon conquered Judah, primarily by the prophet Jeremiah, and finalized when hebrews were exiled, by the prophet Isaiah (the second one).

You're asking for details and evidence, but then dismiss it, and preempt by saying "well even if you give me evidence it doesn't matter". Typical of strongly religious people, who will make claims, get debunked, and go on to say well it doesn't matter. You don't seem to be open to any sort of discussion and new knowledge. If you somehow still are a bit, I suggest "A History of God" by Karen Armstrong, that's a good place to start.

I haven't moved a single goal post and it's funny how you lot keep using that phrase when it's not even happening. I asked for evidence, you didn't give me any. I'm fully aware of the claim being made. I was an atheist for ten years. I have been conducive to conversation, but you are not willing to discuss. Just throw out things like "young Earth creationist" and "not that I'm surprised, many studies have shown that atheists are actually generally more knowledgeable on the topic that religious folks". You never really debunked me, as the question I asked for was evidence.

I didn't dismiss details and evidence only to dismiss it. You did not provide evidence. You said "Adam and Eve is a rip off of Enkidu". I asked for evidence. Talked about Gilgamesh myths. You provided the similarities, true. But you did not provide evidence that Adam and Eve "ripped off" Enkidu. Again, since you dismissed my entire point and post, Hebrews told stories in a specific ways. Have you read the stories of Enkidu and Adam and Eve?

In the old Mesopotamian myths, Enkidu is created as a rival God to Gilgamesh.

Let me quote the basics of the stories for you:

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The people of Uruk complain to the gods that their mighty king Gilgamesh is too harsh. The goddess Aruru forms Enkidu from water and clay as rival to Gilgamesh, as a countervailing force. Enkidu lived in the wild, roaming with the herds, and joining the game at the watering-hole. M.H. Henze notes in this an early Mesopotamian tradition of the wild man living apart and roaming the hinterland, who eats grass like the animals and like them, drinks from the watering places.[2] A hunter sees him and realizes that it is Enkidu who is freeing the animals from his traps. He reports this to Gilgamesh, who sends the temple prostitute, Shamhat, to deal with him.[3]

Enkidu spends six days and seven nights making love with Shamhat, after which, sensing her scent upon him, the animals flee from him, and he finds he cannot return to his old ways.[4] He returns to Shamhat, who teaches him the ways of civilized people. He now protects the shepherd's flock against predators, turning against his old life. Jastrow and Clay are of the opinion that the story of Enkidu was originally a separate tale to illustrate "man's career and destiny, how through intercourse with a woman he awakens to the sense of human dignity, ..."[5]

Shamhat tells him of the city of Uruk and of its king Gilgamesh. He travels to Uruk and engages Gilgamesh in a wrestling match as a test of strength. Gilgamesh wins and the two become fast friends.

and

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In the Book of Genesis of the Hebrew Bible, chapters one through five, there are two creation narratives with two distinct perspectives. In the first, Adam and Eve are not mentioned (at least not mentioned by name). Instead, God created humankind in God's image and instructed them to multiply and to be stewards over everything else that God had made. In the second narrative, God fashions Adam from dust and places him in the Garden of Eden. Adam is told that he can till the ground and eat freely of all the trees in the garden, except for a tree of the knowledge of good and evil. Subsequently, Eve is created from one of Adam's ribs to be Adam's companion. They are innocent and unembarrassed about their nakedness. However, a serpent deceives Eve into eating fruit from the forbidden tree, and she gives some of the fruit to Adam. These acts give them additional knowledge, but it gives them the ability to conjure negative and destructive concepts such as shame and evil. God later curses the serpent and the ground. God prophetically tells the woman and the man what will be the consequences of their sin of disobeying God. Then he banishes them from the Garden of Eden.

To say that Adam and Eve ripped off Enkidu is disingenuous. As said, these are two completely different stories coming to two completely different conclusions. Much like in my example for Jesus' parables and flood myths, these stories were spread orally. It's extremely likely the Hebrews knew of Gilgamesh. The molding of clay is used to set the tone of the story. If ancient Hebrews knew of Enkidu and his being molded of clay, then when they hear this story, they'll come to expect the same thing. Instead, the story flips it. This is a commonality among a lot of Hebrew story-telling. In this case, the Goddess Aruru molds Enkidu. Yahweh molds Adam from dust. Both stories use temptation. This is acknowledged. Very similar, but reading about Enkidu reveals that the story is about man fulfilling his destiny; Adam and Eve is about man trying to fulfill his destiny, thinking that's okay, and falling out of favor with God. In Gilgamesh, the story is used to show that man has his own destiny through his own will. In the book of Genesis, the Hebrews used the archetype, or trope of that same story, to tell their perspective: that man's attempt as finding his own destiny results in sin and separation from God. In one story, human determination is valued; in the other it is scorned. Jewish religious text was very good at doing this type of "you think it's one way, but it's the other way" type of story telling. But, given how much you know about religion, I'm sure you're already familiar with this.  :doge

This is what I was basically saying: that similarities does not necessarily mean that they are inherently ripped off. You are angling this argument in a highly literalist manner.

Anyways, regarding your claims. The quote you posted says "earliest surviving". It's what we currently know is the oldest surviving. I have also provided a link to flood myths. My point is that Gilgamesh is hardly unique on this point, especially given those aforementioned flood myths. Basically, you could come to the conclusion that all flood myths come from the same source and ripped Gilgamesh off. That's not to say I think that the book of Genesis was written before Gilgamesh. Honestly, even if it was, it's not relevant to my faith. I'm just making sure that you are aware that you don't actually have evidence of which came first. Given your claim that ____ ripped off _____ you would have evidence of this. Archaelogy is a peculiar thing. We have cities made now and can't necessarily excavate everywhere. However, we do know that there's evidence of Hebrew religion at least 3,000 years old. [source: http://www.cnn.com/2008/WORLD/meast/10/30/israel.ancient.text/index.html] All I'm saying, is that you shouldn't make claims of authority when the text you even quoted states "earliest surviving." It is a position of knowledge regarding a subject that renders very, very inconsistent results especially given that early religion - as you would probably know - was generally handed down orally. [source: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oral_tradition][source: http://www.jweekly.com/2016/02/26/its-no-myth-jews-storytelling-and-the-oral-tradition/]

As for Beelzebub, I need clarification on this point. When you speak of Baal are you talking about NT or OT?

As for Karen Armstrong's History of God, I read it ten years ago. I am well versed in most atheist arguments, as I was one for a decade. You are misunderstanding my arguments being made and are claiming authority and saying I'm ignorant when I'm anything but. I've heard these claims. All I asked for was evidence.

Your tone is coming off highly arrogant. You should tone it down and actually try to discuss things. You have been insulting me since page 1. I'm willing to discuss things but you have not. I don't think there's much dispute on that. You've been arguing like a typical "new atheist". Come down the rabbit hole, and I'll fight you like a philosopher atheist. Aside from your quote about Gilgamesh and Enkidu you have provided zero evidence. Just factoids and summaries.

And this ignores that again, this only matters if you consider the story of Genesis literal.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 06, 2017, 12:10:18 PM
I don't think I believe I said that Islam ripped off Christianity? If I did, you probably misunderstood me. My posts have barely touched Islam, if at all. You say I'm moving goal posts but I'm arguing literally the same thing: that Christianity did not "rip off" these religions.

In any case, you still have not provided historical evidence that Christianity ripped off Judaism. I have provided evidence that it didn't.

Your bringing up Islam is a straw man to divert from the subject at hand.

You're the one who brought up Islam as the only religion that you'd say plagiarized, when I pointed out christianity does the same, your response was that some jews became christian, that isn't evidence. Islam isn't a straw man when you were the one who brought it up. You basically said Christianity was new form of Judaism instead of a ripoff, I said by your logic that makes Islam a new form of Christianity. Do you really think most people don't know that Abrahamic religions are linked together? Only time anybody calls them evolutions of each other is when they believe in a later one, which conveniently stops at the religion they believe in, that's what you're doing.

Himu, you should learn to respond to the content of my posts more instead of falling back into trying to paint my argument as a different one once you moved the goal post. It's a tactic you employ too much, and I'm dumb enough to keep replying to you when you do so.

I asked you specifically, where did I say that Islam plagiarized?

Anyways, it isn't poor logic at all. Early Christians literally were Jews. Islam is far removed from Judaism and Christianity in the sense that it doesn't have the relationship with Christianity (or Judaism for that matter) that Christianity has with Judaism. I don't think Islam plagiarized, but I don't think it has the same relationship the other Abrahamic faiths do. I haven't moved a single goal post. I'm trying to clarify your position and understand where I said Islam plagiarized? I'm confused.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Raist on July 06, 2017, 01:40:57 PM
It's funny how two posts ago you argued that maybe the hebrew texts predated the Epic of Gilgamesh, and now presumably you're an expert on the topic.

And quit playing the poor misunderstood victim ::)
I replied reasonably several times while you jumped straight to your aggressive style of posting, namecalling included (what did your OP say again? Something about respect). Don't start crying now that I'm biting back.

Don't waste your time by the way, I'm done discussing with you on this topic. Intellectual dishonesty isn't my cup of tea.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: etiolate on July 06, 2017, 02:20:40 PM
Don't fall into the trite view that religion is just a simple pacifier of the people.

Jordan Peterson time

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zo6tEGVGiF8
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P5_-pfqFGJI
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Mupepe on July 06, 2017, 02:20:46 PM
Corn tortillas with tacos is a fucking travesty.  There.  I fucking said it.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: etiolate on July 06, 2017, 02:36:16 PM
HARD CORN SHELLS ARE A TACO BELL SIGNATURE SIR
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Mupepe on July 06, 2017, 02:39:56 PM
Some relics of the past just need to be forgotten, like all hard shell tacos. CRAP CRAP CRAP CRAP CRAP
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on July 06, 2017, 02:45:29 PM
Finally, a religion I can get behind.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 06, 2017, 02:52:56 PM
When I ask for evidence, I'm asking for academic sources. How did you come to the conclusion that these Hebrew stories ripped off Gilgamesh? You posted the year they were made, but not academic sources that this proves, under no reasonable doubt, that the Hebrews "ripped off" the Mesopotamian paganism. Given your appreciation for scientific inquiry, as you should, certainly you should see the value in using academic sources when making claims of this manner. I expect the same level of academic study from religious studies as I do scientific.

If you cannot produce this evidence short of the usual atheistic rhetoric, then we have no reason to continue this discussion.

Thank you.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 06, 2017, 03:15:15 PM
Of the Abrahamic religions only one I could think that is probably plagiarism is Islam.

There.

I clarified my position before. All religions take from each other and it is essentially plagiarism considering nobody who has faith in one sees the other as right as well. They all take myths, moral codes, ethics, etc. from each other and warp them in a way to see itself as the one true belief. I see believing in any of them as willful ignorance. While I do not hate people who have faith nor do I see them as inferior people, I don't exactly see it as something a person needs in their life either. While science is a collection of facts that I don't see why anybody shouldn't believe in it.

Yeah, some people are very dogmatic about science and can come off like religious zealots, I agree with that. The main difference between science and religion to me is that science is data, it's a tool. Something that can be used to push us forward. Religion's, on the other hand, only true application is to ease the fear of death and the unknown.

I think your opinion that all religions take and don't see value in others is kind of simplistic? But at the same time, I don't blame you feeling that way? I don't think Christianity took anything from Judaism because as I've said, the first Christians were Jews. I don't think Islam is an illegitimate religion or anything. I think of the major religions they all hold a kernal of truth and that talk of the one true religion just results in holy wars.

I misspoke when I said that about Islam. I'm sorry. However, I don't think this means this makes Christianity a copycat of Jusaism either.

Anyways, thinking science and religion are incompatible is a fundamentalist pov. Religion has nothing to do with science.

Having the position that religions only application is pushing fear I think, is also a bit wanting. I've come to religion not through fear at all. Heaven and hell? I earnestly don't care.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 06, 2017, 03:24:59 PM
It's funny how two posts ago you argued that maybe the hebrew texts predated the Epic of Gilgamesh, and now presumably you're an expert on the topic.

And quit playing the poor misunderstood victim ::)
I replied reasonably several times while you jumped straight to your aggressive style of posting, namecalling included (what did your OP say again? Something about respect). Don't start crying now that I'm biting back.

Don't waste your time by the way, I'm done discussing with you on this topic. Intellectual dishonesty isn't my cup of tea.

I'm going to make a statement of truth: we both have been uncharitable this entire discussion. You didn't address the bulk of my content in ANY of my posts. Go back to page one. You asked why I think science can be dogmatic and I answered by showing people who use science to justify hateful views. Your response? A post about the differences between science and religion even though I didn't even bring religion into the topic. You've been disengenous from the jump and I responded by immaturely calling you names, and I acknowledged that earlier in the thread. But let's not pretend that you've been treating this like a discussion. You've been treating it as a means to badger because it's obvious you don't respect religion. Who brought up religion in the first place? You did. I have the receipts and they're on page one. You created a division between science and religion and brought it into this talk even though it is irrelevant to the content and context, but for some reason you turn churlish when called out on it. I have certainly acted badly. But please don't put this all on me. I'm capable of discussion. Wrath and me? Discussion. Ronito and me? Discussion. You and me? You take non sequiturs and ignore the bulk of my content to argue Bill Maher and r/atheism tier atheist arguments. You accuse me of not wanting discussion when you haven't for one second in this thread reciprocated on that.

And yeah, I said maybe the Hebrew text came before Gilgamesh epics. Emphasis on maybe. The fact they're on text to begin make things kind of skeptical to make a claim because religions tended to start out orally. That's all I meant. If you can't produce evidence that the Hebrew text rips off Gilgamesh like you said, then you have no real argument to stand on.

This is without mentioning -again - that thinking this only becomes a problem if you find these stories literal. It isn't the gotcha point you think it is. Another point I've made several times that you have completely ignored. Discussion my ass.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: etiolate on July 06, 2017, 03:32:16 PM
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beg forgiveness for your blasphemy
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 06, 2017, 03:33:23 PM
I feel like we're at a point of agreeing to disagree. There's not much to be discussed anymore as we both feel extremely differently on the matter.

All I'll say is you do you and good luck with it. I'll go back to arguing about dumb shit instead.

That's fine. I just can't help but find your opinion on religion to be a bit impoverished. But like I said, as a former Muslim in Saudi Arabia I don't blame you for holding this opinion. You live in a literal theocracy.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 06, 2017, 03:33:54 PM
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beg forgiveness for your blasphemy

 :yuck
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: seagrams hotsauce on July 06, 2017, 04:33:30 PM
I feel like we're at a point of agreeing to disagree. There's not much to be discussed anymore as we both feel extremely differently on the matter.

All I'll say is you do you and good luck with it. I'll go back to arguing about dumb shit instead.

That's fine. I just can't help but find your opinion on religion to be a bit impoverished. But like I said, as a former Muslim in Saudi Arabia I don't blame you for holding this opinion. You live in a literal theocracy.

Jesus Christ, dude
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 06, 2017, 04:39:23 PM
I feel like we're at a point of agreeing to disagree. There's not much to be discussed anymore as we both feel extremely differently on the matter.

All I'll say is you do you and good luck with it. I'll go back to arguing about dumb shit instead.

That's fine. I just can't help but find your opinion on religion to be a bit impoverished. But like I said, as a former Muslim in Saudi Arabia I don't blame you for holding this opinion. You live in a literal theocracy.

Jesus Christ, dude

What? My friend has to deal with awful crap from his family, and has the potential for being executed for rejecting Islam. In that environment I don't blame him. Sorry for sounding like a jerk but it's fucking true.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: seagrams hotsauce on July 06, 2017, 04:57:23 PM
"Your opinion sounds bit impoverished." You don't get how condescending that sounds?
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on July 06, 2017, 05:08:40 PM
I minored in religion. All y'all's opinions are impoverished :snob
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Huff on July 06, 2017, 05:36:38 PM
Well I'm a prophet

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Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: VomKriege on July 06, 2017, 05:54:41 PM
Thread is gonna be great to read in X months.

Look Queen, Imma let you finish and I'm really glad you feel like you found way to a richer personal spirituality, but for what I have lazily glanced over, you're reading to a T like a Christian that's more here to "win" arguments than to operate in good faith down to specific arguments and mannerisms ("Atheists are the real fundamentalists argheubegleu") : There's a lot of them on the Internet and I've read more than my fair share of them.

To be honest, you come off across as incredibly insecure. Make of that what you will. :yeshrug
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 06, 2017, 06:28:31 PM
"Your opinion sounds bit impoverished." You don't get how condescending that sounds?

The dude said religion is only for fear and people afraid of death.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 06, 2017, 06:44:28 PM
Thread is gonna be great to read in X months.

Look Queen, Imma let you finish and I'm really glad you feel like you found way to a richer personal spirituality, but for what I have lazily glanced over, you're reading to a T like a Christian that's more here to "win" arguments than to operate in good faith down to specific arguments and mannerisms ("Atheists are the real fundamentalists argheubegleu") : There's a lot of them on the Internet and I've read more than my fair share of them.

To be honest, you come off across as incredibly insecure. Make of that what you will. :yeshrug

I don't see the point in arguing any further. I never said "atheists are the real fundamentalists" at all. I said "many atheists are as fundamentalist as the people they critique." I have a theory on that and I think it's because a lot of atheists come from fundamentalist interpretations of religions and then when they become atheist apply a fundamentalist thought to their atheism. People in the thread acted just like that: like a typical fundamental atheist. Where science makes religion outdated. Where science is the only means for understanding the natural world. That is a fundamentalist position in line with an evangelical, except the complete opposite. I said multiple times that I value science highly. I was shot down and accused of being anti-science. Fundamentalist atheist says the bible is invalid because of Genesis. You can say,"that's only if you believe in a literal interpretation" but then they'll ask why religions are always changing their dogma when the Catholic Church has believed it to allegorical pretty much its entire existence. But no. Only literalism is okay for a fundamental atheist because they act like fundamentalist and assume their opponents are fundamentalist. You didn't want discussions you want to state facts and belittle.

As for me wanting to win, you're right. I'm very aware that being Christian and religious in particular will make me hated. I will have to defend my religion. The only way learn how to defend it is to do battle, with words. I've gotten in debates with several atheists since coming back to Christianity to learn how to defend. It's definitely a process and I definitely can get emotional. But I'm learning each battle and licking my wounds to come back for more.

But the fact you deduced my "atheists are as fundamentalist as the people they hate" argument into "atheists are the real fundamentalists" shows to me that you have not considered a shred of my argument nor my words. No offense, but you seem set out to win and dismiss just as much as I am. But such is the Internet.

I truly do feel that the impoverished view many new atheists take towards religion and towards the philosophies will come to bite them in the ass. Humans thirst and I don't think atheists provide the necessary water.

One great thing about fighting atheists is they are only used to debating fundamentalists who deny evolution. I've found that for the most part they're easy to fight because of the fact that they group all Christians or religious people into the same category. This massive blind spot is their major failing. But the unfortunate thing is that atheists are right - the burden of proof is upon me, so it's also up to me to learn how dismantle r/atheism tier argumentation.

That's all.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: CatsCatsCats on July 06, 2017, 07:00:45 PM
Nvm I'm not helping
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: VomKriege on July 06, 2017, 07:10:50 PM

I don't see the point in arguing any further. I never said "atheists are the real fundamentalists" at all. I said "many atheists are as fundamentalist as the people they critique." I have a theory on that and I think it's because a lot of atheists come from fundamentalist interpretations of religions and then when they become atheist apply a fundamentalist thought to their atheism. People in the thread acted just like that: like a typical fundamental atheist. Where science makes religion outdated. Where science is the only means for understanding the natural world. That is a fundamentalist position in line with an evangelical, except the complete opposite. I said multiple times that I value science highly. I was shot down and accused of being anti-science. Fundamentalist atheist says the bible is invalid because of Genesis. You can say,"that's only if you believe in a literal interpretation" but then they'll ask why religions are always changing their dogma when the Catholic Church has believed it to allegorical pretty much its entire existence. But no. Only literalism is okay for a fundamental atheist because they act like fundamentalist and assume their opponents are fundamentalist. You didn't want discussions you want to state facts and belittle.

As for me wanting to win, you're right. I'm very aware that being Christian and religious in particular will make me hated. I will have to defend my religion. The only way learn how to defend it is to do battle, with words. I've gotten in debates with several atheists since coming back to Christianity to learn how to defend. It's definitely a process and I definitely can get emotional. But I'm learning each battle and licking my wounds to come back for more.

But the fact you deduced my "atheists are as fundamentalist as the people they hate" argument into "atheists are the real fundamentalists" shows to me that you have not considered a shred of my argument nor my words. No offense, but you seem set out to win and dismiss just as much as I am. But such is the Internet.

I truly do feel that the impoverished view many new atheists take towards religion and towards the philosophies will come to bite them in the ass. Humans thirst and I don't think atheists provide the necessary water.

One great thing about fighting atheists is they are only used to debating fundamentalists who deny evolution. I've found that for the most part they're easy to fight because of the fact that they group all Christians or religious people into the same category. This massive blind spot is their major failing. But the unfortunate thing is that atheists are right - the burden of proof is upon me, so it's also up to me to learn how dismantle r/atheism tier argumentation.

That's all.

:badass
Keep them coming.
You've been in a thousand fights (of words).

Of course I did not consider your arguments ? Did anything in my message sounded like a refutation ? Why did you think I said "lazily glance" ? Do I really have to tell you that I was not quoting verbatim your sentence and was making a comedic hyperbole ?
Again, make of that what you want. Dismiss if you desire so. No need for walls of text.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 06, 2017, 07:15:07 PM
:beli
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: jakefromstatefarm on July 06, 2017, 07:37:19 PM
you're reading to a T like a Christian that's more here to "win" arguments than to operate in good faith
tbf, I'm not 100% convinced the posters she's been engaging with have been operating in good faith either
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Raist on July 06, 2017, 07:43:26 PM
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Who brought up religion in the first place? You did. I have the receipts and they're on page one.

:rofl

DEM RECEIPTS THO

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Please.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Raist on July 06, 2017, 07:50:14 PM
Back to staying out of this thread.

Hey stop appropriating my ideas 'KAY?
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Rufus on July 06, 2017, 08:12:14 PM
you're reading to a T like a Christian that's more here to "win" arguments than to operate in good faith
tbf, I'm not 100% convinced the posters she's been engaging with have been operating in good faith either
You tried.

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Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 06, 2017, 08:16:31 PM
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Who brought up religion in the first place? You did. I have the receipts and they're on page one.

:rofl

DEM RECEIPTS THO

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Please.

You're right about that. I did say those things. But I'm talking within the context of our discussion. You asked for clarification on a certain quote. I answered without bringing up religion. Your response? Science vs religion even though the previous post had nothing to say about that at all. You have argued a science vs religion take from the start when there's nothing to indicate in the quote you posted that I feel that you must sacrifice science to be religious. I made a post detailing your behavior in this thread and that's the only thing you've got. The only reason you're here is not to discuss, and you're full of shit.

Let's review, shall we?

http://www.thebore.com/forum/index.php?topic=44979.msg2268218#msg2268218

And

http://www.thebore.com/forum/index.php?topic=44979.msg2268224#msg2268224

Unless you want to admit that you never read nor responded to my original reply to your post in the first place.

So let's again, not pretend that you haven't been an ass this entire time.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: jakefromstatefarm on July 06, 2017, 08:20:11 PM
you're reading to a T like a Christian that's more here to "win" arguments than to operate in good faith
tbf, I'm not 100% convinced the posters she's been engaging with have been operating in good faith either
For the record, I was.
I'll take your word for it. The impression I've received from following this thread for the past few days however is that posters (on both sides) are willing to throw out either unsubstantiated or at least contentious claims as rhetorical ammunition to batter their opponent with, and seemingly unwilling to examine the presuppositions within their arguments (per the lack of a response to my previous post). Hence my lack of confidence in this thread having the ability to support constructive discussion.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 06, 2017, 08:24:18 PM
I'm fine with religious discussion. But as long as I'm playing defensive and it's not a discussion then :yeshrug
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: CatsCatsCats on July 06, 2017, 10:32:17 PM
Omg is this literally he said she said now?
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Atramental on July 07, 2017, 07:45:49 AM
My two cents: religious debates on an online forum are pointless.

These discussions are better in person because too many things can get misconstrued/misinterpreted over text.

Also, goal post shifting is a common debate tactic that Christian apologists use so it's super frustrating to try and debate them. Some of them also misconstrue their opponents frustration as "oh, you hate me for my Christian beliefs". No. It's annoyance for being intellectually dishonest.

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Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 07, 2017, 02:57:04 PM
"Your opinion sounds bit impoverished." You don't get how condescending that sounds?

The dude said religion is only for fear and people afraid of death.

its true though, and people that feel lost
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Raist on July 07, 2017, 03:01:13 PM
People shouldn't have reproductive organs.

Objection.

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Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 07, 2017, 03:58:07 PM
"Your opinion sounds bit impoverished." You don't get how condescending that sounds?

The dude said religion is only for fear and people afraid of death.

its true though, and people that feel lost

Why do you feel that way?
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Madrun Badrun on July 07, 2017, 04:08:49 PM
People shouldn't have reproductive organs.

only reproductive pan flutes 
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on July 07, 2017, 04:48:05 PM
"Your opinion sounds bit impoverished." You don't get how condescending that sounds?

The dude said religion is only for fear and people afraid of death.

its true though, and people that feel lost

Why do you feel that way?
I don't feel it's such a surprising view of it for an non-religious person.
Religion, at its best, does two things: 1) Gives hope 2) Teaches people morals and to do good.
Welp, plenty of people have found ways to do that without religion. So to them they view it as religion has
- Followers that follow for tradition (nostalgia)
- Followers that need some sort of structured hope (to someone that doesn't need it, this will be considered weak)
- Followers that follow for some "treasure in heaven"/fear of hell (greed/fear)
- Followers that believe you can only do good with religion (weak)
- Followers that hope for an afterlife (can't deal with an existential crisis/fear)
- Followers that want to belong (this in itself isn't a bad trait, though a non-religious person will view it as weakness)

Not to speak for Premium Lager, but I just don't see it as a surprising summation from someone that's not religious. Remember, to them a connection with a god is not something they see or need (or at least they don't need a paternal god as defined in most religions). So the above is how they view a religious person.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 07, 2017, 05:30:19 PM
That actually pretty much sums up my thougts puppy, great write up.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: etiolate on July 07, 2017, 05:32:59 PM
I understand that's how they view religion and a religious person, but its an very naive view.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: CatsCatsCats on July 07, 2017, 05:34:13 PM
I understand that's how they view religion and a religious person, but its an very naive view.

Why do you feel that way?
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 07, 2017, 05:34:53 PM
I understand that's how they view religion and a religious person, but its an very naive view.

how is that naive? its what there is to it
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: etiolate on July 07, 2017, 06:12:30 PM
I understand that's how they view religion and a religious person, but its an very naive view.

Why do you feel that way?

Because of what I've read, learned, experienced and processed about the world. I'd say the first mistake in that view is how it doesn't really entertain the idea that religion may work on a complex and important level for human beings. It's just too simple a view of human beings in regard to our place as social creature and dominant creature. I'd argue that religion is an evolutionary adaptation of human beings that is not just a temporal phase but a toolset of survival and success.

I tried to explain some of this via my comment in reply to Wraith about the importance of faith to human society, and that the faith must be backed by healthy religion to have a good society. Nobody seemed interested in that though.

There is also debate about whether to have morals we must have had religion or whether religion is required still to have morality. You assume you can just have a sense of good and bad without religion as if those concepts weren't developed over thousands of years and rooted in the ways of religious thinking so that religious thinking may be required to create them. You also have to see the difference between morals and ethics, and the process that leads to both. Morals and ethics are not the same, at least not in my view. Morals can be handed out by a state. Laws are a type of moral, but it has been legal and illegal in the US to own slaves. I say that to point out that ones morals can be wrong. So morals change and are subject to the acceptance and adaptation of the populace. Ethics are less temporal if temporal at all. They don't change as much as they grow and refine. Ethics are principles that lead to finding good from bad. Ethics are doing whats right even when you could get away with doing wrong, even when people around tell you tell you its not wrong or even when the current morals disagree with your inner sense of right from wrong. Morals are a passive experience and ethics are the active experience.

Religion operates in an organized way as a passive moral experience, but religion on a personal sense should operate as an active habit.

I linked some Peterson videos. He is currently knee deep in exploring this stuff and has a series of 2 hour lectures online for free. I recommended Tolstoy's Confessions earlier in the thread to Queen. You have to understand that liberal values, the civil rights movement and all that is rooted in religious thinking. If you think you can completely divorce that and end up with the rules 'as we have known them now', and continue to be a good person then I would point to that as naive. Tolstoy's work influenced Ghandi and MLK, two big figures behind many of the more respected views we have today. In Tolstoy's work, one of the most vital things he does is pointing out how we look at the outside shell of a thing and think that is the thing itself, so that if we just change or litigate against that outer representation then we change the whole thing itself. This is especially true of how we treat ideas and morals. We then make the mistake of thinking if we just change the a rule then we change the person in violation of the rule. That's not how humans work. We get thoughts and act on thoughts. True change only comes from a change in thinking, and that change only comes from an active self-examination.

Maybe I'm getting off track, but let's just say this is my area of interest. I am watching video of German reporters take pictures of other reporters, calling them identitarians and fascists, and then sending that to ANTIFA. ANTIFA then goes to beat those people up and tell them not to return, but the journalists return, get beaten up and told if they return again they will be killed. ANTIFA is acting morally according to their morals and the police doesn't interfere. They are morals without a religion but with religion. Someone took healthy religion out of their lives and this nastiness replaced it because they are still religious in some nature. It's very hard to pry the nature of religion out of human. They just don't have anything healthy to tie it to.

Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 07, 2017, 06:31:39 PM
Nobody is saying religion may not have played a part in shaping morals or ethics or whatnot your essay is about, point is now we are at a stage where its obsolete and we can move beyond believing in wizards and man on clouds.

If you still feel some need to worship some make belief go ahead, whatever helps you sleep at night. Im sure therw will always be people that need this, although it sure is less and less.

But please stop trying to make religion some integral part of life anno 2017.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: etiolate on July 07, 2017, 06:33:27 PM
If you think religion is just praying to a sun then you don't get religion.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: CatsCatsCats on July 07, 2017, 06:39:53 PM
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True change only comes from a change in thinking, and that change only comes from an active self-examination.
I don't feel you've adequately explained why religion needs a part in this

Although I'm starting to think you're rolling spirituality and belief into religion

I'm a fuckin straight up hippy at my core -- and straight up think goodness and badness are false concepts of judgement. People don't do things out of goodness or badness, they do things in attempts to meet their needs, personal or societal or whatever the case.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: CatsCatsCats on July 07, 2017, 06:48:46 PM
If you want a basis for my beliefs, you could look into Nonviolent Communication as put forth by Marshall Rosenberg
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Madrun Badrun on July 07, 2017, 06:53:39 PM
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Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: CatsCatsCats on July 07, 2017, 06:56:44 PM
lol that's the guy, I guess on topic:

Quote from: wikipedia
NVC proposes that if people can identify their needs, the needs of others, and the feelings that surround these needs, harmony can be achieved.

I believe this
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Madrun Badrun on July 07, 2017, 07:04:43 PM
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"Now I'm the giraffe and your still just a dog!"
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: nachobro on July 07, 2017, 07:06:49 PM
If you think religion is just praying to a sun then you don't get religion.
more like praying to a Son :bow2
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: CatsCatsCats on July 07, 2017, 07:26:15 PM
Not gonna lie, sometimes I'll throw out a sun salutation on a sunny day
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Rufus on July 07, 2017, 07:42:07 PM
lol that's the guy, I guess on topic:

Quote from: wikipedia
NVC proposes that if people can identify their needs, the needs of others, and the feelings that surround these needs, harmony can be achieved.

I believe this
What about resource scarcity?
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on July 07, 2017, 08:24:38 PM
I understand that's how they view religion and a religious person, but its an very naive view.

Why do you feel that way?

Because of what I've read, learned, experienced and processed about the world. I'd say the first mistake in that view is how it doesn't really entertain the idea that religion may work on a complex and important level for human beings. It's just too simple a view of human beings in regard to our place as social creature and dominant creature. I'd argue that religion is an evolutionary adaptation of human beings that is not just a temporal phase but a toolset of survival and success.

I tried to explain some of this via my comment in reply to Wraith about the importance of faith to human society, and that the faith must be backed by healthy religion to have a good society. Nobody seemed interested in that though.

There is also debate about whether to have morals we must have had religion or whether religion is required still to have morality. You assume you can just have a sense of good and bad without religion as if those concepts weren't developed over thousands of years and rooted in the ways of religious thinking so that religious thinking may be required to create them. You also have to see the difference between morals and ethics, and the process that leads to both. Morals and ethics are not the same, at least not in my view. Morals can be handed out by a state. Laws are a type of moral, but it has been legal and illegal in the US to own slaves. I say that to point out that ones morals can be wrong. So morals change and are subject to the acceptance and adaptation of the populace. Ethics are less temporal if temporal at all. They don't change as much as they grow and refine. Ethics are principles that lead to finding good from bad. Ethics are doing whats right even when you could get away with doing wrong, even when people around tell you tell you its not wrong or even when the current morals disagree with your inner sense of right from wrong. Morals are a passive experience and ethics are the active experience.

Religion operates in an organized way as a passive moral experience, but religion on a personal sense should operate as an active habit.

I linked some Peterson videos. He is currently knee deep in exploring this stuff and has a series of 2 hour lectures online for free. I recommended Tolstoy's Confessions earlier in the thread to Queen. You have to understand that liberal values, the civil rights movement and all that is rooted in religious thinking. If you think you can completely divorce that and end up with the rules 'as we have known them now', and continue to be a good person then I would point to that as naive. Tolstoy's work influenced Ghandi and MLK, two big figures behind many of the more respected views we have today. In Tolstoy's work, one of the most vital things he does is pointing out how we look at the outside shell of a thing and think that is the thing itself, so that if we just change or litigate against that outer representation then we change the whole thing itself. This is especially true of how we treat ideas and morals. We then make the mistake of thinking if we just change the a rule then we change the person in violation of the rule. That's not how humans work. We get thoughts and act on thoughts. True change only comes from a change in thinking, and that change only comes from an active self-examination.

Maybe I'm getting off track, but let's just say this is my area of interest. I am watching video of German reporters take pictures of other reporters, calling them identitarians and fascists, and then sending that to ANTIFA. ANTIFA then goes to beat those people up and tell them not to return, but the journalists return, get beaten up and told if they return again they will be killed. ANTIFA is acting morally according to their morals and the police doesn't interfere. They are morals without a religion but with religion. Someone took healthy religion out of their lives and this nastiness replaced it because they are still religious in some nature. It's very hard to pry the nature of religion out of human. They just don't have anything healthy to tie it to.
But then doesn't all this fall into the nostalgia bit? Religion gave us x before therefore the only way to get x is religion? As noted no one here is saying that religion didn't play a huge role in societal development. However, to someone that's not religious it's like saying you only pay on cash because it worked for thousands of years. Sure it did. Most people use cards now. It's a matter of perspective. To someone embroiled in religion it's crazy to not make it a center piece. To those that have found their way without religion it makes no sense to them to make it a center piece. To them they can now get the good of religion without the bad. As they say. What's good about religion is not unique and what is unique to religion is generally not good
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: etiolate on July 07, 2017, 08:32:56 PM
I don't see where nostalgia exists in what I said at all.

While not that I am completely removing organized religion from the topic, make sure to separate organized religion from religion itself.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 07, 2017, 09:18:05 PM
"Your opinion sounds bit impoverished." You don't get how condescending that sounds?

The dude said religion is only for fear and people afraid of death.

its true though, and people that feel lost

Why do you feel that way?
I don't feel it's such a surprising view of it for an non-religious person.
Religion, at its best, does two things: 1) Gives hope 2) Teaches people morals and to do good.
Welp, plenty of people have found ways to do that without religion. So to them they view it as religion has
- Followers that follow for tradition (nostalgia)
- Followers that need some sort of structured hope (to someone that doesn't need it, this will be considered weak)
- Followers that follow for some "treasure in heaven"/fear of hell (greed/fear)
- Followers that believe you can only do good with religion (weak)
- Followers that hope for an afterlife (can't deal with an existential crisis/fear)
- Followers that want to belong (this in itself isn't a bad trait, though a non-religious person will view it as weakness)

Not to speak for Premium Lager, but I just don't see it as a surprising summation from someone that's not religious. Remember, to them a connection with a god is not something they see or need (or at least they don't need a paternal god as defined in most religions). So the above is how they view a religious person.

Before I get into the real content of your post I'm going to offer up my own flip side to show how you come off as:

At its best, non-religion offers 1) a structured guide to exploring and dissecting the material world through science, and 2) open dialogue.

Here's why these two things are flawed. For one, neither one is unique to the non-religious life. One can do and appreciate both while being religious (I'm proving it right now). Newton, Leibniz, Mendel, Heisenberg, Godel, Da Vinci. They were all religious and scientific. Open dialogue has a long storied tradition (more on this later) with religion, and especially (surprisingly or not surprisingly depending on who you ask) Christianity. St Aquinas took lessons from the Greeks (many of whom were religious) to openly debate and exchange ideas helping form the building blocks of the university, something many non-religious today cherish. Heidegger, Aquinas, Maimonides, Godel all are involved in this long tradition.

With that out of the way, it's pretty good to assume the following about non-religious people:

- modern non-religious people think they're the first people to find rebuttals to these religions (arrogance and naďveté). They (the non-religious) think that they are using original arguments for these rebuttals. One such example is the Problem of Evil.
- they argue for emotional arguments as if they are rational arguments (problem of evil) (immaturity and overly emotional) - okay, this one is actually true :lol
- they just don't want to be told what to do (lack of conviction, rebellious)
- they just haven't earnestly sought out religion or God (passivity)
- have childish ideas of God an attribute God to being a sky daddy (childish stupidity)
- talk a lot about religious morality but have never volunteered in their life (hypocrisy)
- just don't want to get up for church on Sunday (laziness)
- have the understanding of religion from the pov of a 12 year old (stupidity)
- non-religious societies have a history of authoratarianism due to people who are non-religious lacking any moral guideline where anything goes. Why care? Every man or woman for themself.

In no way do I think these things. But that's what you sound like and that's what I mean by impoverished view on religion. It's really just close-minded, shallow stereotyping. That's "what there is to it." To think yourself better than others because of what they believe, even if it's perfectly valid, is futile arrogance.

Now, to address the meat of your post let's start with your initial point:

"You can be moral and have hope without religion."

Sure you can. But do you have the structure for it? Let's start with hope. While anecdotal, most of the non-religious people are absolutely losing their shit about Donald Trump while about everyone I know who is religious is dealing with it, as much as they can. Every time Donald Trump and his administration does soemthing the non-religious I know wets their pants, talking about a war against fascists, how we need to get armed (although I support this), how the government is going to start euthanizing Muslims in just a few months time. The religious I know are calling out injustice where they see and not letting it ruin their lives. Non-religious have hope. Certainly. But they have no structure for it. The other day, I prayed for sincere compassion and patience in adoration. I prayed for my enemies. I prayed for people I don't like, for the friends who need it, and for my country. When I left Church that day I had a smile on my face the rest of the day. All I could feel was absolute joy. Certainly, this gives me a structured way to have hope. I can keep fighting without losing my shit like the rest of the left and get outraged all. the. fucking. time. Speaking of which. Most Social Studies Warriors tend to be non-religious, but I have rarely seen hope brimming from that camp. It is outrage after outrage. What hope do you remotely have? Funnily, this also applies to the far right as well, who, while Christian, don't go to church (there is vast data for this). What hope do they have? None at all, because they don't go to church, lack community, and are without hope. This even includes modern activism. These people have no hope, just demands without action. Operation Wall Street. Black Lives Matter. Both secular activist movements, with not one ounce of the hope present in the religious-based Civil Rights Movement. Without religion these groups have nothin to fall back on but pure anger, which doesn't get things done unless you're willing to kill for it. Meanwhile, I have an obligation for adoration duty every Wednesday at night time. This means, we go there to pray and meditate on a weekly basis out of obligation and duty. Research shows that prayer and meditation leads to less stress (source: https://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2010/03/21/spirituality-and-prayer-relieve-stress/). While you can easily do this without religion, what helped to make these things exist in the first place? Religion. What offers the ability to pray on a daily basis? Religion. Sure, you can meditate on your pillow every day, but zen centers are open every day of the week, multiples times a day. Structure. Muslims pray five times a day; structure. Catholic Churches are often open pretty much all day depending on the area. Mine is open from 8 to 9 pm every day. Guess who was open on July 4 this week? A holiday of all days. The Catholic Church. Guess who went? I did. That's structure. It gives you options to adopt it into your every day life ore easily. You can do this as an atheist but it'll be a fuck load much harder. You could definitely meditate or pray without religion, but religion makes it easier to access due to obligation. For free, without having to buy yoga pants or a yoga mat.

This taps into the spiritual but not religious thing and why it's an utter copout.

You said you can be moral without religion. Sure you can. But I think most people would agree that religion makes easier to do good because it has - again - structure. Religious groups volunteer all the time. Priests go to hospitals to help people. Most volunteer groups are full of religious people. Not too many atheists there. I wonder why. Not because religious people are more moral but because religious groups simply have far more community outreach and ease of access to it. But again, no structure. True religious observation forces self reflection. I'm very aware of my flaws. I even stress this in this very thread. Religion gives me an avenue to hopefully correct them and I hope you see the fruit of my effort in this thread and post. Religion requires sacrifice. I'm doing a daily self reflection on my actions, and how I can do better. I recognize that I have a tendency to fall into certain moods or habits. I can be judgemental, I can call people names, I can be a big bitch. Without religion I could perfectly tell myself,"hey, that's okay. We all have flaws" and that'd be the end of it. Mandark posited just that. But religion, or at least Christianity, is about trying to become perfect in Jesus' image. This is an impossible task, but that doesn't mean we can't try. This gives me a goal and an outlet. Being non-religious offers no such support system beyond maybe the philosophies, and even those are quite limited because they aren't moral guidelines.

Now I'll get into your claims.

1. Claim: tradition is nostalgia.

This a poor definition of what tradition is. Most tradition is done for a purpose. In America, as you know, we celebrate holidays such as Memorial Day. While certainly, many just use the tradition for a day off, for others, it means something. It means revering the dead lost in battle. It means grieving your loved one who didn't get to come home. It means respecting the sacrifices of people who laid their life on the line. It's tradition, but it isn't nostalgia. It is observed out of respect and love. On Martin Luther King Day, I have never taken a day off of work. I always work when I can. Why? Because Martin Luther King and others literally died for my right to work among white people, to be seen with dignity as a human being, to have basic fucking rights. That is my tradition. It has nothing to do with nostalgia, but everything to do with reverence, sacrifice, love, and honor.

So when you go to a Church that upholds tradition, you are doing the same thing. Confessing your sins is tradition. Before my first confession I felt I was going throw up from the sheer amount of guilt. I felt sick and after I confessed I truly felt forgiven. I truly value confession because it forces me to own up to my flaws through self observation to hopefully become a better, more whole person. Confessions are held during the week and usually has a long line of silent people looking towards the floor, deep in thought. That is tradition. And tradition serves a purpose. Tradition has many definitions. It can be something that your culture values, like scratching on a turn table in hip hop. Or it can be honoring the dead in a funeral to say that one final goodbye. Tradition is not inherently nostalgic. It depends on the context and reasoning. One of the many reasons I fell in love with Catholicism was its intellectual tradition. Art, philosophy, theology, apologetics. No other church comes remotely close. But to see that word that I value turned into an over simplification is vast injustice.

That, is what I mean by impoverished and it tells me you had a very shallow relationship with religion. I could be wrong, but that is what you're giving off and I am willing to be corrected.

2. You said that religious people are weak, in that we need community, or because we "need" to believe in God. 

My ancestors were enslaved for hundreds of years and one of the biggest things that helped was religion. The civil rights movement was typified by its religion. You said structured hope is weak. Would you say Martin Luther King or Malcolm X were weak? Structured hope leads to gaining strength. Despite being LGBT, I've joined a church where I am not allowed to even be married within it. Am I considered weak? I'd think a lot of people would see having hope in soemthing, despite all opposition, to be strength. I could very easily go to an affirming church like the Episcopalian Church, and I've been to a few. But I decided on something else entire after months of search because I have faith and hope in it and I truly think it is the better place for me spiritually. Is this weak? I can agree that being religious just for a reward or because you're scared of hell is silly, but the way many atheists  are framing it, that's why a lot of religious people believe. It's such a poor assumption and nothing more. How many of your points can be determined with evidence? How do you know so many people are doing these things? They're so generic and presumptuous that they're on equal standing with a theist accusing an atheist for not believing because they're "mad at God". Certainly, there are people like that that exist, but to use it as an argument against atheism isn't a rational argument. It's an assumption and doesn't cut into why they find atheism so poor. The same is true here. It isn't a legitimate case against religion. To many it just comes across as a projection.

It's a projection because as said, religion is supposed to be hard af. There's nothing weak about faith. Faith is not just taking something at face value and believing it whole sale. It's believing in soemthing despite the doubts. It's a choice. It's about action. There's many stories of the Saints who were fighting crippling atheism and still did their duty out of love and trust for God. This is not weakness. Why is hope considered weak? Hope is the ability to fight against all odd despite the uncertainty. I have hope that America will be healed of its division. We all had hope that Atramental would get laid.

That is what I mean by impoverished.

It's such a poor look at how religion operates to the point of being a caricature. This is without mentioning the sheer arrogance of thinking people are weak for being religious in the first place.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 07, 2017, 10:05:52 PM
I understand that's how they view religion and a religious person, but its an very naive view.

Why do you feel that way?

Because of what I've read, learned, experienced and processed about the world. I'd say the first mistake in that view is how it doesn't really entertain the idea that religion may work on a complex and important level for human beings. It's just too simple a view of human beings in regard to our place as social creature and dominant creature. I'd argue that religion is an evolutionary adaptation of human beings that is not just a temporal phase but a toolset of survival and success.

I tried to explain some of this via my comment in reply to Wraith about the importance of faith to human society, and that the faith must be backed by healthy religion to have a good society. Nobody seemed interested in that though.

There is also debate about whether to have morals we must have had religion or whether religion is required still to have morality. You assume you can just have a sense of good and bad without religion as if those concepts weren't developed over thousands of years and rooted in the ways of religious thinking so that religious thinking may be required to create them. You also have to see the difference between morals and ethics, and the process that leads to both. Morals and ethics are not the same, at least not in my view. Morals can be handed out by a state. Laws are a type of moral, but it has been legal and illegal in the US to own slaves. I say that to point out that ones morals can be wrong. So morals change and are subject to the acceptance and adaptation of the populace. Ethics are less temporal if temporal at all. They don't change as much as they grow and refine. Ethics are principles that lead to finding good from bad. Ethics are doing whats right even when you could get away with doing wrong, even when people around tell you tell you its not wrong or even when the current morals disagree with your inner sense of right from wrong. Morals are a passive experience and ethics are the active experience.

Religion operates in an organized way as a passive moral experience, but religion on a personal sense should operate as an active habit.

I linked some Peterson videos. He is currently knee deep in exploring this stuff and has a series of 2 hour lectures online for free. I recommended Tolstoy's Confessions earlier in the thread to Queen. You have to understand that liberal values, the civil rights movement and all that is rooted in religious thinking. If you think you can completely divorce that and end up with the rules 'as we have known them now', and continue to be a good person then I would point to that as naive. Tolstoy's work influenced Ghandi and MLK, two big figures behind many of the more respected views we have today. In Tolstoy's work, one of the most vital things he does is pointing out how we look at the outside shell of a thing and think that is the thing itself, so that if we just change or litigate against that outer representation then we change the whole thing itself. This is especially true of how we treat ideas and morals. We then make the mistake of thinking if we just change the a rule then we change the person in violation of the rule. That's not how humans work. We get thoughts and act on thoughts. True change only comes from a change in thinking, and that change only comes from an active self-examination.

Maybe I'm getting off track, but let's just say this is my area of interest. I am watching video of German reporters take pictures of other reporters, calling them identitarians and fascists, and then sending that to ANTIFA. ANTIFA then goes to beat those people up and tell them not to return, but the journalists return, get beaten up and told if they return again they will be killed. ANTIFA is acting morally according to their morals and the police doesn't interfere. They are morals without a religion but with religion. Someone took healthy religion out of their lives and this nastiness replaced it because they are still religious in some nature. It's very hard to pry the nature of religion out of human. They just don't have anything healthy to tie it to.

Ever hear of the Moral Law?

Essentially, every human is embedded within them an inherent morality. In about every human society we have moral constants. It is generally agreed upon in human society what is moral and not moral, but we betray that inherent morality. Slave masters knew that what they were doing was wrong which is why they had to rationalize and justify it by dehumanizing my ancestors. Modern people do the same when an unarmed black person is killed: "he deserved it for not doing X" "if only he did Y he would have survived." People know that what happened was wrong but they justify it in their heads and betray their inherent morality. Learning of this made me accept The Fall so much easier. Not in a literal Adam and Eve, because I don't believe in that, but the idea that man betrays the inherent goodness God has instilled into each and everyone of us. When I said things like,"all white people are racist" I knew it was wrong, but I didn't give a shit that it was because I was full of anger and I felt justified in my hate. Fundamentalist Christians don't want to stone LGBT people, so they know that their treatment of LGBT people is wrong. For many of them, they justify their discrimination as trying to help us. Again and again humanity shows that it knows what the right thing is, but we lack the capacity or will to achieve it. Earlier on, I knew I was being an ass, but fuck it. Go for broke. You could chalk it up as evolution, but going against your own interests just seems to suggest nothing evolutionary at all, because certainly living up to our inherent ideals would produce higher rates of survival. But we don't. Because it is embedded within us. Even sociopaths recognize that what they're doing is wrong, they just lack the empathy to care.

Good piece on it.

http://www.paul-gould.com/2012/12/19/c-s-lewis-the-moral-argument-for-god-and-the-gospel/

Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: CatsCatsCats on July 07, 2017, 10:40:27 PM
See, I can totally get behind and understand using Christianity as view point to understand humanity like what I just read in QoI's post. I truly believe every single person has goodness in them, and those who aren't showing it have turned in some way from a truth in themselves. Call that the Holy Spirit? Fine, I'm with you, it has many names  :doge
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on July 08, 2017, 12:03:44 AM
Etoilet: We are getting to semantics. To me, all religion by definition is organized. When someone says unorganized religion I think that's more akin to spirituality. Which I think most people would be OK with.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 08, 2017, 12:16:15 AM
See, I can totally get behind and understand using Christianity as view point to understand humanity like what I just read in QoI's post. I truly believe every single person has goodness in them, and those who aren't showing it have turned in some way from a truth in themselves. Call that the Holy Spirit? Fine, I'm with you, it has many names  :doge

Read Mere Christianity. Some of his ideas and stuff are old because it's such an old book, but very, very relevant. Basically, the idea is that this goodness comes from God. Which is why Christianity argues that God is love or all good. It makes the gospels even greater for it. Humanity recognizes how wrong it is. Peter betrays Jesus three times in one night and he was the most loyal of Apostles. Man is incomplete, because man is broken. And only God can help us achieve wholeness.

That is the Christian perspective.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on July 08, 2017, 12:19:09 AM
"Your opinion sounds bit impoverished." You don't get how condescending that sounds?

The dude said religion is only for fear and people afraid of death.

its true though, and people that feel lost

Why do you feel that way?
I don't feel it's such a surprising view of it for an non-religious person.
Religion, at its best, does two things: 1) Gives hope 2) Teaches people morals and to do good.
Welp, plenty of people have found ways to do that without religion. So to them they view it as religion has
- Followers that follow for tradition (nostalgia)
- Followers that need some sort of structured hope (to someone that doesn't need it, this will be considered weak)
- Followers that follow for some "treasure in heaven"/fear of hell (greed/fear)
- Followers that believe you can only do good with religion (weak)
- Followers that hope for an afterlife (can't deal with an existential crisis/fear)
- Followers that want to belong (this in itself isn't a bad trait, though a non-religious person will view it as weakness)

Not to speak for Premium Lager, but I just don't see it as a surprising summation from someone that's not religious. Remember, to them a connection with a god is not something they see or need (or at least they don't need a paternal god as defined in most religions). So the above is how they view a religious person.

Before I get into the real content of your post I'm going to offer up my own flip side to show how you come off as:

At its best, non-religion offers 1) a structured guide to exploring and dissecting the material world through science, and 2) open dialogue.

Here's why these two things are flawed. For one, neither one is unique to the non-religious life. One can do and appreciate both while being religious (I'm proving it right now). Newton, Leibniz, Mendel, Heisenberg, Godel, Da Vinci. They were all religious and scientific. Open dialogue has a long storied tradition (more on this later) with religion, and especially (surprisingly or not surprisingly depending on who you ask) Christianity. St Aquinas took lessons from the Greeks (many of whom were religious) to openly debate and exchange ideas helping form the building blocks of the university, something many non-religious today cherish. Heidegger, Aquinas, Maimonides, Godel all are involved in this long tradition.

With that out of the way, it's pretty good to assume the following about non-religious people:

- modern non-religious people think they're the first people to find rebuttals to these religions (arrogance and naďveté). They (the non-religious) think that they are using original arguments for these rebuttals. One such example is the Problem of Evil.
- they argue for emotional arguments as if they are rational arguments (problem of evil) (immaturity and overly emotional) - okay, this one is actually true :lol
- they just don't want to be told what to do (lack of conviction, rebellious)
- they just haven't earnestly sought out religion or God (passivity)
- have childish ideas of God an attribute God to being a sky daddy (childish stupidity)
- talk a lot about religious morality but have never volunteered in their life (hypocrisy)
- just don't want to get up for church on Sunday (laziness)
- have the understanding of religion from the pov of a 12 year old (stupidity)
- non-religious societies have a history of authoratarianism due to people who are non-religious lacking any moral guideline where anything goes. Why care? Every man or woman for themself.

In no way do I think these things. But that's what you sound like and that's what I mean by impoverished view on religion. It's really just close-minded, shallow stereotyping. That's "what there is to it." To think yourself better than others because of what they believe, even if it's perfectly valid, is futile arrogance.

Now, to address the meat of your post let's start with your initial point:

"You can be moral and have hope without religion."

Sure you can. But do you have the structure for it? Let's start with hope. While anecdotal, most of the non-religious people are absolutely losing their shit about Donald Trump while about everyone I know who is religious is dealing with it, as much as they can. Every time Donald Trump and his administration does soemthing the non-religious I know wets their pants, talking about a war against fascists, how we need to get armed (although I support this), how the government is going to start euthanizing Muslims in just a few months time. The religious I know are calling out injustice where they see and not letting it ruin their lives. Non-religious have hope. Certainly. But they have no structure for it. The other day, I prayed for sincere compassion and patience in adoration. I prayed for my enemies. I prayed for people I don't like, for the friends who need it, and for my country. When I left Church that day I had a smile on my face the rest of the day. All I could feel was absolute joy. Certainly, this gives me a structured way to have hope. I can keep fighting without losing my shit like the rest of the left and get outraged all. the. fucking. time. Speaking of which. Most Social Studies Warriors tend to be non-religious, but I have rarely seen hope brimming from that camp. It is outrage after outrage. What hope do you remotely have? Funnily, this also applies to the far right as well, who, while Christian, don't go to church (there is vast data for this). What hope do they have? None at all, because they don't go to church, lack community, and are without hope. This even includes modern activism. These people have no hope, just demands without action. Operation Wall Street. Black Lives Matter. Both secular activist movements, with not one ounce of the hope present in the religious-based Civil Rights Movement. Without religion these groups have nothin to fall back on but pure anger, which doesn't get things done unless you're willing to kill for it. Meanwhile, I have an obligation for adoration duty every Wednesday at night time. This means, we go there to pray and meditate on a weekly basis out of obligation and duty. Research shows that prayer and meditation leads to less stress (source: https://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2010/03/21/spirituality-and-prayer-relieve-stress/). While you can easily do this without religion, what helped to make these things exist in the first place? Religion. What offers the ability to pray on a daily basis? Religion. Sure, you can meditate on your pillow every day, but zen centers are open every day of the week, multiples times a day. Structure. Muslims pray five times a day; structure. Catholic Churches are often open pretty much all day depending on the area. Mine is open from 8 to 9 pm every day. Guess who was open on July 4 this week? A holiday of all days. The Catholic Church. Guess who went? I did. That's structure. It gives you options to adopt it into your every day life ore easily. You can do this as an atheist but it'll be a fuck load much harder. You could definitely meditate or pray without religion, but religion makes it easier to access due to obligation. For free, without having to buy yoga pants or a yoga mat.

This taps into the spiritual but not religious thing and why it's an utter copout.

You said you can be moral without religion. Sure you can. But I think most people would agree that religion makes easier to do good because it has - again - structure. Religious groups volunteer all the time. Priests go to hospitals to help people. Most volunteer groups are full of religious people. Not too many atheists there. I wonder why. Not because religious people are more moral but because religious groups simply have far more community outreach and ease of access to it. But again, no structure. True religious observation forces self reflection. I'm very aware of my flaws. I even stress this in this very thread. Religion gives me an avenue to hopefully correct them and I hope you see the fruit of my effort in this thread and post. Religion requires sacrifice. I'm doing a daily self reflection on my actions, and how I can do better. I recognize that I have a tendency to fall into certain moods or habits. I can be judgemental, I can call people names, I can be a big bitch. Without religion I could perfectly tell myself,"hey, that's okay. We all have flaws" and that'd be the end of it. Mandark posited just that. But religion, or at least Christianity, is about trying to become perfect in Jesus' image. This is an impossible task, but that doesn't mean we can't try. This gives me a goal and an outlet. Being non-religious offers no such support system beyond maybe the philosophies, and even those are quite limited because they aren't moral guidelines.

Now I'll get into your claims.

1. Claim: tradition is nostalgia.

This a poor definition of what tradition is. Most tradition is done for a purpose. In America, as you know, we celebrate holidays such as Memorial Day. While certainly, many just use the tradition for a day off, for others, it means something. It means revering the dead lost in battle. It means grieving your loved one who didn't get to come home. It means respecting the sacrifices of people who laid their life on the line. It's tradition, but it isn't nostalgia. It is observed out of respect and love. On Martin Luther King Day, I have never taken a day off of work. I always work when I can. Why? Because Martin Luther King and others literally died for my right to work among white people, to be seen with dignity as a human being, to have basic fucking rights. That is my tradition. It has nothing to do with nostalgia, but everything to do with reverence, sacrifice, love, and honor.

So when you go to a Church that upholds tradition, you are doing the same thing. Confessing your sins is tradition. Before my first confession I felt I was going throw up from the sheer amount of guilt. I felt sick and after I confessed I truly felt forgiven. I truly value confession because it forces me to own up to my flaws through self observation to hopefully become a better, more whole person. Confessions are held during the week and usually has a long line of silent people looking towards the floor, deep in thought. That is tradition. And tradition serves a purpose. Tradition has many definitions. It can be something that your culture values, like scratching on a turn table in hip hop. Or it can be honoring the dead in a funeral to say that one final goodbye. Tradition is not inherently nostalgic. It depends on the context and reasoning. One of the many reasons I fell in love with Catholicism was its intellectual tradition. Art, philosophy, theology, apologetics. No other church comes remotely close. But to see that word that I value turned into an over simplification is vast injustice.

That, is what I mean by impoverished and it tells me you had a very shallow relationship with religion. I could be wrong, but that is what you're giving off and I am willing to be corrected.

2. You said that religious people are weak, in that we need community, or because we "need" to believe in God. 

My ancestors were enslaved for hundreds of years and one of the biggest things that helped was religion. The civil rights movement was typified by its religion. You said structured hope is weak. Would you say Martin Luther King or Malcolm X were weak? Structured hope leads to gaining strength. Despite being LGBT, I've joined a church where I am not allowed to even be married within it. Am I considered weak? I'd think a lot of people would see having hope in soemthing, despite all opposition, to be strength. I could very easily go to an affirming church like the Episcopalian Church, and I've been to a few. But I decided on something else entire after months of search because I have faith and hope in it and I truly think it is the better place for me spiritually. Is this weak? I can agree that being religious just for a reward or because you're scared of hell is silly, but the way many atheists  are framing it, that's why a lot of religious people believe. It's such a poor assumption and nothing more. How many of your points can be determined with evidence? How do you know so many people are doing these things? They're so generic and presumptuous that they're on equal standing with a theist accusing an atheist for not believing because they're "mad at God". Certainly, there are people like that that exist, but to use it as an argument against atheism isn't a rational argument. It's an assumption and doesn't cut into why they find atheism so poor. The same is true here. It isn't a legitimate case against religion. To many it just comes across as a projection.

It's a projection because as said, religion is supposed to be hard af. There's nothing weak about faith. Faith is not just taking something at face value and believing it whole sale. It's believing in soemthing despite the doubts. It's a choice. It's about action. There's many stories of the Saints who were fighting crippling atheism and still did their duty out of love and trust for God. This is not weakness. Why is hope considered weak? Hope is the ability to fight against all odd despite the uncertainty. I have hope that America will be healed of its division. We all had hope that Atramental would get laid.

That is what I mean by impoverished.

It's such a poor look at how religion operates to the point of being a caricature. This is without mentioning the sheer arrogance of thinking people are weak for being religious in the first place.
You know, you really should read to comprehend first rather than read to reply.  I said to a non religious person that is what they think. You asked why someone would think religious people act as they do from fear and weakness. I provided why.

I don't need you to tell me about Thomas Aquinas then call my views on religion impoverished. I wrote several papers on him in college. Which was a religious college. Where I applied and was accepted into the religious school which was a pain to get to and then went and got a minor in religion culminating in an honors thesis that was accepted by the board on religious evolution. So far you like to throw the word impoverished around like cheap currency. But I'd remind you, religion for me was a 3 decade+ arduous journey of study and discipline, not the latest passing fad. :snob
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 08, 2017, 12:23:45 AM
I didn't know if you were non-religious or not and it was besides the point. The overall meat of the post is to rebut those points, and since the people I am arguing against agreed with it, all the more reason to write it. The tone of your post is ambiguous and the discussion you're having with Etiolate and the way it's phrased makes it look like you are not religious. Maybe you should have stated with a disclaimer that you are religious? Because there's nothing in the post that indicates otherwise.

I've struggled with faith for a long time. It isn't a fad. Good night.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: CatsCatsCats on July 08, 2017, 02:11:34 AM
See, I can totally get behind and understand using Christianity as view point to understand humanity like what I just read in QoI's post. I truly believe every single person has goodness in them, and those who aren't showing it have turned in some way from a truth in themselves. Call that the Holy Spirit? Fine, I'm with you, it has many names  :doge

Read Mere Christianity. Some of his ideas and stuff are old because it's such an old book, but very, very relevant. Basically, the idea is that this goodness comes from God. Which is why Christianity argues that God is love or all good. It makes the gospels even greater for it. Humanity recognizes how wrong it is. Peter betrays Jesus three times in one night and he was the most loyal of Apostles. Man is incomplete, because man is broken. And only God can help us achieve wholeness.

That is the Christian perspective.

Yup and you definitely lose me hard with the judgement and guilt inherent to Christianity, I've been down that road
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 08, 2017, 02:16:50 AM
That's fine. I don't really find it that bad these days. Don't worry about judgement.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 08, 2017, 02:35:01 AM
https://www.wordonfire.org/resources/blog/why-atheists-change-their-mind-8-common-factors/4729/

Good article I read months back.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: benjipwns on July 08, 2017, 02:41:24 AM
i haven't read the article yet but i enjoyed how it starts certainly:
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Here are eight common factors that lead atheists to change their minds about God:

Reasonable atheists eventually become theists because they are reasonable; and furthermore, because they are honest. They are willing to follow the evidence wherever it leads; and in many cases the evidence comes to the atheist most coherently and well-presented through the writings of believers in God.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 08, 2017, 02:56:13 AM
I really do not need religion to be whole, or some kind of salvation (from what?)

Also how is it arrogant to say and think religious people have a weakness, you say yourself man has a hole that only God can fill. That is a weakness.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: benjipwns on July 08, 2017, 03:29:06 AM
I think I may be misunderstanding your reason for linking as I didn't read that argument up above (which I probably should instead of just going off of this link since it's probably repeating things already said by multiple people), but I don't understand this article's thesis at all really, so some people changed their minds? This kind of stuff isn't exactly the strongest case making for converting is it? It's reads like he's arguing that these are signs of an appeal to authority but that's okay because the authority is correct.
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Author Karen Edmisten admits on her blog:

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“I once thought I’d be a lifelong atheist. Then I became desperately unhappy, read up on philosophy and various religions (while assiduously avoiding Christianity), and waited for something to make sense. I was initially  appalled when Christianity began to look  like the sensible thing, surprised when I wanted to be baptized, and stunned that I ended up a Catholic.”

Dr. Holly Ordway, author of Not God’s Type: An Atheist Academic Lays Down Her Arms, describes the consequences of reading great, intelligent Christian writers:

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“I found that my favorite authors were men and women of deep Christian faith. C.S. Lewis and J.R.R. Tolkien above all; and then the poets: Gerard Manley Hopkins, George Herbert, John Donne, and others. Their work was unsettling to my atheist convictions…”
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Similarly, renowned sci-fi author John C. Wright distinctly recalls a prayer he said as an adamant atheist:

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“I prayed. ‘Dear God, I know… that you do not exist. Nonetheless, as a scholar, I am forced to entertain the hypothetical possibility that I am mistaken. So just in case I am mistaken, please reveal yourself to me in some fashion that will prove your case. If you do not answer, I can safely assume that either you do not care whether I believe in you, or that you have no power to produce evidence to persuade me…If you do not exist, this prayer is merely words in the air, and I lose nothing but a bit of my dignity. Thanking you in advance for your kind cooperation in this matter, John Wright.'”

Wright soon received the answer (and effect) he did not expect:

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“Something from beyond the reach of time and space, more fundamental than reality, reached across the universe and broke into my soul and changed me…I was altered down to the root of my being…It was like falling in love.”
Wright was welcomed into the Catholic Church at Easter in 2008.
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Philosopher Dr. Ed Feser, in his article, The Road From Atheism, recounts the shocking effectof opening himself to the arguments for the existence of God:

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“As I taught and thought about the arguments for God’s existence, and in particular the cosmological argument, I went from thinking “These arguments are no good” to thinking “These arguments are a little better than they are given credit for” and then to “These arguments are actually kind of interesting.”  Eventually it hit me: “Oh my goodness, these arguments are right after all!”

Feser concludes:

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“Speaking for myself, anyway, I can say this much.  When I was an undergrad I came across the saying that learning a little philosophy leads you away from God, but learning a lot of philosophy leads you back.  As a young man who had learned a little philosophy, I scoffed.  But in later years and at least in my own case, I would come to see that it’s true.”
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As Dr. Peter Kreeft has pointed out, no person would see a hut on a beach and conclude that it must have randomly assembled itself by some random natural process, void of an intelligent designer. Its order necessitates a designer. Thus if this “beach hut analogy” is true, how much more should we believe in an Intelligent Designer behind the vastly more complex and ordered universe and the precise physical laws that govern it (click here for William Lane Craig’s argument for the fine-tuning of the universe).

Flew continues in his exposition on why he changed his mind about God:

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“The second was my own insight that the integrated complexity of life itself—which is far more complex than the physical Universe—can only be explained in terms of an Intelligent Source. I believe that the origin of life and reproduction simply cannot be explained from a biological standpoint . . . The difference between life and non-life, it became apparent to me, was ontological and not chemical. The best confirmation of this radical gulf is Richard Dawkins’ comical effort to argue in The God Delusion that the origin of life can be attributed to a “lucky chance.” If that’s the best argument you have, then the game is over. No, I did not hear a Voice. It was the evidence itself that led me to this conclusion.”

Parents often describe their experience of procreation as “a miracle,” regardless of their religious background or philosophical worldview. Intuitively, they seem to accept that there is something deeply mysterious and transcendent at work in the bringing forth (and sustenance) of new human life. Flew also was able to realize (after a lifetime of study and reflection) that there could be no merely natural explanation for life in the universe.
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The great theologian, Hans Urs von Balthasar, wrote:

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“Beauty is the word that shall be our first. Beauty is the last thing which the thinking intellect dares to approach, since only it dances as an uncontained splendour around the double constellation of the true and the good and their inseparable relation to one another.”
Father von Balthasar held strong to the notion that to lead non-believers to belief in God we must begin with the beautiful.

Dr. Peter Kreeft calls this the Argument from Aesthetic Experience. The Boston College philosopher testifies that he knows of several former atheists who came to a belief in God based on this argument (for more from Dr. Kreeft, see his Twenty Arguments For The Existence Of God).

In classic Kreeftian fashion, he puts forward the argument in the following way:

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“There is the music of Johann Sebastian Bach.
Therefore there must be a God.

You either see this one or you don’t.”
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Is...is...this man my arch-nemesis?
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Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 08, 2017, 03:30:09 AM
Look Himu I understand that youve been through a lot and are in need of some handle to hold on to, and that thing is religion, thats why youve been through 3 already. Religion is a psychological coping mechanism.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: jakefromstatefarm on July 08, 2017, 03:55:58 AM
or some kind of salvation (from what?)
from man's fallen state of nature, the problem of evil, suffering, and death; broadly speaking
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Raist on July 08, 2017, 06:57:30 AM
I understand that's how they view religion and a religious person, but its an very naive view.

Why do you feel that way?

Because of what I've read, learned, experienced and processed about the world. I'd say the first mistake in that view is how it doesn't really entertain the idea that religion may work on a complex and important level for human beings. It's just too simple a view of human beings in regard to our place as social creature and dominant creature. I'd argue that religion is an evolutionary adaptation of human beings that is not just a temporal phase but a toolset of survival and success.

I tried to explain some of this via my comment in reply to Wraith about the importance of faith to human society, and that the faith must be backed by healthy religion to have a good society. Nobody seemed interested in that though.

There is also debate about whether to have morals we must have had religion or whether religion is required still to have morality. You assume you can just have a sense of good and bad without religion as if those concepts weren't developed over thousands of years and rooted in the ways of religious thinking so that religious thinking may be required to create them. You also have to see the difference between morals and ethics, and the process that leads to both. Morals and ethics are not the same, at least not in my view. Morals can be handed out by a state. Laws are a type of moral, but it has been legal and illegal in the US to own slaves. I say that to point out that ones morals can be wrong. So morals change and are subject to the acceptance and adaptation of the populace. Ethics are less temporal if temporal at all. They don't change as much as they grow and refine. Ethics are principles that lead to finding good from bad. Ethics are doing whats right even when you could get away with doing wrong, even when people around tell you tell you its not wrong or even when the current morals disagree with your inner sense of right from wrong. Morals are a passive experience and ethics are the active experience.

Religion operates in an organized way as a passive moral experience, but religion on a personal sense should operate as an active habit.

I linked some Peterson videos. He is currently knee deep in exploring this stuff and has a series of 2 hour lectures online for free. I recommended Tolstoy's Confessions earlier in the thread to Queen. You have to understand that liberal values, the civil rights movement and all that is rooted in religious thinking. If you think you can completely divorce that and end up with the rules 'as we have known them now', and continue to be a good person then I would point to that as naive. Tolstoy's work influenced Ghandi and MLK, two big figures behind many of the more respected views we have today. In Tolstoy's work, one of the most vital things he does is pointing out how we look at the outside shell of a thing and think that is the thing itself, so that if we just change or litigate against that outer representation then we change the whole thing itself. This is especially true of how we treat ideas and morals. We then make the mistake of thinking if we just change the a rule then we change the person in violation of the rule. That's not how humans work. We get thoughts and act on thoughts. True change only comes from a change in thinking, and that change only comes from an active self-examination.

Maybe I'm getting off track, but let's just say this is my area of interest. I am watching video of German reporters take pictures of other reporters, calling them identitarians and fascists, and then sending that to ANTIFA. ANTIFA then goes to beat those people up and tell them not to return, but the journalists return, get beaten up and told if they return again they will be killed. ANTIFA is acting morally according to their morals and the police doesn't interfere. They are morals without a religion but with religion. Someone took healthy religion out of their lives and this nastiness replaced it because they are still religious in some nature. It's very hard to pry the nature of religion out of human. They just don't have anything healthy to tie it to.


But that was precisely part of Puppy's argument. The Moral argument for religion is shaky at best, counter-productive at worst. Because people who will argue that you can't have morality unless you're a deeply religious person are essentially telling you that if not for religion, they'd be pieces of shit. From a non-religious perspective, that's extremely ironical. "I have the moral high ground, which I wouldn't if not for this book over there dictating what I should or shouldn't do".

Religion as a pre-requisite for morality is just an added, useless layer. Not only that, but it leads to all sorts of double standards. "This and that is bad. Yeah OK well god or his followers did some of that, but he's above it so he was right to ask stuff like that from his followers." So what doe it say about the morality of a being who supposedly is outside the limits of his own standards for it? If absolute, "true" morality can only come from god shouldn't he be bound by that absolute gold standard? Can "do as I say, not as I do" be compatible with a truly moral behaviour?

It's not like the bible came up with groundbreaking ideas. Remove religion from the equation. Wouldn't you expect a society to outlaw stuff like murder and theft to be able to have an ounce of stability? There are perfectly valid evolutionary explanations for what we have labeled as "morality".
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Rufus on July 08, 2017, 11:52:31 AM
or some kind of salvation (from what?)
from man's fallen state of nature, the problem of evil, suffering, and death; broadly speaking
The first two of which seems like axioms that came with religion. In a selling you the disease before the medicine kind of way. Definitely the first one. Though I admit I'm ignorant on the details.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 08, 2017, 12:40:36 PM
The problem of evil is a philosophical point. It isn't an inherently religious point. It's the argument of,"if God exists why is there evil? Why is there cancer?" It isn't religious because religion generally explains why evil exists. Problem of evil isn't a problem for religion. It's arguable that the problem of evil came before religion. We don't know.

If you read my large post above I tackle this briefly. Problem of evil has been argued by philosophers and great minds for thousands of years. It's a very good question and perhaps the best (IMO only) argument against a God. However, it isn't the rational question atheists think it is. It is purely emotional. It is the highlight of Epicurus' delemma.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 08, 2017, 12:59:07 PM
I think I may be misunderstanding your reason for linking as I didn't read that argument up above (which I probably should instead of just going off of this link since it's probably repeating things already said by multiple people), but I don't understand this article's thesis at all really, so some people changed their minds? This kind of stuff isn't exactly the strongest case making for converting is it? It's reads like he's arguing that these are signs of an appeal to authority but that's okay because the authority is correct.

I just posted it cuz I like it. The argument is to help the former atheist now Christian self reflect and gather more reading material. It's also interesting to read people's ideas change. I agree that the Karen lady is a bit off the her rocker.

Look Himu I understand that youve been through a lot and are in need of some handle to hold on to, and that thing is religion, thats why youve been through 3 already. Religion is a psychological coping mechanism.

:beli

I'm going to assume you haven't read the reddit post I linked earlier. Thinking religion purely an emotional crutch is insulting. Emotion is what certainly brought me to Christ. I didn't have an answer as to why I felt loved every timed I prayed in an adoration room. But emotions don't last and chasing emotions is the death of faith. What happens when you that feeling of love disappears (and it will)? A theist without knowledge would lose all faith. What is increasing my faith (besides prayer of course), is intellect. Notably, philosophy. I have examined both atheistic and theistic viewpoints and came in the corner for theism in the end. It was not a decision I took lightly and it isn't a crutch. either. Like I said in my post, is it really a crutch to join a church where I'm not allowed to get married? :beli

Please read this and inform yourself. What made me believe in religion was philosophy and intellect, as my posts on this page should hopefully show you. Not emotion.

https://www.reddit.com/r/Christianity/comments/68ohks/from_staunch_atheism_to_searching/
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: CatsCatsCats on July 08, 2017, 01:37:57 PM
For me, I can understand calling organized religion a crutch because to me a relationship with the greater forces of reality, the universe, Brahman, the Trinity, whatever name you want to apply to it -- is intensely personal and introspective and these massive organized groups being massively organized have the tendency to "one size fits all" spirituality and other aspects of them that seek to recruit to sustain themselves and these needs in my view distort them

But the other side of the coin, I definitely can see how QoI looks at Lager's statement and sees someone dead to higher possibilities i.e. naive 
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: mormapope on July 08, 2017, 01:53:06 PM
Id say gay relationships are usuallly way more healthy and sustainable than straight ones. Even issues of incompatibility are different id say.

It feels like there's a lot more trust or honesty outright as well. Its very natural and just for a woman to judge or guage a man's intentions.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Rufus on July 08, 2017, 01:53:38 PM
The problem of evil is a philosophical point. It isn't an inherently religious point. It's the argument of,"if God exists why is there evil? Why is there cancer?" It isn't religious because religion generally explains why evil exists. Problem of evil isn't a problem for religion. It's arguable that the problem of evil came before religion. We don't know.

If you read my large post above I tackle this briefly. Problem of evil has been argued by philosophers and great minds for thousands of years. It's a very good question and perhaps the best (IMO only) argument against a God. However, it isn't the rational question atheists think it is. It is purely emotional. It is the highlight of Epicurus' delemma.
I know about Epicurus, but not as an argument for god. At least not for an omnipotent, omniscient and omnibenevolent god. Hence my confusion.

For me, I can understand calling organized religion a crutch because to me a relationship with the greater forces of reality, the universe, Brahman, the Trinity, whatever name you want to apply to it -- is intensely personal and introspective and these massive organized groups being massively organized have the tendency to "one size fits all" spirituality and other aspects of them that seek to recruit to sustain themselves and these needs in my view distort them

But the other side of the coin, I definitely can see how QoI looks at Lager's statement and sees someone dead to higher possibilities i.e. naive 
I think it's a hell of a lot more cynical than it is naive.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: CatsCatsCats on July 08, 2017, 01:59:27 PM
Fair, cynical is a better word choice
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 08, 2017, 02:22:33 PM
I never argued the problem for God in my post.

However there's certainly a case to be made for it.

A couple of philosophical arguments go like this:

1) Most (all?) evil done on Earth is done by humankind. Animals are just trying to survive for the most part, and eat each other to achieve this. But man is different. Man does most evil against man. In animals, usually their problems are predators, not each other. Man has the capacity for free will. But man chooses to do evil to their fellow human. God gave us free will. God doesn't interfere because He gave us that gift and gave us the ability to choose. Since God is not of material but exists outside of the material, God does not interact with us in a physical manner. Since God is not of the material, God will not descend to Earth to correct wrongs every time some human does something awful. And since all man sins and has the capacity for evil, it would be unlawful to do this. So God gives us a choice and humans do not live up to our, nor God's, standard. Let's be real. If human beings wanted to solve world hunger, we would. There's enough food and money in the world right now for us to achieve this. Why do we allow the poor to starve? Because man is broken. We could have had alternative fuel decades ago but man chose to stick with fossil fuels, why? Greed, power, fear of change. Because man is incomplete. Now we are facing climate change. Another man made evil, which will result in unstable weather patterns. Will we blame God for that too?

2. The harder answer. Evil exists because good exists. Without evil we would never have the capacity for good because we wouldn't know what evil even is. Man grows through struggle. It's hard to accept, but true. We've all been through hardship. Wars happen, but they allow actions of true goodness to shine in a world of darkness. Without evil how could we possibly achieve free will? If there isn't evil, good doesn't exist either. How could we choose? If we can't choose, we are just dolls and no different from animals. And where there's badness, there's often goodness. For example, we have natural disasters that harm people. It sucks that a tornado landed, but without thermodynamics the tornado wouldn't exist. Without thermodynamics we wouldn't have jet engines for example. But we also wouldn't have things that kill people like tornadoes. But I think all of us agree that tornadoes are worth keeping around if we get things like jet propulsion out of it. God likely sees it similarly. Because there is evil, there must also be an infinite good. And this infinite good is God. Essentially, evil allows human not only a choice, but also an opportunity to grow.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: benjipwns on July 08, 2017, 02:56:09 PM
I think there's a problem with applying motives to natural unthinking forces and then using as it an example to prove something regarding the actions of something capable of determining and deciding regarding both motive and morality.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: etiolate on July 08, 2017, 03:10:22 PM
Etoilet: We are getting to semantics. To me, all religion by definition is organized. When someone says unorganized religion I think that's more akin to spirituality. Which I think most people would be OK with.

That's not exactly it either. I am talking about the way religion behaves in our social structure. I brought up social justice earlier and how it behaves like a religion within the people. It has true believers, and purges what it incorrectly sees as wrongs. That's not spirituality. When the Soviets tried to wipe out religion, they essentially had to apply the absolute faith towards belief in a idealistic Communism. The public works of Soviets are devotions to the glorification of a god they called Communism. And boy did they love purging people.

This is why I said you can't vacate religion.

Spirituality is something different. It is an element within established religions that people try to hang on to and pry out of religion as though it exists in a worthwhile manner on its own. I am not so sure spirituality works so well without religion.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: CatsCatsCats on July 08, 2017, 03:45:36 PM
I don't really know how to approach you in these conversations, Etiolate, your reasoning shows to me a rigidity in thought and I don't know how to adequately show it back to you or engage with it
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 08, 2017, 04:09:26 PM
I think I understand what he's saying.

Is this article a good summation, Etiolate?

http://ideas.time.com/2013/03/21/viewpoint-the-problem-with-being-spiritual-but-not-religious/

Quote
Spirituality is an emotion. Religion is an obligation. Spirituality soothes. Religion mobilizes. Spirituality is satisfied with itself. Religion is dissatisfied with the world. Religions create aid organizations; as Nicholas Kristof pointed out in a column in the New York Times two years ago: the largest U.S.-based international relief and development organization is not Save the Children or Care, it’s World Vision, a Seattle-based Christian group.

Also a summation of my argument that spirituality without structure (religion) is probably not going to foster any lasting change.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 08, 2017, 05:11:07 PM
Were on page 7 and I still have no clue what religion could offer

Feel happy when praying? I can take a nap
Moral code freeing me of thinking? Ill make my own judgements not based on constantely shifting interpretations of ancient texts
Belonging? Ill watch a football game

I don't see it at all
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Madrun Badrun on July 08, 2017, 05:23:02 PM
Clearly you are neither a reasonable nor honest atheist.  I'll pray for you though.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 08, 2017, 05:32:18 PM
Clearly you are neither a reasonable nor honest atheist.  I'll pray for you though.

You are absolutely right. He isn't an honest or reasonable atheist because reasonable atheists understand there is value in religion, they just reject it. I know atheists who still go to church because they find value in it. Lager is more than an atheist; he is an anti-theist. And thus, unreasonable.

Also, you're taking benji's quote out of context. Benji neglected, perhaps on purpose, to include the italicized are. The author isn't saying they're former atheists, thus making them reasonable people. He's saying these atheists are just reasonable people and it isn't unreasonable to be religious.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Atramental on July 08, 2017, 05:32:24 PM
Fun fact: I felt more "spiritual/closer to the divine aspect of the universe" after smoking weed than I ever did sitting in church and going to Christian schools during most of my childhood and my adolescence.  :doge



Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Madrun Badrun on July 08, 2017, 05:33:37 PM
Also when Christians go to heaven, what will replace their sense of purpose after having lost their moral superiority to drive them?  Or do you think they will still just talk about how they tried to warn the Indian dude that delivered their lamb roti every Thursday night?
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: etiolate on July 08, 2017, 05:38:07 PM
I don't really know how to approach you in these conversations, Etiolate, your reasoning shows to me a rigidity in thought and I don't know how to adequately show it back to you or engage with it

You keep using words like rigidity and nostalgia for reasons I cannot figure out.

Do you understand what I mean by the way social justice groups or cults behave in a religious manner? The puritanism of it? How much it relies on belief? I am just trying to explain what I am getting at with regards to the concept of religion. Why I said there's healthy religion and unhealthy religion.


I think I understand what he's saying.

Is this article a good summation, Etiolate?

http://ideas.time.com/2013/03/21/viewpoint-the-problem-with-being-spiritual-but-not-religious/

Quote
Spirituality is an emotion. Religion is an obligation. Spirituality soothes. Religion mobilizes. Spirituality is satisfied with itself. Religion is dissatisfied with the world. Religions create aid organizations; as Nicholas Kristof pointed out in a column in the New York Times two years ago: the largest U.S.-based international relief and development organization is not Save the Children or Care, it’s World Vision, a Seattle-based Christian group.

Also a summation of my argument that spirituality without structure (religion) is probably not going to foster any lasting change.


I think that gets to the nature of spirituality. First, there's very spiritual and gnostic forms of old religions. They are into the spirituality of the experience. The deprivation of certain monk traditions or the litany of poems and dancing in a Rumi inspired sect. Another way to state the difference is how inward focused the nature of the thing may be. I can be very spiritual, but that's very much an inward focused experience that can sometimes be an attempt to escape the outside factors.

Outside of religion: Hallucinogens are a spiritual experience for some. Meditation can be a part of spirituality, but that doesn't really connect the singular person to the rest of humanity or the world. Sometimes spirituality is a coping mechanism, and here you have people who think of religion as a coping mechanism and thus think spirituality is a good replacement.

So Spirituality is opposed to my atheist and agnostic examples of religion, Communist idealism, ethnic nationalism, or Social Studies Warriors, you see actions that deal with the rest of the world adn seek change. So that reflects the idea of religion being unhappy with the world.

I'd say healthy religion is inward and outward. Spirituality is so inward that it sometimes skips on its the issue of duality or just outright rejects it (which you can make the claim that someone like Marshall Rosenberg does), and that can be very destructive.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 08, 2017, 05:38:08 PM
Fun fact: I felt more "spiritual/closer to the divine aspect of the universe" after smoking weed than I ever did sitting in church and going to Christian schools during most of my childhood and my adolescence.  :doge

What kind of church?
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 08, 2017, 05:54:30 PM
Also when Christians go to heaven, what will replace their sense of purpose after having lost their moral superiority to drive them?  Or do you think they will still just talk about how they tried to warn the Indian dude that delivered their lamb roti every Thursday night?

This is embarassing and I'm embarrassed for you.

This page. This is what the anti-theists of the bore have? "If I want community I'll watch a football game?"

Some atheists are fine. They came to their own conclusions. But anti-theists are on a whole different level and almost universally argue simplistic and utterly shallow critiques. It's really hard to respect, even when I was atheist. Then again, I was an agnostic atheist and therefore far more willing to accept or talk about different viewpoints. But gnostic atheists, girllllll I tell ya.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Atramental on July 08, 2017, 05:55:32 PM
Nondenominational protestant. And I've been to a catholic churches as well.

I didn't resonate with either.

It all felt stale and hollow to me. Which was frustrating since I would always hear how "charged" other people felt when they went to church/worshipped god. If anything it was all draining to me. Probably a big reason why I ended up losing my shit at the end of high school and into college at BJU.

Weed tho... I was seeing/feeling a divine and golden glow that only gets hinted at when people say they experienced a divine revelation.  :lawd






Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on July 08, 2017, 05:55:52 PM
Weed Church :ohyou
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on July 08, 2017, 05:57:44 PM
Clearly you are neither a reasonable nor honest atheist.  I'll pray for you though.

You are absolutely right. He isn't an honest or reasonable atheist because reasonable atheists understand there is value in religion, they just reject it. I know atheists who still go to church because they find value in it. Lager is more than an atheist; he is an anti-theist. And thus, unreasonable.

Also, you're taking benji's quote out of context. Benji neglected, perhaps on purpose, to include the italicized are. The author isn't saying they're former atheists, thus making them reasonable people. He's saying these atheists are just reasonable people and it isn't unreasonable to be religious.
Whoa, whoa, whoa. Let's not confuse Lager's nihilism for anti-theism.
Anti-theism takes effort.
 :ufup
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 08, 2017, 05:57:54 PM
What did you do when you went to a Catholic Church? Did you pray? Honestly, I don't suggest going to mass at first. Try going to the adoration room and praying/meditating. Ask for God to open your heart.

Non denominational Protestant. *stares into the wind like an anime character* I'm so sorry.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Atramental on July 08, 2017, 06:04:00 PM
What did you do when you went to a Catholic Church? Did you pray? Honestly, I don't suggest going to mass at first. Try going to the adoration room and praying/meditating. Ask for God to open your heart.

Non denominational Protestant. *stares into the wind like an anime character* I'm so sorry.
Himu. I did all of that shit. It seems like you're not liking the answers I and others are giving you because they are too "base" and "simplistic". Because they don't fit the explanations of the theologians and apologists you've read and listened to.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Madrun Badrun on July 08, 2017, 06:08:11 PM
Also when Christians go to heaven, what will replace their sense of purpose after having lost their moral superiority to drive them?  Or do you think they will still just talk about how they tried to warn the Indian dude that delivered their lamb roti every Thursday night?

This is embarassing and I'm embarrassed for you.

This page. This is what the anti-theists of the bore have? "If I want community I'll watch a football game?"

Some atheists are fine. They came to their own conclusions. But anti-theists are on a whole different level and almost universally argue simplistic and utterly shallow critiques. It's really hard to respect, even when I was atheist. Then again, I was an agnostic atheist and therefore far more willing to accept or talk about different viewpoints. But gnostic atheists, girllllll I tell ya.

who said I was anti-theist?  My problem isn't Christianity, and never has been Christianity. It's just the people who worship Christ. 
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: jakefromstatefarm on July 08, 2017, 06:12:52 PM
or some kind of salvation (from what?)
from man's fallen state of nature, the problem of evil, suffering, and death; broadly speaking
The first two of which seems like axioms that came with religion. In a selling you the disease before the medicine kind of way. Definitely the first one. Though I admit I'm ignorant on the details.
no that's fair, I'm specifically giving the account that you'd find in most branches in Christianity, I should've been more clear. the first ones often tied up with an Augustinian view of man as corruptible, weak, and inherently sinful; that's definitely not everyone's cup of tea nowadays. Historically, its most common to see evil defined as the privation of good, i.e., it doesn't hold any positive content in its own right. it's the result of the rupture between God and his creation and this rupture is the thing obscuring mankinds relationship with god -it renders infinite divinity incomprehensible. For a good take on it: David Bentley Hart. (https://www.firstthings.com/web-exclusives/2010/01/tsunami-and-theodicy)

For why someone might find generic theism compelling: some arguments from contingency, and some objections to them (https://plato.stanford.edu/entries/cosmological-argument/).
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 08, 2017, 06:13:50 PM
What did you do when you went to a Catholic Church? Did you pray? Honestly, I don't suggest going to mass at first. Try going to the adoration room and praying/meditating. Ask for God to open your heart.

Non denominational Protestant. *stares into the wind like an anime character* I'm so sorry.
Himu. I did all of that shit. It seems like you're not liking the answers I and others are giving you because they are too "base" and "simplistic". Because they don't fit the explanations of the theologians and apologists you've read and listened to.

Nope. It's because I know from personal experience that I and other former atheists often, while not necessarily ignorant of religion - as I know you're not - didn't give it as much a chance as we thought we did? And when I said I tried in the past I realized that my attempts weren't really fully genuine? I realize it's projecting. But I'm suggesting it only because I want you to feel that charge. For a long time I was jealous of theists. I wanted to believe too. I'm proposing maybe there's an angle you missed that can help you believe. Maybe I'm wrong about it but I'm only doing it out of good will. I'm not saying you DIDN'T give it your all. But maybe, just maybe, there's something you missed? Personally, I didn't come to faith until my heart was open to it. At that point I was pure agnostic. So maybe that's what it takes. I don't know.

This is also why I asked what church. My church just had tradition but no spirit. It truly fit the tradition as nostalgia that Ronito described. It was and is (still) a spiritually dead church. A lot of protestanism doesn't work for me as well. I can't stand low churches, I can't stand mega churches, but high churches. That's my ticket. I couldn't stand the selfish "if we just believe in God no matter what our actions are we'll be saved" shallow ticket to heaven  a lot of Protestants profess. It's one of my main draws to Catholicism in that faith is represented by action. So I don't know your history. But there's a lot to consider. I don't know if you believed once saved always saved (ugh) or not. So I'm trying to consider it and offer alternatives to Christian thought.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on July 08, 2017, 06:18:23 PM
People have a way of finding what it is they're actively looking for.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Atramental on July 08, 2017, 06:22:33 PM
Ugh...

When people start accusing me of not "feeling/doing the right spiritual stuff" that's when I know it's my time to leave.

Only I and I alone can say what feels legitimate to me.

You're trying to cram every human "spiritual" experience into one singular experience (yours) and that is absolutely ridiculous to me.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Raist on July 08, 2017, 06:23:22 PM
People have a way of finding what it is they're actively looking for.

Paging Bono.


Ugh...

When people start accusing me of not "feeling/doing the right spiritual stuff" that's when I know it's my time to leave.

Only I and I alone can say what feels legitimate to me.

You're trying to cram every human "spiritual" experience into one singular experience (yours) and that is absolutely ridiculous to me.

You just need to git gud at god.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 08, 2017, 06:24:09 PM
That's certainly a way to interpret my post.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Atramental on July 08, 2017, 06:29:01 PM
Yep.

Well I'm gonna smoke some weed and eat Vietnamese food. Ta-ta.  :doge
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Madrun Badrun on July 08, 2017, 06:30:06 PM
You just need to git gud at god.

Its not uncommon to try out a few different classes before you do your soul level 1 run. 
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: TVC15 on July 08, 2017, 07:17:16 PM
Yep.

Well I'm gonna smoke some weed and eat Vietnamese food. Ta-ta.  :doge

I hope you're one of those good vaporizer people and not one of those papers/blunts people that are doing it wrong.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 08, 2017, 08:41:53 PM
I think there's a problem with applying motives to natural unthinking forces and then using as it an example to prove something regarding the actions of something capable of determining and deciding regarding both motive and morality.

That's fair. But it's also endemic to the religion. My favorite example is Jesus' crucifixion and perhaps the final 24 hours of his life. The fact that he prayed alone in the forest while the people closest to him couldn't stay awake and keep him company. Judas' betrayal. Peter's denial. The actions of the Romans. The behavior of the Pharisees. The murder of Jesus. Corruption. Jealousy. Murder. Power. Hate. All of human depravity is on display in the Gospel. From humanities worst (above examples) to its best (Roman soldier giving Jesus something to drink as he's on the cross, the traveling man who helps lift the cross for Jesus, John protecting Mary during the depravity). All I'm saying is that where there's evil, there's a capacity for good. I'm not sure what part of my post you specifically disagree with. I wish you could quote it.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 08, 2017, 08:52:40 PM
or some kind of salvation (from what?)
from man's fallen state of nature, the problem of evil, suffering, and death; broadly speaking
The first two of which seems like axioms that came with religion. In a selling you the disease before the medicine kind of way. Definitely the first one. Though I admit I'm ignorant on the details.
no that's fair, I'm specifically giving the account that you'd find in most branches in Christianity, I should've been more clear. the first ones often tied up with an Augustinian view of man as corruptible, weak, and inherently sinful; that's definitely not everyone's cup of tea nowadays. Historically, its most common to see evil defined as the privation of good, i.e., it doesn't hold any positive content in its own right. it's the result of the rupture between God and his creation and this rupture is the thing obscuring mankinds relationship with god -it renders infinite divinity incomprehensible. For a good take on it: David Bentley Hart. (https://www.firstthings.com/web-exclusives/2010/01/tsunami-and-theodicy)

For why someone might find generic theism compelling: some arguments from contingency, and some objections to them (https://plato.stanford.edu/entries/cosmological-argument/).

Still getting down into the meat of Aquinas and Plato although I know the basic arguments. Thanks for this.

I really do not need religion to be whole, or some kind of salvation (from what?)

Also how is it arrogant to say and think religious people have a weakness, you say yourself man has a hole that only God can fill. That is a weakness.

How is it weakness? The hole man has is filled all sorts of awfulness. Are you saying filling the hole with power, lust, hate, or greed is strength? Because that is the opposite of weakness. Man fills the hole with something in the end. It might even be something positive, like family. But family dies. As the basic Buddhist mantra presents,"life is suffering." And our main purpose is to fill that hole.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Atramental on July 08, 2017, 09:05:44 PM
edit: I'll keep my tasteless jokes elsewhere  :doge
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on July 08, 2017, 09:14:45 PM
What? What joke could you make about a man need for a hole that needs filling?
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Atramental on July 08, 2017, 09:16:55 PM
Now that I'm on the outside looking in, there sure is a lot of implied homo-eroticism/sexual innuendo in Christian texts and teachings.   :doge
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 08, 2017, 09:19:24 PM
Now that I'm on the outside looking in, there sure is a lot of implied homo-eroticism/sexual innuendo in Christian texts and teachings.   :doge

It truly is glorious. :rejoice
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on July 08, 2017, 09:20:06 PM
Now that I'm on the outside looking in, there sure is a lot of implied homo-eroticism/sexual innuendo in Christian texts and teachings.   :doge
I found the same, but not just in Christian texts, but all kinds of texts from different religions.
Then I realized that, nope, that was just me :brazilcry

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Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 08, 2017, 09:29:16 PM
Jake: thoughts on arguments against the argument of contingency?

I find it interesting how Christianity, Taoism, and Buddhism have similar ideas on contingency.

https://youtu.be/W_Yjue8MXAI

https://youtu.be/bdjjqFSEJ_Y
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: CatsCatsCats on July 08, 2017, 11:08:11 PM
I genuinely would sit down and smoke a joint and discuss this in person with any of you. I don't think I'm "right" and am very interested in hearing what other people truly believe
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: CatsCatsCats on July 08, 2017, 11:12:41 PM
I don't really know how to approach you in these conversations, Etiolate, your reasoning shows to me a rigidity in thought and I don't know how to adequately show it back to you or engage with it

You keep using words like rigidity and nostalgia for reasons I cannot figure out.

Do you understand what I mean by the way social justice groups or cults behave in a religious manner? The puritanism of it? How much it relies on belief? I am just trying to explain what I am getting at with regards to the concept of religion. Why I said there's healthy religion and unhealthy religion.


I think I understand what he's saying.

Is this article a good summation, Etiolate?

http://ideas.time.com/2013/03/21/viewpoint-the-problem-with-being-spiritual-but-not-religious/

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Spirituality is an emotion. Religion is an obligation. Spirituality soothes. Religion mobilizes. Spirituality is satisfied with itself. Religion is dissatisfied with the world. Religions create aid organizations; as Nicholas Kristof pointed out in a column in the New York Times two years ago: the largest U.S.-based international relief and development organization is not Save the Children or Care, it’s World Vision, a Seattle-based Christian group.

Also a summation of my argument that spirituality without structure (religion) is probably not going to foster any lasting change.


I think that gets to the nature of spirituality. First, there's very spiritual and gnostic forms of old religions. They are into the spirituality of the experience. The deprivation of certain monk traditions or the litany of poems and dancing in a Rumi inspired sect. Another way to state the difference is how inward focused the nature of the thing may be. I can be very spiritual, but that's very much an inward focused experience that can sometimes be an attempt to escape the outside factors.

Outside of religion: Hallucinogens are a spiritual experience for some. Meditation can be a part of spirituality, but that doesn't really connect the singular person to the rest of humanity or the world. Sometimes spirituality is a coping mechanism, and here you have people who think of religion as a coping mechanism and thus think spirituality is a good replacement.

So Spirituality is opposed to my atheist and agnostic examples of religion, Communist idealism, ethnic nationalism, or Social Studies Warriors, you see actions that deal with the rest of the world adn seek change. So that reflects the idea of religion being unhappy with the world.

I'd say healthy religion is inward and outward. Spirituality is so inward that it sometimes skips on its the issue of duality or just outright rejects it (which you can make the claim that someone like Marshall Rosenberg does), and that can be very destructive.

I wasn't the one saying nostalgia. What I meant by rigidity is I see you coming from one perspective and would love to see you openly examining from others. And if you don't think mushrooms connect you to others / the world, I would argue you haven't done them lol but yes I see what you're getting at and how you're connecting social justice puritanism and belief/religion and how one could set criteria to judge a religion as healthy or unhealthy. I would tweak that a bit and instead of condemning certain religions or manner of thought, say how they are carried out or strategies for implementation can either suit the greater needs of community/people/society or not
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: CatsCatsCats on July 08, 2017, 11:19:38 PM
Also re: rigidity, the way you communicate I guess I'm just interpreting as coming across as you think you know the answers definitively and it doesn't suit my desire to engage in open honest accepting discussion :yeshrug
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 08, 2017, 11:23:14 PM
I have never talked about this stuff high.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: CatsCatsCats on July 08, 2017, 11:31:33 PM
Oh man, that's basically all my wife and I do when super high :lol
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: etiolate on July 08, 2017, 11:32:55 PM
I don't really know how to approach you in these conversations, Etiolate, your reasoning shows to me a rigidity in thought and I don't know how to adequately show it back to you or engage with it

You keep using words like rigidity and nostalgia for reasons I cannot figure out.

Do you understand what I mean by the way social justice groups or cults behave in a religious manner? The puritanism of it? How much it relies on belief? I am just trying to explain what I am getting at with regards to the concept of religion. Why I said there's healthy religion and unhealthy religion.


I think I understand what he's saying.

Is this article a good summation, Etiolate?

http://ideas.time.com/2013/03/21/viewpoint-the-problem-with-being-spiritual-but-not-religious/

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Spirituality is an emotion. Religion is an obligation. Spirituality soothes. Religion mobilizes. Spirituality is satisfied with itself. Religion is dissatisfied with the world. Religions create aid organizations; as Nicholas Kristof pointed out in a column in the New York Times two years ago: the largest U.S.-based international relief and development organization is not Save the Children or Care, it’s World Vision, a Seattle-based Christian group.

Also a summation of my argument that spirituality without structure (religion) is probably not going to foster any lasting change.


I think that gets to the nature of spirituality. First, there's very spiritual and gnostic forms of old religions. They are into the spirituality of the experience. The deprivation of certain monk traditions or the litany of poems and dancing in a Rumi inspired sect. Another way to state the difference is how inward focused the nature of the thing may be. I can be very spiritual, but that's very much an inward focused experience that can sometimes be an attempt to escape the outside factors.

Outside of religion: Hallucinogens are a spiritual experience for some. Meditation can be a part of spirituality, but that doesn't really connect the singular person to the rest of humanity or the world. Sometimes spirituality is a coping mechanism, and here you have people who think of religion as a coping mechanism and thus think spirituality is a good replacement.

So Spirituality is opposed to my atheist and agnostic examples of religion, Communist idealism, ethnic nationalism, or Social Studies Warriors, you see actions that deal with the rest of the world adn seek change. So that reflects the idea of religion being unhappy with the world.

I'd say healthy religion is inward and outward. Spirituality is so inward that it sometimes skips on its the issue of duality or just outright rejects it (which you can make the claim that someone like Marshall Rosenberg does), and that can be very destructive.

I wasn't the one saying nostalgia. What I meant by rigidity is I see you coming from one perspective and would love to see you openly examining from others. And if you don't think mushrooms connect you to others / the world, I would argue you haven't done them lol but yes I see what you're getting at and how you're connecting social justice puritanism and belief/religion and how one could set criteria to judge a religion as healthy or unhealthy. I would tweak that a bit and instead of condemning certain religions or manner of thought, say how they are carried out or strategies for implementation can either suit the greater needs of community/people/society or not

Oh man. Sorry I confused my cat avatars.

I've examined this many ways before. So my response is often "I've been down that road already".

My main goal with much of my posts is pushing the discussion to a level that is where I am getting at. I opened up with saying religion may be an evolutionary adaptation that is a part of us as a species. I thought that would be controversial, but nobody even blinked. From there, I have to see if people are engaging what I'm saying or not. I will be rigid in how I approach this, but that's because I don't find the casual conversations about it all that interesting or new.

I don't aim to be condescending or an asshole. I am not hiding my disinterest in certain discussions though.

Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: CatsCatsCats on July 09, 2017, 12:26:42 AM
Well, I personally don't find it too far fetched to examine religion as evolutionarily advantageous-- one could easily examine a lot of faiths and see how their tenets seem to put humanity's survival and reproduction in the forefront (elevating heterosexual unions, suicide as cardinal sin, pro-life)
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 09, 2017, 01:36:26 AM
A lot of that is historical. There's evidence that the Catholic Church did homosexual unions in the Middle Ages.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 09, 2017, 02:15:33 AM
I'm not even an atheist but an agnostic
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: seagrams hotsauce on July 09, 2017, 03:21:47 AM
Himu, how do you square being trans against the shit Francis has said about gender identity? As someone who's views have been shaped by Catholicism more than any other region I have to say I'm really confused as to why you'd elect the Church as your spiritual center
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 09, 2017, 10:39:10 AM
Francis has personally officiated the marriages of multiple gay and trans people in the church. Francis said he doesn't judge just like Jesus. When a trans man talked to Francis asking, in tears, if he had a place in the church, Francis hugged him and said yes. When it counted, Francis has done amazing things for our community. Regarding gender identity, I don't know. Francis is an old man. I don't expect him to fully get it, and yet he has still treated trans people with compassion.

How do I reconcile being trans and becoming Catholic? A lot of inner strength and faith. For me, Christianity-wise, there's only three real options for me: Catholicism, Orthodox, or Anglican/Lutheran. I've tried em all except Orthodox. Orthodox tends to be too heavily racial due to the church having people's ties to their country identity, so it lacks the "you're worshipping with the help" element of Catholicism. My church has black priests. It has black parishioners. It has white, black, Latino, Asian people there. All worshipping God. One time, there was an Irishman in a kilt and no one batted an eye. So I value that. When I went to Episcopal churches it was mostly just white people, especially old white peoole (incidcating that the church is dying).

There are many within the church that support LGBT people. Most Catholics support marriage equality. Why not just go to an Episcopal church? Because I don't feel anything there. It's okay, but Catholic Churches is where I feel home. Why become Catholic? Because spiritually, I truly feel it's the best church for me and I'm willing to put trust and faith into the church. No one at my church has treated me badly when I told them I was trans. I embraced and told I was loved.

As said, I only have three options. Why? Because I reject the protestanism of my youth with its shallow theology. I reject the mega churches like Lakewood. I reject the churches my aunts go to which are baptist and never take communion. I reject the "church as self help" that is prominent. I hate the figure of their Buddy Christ. I hate the prosperity gospel bullshit. Why Catholic? Because along with the Orthodox Church it's the church that has direct lineage to Jesus and the original apostles. For me, that is legitimacy. For me, it is either that or no Christianity.

Why not go to a more affirming church? Because I'm not going to church to become affirmed. I'm going to praise God and grow spiritually. Furthermore, by existing within the Catholic Church, I can help pave a way for making it easier for LGBT people down the line. That is my sacrifice. A lot of affirming churches aren't necessarily better.

Finally, I fell in love with the church as well as God. I talked about its intellectual history before. I value that. I value the likes of Raphael and Leonardo. I value people like St Therese. I love the saints. I love that every time I go to a Catholic Church I see my savior suffering as he should be to remind me of the reason I'm really here. I love how serious they take the Eucharist. I love the mass. The first mass I went to I cried twice. I could go to a different church. Sure. But it isn't the same for me. It is Catholicism or it is nothing.

http://time.com/3744270/catholic-church-pope-francis-transgender-community/

Pretty good write up here.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 09, 2017, 10:48:47 AM
Another good write up.

http://aqueercalling.com/2014/01/29/what-if-you-went-to-an-open-and-affirming-church/

Although I disagree with the whole "lgbt people should be celibate for life" thing because it's a different kind of conversion therapy and frankly, impossible. It's besides the point, and hopefully you can read this blog post and try to understand the perspective.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: seagrams hotsauce on July 09, 2017, 11:10:36 AM
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Francis has personally officiated the marriages of multiple gay and trans people in the church.

citation needed
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 09, 2017, 11:31:44 AM
I don't have a source, but it's what I hear from some lgbt catholics. That if you go to Francis personally, you may have your marriage accepted by the church.

In any case, let's stop pretending that Francis is a complete shit lord to lgbt people.

http://www.cnn.com/2016/04/08/europe/vatican-pope-family/index.html

Yes, I know I'm not gay but to the church I am.

In any case, as an LGBT Christian it's damned if I do, damned if I don't. I have lost friends with lgbt people after becoming Christian. They refuse to believe that it's possible to be lgbt and christian and have decided to judge me. You know who have been accepting and said you can be lgbt and Catholic? Actual Catholics. LGBT people can be extremely hateful to Christians. While it's understandable, they also have the ability to treat their lgbt christian friends like crap by making assumptions about our person as you have in this thread. We get shit from Christians and we get shit from LGBT people. Might as well live.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: seagrams hotsauce on July 09, 2017, 11:37:42 AM
Joe Biden made headlines when he officiated a gay wedding. The fucking world would explode of the Pope officiated a trans wedding dude. And I'm sorry, but I'm not giving Francis credit for being civil in maintaining the church's homophobia
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 09, 2017, 11:40:11 AM
Could you imagine if the Pope outright came in support of marriage equality? Do you think America is the only Catholic nation? There are some countries with a lot of Catholics where you can die for being LGBT. Saying something as simple as "treat LGBT people with love and respect" is amazing and could be really helpful for the lgbt people living in those countries. I'm not going to judge Francis for not being "perfect".
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: seagrams hotsauce on July 09, 2017, 11:44:19 AM
 I just consider the things Francis has done in opposition of gay rights a lot worse than 'not perfect' Ż\_(ツ)_/Ż
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 09, 2017, 11:53:44 AM
"Your opinion sounds bit impoverished." You don't get how condescending that sounds?

The dude said religion is only for fear and people afraid of death.

its true though, and people that feel lost

Why do you feel that way?

Why do you feel this way? What is religion for you, other than another temporarily thing that revolves in and out of your life as you attempt to fill a hole or find meaning? You've gone from Christian to Buddhist to Muslim to non-denominational Christian in the span of the last few years. Seems to me like it's not working for you. And I don't mean any disrespect but Jesus fucking Christ. You dabble in this shit for a few months, declare yourself an expert, get haughty or passive aggressive, and then drop it after realizing it's not fixing whatever you feel is wrong with you. Sorry if people can't really take you seriously now that you have a new thing to beat us over the head with. 
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 09, 2017, 12:04:35 PM
I was never a non-denominational Christian.

I'm 31. I stopped identifying as Christian when I was 19 or 20 but struggled with it at least since I was 15. At that point I didn't know what i was. I looked into Islam. That was ten years ago. I was an atheist from the age 22 to 31. I was never officially Buddhist and I've never been a non-denom Christian.

TIL over a decade = last few years
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 09, 2017, 01:10:49 PM
I would really like for you to clarify on what exactly I dabbled with for just a few months?

That is true for Islam. But I was an atheist for nearly a decade. If you had bothered to actually want to discuss things any time you made your stupid "atheists are know it alls" agnostic stuff in the gaf thread, you'd realize I was an atheist for years and years. I never dabbled with Buddhism either. I was into Buddhism since I believe 2014. I never really beat anyone over the head with Buddhism and for the most part kept it to myself. During that time I was still atheist. I was going to officially become Buddhist this year by starting on my rakusu. Something I also kept private. Can you clarify what exactly I dabble with for a few months?

Where did you get I was ever non denominational Christian?

Don't worry. I don't expect an answer. Snipe posts without clarification is your thing.

Anyways, talking to Christians, my journey isn't that unusual. Apparently dabbling with or even becoming Buddhism is a rite of passage. :lol

Don't worry though. I won't bring up religion or philosophy again here because of the negative reaction. You can talk to me privately if you want to hash it out about regarding Kant vs Nietszche. But I'm not going to continue this further to allow you to outright lie about me. I'll be keeping it to myself from now on.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 09, 2017, 01:50:54 PM
I'm pretty sure most people here remember every religious phase you've had, and many likely feel the same way. It's not a diss. I just think it's corny that you jump around and feel comfortable declaring yourself an expert. I was indeed wrong about you being non-denom Christian now (because tbh I've only read a few sentences of the posts in this thread, after that first one about feminism). Ah, you're Catholic. Ok.

Does anyone really believe Pope Francis officiated a gay or trans wedding, and if he did does anyone believe it would be "private" and no one would hear about it...except trans and gay people who want to believe the Catholic church gives a fuck about them? You're once again attaching yourself to something and trying to find meaning based on that.

Francis definitely seems to do some good things in various areas, but I don't understand weighing the slight nods he's given to the gay community to equal anything that matters, agenda or policy wise, when the official policy is still "fuck you." This seems like a cynical trick to entice another group of sinners into the Catholic church. Not saying Francis himself is complicit, I'm referring to the segments of the church that target LGBT people. I can't fathom joining an organization that basically thinks I'm trash, a terrible sinner, or mentally ill, or whatever else these people still think in 2017. Even if I found an offshoot that was welcoming...nope. To quote Malcolm X, you're begging entry into a burning house.



Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 09, 2017, 02:09:58 PM
I'm pretty sure most people here remember every religious phase you've had, and many likely feel the same way. It's not a diss. I just think it's corny that you jump around and feel comfortable declaring yourself an expert. I was indeed wrong about you being non-denom Christian now (because tbh I've only read a few sentences of the posts in this thread, after that first one about feminism). Ah, you're Catholic. Ok.

Does anyone really believe Pope Francis officiated a gay or trans wedding, and if he did does anyone believe it would be "private" and no one would hear about it...except trans and gay people who want to believe the Catholic church gives a fuck about them? You're once again attaching yourself to something and trying to find meaning based on that.

Francis definitely seems to do some good things in various areas, but I don't understand weighing the slight nods he's given to the gay community to equal anything that matters, agenda or policy wise, when the official policy is still "fuck you." This seems like a cynical trick to entice another group of sinners into the Catholic church. Not saying Francis himself is complicit, I'm referring to the segments of the church that target LGBT people. I can't fathom joining an organization that basically thinks I'm trash, a terrible sinner, or mentally ill, or whatever else these people still think in 2017. Even if I found an offshoot that was welcoming...nope. To quote Malcolm X, you're begging entry into a burning house.





Did I really declare myself an expert? I don't think I ever have. I'm still learning every day. It's likely my tone. My tone denotes that I speak like an expert. I don't know, it's the way I write. I have been toning it down and trying to make my writing seems less authoritative. I'm far more open-minded in person. It's just a symptom of how I was taught how to communicate English in writing.

Breh. You're from Detroit, Michigan, STILL live in Michigan despite what's going on in Flint, and you want to talk about joining an organization that thinks you're trash? For that matter, why be black at all and remain in America? Because you have hope things will improve and you're wiling to fight for it. You can say,"well I was born in Michigan and you chose the church" but I did not choose the church so much as it chose me. You can say things like "my family is there" and I feel the same way about the church I attend. I have been treated very well. America, by contrast, thinks that black people deserve to die, breh. How do you justify staying in America?

Is this really an organization that thinks I'm trash, PD?

https://www.nytimes.com/2017/06/13/nyregion/catholic-church-gays-mass-newark-cathedral.html

Or this?

https://www.americamagazine.org/faith/2016/10/30/james-martin-sj-we-need-build-bridge-between-lgbt-community-and-catholic-church

Both of whom were appointed by, surprise, surprise, Pope Francis. Father Martin in particular was given an official Vatican appointment for communications. Oh, but clearly the church thinks I'm trash and clearly there's zero hope for the church. They're just a bunch of bigots aren't they?
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: fistfulofmetal on July 09, 2017, 02:27:04 PM
Comparing living in America as a black man to being a catholic as an LGBT person is a stretch.

Edit: From the angle of "Oh, why don't YOU leave?"

Deciding to leave the country to live elsewhere it a much bigger choice than leaving a church.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 09, 2017, 02:37:57 PM
Comparing living in America as a black man to being a catholic as an LGBT person is a stretch.

Yes. Tell that to the black trans woman.

My overall point is that organizations and institutions aren't perfect. They are slow and plodding. I'm not stupid and I am not trash. I have self worth and I am willing to fight for it and telling me just to go to another church is definitely "fuck you" material. I don't begrudge any lgbt for leaving the church and I don't blame them, but I am not going to do it.

And yes, it is an apt comparison. It isn't a stretch at all. In any case, I argued from the point of PD living in Michigan. It might be harder to leave your country, but it's very easy to leave your state. And yet PD still lives in that racist hell hole. Glass houses.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 09, 2017, 02:56:24 PM
That's an illogical comparison though. The state I reside in is not an organization or an institution. You're willingly involved with an organization/belief system that doesn't think you're a woman, doesn't think you should be able to marry, probably thinks you have a mental illness, and uses religious texts that condemn homosexuality in the Old and New Testament. If you want to make a race comparison, compare it to a black person supporting Trump and being a tea party member.

Ultimately religion is a personal decision. We were both brought up around intensely religious (black) family members, I understand the mentality. We've simply taken different paths. You turned away from the faux religious bullshit of much of Organized Christianity in search for a religious experience that felt genuine/real. I turned away from the faux religious bullshit of Organized Christianity and now have a general distaste for all religion. I'm not going to say I'm right in general and you're wrong in general...if religion helps someone, fine. My problem is in the way you've discussed it in this thread, and also the damage control you're doing for an organization that officially and literally denies your very existence.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 09, 2017, 02:57:26 PM
And I say that with all due respect. We've known each other and been friends for over a decade, I'm not shitting on you. Although TBH I'm upset that I sent you some bbc porn a few weeks ago and you told me you don't fuck with porn anymore. Another reason why religion is trash :piss2
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 09, 2017, 03:04:26 PM
You're being far too literal. I'm not saying a country is the exact same a church. But I'm saying that despite the fact that America seems to have apathy towards killing black people, you love your country. Even though your state is poisoning black people right now, you still love your state. You know there's problems. You know it's not perfect. But you love it anyways and you're willing to do what you can do pave the way for a better future.

That's how I feel about Catholicism. It wasn't an easy decision. I fought through pain and tears. One priest at this church I visited said that I was living in sin if I got married and took communion after I told him I was trans. I cried really hard that day. I was really hurt, but I pressed on. He was just one priest and everyone else has treated me well. I looked into other churches. There was a point when I gave up on the Catholic Church and went to an Episcopal church. It just never clicked. Not like the Catholic Church. Why should I give it up? Because of one person? I know it's not perfect, and I know it'll be hard, but - again, why should I give it up? Much like being black and loving the country that enslaved my ancestors and think that I am sub human, I am willing to forgive that because it's the only home I know and it's the county that I love. I feel that same exact way about the church I attend.

And if you don't understand it, and think that religion is just merely a personal choice, then fine. You don't get it.

You turned away from the faux religious bullshit of much of Organized Christianity in search for a religious experience that felt genuine/real.

YES. I've been searching for something genuine for so long. Why should I let it go?!

And I say that with all due respect. We've known each other and been friends for over a decade, I'm not shitting on you. Although TBH I'm upset that I sent you some bbc porn a few weeks ago and you told me you don't fuck with porn anymore. Another reason why religion is trash :piss2

I didn't give a religious reason for that though. I just said,"please don't send me porn" because I'm actually struggling with it.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 09, 2017, 03:28:48 PM
Where did I say I loved my country? I had Taco Bell on the 4th Of July. I tolerate my country. There are things I like about it, there are a lot of things I dislike about it. In terms of Michigan, I like where I live. I live in one of the most diverse and liberal areas of the state. But you're not gonna hear me defend my state on various things, from the Flint reaction to the governor to anything else. I don't search for personal meaning through...where I happened to be born, and now live/work.

You don't have any choice in where you're born, nor is it particularly logical for most people to move to another country solely out of protest. But you have 100% choice in what organizations you belong to, what institutions you defend, what beliefs you hold. As an adult. To me, there's a big gap between "it's a work in progress" and "these people deny my very existence." What progress can they truly make long term when the foundation is anti-you.

Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: TVC15 on July 09, 2017, 03:43:23 PM
And I say that with all due respect. We've known each other and been friends for over a decade, I'm not shitting on you. Although TBH I'm upset that I sent you some bbc porn a few weeks ago and you told me you don't fuck with porn anymore. Another reason why religion is trash :piss2

WTF why am I not on the PD porn list? I love you PD. We need to talk more.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 09, 2017, 03:44:38 PM
Well, I can only speak for myself but I used to feel similarly, but I've grown slowly in my appreciation and love for America. I keep getting drawn back to the Catholic Church. I suffered from heavy cognitivie dissonance. I went to Epsicopal churches and tried earnestly to like them as much. I tried earnestly to feel the genuine love. I tried to go in open-minded. It just didn't work. I kept longing for my Catholic Church. I would beg God to please let me like the Episcopal church as much. To let me forget the Catholic Church. In the end, I decided to embrace it. I'm not there for the Pope. I'm not there for the priests. I'm there for God and I think the Catholic Church has the best means of worshipping God. It's what I think matters most. The church of my childhood currently has a gay pastor. I could go there and feel welcome, but would my spirit grow? My search is for more than affirmation, it's to find soemthing that helps my spirit feel complete. It works for me.

I don't expect you to understand.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 09, 2017, 04:43:35 PM
PD, I hope you're not mad at my denial of bbc. You know how much I want to click. 😭
 :brazilcry
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on July 09, 2017, 04:47:04 PM
Queen, I think that gets to what I was trying to say in our pm stuff. You say you're not there for the Pope or the priests. And I started there and then realized the things I was there for didn't require a middleman.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 09, 2017, 05:00:10 PM
But the middleman creates structure. What structure do you have?
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 09, 2017, 05:11:42 PM
Whats this obsession with structure?

You've written a lot about it before already. You don't need someone elses structure to be a good person, someone elses walkthrough life.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Mupepe on July 09, 2017, 05:13:27 PM
And I say that with all due respect. We've known each other and been friends for over a decade, I'm not shitting on you. Although TBH I'm upset that I sent you some bbc porn a few weeks ago and you told me you don't fuck with porn anymore. Another reason why religion is trash :piss2

WTF why am I not on the PD porn list? I love you PD. We need to talk more.
+1
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on July 09, 2017, 05:45:22 PM
But the middleman creates structure. What structure do you have?
But, why do I need structure? Take it from someone who grew up in a religion that had a ton of structure and rituals. When you have a religion that has a lot of those the religion inevitably BECOMES about the structure and rituals. I don't need that  :piss2
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: benjipwns on July 09, 2017, 06:18:50 PM
Sorry Queen, missed your reply to me when I looked at the thread earlier:
I think there's a problem with applying motives to natural unthinking forces and then using as it an example to prove something regarding the actions of something capable of determining and deciding regarding both motive and morality.

That's fair. But it's also endemic to the religion. My favorite example is Jesus' crucifixion and perhaps the final 24 hours of his life. The fact that he prayed alone in the forest while the people closest to him couldn't stay awake and keep him company. Judas' betrayal. Peter's denial. The actions of the Romans. The behavior of the Pharisees. The murder of Jesus. Corruption. Jealousy. Murder. Power. Hate. All of human depravity is on display in the Gospel. From humanities worst (above examples) to its best (Roman soldier giving Jesus something to drink as he's on the cross, the traveling man who helps lift the cross for Jesus, John protecting Mary during the depravity). All I'm saying is that where there's evil, there's a capacity for good. I'm not sure what part of my post you specifically disagree with. I wish you could quote it.
This was what struck me as wrongheaded, especially the bolded part:
If we can't choose, we are just dolls and no different from animals. And where there's badness, there's often goodness. For example, we have natural disasters that harm people. It sucks that a tornado landed, but without thermodynamics the tornado wouldn't exist. Without thermodynamics we wouldn't have jet engines for example. But we also wouldn't have things that kill people like tornadoes. But I think all of us agree that tornadoes are worth keeping around if we get things like jet propulsion out of it. God likely sees it similarly. Because there is evil, there must also be an infinite good. And this infinite good is God. Essentially, evil allows human not only a choice, but also an opportunity to grow.
Because while I do have some agreement with the thrust of your point regarding free will and the value of choosing not-bad I think using an example of something that not only has no moral component or free will but entirely lacks agency does a disservice to your argument.

To use another example that you mentioned earlier, the harnessing of nuclear fission. It's been used to provide a relatively clean and abundant energy source, at the same it's been used to create life-ending weaponry. Yet even in the latter case there is endless debate as to not only the creation of those weapons, but the two times they've been used as both being the "good" option. The threat of MAD and Hiroshima/Nagasaki are regularly debated as possibly helping to avoid greater evils.

In any case, it's still man who provides the agency to enact his free will and moral framework through natural forces. They don't come with one built in.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 09, 2017, 06:27:30 PM
Whats this obsession with structure?

You've written a lot about it before already. You don't need someone elses structure to be a good person, someone elses walkthrough life.

It isn't an obsession. I'm just articulating my reality.

The goal isn't to be good. The goal is become holy. It was shown and argued earlier than humans fail to honor our inherent goodness. So most people aren't good. People try. Today I committed a sin. I lashed out on Triumph's Facebook and said liberals are scum. I was emotional after reading the dehumanizing comments on the post and it was how I truly felt. But instead self censoring myself, I let it fly. Would a holy person do this? And, again, when I said this I don't mean perfect. Also, I under no inclinations believe that one must be religious to be good.

Ronito majored in music. So for the sake of dialogue, I consider him a fellow artist. Now, traditionally in the arts, there exists two camps: mentorship and self teaching. Self teaching can work. But it requires being without a teacher. A teacher provides that structure. They help soften your edges, they give generational advice. They share stories of their successes and failures and how you too can avoid them. In the spiritual life I learned very, very early that the spirit is to be cultivated like artistic skill. Both require on going effort, self awareness, and practice. One of the many (many) things Buddhism taught me was to cherish this. Without a teacher you can cultivate bad habits (just like in art). Meditation without a teacher is, I'm not going to say dangerous, but depriving. Without a teacher you convince yourself that through meditation you are "seeing an alternate reality/seeing outside of myself" or some other new age-y bullshit. But a teacher helps rein this in but saying,"no, you're just staring a singular object for too long without blinking. Please blink." A teacher helps you with what to do next. A teacher gives you assignments. How do you hope to become disciplined without the middleman? If that's the case, why did Ronito go to university to learn music? He could have just sat at home, learning by himself. While it's possible for him to become a great musician that way, it'd be far easier just to go to school. For school provides the structure to succeed learning new skills.

So, given the inportance of spiritual matters, one must admit that doing it alone can end in failure. Spirit life isn't something someone does alone. Ronito has of yet to describe what his spiritual practice even includes. Does he fast? Does he renunciate things? Does he still go through penance? Does he meditate? I don't know. There's a misconception in that I think spiritual matters is just experiencing something. I also consider it a discipline. Structure provides that discipline.

Now, again, I'm not sure of Ronito's history. Given his decades in Mormonism perhaps he has the background and structure to practice spiritual practices alone. I don't. I'm just getting starting. Like the Time article I posted last page said:

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All of us can understand institutional disenchantment. Institutions can be slow, plodding, dictatorial; they can both enable and shield wrongdoers. They frustrate our desires by asking us to submit to the will of others.

But institutions are also the only mechanism human beings know to perpetuate ideologies and actions. If books were enough, why have universities? If guns enough, why have a military? If self-governance enough, let’s get rid of Washington. The point is that if you want to do something lasting in this world, you will recall the wise words of French Catholic writer Charles Péguy: “Everything begins in mysticism and ends in politics.” Got a vision? Get a blueprint.

Spirituality is an emotion. Religion is an obligation. Spirituality soothes. Religion mobilizes. Spirituality is satisfied with itself. Religion is dissatisfied with the world. Religions create aid organizations; as Nicholas Kristof pointed out in a column in the New York Times two years ago: the largest U.S.-based international relief and development organization is not Save the Children or Care, it’s World Vision, a Seattle-based Christian group.

Aid organizations involve institutions as well, and bureaucracies, and — yes — committee meetings. There is something profoundly, well, spiritual about a committee meeting. It involves individuals trying together to sort out priorities, to listen and learn from one another, to make a difference. I have found too often that when people say, “I stay away from the synagogue — too much politics,” what they mean is that they did not get their way. Institutions enable but they also frustrate, as do families and every other organized sector of human life. If you want frictionless, do it alone.

To be spiritual but not religious confines your devotional life to feeling good. If we have learned one thing about human nature, however, it is that people’s internal sense of goodness does not always match their behavior. To know whether your actions are good, a window is a more effective tool than a mirror. Ask others. Be part of a community. In short, join. Being religious does not mean you have to agree with all the positions and practices of your own group; I don’t even hold with everything done in my own synagogue, and I’m the Rabbi. But it does mean testing yourself in the arena of others.

No one expects those without faith to obligate themselves to a religious community. But for one who has an intuition of something greater than ourselves to hold that this is a purely personal truth, that it demands no communal searching and struggle, no organization to realize its potential in this world, straddles the line between narcissistic and solipsistic. If the spirit moves you to goodness, that is wonderful. For too many, though, spirituality is a VIP card allowing them to breeze past all those wretched souls waiting in line or doing the work. Join in; together is harder, but together is better.


I have not seen any argument for how spiritual but not religious isn't a cop out. There's potential for something real, but often than not its just a selfish pursuit of sensual experiences and I've experienced enough of secular Buddhism to realize how much of a crock it truly is.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on July 09, 2017, 06:41:29 PM
Whats this obsession with structure?

You've written a lot about it before already. You don't need someone elses structure to be a good person, someone elses walkthrough life.

It isn't an obsession. I'm just articulating my reality.

The goal isn't to be good. The goal is become holy. It was shown and argued earlier than humans fail to honor our inherent goodness. So most people aren't good. People try. Today I committed a sin. I lashed out on Triumph's Facebook and said liberals are scum. I was emotional after reading the dehumanizing comments on the post and it was how I truly felt. But instead self censoring myself, I let it fly. Would a holy person do this? And, again, when I said this I don't mean perfect. Also, I under no inclinations believe that one must be religious to be good.

Ronito majored in music. So for the sake of dialogue, I consider him a fellow artist. Now, traditionally in the arts, there exists two camps: mentorship and self teaching. Self teaching can work. But it requires being without a teacher. A teacher provides that structure. They help soften your edges, they give generational advice. They share stories of their successes and failures and how you too can avoid them. In the spiritual life I learned very, very early that the spirit is to be cultivated like artistic skill. Both require on going effort, self awareness, and practice. One of the many (many) things Buddhism taught me was to cherish this. Without a teacher you can cultivate bad habits (just like in art). Meditation without a teacher is, I'm not going to say dangerous, but depriving. Without a teacher you convince yourself that through meditation you are "seeing an alternate reality/seeing outside of myself" or some other new age-y bullshit. But a teacher helps rein this in but saying,"no, you're just staring a singular object for too long without blinking. Please blink." A teacher helps you with what to do next. A teacher gives you assignments. How do you hope to become disciplined without the middleman? If that's the case, why did Ronito go to university to learn music? He could have just sat at home, learning by himself. While it's possible for him to become a great musician that way, it'd be far easier just to go to school. For school provides the structure to succeed learning new skills.

So, given the inportance of spiritual matters, one must admit that doing it alone can end in failure. Spirit life isn't something someone does alone. Ronito has of yet to describe what his spiritual practice even includes. Does he fast? Does he renunciate things? Does he still go through penance? Does he meditate? I don't know. There's a misconception in that I think spiritual matters is just experiencing something. I also consider it a discipline. Structure provides that discipline.

Now, again, I'm not sure of Ronito's history. Given his decades in Mormonism perhaps he has the background and structure to practice spiritual practices alone. I don't. I'm just getting starting. Like the Time article I posted last page said:

Quote

All of us can understand institutional disenchantment. Institutions can be slow, plodding, dictatorial; they can both enable and shield wrongdoers. They frustrate our desires by asking us to submit to the will of others.

But institutions are also the only mechanism human beings know to perpetuate ideologies and actions. If books were enough, why have universities? If guns enough, why have a military? If self-governance enough, let’s get rid of Washington. The point is that if you want to do something lasting in this world, you will recall the wise words of French Catholic writer Charles Péguy: “Everything begins in mysticism and ends in politics.” Got a vision? Get a blueprint.

Spirituality is an emotion. Religion is an obligation. Spirituality soothes. Religion mobilizes. Spirituality is satisfied with itself. Religion is dissatisfied with the world. Religions create aid organizations; as Nicholas Kristof pointed out in a column in the New York Times two years ago: the largest U.S.-based international relief and development organization is not Save the Children or Care, it’s World Vision, a Seattle-based Christian group.

Aid organizations involve institutions as well, and bureaucracies, and — yes — committee meetings. There is something profoundly, well, spiritual about a committee meeting. It involves individuals trying together to sort out priorities, to listen and learn from one another, to make a difference. I have found too often that when people say, “I stay away from the synagogue — too much politics,” what they mean is that they did not get their way. Institutions enable but they also frustrate, as do families and every other organized sector of human life. If you want frictionless, do it alone.

To be spiritual but not religious confines your devotional life to feeling good. If we have learned one thing about human nature, however, it is that people’s internal sense of goodness does not always match their behavior. To know whether your actions are good, a window is a more effective tool than a mirror. Ask others. Be part of a community. In short, join. Being religious does not mean you have to agree with all the positions and practices of your own group; I don’t even hold with everything done in my own synagogue, and I’m the Rabbi. But it does mean testing yourself in the arena of others.

No one expects those without faith to obligate themselves to a religious community. But for one who has an intuition of something greater than ourselves to hold that this is a purely personal truth, that it demands no communal searching and struggle, no organization to realize its potential in this world, straddles the line between narcissistic and solipsistic. If the spirit moves you to goodness, that is wonderful. For too many, though, spirituality is a VIP card allowing them to breeze past all those wretched souls waiting in line or doing the work. Join in; together is harder, but together is better.


I have not seen any argument for how spiritual but not religious isn't a cop out. There's potential for something real, but often than not its just a selfish pursuit of sensual experiences and I've experienced enough of secular Buddhism to realize how much of a crock it truly is.
To go along with your analogy however, I had a teacher in college to teach me how to learn and how to teach. We had a very intense relationship where I learned so much. I learned how to make myself better, how to practice, how to find deficiencies and fix them, how to prepare for a performance and how to perform. Our teacher/student relationship was really intense in the beginning with him guiding my every action, but as I learned more and grew more, it went from intense tutelage to check ins that became less and less frequent. It went from "This is how you do it." to "You should do x technique" or "You know better than to make that mistake."

Now that I'm done with that part of my life do I require another guitar teacher? In fact, if I went to one most of would just laugh. A master class every once in a while? Sure. But if I were still looking for another regular teacher after all I learned I'd be viewed as deficient because after all that I had learned, I hadn't learned how to cultivate myself. And they'd be right to consider me deficient and to consider my teacher deficient.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 09, 2017, 06:55:32 PM
Well, like I said. You are already a master. You can do it by yourself. I can't. I'm not there yet. I have too many flaws. I'm not at that point.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on July 09, 2017, 07:03:27 PM
Well, like I said. You are already a master. You can do it by yourself. I can't. I'm not there yet. I have too many flaws. I'm not at that point.
Ah, but the question is, "Are you really not?"
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 09, 2017, 07:32:47 PM
Well, like I said. You are already a master. You can do it by yourself. I can't. I'm not there yet. I have too many flaws. I'm not at that point.
Ah, but the question is, "Are you really not?"

Ronito, I grew up in a church environment where the gospel was barely preached. Where Jesus was barely taught. I didn't understand how Jesus died for our sins, the most basic Christian teaching, even as a teenager. Things like the trinity weren't explained. They were more interested in creating social clubs than worship; power seeking than embracing the spirit. I was taught shallow theology and shallow religion. When I wanted answers and tried to read the Bible for myself as a teenager, I struggled really hard because there was no one to guide me. Now I'm older and (somewhat) wiser and have community. I can chat fellow former atheist now Christians about things. I can read Ecclisiastes in all of its beautiful wonder and get something out of it, but I still need a guide. I'm not sure why you are so willing to deny that religion provides good things.

I read an article recently where a priest said,"young people don't want feel good religion." And it's true for me, at least. I perceive spiritual but not religious as the ultimate in "feel good". I don't think it has anything to offer me. As a young person who not only goes to church on Sunday's, but also participate in adoration duty, and goes to church at least 2-4 times a week, I take it very seriously. Young adults who are still at church in 2017 for the most part, all do. This past week I went to church either for mass, prayer, adoration, or a meeting with my priest this past week. I went to a church almost every day last week. My priest is currently searching for me to have a spiritual counselor. I take it seriously. How can I take spiritual matters seriously without a backbone or structure?

Additional reading: https://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/jesus-doesnt-tweet/2015/04/30/fb07ef1a-ed01-11e4-8666-a1d756d0218e_story.html

This is also why I came down to only three options: Catholic, orthodox, or Episcopalian/Lutheran. Forget everything else.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 09, 2017, 08:08:19 PM
Sorry 21337, but most of the most close minded people I know aren't religious, as this thread and this study (Ha!) shows.

http://www.psypost.org/2017/06/study-finds-nonreligious-can-close-minded-religious-49182

Real talk, most non-believers I know are hateful misanthropists. I'm not saying I personally believe all are, from what I've observed...the results are interesting.

I am in the process of trying to find a therapist. Thank you for your concern.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: benjipwns on July 09, 2017, 08:18:24 PM
Just a random thought because this is sorta a religion thread, but someone I know joined and has become huge into the local Unitarian Universalist Church after meeting some dude in it.

I uh...well, it's certainly something that exists.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 09, 2017, 08:25:35 PM
Nah, anecdotally people who are genuinely happy in life mostly don't involve religion as any central part of their life. There's maybe two people I can name that believe in that numerology/astrology-lite shit, but they aren't serious about it in any manor. Their lives revolve around art they produce and genuinely enjoy making.

 What part of religion do you think completes you or what do you think it offers to you?

Being happy isn't enough. What happens when their spouse dies? What happens when they get cancer? What happens when they lose their job and have nothing to turn to. They'll have friends but friends drift away the weeks following a tragedy expecting you to be "over" it. But God is something that never leaves. They are happy - temporarily.

What does religion offer me? Happiness. After I do deep prayer and meditation I can experience complete bliss and joy. But I'm fully aware that those days won't last. Community. Support. Tradition. Beauty. Mystery.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 09, 2017, 09:07:57 PM
I hope you realize that religion is a tool. It can be good or bad. Good people practice religion; bad people practice religion. Religion isn't the boogeyman our generation thinks it is. You said people you can be happy without religion. Well so what? I know plenty of happy people who are religious. I have never said once in this entire discussion that one must be religious to be happy. I rejected it as an atheist and I reject it now. But frankly, the anti-theism in this thread is shocking and at this point pitiful. "You don't need religion." Yeah, well, that's fine. I like religion and I and others are not lesser for doing so.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 09, 2017, 09:33:22 PM
Your description of the Catholic Church is...wanting. Most Christian churches believe in the trinity. And their philosophy certainly doesn't try to appease to lowest common denominator.

I agree that Christians use the bible for their own beliefs. Which is exactly why I've rejected sola scriptura and find the Catholic Church as legitimate, especially after researching the Didache, the early church fathers;etc.

Like I said earlier. It's interesting how the most anti-religion people come from the most fundamentalist and straight out wacky religions, ever. In Ronito's case, Mormonism. In your case, Jehovah Witnesses. This is what I mean when I said some atheists are as fundamentalist as the people they critique. You have taken the fundamentalism of your religion, and now apply to all religion.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 09, 2017, 09:57:34 PM
I'm sorry none of you see the value of religion. I wish you would or even could. I understand a lot of you have had awful experiences. But please try to learn to at least treat religion with absolute disdain.

Final post and a good way to end it:

https://thenib.com/i-m-not-a-christian-but-i-don-t-hate-them
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: benjipwns on July 09, 2017, 10:32:25 PM
I'm sorry none of you see the value of religion.
I'm not sure this is entirely fair. I think it's mainly pushback against the notion that you must need religion in order to do [whatever] or feel [whatever] and so on. For example, in that comic he laments that he was able to help people as a Christian but no longer knows how to. But that makes no sense, as he himself concedes you can operate through religious organizations without being part of that religion so there's nothing stopping him from continuing. There's nothing stopping him from finding non-religious avenues to do the same things. The supposed necessity of religion isn't one, it's an excuse.

I was raised effectively irreligious. My mother believes in God and the Bible and such but I couldn't tell you what denomination or anything but I did have a like young adult version (came in pack along with other classics) to read as a kid that I read, my father is actually a mystery to me as it's never come up though even his 92 year old mother is not particularly religious. I've never been to a Church service that I remember. Other than weddings or using their basketball courts I never set foot in them, not on purpose though. The only religious people I talk to in real life about religion are the Jehovah's Witnesses and that's because I found that it gets you blacklisted so they stop coming.

Sure, I bet if you go back and somehow can pull up old long dead forums through the Wayback Machine I had some posts like in the 8th grade where I bashed Christians and God and crap if only because there's a stage of me fisking people. But at some point it swung around to where my irreligious status combined with my libertarian nature to lead another forum to believe I was a fundamentalist Christian because I had no issue with them protesting some movie as blasphemous or homeschooling their children with creationist textbooks. Also I argued with a bunch of neckbeard atheist types that the Bible is probably not intended to be literal but allegorical so people were talking past one another.

Now me, I personally don't care about people telling me how to live my life since I expect it and know I can always ask the unanswerable question of "but, why?" But Queen, come on, you have to see that it can be just as insulting to those who don't follow your religion to denigrate their beliefs and make all these assumptions and accusations as you feel they are doing to you. Saying "I wish you could see the value of religion" is a shot across the bow as much as "I wish you could see how useless religion is" would be from your perspective.

As another personal note, I always find the kind of religious/non-religious line drawing to be unhelpful as I consider it all philosophical and ideological as all belief systems and thus fair game. What differentiates some of what you're saying from The Golden Rule or the NAP,  I mean other than all the supernatural stuff, I don't know, does it matter?

But then I'm rambling and I haven't really read this discussion much more than here and there. It just seems a bit insulting to assume that without religion, as you define it, people are missing something in their lives.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 09, 2017, 10:43:40 PM
I just told you I've researched/am researching the church fathers and early Christianity such as the Didache. That is pretty hard research.

I've got almost a year until confirmation.

Speaking of research, a lot of your stuff on the Catholic Church is flat out wrong.

I don't have the time for the rest but I'll tackle this in short order:

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how the Catholic church is largely founded on "tradition" that took place way after the Bible supposedly takes place in

This is...uh...really, really bad history.

1. The early church established tradition before the bible was even canonized. In fact, scripture was read aloud as oral tradition.

2. Tradition and scripture are tied together. Scripture is not end be all in the Catholic Church. There's also tradition. The tradition informs upon and expands upon the scripture.

3. The first scriptures were written mid to late 1st century. But tradition comes about from the same time.

4. The bible was not canonized until 325 during the council of Nicea. This denotes nearly 300 years of tradition before the Bible was even canonized.

tradition that takes place way after the bible? If you bothered to read the hints I gave you (Google the Didache) you would see that these traditions have existed from the very beginning. Even before the bible was canonized.

This also ties into the whole thing Protestants talk about Catholics and how they don't "follow the bible." Who do you built the Bible? In its current order? And I'm not talking about the Bible Martin Luther butchered by removing books.

I'll give you a hint.

https://www.catholic.com/tract/scripture-and-tradition

It's really scary (but also amusing) how you stress research but lack the most basic of facts.

I am prepared that you will reject a Catholic source, so I'm just going to make this cut even deeper.

And if that's not enough, it is surprisingly easy to learn about this stuff in this day and age. You can say, start with any Apostle and then look up his students. Let's start with St John. His apostles include Polycarp of Smyrma and Ignatius of Antiotch. Searching John's students renders this doosey. https://en.wikisource.org/wiki/Ante-Nicene_Fathers/Volume_I Which shows just little the church actually has changed in 2,000 years. That's what I mean by legitimacy. This is also why I said Catholicism is the only answer.

When you tell me to research did you mean actually research or did you mean read bad biased atheist "well, actually" blog posts minus context?
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on July 09, 2017, 10:49:06 PM
Somewhere a greek orthodox borian is laughing and laughing.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 09, 2017, 11:07:33 PM
Technically, there's only Orthodox and Catholicism. But you saw what I said about Orthodox right?

Anyways, I'll just link it directly.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Didache

This legitimacy also ties into why I can't get into the Episcopal Church even if they're affirming. So what if they're affirming if they're not legitimate?
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on July 09, 2017, 11:23:39 PM
Queen, you seem to have fallen into the trap of falling into a stream and thinking it's the ocean. You talk about your love of the love and mystery of religion. What if the mystery goes deeper than you have imagined?
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 09, 2017, 11:57:33 PM
I'm sorry none of you see the value of religion.
I'm not sure this is entirely fair. I think it's mainly pushback against the notion that you must need religion in order to do [whatever] or feel [whatever] and so on. For example, in that comic he laments that he was able to help people as a Christian but no longer knows how to. But that makes no sense, as he himself concedes you can operate through religious organizations without being part of that religion so there's nothing stopping him from continuing. There's nothing stopping him from finding non-religious avenues to do the same things. The supposed necessity of religion isn't one, it's an excuse.

I was raised effectively irreligious. My mother believes in God and the Bible and such but I couldn't tell you what denomination or anything but I did have a like young adult version (came in pack along with other classics) to read as a kid that I read, my father is actually a mystery to me as it's never come up though even his 92 year old mother is not particularly religious. I've never been to a Church service that I remember. Other than weddings or using their basketball courts I never set foot in them, not on purpose though. The only religious people I talk to in real life about religion are the Jehovah's Witnesses and that's because I found that it gets you blacklisted so they stop coming.

Sure, I bet if you go back and somehow can pull up old long dead forums through the Wayback Machine I had some posts like in the 8th grade where I bashed Christians and God and crap if only because there's a stage of me fisking people. But at some point it swung around to where my irreligious status combined with my libertarian nature to lead another forum to believe I was a fundamentalist Christian because I had no issue with them protesting some movie as blasphemous or homeschooling their children with creationist textbooks. Also I argued with a bunch of neckbeard atheist types that the Bible is probably not intended to be literal but allegorical so people were talking past one another.

Now me, I personally don't care about people telling me how to live my life since I expect it and know I can always ask the unanswerable question of "but, why?" But Queen, come on, you have to see that it can be just as insulting to those who don't follow your religion to denigrate their beliefs and make all these assumptions and accusations as you feel they are doing to you. Saying "I wish you could see the value of religion" is a shot across the bow as much as "I wish you could see how useless religion is" would be from your perspective.

As another personal note, I always find the kind of religious/non-religious line drawing to be unhelpful as I consider it all philosophical and ideological as all belief systems and thus fair game. What differentiates some of what you're saying from The Golden Rule or the NAP,  I mean other than all the supernatural stuff, I don't know, does it matter?

But then I'm rambling and I haven't really read this discussion much more than here and there. It just seems a bit insulting to assume that without religion, as you define it, people are missing something in their lives.

I didn't mean that statement like that. I have no problem with atheists (although I pray for them). I do have a problem with anti-theism. There's a difference between the two groups. I respect being not religious but at the very least understanding religion. I don't agree with it, but I respect it. I used to be in that camp. My problem stems from extremes. I'm not trying to convert anyone. But it feels like every non-religious person here is trying to convince me that I'm a moron for being religious even though it took me vast amount of literature for me to be able to believe in earnest again.

Be non-religious, that's fine. But when you try to convince people that they're better off without religion that's not cool. By the same token, be religious - that's fine. But don't say you need religion to live a good life. Both are extremes. I have no inherent problem with atheists but the "religion poisons all things" Hitchensian edge lord stuff is what I don't like. And to be fair, I don't know everyone's background. I don't blame Ronito, Wrath, or 21337, or even PD for their views. They grew up in extremely religious communities. I don't blame them one bit and I truly empathize, but that doesn't mean I gotta like it.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 10, 2017, 12:04:41 AM
Breh you said glaringly false statements that go against actual history.

You told me to research, as if I haven't already, when you were branding about falsehood.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 10, 2017, 12:50:58 AM
Queen, you seem to have fallen into the trap of falling into a stream and thinking it's the ocean. You talk about your love of the love and mystery of religion. What if the mystery goes deeper than you have imagined?

Like I said. My church growing up was a shallow social clique that cared more about grand standing and looking Christian than seeking actual spiritual truth. So, in order for me to find a new church I have to find something legitimate. Something real. The churches I visited growing up were selfish ("God loves it when you tithe!"), vapid ("once saved, always saved!"), where people put power struggles from board meeting politics during church, who lacked cohesive theology, and yet didn't know where the Bible came from. Who rejected helping the poor and even snubbed their noses at them. Who bought sports team stadiums as places of worship. From my church that stressed expansion rather than Jesus to the vapid churches of my aunts, to filth like Lakewood. I found Christianity to be illegitimate. If I'm going to believe in God, if I'm going to go to church I want it to be something real. I reject the Protestantism of my youth and the only way for me to not go back to being an atheist is bombard my brain with knowledge. Mystery is fine. Mystery is fantastic. I love it. I'm not trying to solve the mystery. I'm keeping it a mystery. But what happens if I get tired of the mystery? I have to have back up. For that, I have knowledge. I have 2000 years of history on my side. I have support. I don't want to ever be an atheist ever again and I'm finding ways to keep it that way.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 10, 2017, 01:26:29 AM
Sounds how you are just trying to convince yourself this is real

Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 10, 2017, 02:03:28 AM
No, I'm not. Unless you think reading actual verified historical documents means trying to convince your soemthing is real. I believe in God. That isn't an issue.

It took a lot of effort to not write an inflammatory reply and call you a name. I'm really progressing.

And that's when I'm done. There's no point talking to anti-theists. I've learned my lesson. From now on, I will guage if the person is reasonable. As of now, I'm not seeing any difference ideologically arguing with a non-theist as I do a fundamentalist. It is literally arguing the same exact manner. Fundamentalist or rad trad says I have a disgusting "lifestyle" - because of course no LGBT people believe in monogamous relationships; anti-theists refuse to believe one can become religious through reason and research - after all, religious people are stupid. Same pool, same pod. Both are extremists.

It's now filed under mental check. Just like when some atheist asks the question,"why Christianity?" That? That's bait. Don't answer it. Divert.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: TVC15 on July 10, 2017, 02:08:42 AM
To get this topic back on track: PD, do you have any BBC videos with two dudes using a pighole fuckable buttplug? I can find vids of average non-BBC dudes using them, but I really want to see them put to the test. The circumference of the inner hole has me thinking they may not be BBC compatible.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 10, 2017, 03:14:28 AM
I'm not really reasonable? Your OP says "we got all this science but no one is happy"

You created a thread which premise is that non believers are miserable and that science has done bad things

get off your high horse lady

Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Yeti on July 10, 2017, 08:48:04 AM
It took a lot of effort to not write an inflammatory reply and call you a name. I'm really progressing.

 :lol

Reminds me when I was like six years old and my parents told me to stop bragging so much about acing my spelling tests, so my next spelling test I said "Aren't you proud of me for not bragging about the A on my spelling test?"
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Madrun Badrun on July 10, 2017, 09:28:29 AM
Yeti PMs me gold stars when I spell big words correctly.  Think that post explains a lot. 
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 10, 2017, 10:44:09 AM
advice my friend gave me and interesting data I could have used yesterday.

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There's no dealing with someone who can only think of religion as something only gullible people believe and that it's all propaganda. They are either a New Atheist, like Bill Maher or Christopher Hitchens, or someone who has just been hurt in the Church, though more likely the former. There isn't any rational argument that can be made against it. Like you could point out that about half of all LGBT identify as Christian, and that number has been increasing in recent years, and that the only denomination that's been growing in the percentage of LGBT is the one they see as most harmful and least welcoming: Catholicism.
You could tell them that but they aren't actually interested in hearing about that. Pick your battles; state the reality; move on if you see they aren't actually interested in learning or listening.

Correlated data:

Quote
2013 report (http://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2013/06/13/a-survey-of-lgbt-americans/#religion) showing that 42% of LGBT identify as Christian, with 14% being Catholic.
2015 report (http://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2015/05/26/lesbian-gay-and-bisexual-americans-differ-from-general-public-in-their-religious-affiliations/) showing that 48% now identify as Christian, with 17% Catholic. Mainline churches, like UMC and TEC went from 12% to 11%, and black protestant went from 9% to 5%.
Also from the report, "About eight-in-ten LGBT respondents say the Muslim religion, the Mormon Church and the Catholic Church are unfriendly toward them" and "Similarly, about three-quarters of LGBT adults (73%) say that evangelical churches are unfriendly toward them", with evangelicals also seeing a growth in the percentage of LGBT.

For whatever reason, our generation loves orthodoxy. Theologically conservative while being socially liberal seems to be the go to.

TBH. It's not surprising after a life time of this.

https://youtu.be/LJGpWxVy6d8

Some sucker talking random shit trying to convince us it's tongues. "PRAISE JESUS!!!! HALLELEJUAH!!!!" as some old woman screams in ectasy with body shakes. Reminds me of pastors sister who would randomly scream for attentio in the middle service.

Protestantism. Never again.

(https://media.giphy.com/media/1zSz5MVw4zKg0/giphy.gif)

It isn't a surprise that it's the fake stuff is dying.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on July 10, 2017, 11:43:41 AM
Nah, the protestant stuff wont die out in America anytime soon. It's got that all of the self-righteousness with none of the costs thing that Americans love so much. It's slacktivism but for conservatives. Sure it's losing ground, but then so is nearly every religion. But don't under-estimate the appeal of low cost sanctimoniousness.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 10, 2017, 01:14:57 PM
To get this topic back on track: PD, do you have any BBC videos with two dudes using a pighole fuckable buttplug? I can find vids of average non-BBC dudes using them, but I really want to see them put to the test. The circumference of the inner hole has me thinking they may not be BBC compatible.

I'm guessing this isn't really feasible. However I'd imagine there's an amateur tumblr porn guy somewhere who takes requests.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on July 10, 2017, 01:23:35 PM
"guessing"
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: TVC15 on July 10, 2017, 01:30:31 PM
To get this topic back on track: PD, do you have any BBC videos with two dudes using a pighole fuckable buttplug? I can find vids of average non-BBC dudes using them, but I really want to see them put to the test. The circumference of the inner hole has me thinking they may not be BBC compatible.

I'm guessing this isn't really feasible. However I'd imagine there's an amateur tumblr porn guy somewhere who takes requests.

To give you numbers, the smallest pighole fuckable buttplug has a fuckable diameter of 1.5 inches, and the largest I've seen is 2.5 inches. Do you think the 2.5 incher would be wide enough for at least the majority of BBCs?
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: CatsCatsCats on July 10, 2017, 06:19:15 PM
To get this topic back on track: PD, do you have any BBC videos with two dudes using a pighole fuckable buttplug? I can find vids of average non-BBC dudes using them, but I really want to see them put to the test. The circumference of the inner hole has me thinking they may not be BBC compatible.

I'm guessing this isn't really feasible. However I'd imagine there's an amateur tumblr porn guy somewhere who takes requests.

To give you numbers, the smallest pighole fuckable buttplug has a fuckable diameter of 1.5 inches, and the largest I've seen is 2.5 inches. Do you think the 2.5 incher would be wide enough for at least the majority of BBCs?

We heard you like getting fucked in the ass, so we put an ass in your ass so you can get fucked in the ass while you get fucked in the ass
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Phoenix Dark on July 10, 2017, 06:22:45 PM
To get this topic back on track: PD, do you have any BBC videos with two dudes using a pighole fuckable buttplug? I can find vids of average non-BBC dudes using them, but I really want to see them put to the test. The circumference of the inner hole has me thinking they may not be BBC compatible.

I'm guessing this isn't really feasible. However I'd imagine there's an amateur tumblr porn guy somewhere who takes requests.

To give you numbers, the smallest pighole fuckable buttplug has a fuckable diameter of 1.5 inches, and the largest I've seen is 2.5 inches. Do you think the 2.5 incher would be wide enough for at least the majority of BBCs?

I don't like generalizing BBCs. Like autism, it's a spectrum.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: TVC15 on July 10, 2017, 06:29:07 PM
To get this topic back on track: PD, do you have any BBC videos with two dudes using a pighole fuckable buttplug? I can find vids of average non-BBC dudes using them, but I really want to see them put to the test. The circumference of the inner hole has me thinking they may not be BBC compatible.

I'm guessing this isn't really feasible. However I'd imagine there's an amateur tumblr porn guy somewhere who takes requests.

To give you numbers, the smallest pighole fuckable buttplug has a fuckable diameter of 1.5 inches, and the largest I've seen is 2.5 inches. Do you think the 2.5 incher would be wide enough for at least the majority of BBCs?

I don't like generalizing BBCs. Like autism, it's a spectrum.


I'd personally be okay with a generalization from you based on your career as a scholar on the subject.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: ModernBoxes on July 10, 2017, 07:43:28 PM
I'm sorry none of you see the value of religion.
I'm not sure this is entirely fair. I think it's mainly pushback against the notion that you must need religion in order to do [whatever] or feel [whatever] and so on. For example, in that comic he laments that he was able to help people as a Christian but no longer knows how to. But that makes no sense, as he himself concedes you can operate through religious organizations without being part of that religion so there's nothing stopping him from continuing. There's nothing stopping him from finding non-religious avenues to do the same things. The supposed necessity of religion isn't one, it's an excuse.

I was raised effectively irreligious. My mother believes in God and the Bible and such but I couldn't tell you what denomination or anything but I did have a like young adult version (came in pack along with other classics) to read as a kid that I read, my father is actually a mystery to me as it's never come up though even his 92 year old mother is not particularly religious. I've never been to a Church service that I remember. Other than weddings or using their basketball courts I never set foot in them, not on purpose though. The only religious people I talk to in real life about religion are the Jehovah's Witnesses and that's because I found that it gets you blacklisted so they stop coming.

 Sure, I bet if you go back and somehow can pull up old long dead forums through the Wayback Machine I had some posts like in the 8th grade where I bashed Christians and God and crap if only because there's a stage of me fisking people. But at some point it swung around to where my irreligious status combined with my libertarian nature to lead another forum to believe I was a fundamentalist Christian because I had no issue with them protesting some movie as blasphemous or homeschooling their children with creationist textbooks. Also I argued with a bunch of neckbeard atheist types that the Bible is probably not intended to be literal but allegorical so people were talking past one another.
Now me, I personally don't care about people telling me how to live my life since I expect it and know I can always ask the unanswerable question of "but, why?" But Queen, come on, you have to see that it can be just as insulting to those who don't follow your religion to denigrate their beliefs and make all these assumptions and accusations as you feel they are doing to you. Saying "I wish you could see the value of religion" is a shot across the bow as much as "I wish you could see how useless religion is" would be from your perspective.

As another personal note, I always find the kind of religious/non-religious line drawing to be unhelpful as I consider it all philosophical and ideological as all belief systems and thus fair game. What differentiates some of what you're saying from The Golden Rule or the NAP,  I mean other than all the supernatural stuff, I don't know, does it matter?

But then I'm rambling and I haven't really read this discussion much more than here and there. It just seems a bit insulting to assume that without religion, as you define it, people are missing something in their lives.

I didn't mean that statement like that. I have no problem with atheists (although I pray for them). I do have a problem with anti-theism. There's a difference between the two groups. I respect being not religious but at the very least understanding religion. I don't agree with it, but I respect it. I used to be in that camp. My problem stems from extremes. I'm not trying to convert anyone. But it feels like every non-religious person here is trying to convince me that I'm a moron for being religious even though it took me vast amount of literature for me to be able to believe in earnest again.

Be non-religious, that's fine. But when you try to convince people that they're better off without religion that's not cool. By the same token, be religious - that's fine. But don't say you need religion to live a good life. Both are extremes. I have no inherent problem with atheists but the "religion poisons all things" Hitchensian edge lord stuff is what I don't like. And to be fair, I don't know everyone's background. I don't blame Ronito, Wrath, or 21337, or even PD for their views. They grew up in extremely religious communities. I don't blame them one bit and I truly empathize, but that doesn't mean I gotta like it.

Hitchens isn't an edgelord. Religion by its nature cultivates a system of thinking based upon things you have to lie to yourself, ignore facts, and bend bibles to believe. Or "Faith." When a stodgy intellectual with no patience for blatant ignorance gets involved it gets a bit more blunt than that, sure. Religion we know can be dangerous in a few ways. It goads people into being easily misled. It activates whateverthefuck in people that make them do things typically moral people wouldn't.

Now, historically it makes sense for such systems to exist but today, in modern countries? No, outside of it being a tool used to get people off drugs, alcoholism, or whatever is needed to guilt them enough into believing they must do good now to reap rewards after they're dead. Anti-theism is a pushback. I wish it was around when I was younger and one day realized that sunday school and CCD in my roman catholic church was just a bunch of adults playing pretend.

Does this make me a neckbeard? Also, hey don't ban me I've been on here for five minutes.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Atramental on July 10, 2017, 07:47:34 PM
Don't worry. This is not GAF.

You're allowed to have differing opinions here.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on July 10, 2017, 08:28:24 PM
Just don't bad mouth taco bell.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: ModernBoxes on July 10, 2017, 08:45:57 PM
My last Crunchwrap supreme was incredibly bland. I tried explaining to my girlfriend that it was supposed to be delicious, but the day I needed them most they failed me.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: mormapope on July 10, 2017, 08:48:36 PM
Loaded potato griller, cheesy gordita crunches, and soft tacos are the best things to get at taco bell. Baja blast soda as well.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Mandark on July 10, 2017, 09:02:26 PM
Hitchens isn't an edgelord. Religion by its nature cultivates a system of thinking based upon things you have to lie to yourself, ignore facts, and bend bibles to believe.

Didn't stop Hitchens from writing a billion apologetics for the Iraq War and generally being a buffoon.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 10, 2017, 09:47:34 PM
Hitchens isn't an edgelord. Religion by its nature cultivates a system of thinking based upon things you have to lie to yourself, ignore facts, and bend bibles to believe.

Those are edge lord opinions. Have you read the exegesis Hitchens lays on the table in God Is Not Great? Even as an atheist I knew how bad his arguments were. Great debater, but Dawkins, Hitchens, and Harris' arguments are complete jokes once you think about them with real merit. The biggest objection being that their main critique was a specific kind of religion and not all religion.

I find it funny how the old atheist thinkers treat Dawkins, Hitchens, and Harris like the jokes they are. Even atheists don't even like them. You could out maneuver and out argue most new atheist arguments with a year of philosophy 101 and theology 101.

Various quotes from philosophers and atheists trashing neo atheism talking head arguments for the crap they are (https://jamesbishopblog.com/2016/05/31/the-woeful-state-of-new-atheism/)

Hitchens was an edge lord.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: seagrams hotsauce on July 11, 2017, 05:41:51 AM
(http://i.imgur.com/Fpx5sKn.gif)

this thread is brazy whew

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mM0-ZU8njdo
 
pls dont tease us during an influx of neofag posters bb
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: seagrams hotsauce on July 11, 2017, 05:49:37 AM
Hitchens isn't an edgelord. Religion by its nature cultivates a system of thinking based upon things you have to lie to yourself, ignore facts, and bend bibles to believe.

Those are edge lord opinions. Have you read the exegesis Hitchens lays on the table in God Is Not Great? Even as an atheist I knew how bad his arguments were. Great debater, but Dawkins, Hitchens, and Harris' arguments are complete jokes once you think about them with real merit. The biggest objection being that their main critique was a specific kind of religion and not all religion.

I find it funny how the old atheist thinkers treat Dawkins, Hitchens, and Harris like the jokes they are. Even atheists don't even like them. You could out maneuver and out argue most new atheist arguments with a year of philosophy 101 and theology 101.

Various quotes from philosophers and atheists trashing neo atheism talking head arguments for the crap they are (https://jamesbishopblog.com/2016/05/31/the-woeful-state-of-new-atheism/)

Hitchens was an edge lord.

Hey, I'm probably in what you would categorize as 'edgelord aethiest' but i'm glad that we can at least find common ground in agreeing that Sam Harris fucking blows and is a disingenuous idiot
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Raist on July 11, 2017, 08:23:32 AM
"Respected philosophers such as William Lane Craig"

:rofl
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Rufus on July 11, 2017, 10:08:21 AM
Unrelated side note: I recommend taking a look at the conversion stories collected on that blog. They all read like some crucial step is missing. Might just be due to the guy's editing, not sure, but the recurring theme is "and then I found Jesus", i.e. they changed their mind like a switch was flipped. Deeply unsatisfying for a heathen such a myself.

Also, these random comments below one of them:
Quote from: Max Kolbe
Feminism does not champion the rights of women. Feminism abuses women and men both with false history and a false sense of “women as victims” that’s never truly been historically accurate (or theologically sound). Women are not oppressed victims; even in areas historically where they had fewer rights than men, they tended to have more PRIVILEGES to compensate for that, and most people even hundreds of years ago admitted women had it better in many ways. It’s evil to keep pretending women are permavictims who need Feminists to save them.
Quote from: John Argent
I agree 100%. One only has to question why, in the UK at least, feminist activists firmly and openly support Sharia Law, and the related Islamic subjugation of women in general, and will have nothing said against Islamic militants.
That remains a complete mystery to me.
Quote from: Max Kolbe
By the way, I a very serious Christian, was in the anti-feminist film “Red Pill Movie.” I firmly believe all serious Christians should see that film.
:dead
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: TVC15 on July 11, 2017, 10:33:25 AM
Unrelated side note: I recommend taking a look at the conversion stories collected on that blog. They all read like some crucial step is missing. Might just be due to the guy's editing, not sure, but the recurring theme is "and then I found Jesus", i.e. they changed their mind like a switch was flipped. Deeply unsatisfying for a heathen such a myself.

Also, these random comments below one of them:
Quote from: Max Kolbe
Feminism does not champion the rights of women. Feminism abuses women and men both with false history and a false sense of “women as victims” that’s never truly been historically accurate (or theologically sound). Women are not oppressed victims; even in areas historically where they had fewer rights than men, they tended to have more PRIVILEGES to compensate for that, and most people even hundreds of years ago admitted women had it better in many ways. It’s evil to keep pretending women are permavictims who need Feminists to save them.
Quote from: John Argent
I agree 100%. One only has to question why, in the UK at least, feminist activists firmly and openly support Sharia Law, and the related Islamic subjugation of women in general, and will have nothing said against Islamic militants.
That remains a complete mystery to me.
Quote from: Max Kolbe
By the way, I a very serious Christian, was in the anti-feminist film “Red Pill Movie.” I firmly believe all serious Christians should see that film.
:dead

Looks like you found some etoilet sock puppets accidentally chatting with each other. I hope Q&A found that bug and patched it.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Raist on July 11, 2017, 10:43:22 AM
Quote
By the way, I a very serious Christian

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Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 11, 2017, 04:11:09 PM
The response here was expected.   :)

But it's not surprising when it comes from people who follow an edge lord.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Atramental on July 11, 2017, 04:16:25 PM
I prefer edgy truth tellers over cushy falsehood spewers any day of the week. :dice
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 11, 2017, 04:26:58 PM
Don't say that, this thread proved that miracle exists, like a transgender converting to catholicism
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Raist on July 11, 2017, 04:39:29 PM
I prefer edgy truth tellers over cushy falsehood spewers any day of the week. :dice

TBH falsehood spewing is one of the lesser problems of the catholic church.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 11, 2017, 04:39:34 PM
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Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: benjipwns on July 11, 2017, 08:26:49 PM
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Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: benjipwns on July 11, 2017, 09:50:58 PM
I've never seen somebody act as an encyclopedic authority from such wildly different positions with the gall to be so eagerly sanctimonious about it, much less in the few months I even got to know said person.

 Jesus Christ.
Wait are you talking about etoliate or...?
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 11, 2017, 10:20:45 PM
I've never seen somebody act as an encyclopedic authority from such wildly different positions with the gall to be so eagerly sanctimonious about it, much less in the few months I even got to know said person.

 Jesus Christ.

???

I've been down on new atheists and particularly anti-theism for years. Even while I was an atheist. I don't have encyclopedic authority. I'm just doing basic research. Like I said, I have a year until confirmation. Until then I need to arm myself with knowledge of history and facts. I'm sorry but some of the things you expressed weren't facts. I'm not being eagerly sanctimonious either. Did you really go into this thread with good will? You came in and told me to live without religion. You view religion badly. I would be far less "sanctimonious" about it if I were in a thread with regular atheists. If you were philosophical, we could talk it out like Ronito and I have. But instead you repeat false statements while talking about how I should "research".

Let's be honest.

This discussion is hardly one-sided.

Some dude said that having faith is stupid? He's an edge lord. Point blank. If that's sanctimonious lock me up, throw away the key.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 11, 2017, 10:21:57 PM
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 :lol
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: tiesto on July 20, 2017, 09:42:56 PM
I didn't grow up with pets and have no interest whatsoever in owning one. I like most animals, I just can't be arsed to take care of them and clean up after them.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on July 28, 2017, 12:09:32 AM
https://www.americamagazine.org/faith/2017/07/25/how-augustines-confessions-and-left-politics-inspired-my-conversion-catholicism

:bow
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 28, 2017, 04:29:26 AM
couldnt fucking let it go could you
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Raist on July 28, 2017, 10:04:51 AM
Getting hyped about a methodist converting to catholicism?

Would you still :bow if someone traded gonorrhea for chlamydia?
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Huff on July 28, 2017, 12:12:11 PM
Yes, chlamydia is a lot easier to treat and has less antibiotic resistance
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Nabbis on July 28, 2017, 01:43:17 PM
I seriously don't get it. Leaving the existence of God or "something" alone for a while, the odds of it picking a organization in the buttfuck nowhere in the universe as it's spokesman seems rather low. Okay, let's say it's still possible. Now... Out of the 200 000 years or so of Homo Sapiens existence, God only got interested in us 4000 years ago and in a very small tribe at that to spread his love?

Here where it gets really interesting. After appearing, God allowed in the span of those 4000 years for his followers to splinter in myriads of different beliefs while each and every one of them claims to follow Gods will?

And out of all those branches someone would pick Catholics? The sect that is very dogmatic in it's belief to preserve it's sanctity yet at the same time notorious for pedo stuff?

Well, good luck.

Suppose one wishes to take a leap of faith. Why not simply make your heart the church you need, at least you wont need to rectify hypocrisy and corruption with divine will unless you yourself do it?

Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Joe Molotov on July 28, 2017, 01:56:17 PM
And what about the crusades?
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Cerveza mas fina on July 29, 2017, 06:34:55 AM
guys stop asking hard questions

himuros church loves lgbt and would never burn people at the stake
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Himu on August 02, 2017, 03:38:04 PM
http://www.patheos.com/blogs/formerlyfundie/intelligent-atheists-still-read-bible-like-fundamentalists/

:rejoice

Accompanied reddit thread:

https://www.reddit.com/r/Christianity/comments/6r4ow8/found_this_rather_thoughtprovoking_why_do/

:bow
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: I'm a Puppy! on August 02, 2017, 03:43:26 PM
It's almost as if when someone claims moral superiority based on their belief and following a book, that people will point out how if you're not following what the book says you're just picking and choosing.  :trumps
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Atramental on August 02, 2017, 03:45:31 PM
http://www.patheos.com/blogs/formerlyfundie/intelligent-atheists-still-read-bible-like-fundamentalists/

:rejoice

Accompanied reddit thread:

https://www.reddit.com/r/Christianity/comments/6r4ow8/found_this_rather_thoughtprovoking_why_do/

:bow
"Why Do Intelligent Atheists Still Read The Bible Like Fundamentalists?"

Because a good chunk of fundamentalists are wanting to change legislation in the US to fit their rigged & highly literal interpretations of scripture.

If some people at BJU had their way in this country, Himu, you would be thrown in jail for sodomy and cross-dressing.

Also, it's a waste of time to try and debate/argue with non-fundamentalists since they're interpretations of scripture are very subjective and highly allegorical.
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Raist on August 02, 2017, 05:09:55 PM
It's just an allegory bro.
               
               -Jesus Salads
Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Brehvolution on August 03, 2017, 02:28:39 PM
It's almost as if when someone claims moral superiority based on their belief and following a book, that people will point out how if you're not following what the book says you're just picking and choosing.  :trumps

..but enough about trump voting evangelicals.  :dice

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Title: Re: What are some things you think that go against societal expectations?
Post by: Atramental on August 07, 2017, 07:21:01 PM
http://www.patheos.com/blogs/formerlyfundie/intelligent-atheists-still-read-bible-like-fundamentalists/

:rejoice

Accompanied reddit thread:

https://www.reddit.com/r/Christianity/comments/6r4ow8/found_this_rather_thoughtprovoking_why_do/

:bow
"Why Do Intelligent Atheists Still Read The Bible Like Fundamentalists?"

Because a good chunk of fundamentalists are wanting to change legislation in the US to fit their rigged & highly literal interpretations of scripture.

If some people at BJU had their way in this country, Himu, you would be thrown in jail for sodomy and cross-dressing.

Also, it's a waste of time to try and debate/argue with non-fundamentalists since they're interpretations of scripture are very subjective and highly allegorical.
Here's an article that goes into more depth about my concerns about Christian "dominionists":
https://thinkprogress.org/trumps-christian-nationalism/