Friends' Friends and Ex's: Off limits?

[Vagabond]

I know some of you used to post love topics... so let me give you all a better peek of my dark life <3

I have had a friend since Elementary school. He's been my best friend all throughout middle and high school.

But anyway, he invited me to a party some time ago, and I met more of his circle whom I weren't all to familiar with (Though I knew some of them).

I got to know a lot of his friends, and ex girlfriends.I've gotten intimate with one of his "Best friends" a few days ago, and she had known him since middle school.

So me and my friend talked last night, and the first thing he says is "Hey, I didn't know you knew Melissa", I'm like "Yeah", but after that the convo was real abrupt, and he said he has to do something and he'll call me later

He then proceeded to hang up. I feel like something's up.

So what's his deal? Did he have feelings for her still?

[The Fake Shemp]

As a guy, you're allowed to date your guy friend's ex or friend but you MUST ask permission first.  This is nothing like the women's code of honor, where all exes are off limits.

[smiles-and-cries]

the only real code between guys:

1) Ask

2) Was it good, was it worth it? DO IT

3) does he care for her and is he a good friend, are you close like a brother? DON'T DO IT

[CrystalGemini]

All's fair in love and war. 

[Vagabond]

Yeah, he's like a brother to me...

But it seems like he wants me to keep apart from HIS circle or something. It's really strange.

[brawndolicious]

Can you get him drunk?  Pretend to be drunk with him and ask.

[smiles-and-cries]

Yeah, he's like a brother to me...

But it seems like he wants me to keep apart from HIS circle or something. It's really strange.

maybe you think of him as a brother and he has another circle who he wants to be part of and they don't like you?

or he does not think of you as a brother?

anyway you already done the crime right? so fess up

you can always be a real man and say, "It wasn't me"

[Vagabond]

Yeah, he's like a brother to me...

But it seems like he wants me to keep apart from HIS circle or something. It's really strange.

maybe you think of him as a brother and he has another circle who he wants to be part of and they don't like you?

or he does not think of you as a brother?

To be honest, I think he's either ashamed of me or ashamed of his group though... Like check this, during HIS party he kept kinda trying to shove me back to this group that I knew very well, while I wanted to try to get to know some of those chicks better. He kept popping up every 2 minutes like "You know, Mark's here. Have you seen him yet?"

Maybe that's his way of marking his territory, but I got cool with everyone. I hardly knew some of them (And some of them are fucking nerds), but I got along with everyone.

[The Black Stallion]

As a guy, you're allowed to date your guy friend's ex or friend but you MUST ask permission first.  This is nothing like the women's code of honor, where all exes are off limits.

Definately... some of my old friends passed around this one chick like a joint.

Yeah, he's like a brother to me...

But it seems like he wants me to keep apart from HIS circle or something. It's really strange.

I've had that happen. I felt pretty disrepsected, so I ended up cutting them out of my life. Just stopped talking to them. If they're too good for me, then I'm too good for them. But then again, are you a nerdy type guy in real life? Maybe his new friends aren't really compatable with you. That's very possible as well.

[Vagabond]

n/m not interested.

[smiles-and-cries]

Yeah, he's like a brother to me...

But it seems like he wants me to keep apart from HIS circle or something. It's really strange.

maybe you think of him as a brother and he has another circle who he wants to be part of and they don't like you?

or he does not think of you as a brother?

To be honest, I think he's either ashamed of me or ashamed of his group though... Like check this, during HIS party he kept kinda trying to shove me back to this group that I knew very well, while I wanted to try to get to know some of those chicks better. He kept popping up every 2 minutes like "You know, Mark's here. Have you seen him yet?"

Maybe that's his way of marking his territory, but I got cool with everyone. I hardly knew some of them (And some of them are fucking nerds), but I got along with everyone.

He could be ashamed of you or he may be afraid that your game is too strong and he wants to cockblock

A friend that is a brother has to want to share the wealth I would think

[brawndolicious]

Yeah, he's like a brother to me...

But it seems like he wants me to keep apart from HIS circle or something. It's really strange.

maybe you think of him as a brother and he has another circle who he wants to be part of and they don't like you?

or he does not think of you as a brother?

To be honest, I think he's either ashamed of me or ashamed of his group though... Like check this, during HIS party he kept kinda trying to shove me back to this group that I knew very well, while I wanted to try to get to know some of those chicks better. He kept popping up every 2 minutes like "You know, Mark's here. Have you seen him yet?"

Maybe that's his way of marking his territory, but I got cool with everyone. I hardly knew some of them (And some of them are fucking nerds), but I got along with everyone.

A friend that is a brother has to want to share the wealth I would think

What the fuck?  Just ask him.  Maintain your innocence of being ignorant ask.

[Vagabond]

How could he be ashamed of me?

When I think back on it...

I remember when I threw a party, and he was invited of course.. But it seems like he was intimidated by the whole thing. He watched TV the whole time on the big screen and sipped, kinda away from the crowd.

I dont know if he's just intimidated by a lot of "public school" black kids or what.

But his circle is real cool. If he was being defensive of his chicks, I definitely understand. Because... Cot dayum he has a great selection of friends.

[The Black Stallion]

How could he be ashamed of me?

When I think back on it...

I remember when I threw a party, and he was invited of course.. But it seems like he was intimidated by the whole thing. He watched TV the whole time on the big screen and sipped, kinda away from the crowd.

I dont know if he's just intimidated by a lot of "public school" black kids or what.

But his circle is real cool. If he was being defensive of his chicks, I definitely understand. Because... Cot dayum he has a great selection of friends.

You throw parties at your house? Aren't you worried about people breaking/stealing your shit?

[smiles-and-cries]

oh yeah what are the ages of this group? it will help with finding a solution

can't you just ask him what the deal is he is your bro right?

[smiles-and-cries]

You throw parties at your house? Aren't you worried about people breaking/stealing your shit?

What's so strange about that, you don't throw parties Mr. Giacomo Casanova?

[Vagabond]

You throw parties at your house? Aren't you worried about people breaking/stealing your shit?

Kinda, but replacing shit would most likely be cheaper than renting a 'till-6 at the Log Cabin or the nearest hotel ballroom

oh yeah what are the ages of this group? it will help with finding a solution

can't you just ask him what the deal is he is your bro right?

We're both 18, the girl is 17 and most of our crew is in the same age range.

I'll ask him later today, and I hope I'll get a straight answer.

[smiles-and-cries]

yeah just ask him about his actions and about this girl

[The Black Stallion]

You throw parties at your house? Aren't you worried about people breaking/stealing your shit?

What's so strange about that, you don't throw parties Mr. Giacomo Casanova?

No, my house is pathetic. It's the first house that my parents bought when they were just starting out in the homeownership game. We have more than enough money to buy a way nicer house, but my parents don't cooperate well with each other, so we've just stayed here the whole time. My house is not suited for entertaining more than 4 guests at a time. My dad always complains about that, but never does anything to fix it.

Plus, hosting a house party is fucking crazy. It's too costly in terms of damages/thefts afterwards, shit and I live in a white town. I would hate to think of all the stealing that goes down in the hood... not to mention the violence. Come to think about it, the only things I've felt comfortable hosting in my house are poker and video game tournaments. People don't steal shit when they're trash talking over some Soul Calibur 2. But even then my basement still ends up trashed afterwards. Needless to say, I don't host either anymore.

The last "party" my family hosted was my graduation celebration. We just rent out the church. Plus they give you all sorts of free shit. So it all works out.

[Vagabond]

Well, if you're having a party... You wouldn't want to throw it in a church.

Honestly, the most I'm worried about is someone going into something they have no business in, or fornicating somewhere and causing a ruckus/leaving a mess.

I've had someone blow out my subwoofer, there's been countless light bulbs broken, someone spilled a drink on the TV and broke the small CRT, and there was a chair or two broken, but all in all it'd come out to be much less than the $300 the Log Cabin would be asking for. My house is large enough to accomodate at least 40 people, provided I have enough seats yet leave enough floorspace open.

Honestly, the worst thing that happened at my place

And this is gonna sound REALLY bad

But someone pulled out a burner on someone else. And I'm not talking CD-RW

[smiles-and-cries]

^thats fucked up

Does Vagabond live in the hood?

Hold out for College parties then

[Vagabond]

I don't live in the hood. My neighborhood's nice. It's middle-class.

[smiles-and-cries]

Burner is a gun right? I'm old remember  ;D

Guns come with parties no matter where you are from I guess

[CajoleJuice]

Burner is a gun right? I'm old remember  ;D

Guns come with parties no matter where you are from I guess

I've never heard of a gun getting pulled out a party, among my friends at least. But I live in pretty much the definition of high-middle class suburbia.

[smiles-and-cries]

Burner is a gun right? I'm old remember  ;D

Guns come with parties no matter where you are from I guess

I've never heard of a gun getting pulled out a party, among my friends at least. But I live in pretty much the definition of high-middle class suburbia.

Damn Juice do you even make it to the Puerto Rican Day Parades? I do... cause I'm from Hispaniola

[Vagabond]

I've heard about guns being pulled out everywhere. I mean, part of it may come from the group, but it's no different from going to places and witnessing people fight each other with razorblades.

Noone was hurt, and I got the full story. They finished what they had to do a couple of days later, and although someone was hurt, noone got shot or was killed. They fought.

[The Black Stallion]

I've heard about guns being pulled out everywhere. I mean, part of it may come from the group, but it's no different from going to places and witnessing people fight each other with razorblades.

Noone was hurt, and I got the full story. They finished what they had to do a couple of days later, and although someone was hurt, noone got shot or was killed. They fought.

Once you see a gun or cocaine... it's time to leave. No joke.

[Vagabond]

Guns are ubiquitous. Not really...

[smiles-and-cries]

guns are bad children, but cocaine? Thats the same thing you find in Tylenol its not so bad 

[The Black Stallion]

Guns are ubiquitous. Not really...

...right.

guns are bad children, but cocaine? Thats the same thing you find in Tylenol its not so bad 

The thing is, if people are doing coke and shit, around here especially, theres probably a lot of other shit going down that you don't want to associate yourself with.

Also, if someone's toting a pistol at a party around here, they're planning on using it in one form or another. Call me a pussy, but I don't want to be around when shots ring out.

[Vagabond]

Do you mean leave the party, or leave the neighborhood?

[etiolate]

Friend's friend = okay, but make sure you haven't been a total ass around your friend or he'll tell her
ex's = no, absolutely no

[The Black Stallion]

Do you mean leave the party, or leave the neighborhood?

Party.

But then again, if you're in a neigborhood where people feel the need to pack heat, I'd advise finding another place to call home.

People around here talk about consealed weapons, but the only guys that actually get the permits are middle aged white men with small penisies. Even then, none of them actually carry a weapon. It's more of a badge type deal...

Militia men like carrying guns too... But they stay in the woods, so they don't bother me.

[smiles-and-cries]

Its called common sense Stallion.

If you don't want trouble you don't hang around for trouble, thats not being a pussy... a pussy is someone who stands up for nothing and takes shit all the time.

Sound judgment is never a bad thing

[Vagabond]

Kinda hard when it was in my house.

And it also depends on the situation IMO. That situation was able to be handled, but yea, a lot of ppl did leave.

[The Black Stallion]

Kinda hard when it was in my house.

And it also depends on the situation IMO. That situation was able to be handled, but yea, a lot of ppl did leave.

Are you sure you don't live in the hood? I live in a pretty middle class neighborhood (nothing to extravagant) and I have yet to hear of an actual incident where guns were drawn at a party. Guns at a party is some hood shit. In fact this is the closest I've come to seeing a gun at a party:



However, there are an unsavory group of black kids that are a year or two younger than me that were into fighting and stealing shit at parties. I'm pretty sure one of them may have fucked around and brought a gun. But a good lot of them just got nabbed for GTA, so I don't really know. Also, I heard of a party out in the woods that was charging admission and they had guys with bats and shit guarding the place. A couple of my friends ended up getting their asses whooped over some bullshit there.

I usually don't fuck with parties. I'm not into drinking and sitting around bonfires anyway, so they're pretty lame to me.

[Shuri]

Vaga, sounds like there's lot of issues between you and your friend, you should ask him whats up about that or else it's only gonna get bigger and bigger. For some reasons maybe he doesnt feel comfortable having you around with his own circle of friends, maybe he doesnt like mixing social groups or something. Nothing wrong with that, but I was a bit like that back in highschool, I had friends in school, and my regular friends.

[Vagabond]

I asked him today.. and he said he didnt think me and my group and him and his group would jive... Which sounds like a bullshit excuse to me.

But I didn't ask to rell him about the girl. I think he kinda already knows.

[Phoenix Dark]

I know some of you used to post love topics... so let me give you all a better peek of my dark life <3

I have had a friend since Elementary school. He's been my best friend all throughout middle and high school.

But anyway, he invited me to a party some time ago, and I met more of his circle whom I weren't all to familiar with (Though I knew some of them).

I got to know a lot of his friends, and ex girlfriends.I've gotten intimate with one of his "Best friends" a few days ago, and she had known him since middle school.

So me and my friend talked last night, and the first thing he says is "Hey, I didn't know you knew Melissa", I'm like "Yeah", but after that the convo was real abrupt, and he said he has to do something and he'll call me later

He then proceeded to hang up. I feel like something's up.

So what's his deal? Did he have feelings for her still?

MAN LAW: Friend's girlfriends are off limits FOREVER. But if she's hot, wait 6 months.

/thread