because otherwise I would thought that I'm not alone because I'm undesirable, stupid and strange. I would have then bought a new garter and silk stockings and went grocery shopping.
What Every Single Girl Needs To Know
It's all too easy to fall into that dreadful state of mind following a breakup.
Being a single girl in this world can be a frustrating and demoralizing experience. It is not so difficult to lose sight of your own self-worth at the end of a relationship or even after being single for a few months. Most women can remember the embarrassment of being the only one at a family function without a date or getting the subtle look of pity when they’ve exposed their single status. Sometimes just being ‘one’ is not fun, especially when you look around and all you see are pairs.
So does being single have to be such a trial? The answer is a resounding no. To help you beat the solo blues, you need some advice to transform you into a single who is undeniably fabulous, at which point, men, well, they can eat their hearts out.
It's Your Time
While you're single, take the time to focus on yourself. This is the perfect opportunity to be selfish and do all the things you’ve been meaning to. Give yourself goals and consider yourself a construction zone. If there are things you don’t like about yourself, now is the time to change them so you don’t begin to blame flaws (probably non-existent) for your single hood.
Being healthy and dedicating time to do the things you love are two of the best ways to relieve stress and to feel great about how you look and who you are when you’re single.
As a bonus, if you can manage to enjoy your life, what you are doing and how you are feeling, your confidence will act as a magnet for men. When you feel great about yourself, inside and out, you won’t be as prone to slip into the single settling pattern of returning to men you know are no good for you. You also won't allow yourself to date guys who normally wouldn’t stand a chance.
Back to Relationship School
After getting out of any relationship, savvy women will take the time to try to figure out what went wrong. Being single is a perfect time to engage in this learning process. The separation from negative relationship drama and the increased time for yourself will help you understand your past relationships and partners.
What did you love about your ex? What will you avoid the next time around? Answering these questions will enable you to let go of the past and help you avoid a new relationship that will only be a re-run of your last.
Single is Not a Disease
Often times, single women need to adjust their mindset. Being single does not, under any circumstances, mean that something is wrong with you. You are not alone because you are undesirable, stupid or strange. You are alone because you have not yet met the right person for you. You are alone because you are not interested in a bad relationship. You are alone because you know what you want for yourself and you aren’t going to settle for less.
Moreover, single women must remember that just because they are flying solo does not mean they can’t feel and be sexy, spirited and spunky. Wear your highest heels to the grocery store or indulge in gorgeous lingerie just because and just for you. Don’t be ashamed of your single status. Do what you can to have fun with it and recognize it as the rare and liberating opportunity it is.
The Couch is Not Your Friend
Some single women use their lack of a relationship as an excuse to ‘veg out’ perpetually. They stay in most nights watching reality TV and eating popcorn before being dragged out into civilization by their friends. I’m not saying that after a breakup a woman does not have the right to sweatpants and chocolate, because she absolutely does. You just don’t want this pattern of feeling unsociable and sorry for yourself to become a pattern, and that’s why it’s so important to get out and about.
Your social life does not have to stop when you are single, nor should it. Going out with your girlfriends to dinner, a movie, a bar or club is an ideal way to keep you from feeling lonely and depressed. Being social also provides the perfect excuse to get dressed up. Getting a little male attention after you’ve done so is always good for the ego, and statistically, your chances of meeting someone new skyrocket if you are in a bar as opposed to on your cozy couch.
Revel in Your Friendships
Despite our best intentions, sometimes we get carried away with our passionate epics and let our friendships fall by the wayside. It’s far too easy to become absorbed with your new lover or boyfriend, but when things go awry your girlfriends become an absolute necessity.
Take this time as a bachelorette to reconnect with your friends, because your platonic relationships have the potential to be some of the most gratifying and enduring of your life. Never forget that if you are lucky and treat them well, your friends will be there before, during and long after a romance has fizzled.
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be single - i dare you
You are sexy, smart and deserving of a good relationship, even though it’s easy for a single woman in this world to feel otherwise. Don’t let being solo depress or paralyze you. To sum up, work on yourself, learn from the past, accept your single hood, get off the couch and enjoy yourself! You may find the single experience to be something you love rather than something you have to endure. So go ahead and enjoy being single - I dare you.
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