I'm the "other man", am I a horrible human being?

[The Fake Shemp]

I won't lie.  Even if Disposable White Guy is reading.  I've been having an on and off again relationship with a woman that is in a supposedly commited relationship.  For me, it's been great - we're clearly drawn to one another and do not desire a relationship whatsoever.  But I'm a notoriously moral person and it's eating at me.

[Smooth Groove]

I've been there before.  It's totally not worth it if you're gonna feel guilty about it.  I didn't go all the way with her but I hated myself later for even considering it. 

[Human Snorenado]

It will end poorly for one or both of you.  If you're fine with that then there's no worries.

[Smooth Groove]

Also, women that cheat tend to be selfish so you're gonna hate her eventually anyway. 

[The Fake Shemp]

How can anyone be fine with it ending poorly?  There's obviously some kind of end game - I mean, it has to end at some point.  I just don't want it to be tears.

Also, women that cheat tend to be selfish so you're gonna hate her eventually anyway. 

What I feel is almost purely physical.  I mean, she's fun to talk to, but I'm not even considering a relationship.  It feels great initially, but then I feel pretty bad afterwards.  Because this poor guy doesn't even know.

[Kestastrophe]

You Jews are never happy . 

[Vizzys]

yes

[CajoleJuice]

How can anyone be fine with it ending poorly?  There's obviously some kind of end game - I mean, it has to end at some point.  I just don't want it to be tears.

You are fucked.

[demi]

How big are we talking here? Supple?

[The Fake Shemp]

I don't do bears, demi.  Sorry.

[Kestastrophe]

Who is this Disposable White Guy anyways?

[The Fake Shemp]

He's my best friend.  My hetero lifemate, if you will.  He lurks and whatnot.  Even he is not aware of my late night social calls (to be fair, he has forsaken me six out of seven days of week for his blasted girlfriend!), but I think he's also suspscious of some of my behaviors as of late.

And he came over yesterday to raise my spirits with buffalo wings and pumpkin ale.  Basically, he's the greatest guy ever.

[Smooth Groove]

Ok, that's fucked up.  I never met the other guy. 

edit-NM, I mistakenly thought your buddy is the other man. 

[Propagandhim]

He's my best friend.  My hetero lifemate, if you will.  He lurks and whatnot.  Even he is not aware of my late night social calls (to be fair, he has forsaken me six out of seven days of week for his blasted girlfriend!), but I think he's also suspscious of some of my behaviors as of late.

And he came over yesterday to raise my spirits with buffalo wings and pumpkin ale.  Basically, he's the greatest guy ever.

Dude..

[The Fake Shemp]

Wait, what changed your opinion from a few posts ago.

[The Fake Shemp]

Wait! No, guys! I was telling Kestastrophe who Disposable White Guy was.  I am not hitting it off with girlfriend.  I repeat, that is not occuring.  She borderline hates me.

To elaborate, this is a female I met when I was worked for GameStop.  Not currently under the employ of the company, but someone I met by association.

[Smooth Groove]

I'd never mess around with a friend's woman.  That's all. 

I guess we agree on that point. 

[Kestastrophe]

Oh, from the first post I thought he was the guy who was dating the woman you were plugging. That's not so bad then.

 Do you know the other guy? If he's a douchebag then it would be easy to rationalize a justification in your own mind.

[Propagandhim]

Wait! No, guys! I was telling Kestastrophe who Disposable White Guy was.  I am not hitting it off with girlfriend.  I repeat, that is not occuring.  She borderline hates me.

To elaborate, this is a female I met when I was worked for GameStop.  Not currently under the employ of the company, but someone I met by association.

Ohhhh okay.

I'd do the 'ol Kant routine and think about whether or not I'd want someone to do that sorta thing to me.  Usually I wake up better in the morning.  But, if you can rationalize that what you're doing ain't so bad for the other guy, no worries.  

[The Fake Shemp]

I don't know who her boyfriend is.  I've been told repeatedly that he's not satisfying her, physically or emotionally or financially.  She's just unhappy with that situation.

[Kestastrophe]

There has been an AIDs epidemic on EB the past few months, I hope you're at least cappin your jimmy.

[Madrun Badrun]

financially? 

sounds like this chicks a bitch. 

FHUTA her for me once!

[The Fake Shemp]

Yeah, the guy is apparently one of the non-ambitious types with a minimum wage job.

[Madrun Badrun]

So unambitious that fucking an ex-gamestop manager is a great step up in the world?

Does Demi have a girlfriend he's not telling us about? 

[demi]

He's my best friend.  My hetero lifemate, if you will.  He lurks and whatnot.  Even he is not aware of my late night social calls (to be fair, he has forsaken me six out of seven days of week for his blasted girlfriend!), but I think he's also suspscious of some of my behaviors as of late.

And he came over yesterday to raise my spirits with buffalo wings and pumpkin ale.  Basically, he's the greatest guy ever.

Would you JO during a tornado together?

[DJ_Tet]

Did you nail her yet?

Just know, if she'll cheat on him with you, she'll cheat on you too.  So just keep her at a distance and if you can handle the guilt you should be fine.

It's a shit thing to do, but if she's gonna cheat with you she'll cheat with someone else if you turn her down. 

[DJ_Tet]

He's not fucking his roommate's gf, for those that have reading comprehension problems.

[Fresh Prince]

Not really, though is it worth the potential drama. This guy sounds like a complete walkover however. 

[Joe Molotov]

He's my best friend.  My hetero lifemate, if you will.  He lurks and whatnot.  Even he is not aware of my late night social calls (to be fair, he has forsaken me six out of seven days of week for his blasted girlfriend!), but I think he's also suspscious of some of my behaviors as of late.

And he came over yesterday to raise my spirits with buffalo wings and pumpkin ale.  Basically, he's the greatest guy ever.

Would you JO during a tornado together?

No gay stuff, though.

[The Fake Shemp]

Yeah, Tet, we are firmly in the realm of a physical affair. Not so much emotionally.

And I'm well aware that she's not trustworthy, but I have no desire to start a relationship with this or any woman.

I'm just feeling like a schmuck tonight.

It didn't help that I had a few drinks tonight - the alcohol is just making me feel worse.

[Flannel Boy]

Drinking makes me feel bad, too; I still do it every night--alone.

[Mandark]

But I'm a notoriously moral person.

Apparently not!

[Flannel Boy]

But I'm a notorious liar

Apparently so!

.

[xnikki118x]

I just think, what if you were to start falling for her? And what if she actually left her boyfriend for you? She'd probably cheat on you, too, if she's already cheating on him. People don't really change like that IMO--once a cheater, always a cheater.

Even if there's no chance of a relationship developing between you two, I'd get out anyway. What if the guy finds out and he comes after you or something?

[Flannel Boy]

Nothing wrong with a little hedonism, Willco.  Life's too short to worry about the feelings of people who aren't going to give you anything.

Is this what Winnipeg did to you?
It's a good thing I never leave the apartment.

[Flannel Boy]

you, sir, are the devil.

[Mupepe]

i've been the other man for over 2 and a half years.  i stopped caring like a year ago

[Boogie]

But I'm a notoriously moral person.

Apparently not!

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[BlackMage]

I'm the guy fucking Disposable White guy's GF.

[Flannel Boy]

I'm the guy fucking Disposable White guy's GF.

I'm the guy fucking blackmage--and I don't regret it.

[Reb]

It's simple, it's her problem.

If it feels good, go with it. If it stops feeling good, dump her. She's a cheating whore anyway.

[Flannel Boy]

It's simple, it's her problem.

If it feels good, go with it. If it stops feeling good, dump her. She's a cheating whore anyway.

I'm racked with guilt for things I've never done; how do you people sleep at night.

[Reb]

It's simple, it's her problem.

If it feels good, go with it. If it stops feeling good, dump her. She's a cheating whore anyway.

I'm racked with guilt for things I've never done; how do you people sleep at night.

It's common knowledge that things you don't do eat at you way more then the things you do.

It's "I'm such a scared little loser" vs. "you live, you learn."

[Flannel Boy]

It's simple, it's her problem.

If it feels good, go with it. If it stops feeling good, dump her. She's a cheating whore anyway.

I'm racked with guilt for things I've never done; how do you people sleep at night.

It's common knowledge that things you don't do eat at you way more then the things you do.

It's "I'm such a scared little loser" vs. "you live, you learn."

Can't say that you don't have me pegged.

[BlueTsunami]

I can tell you right now Willco, any relationship that starts off in this type of situation never end well. You'll always be worrying if she'll lost interest you and do what she did to the former guy. If your not considering something long term with her, then hey cool, I feel bad for the "main guy" but your gonna do what you do.

It's simple, it's her problem.

If it feels good, go with it. If it stops feeling good, dump her. She's a cheating whore anyway.

[bork]

All I'm going to say is to be careful, Willco.  You don't know who that the other guy really is. 

There was a guy on a Neo-Geo mailing list I used to be on about 10 years ago who got shot by the husband of the lady he was cheating on with. 

[T-Short]

So unambitious that fucking an ex-gamestop manager is a great step up in the world?

A little late here but lol ouch

[The Fake Shemp]

I don't want to get shot!

And - hey! - managers make more than minimum wage.

[The Fake Shemp]

I definitely should not have drank after talking to her last night.  Or posted this.  Makes me feel ten times worse.

[tiesto]

I would just say "bail out"... you can probably get your fix from somewhere else. I believe in karma, a bit... you wouldn't want a girl cheating on you behind your back, so you gotta at least somewhat feel for her boyfriend.

[Disposable White Guy]

I won't lie.  Even if Disposable White Guy is reading.  I've been having an on and off again relationship with a woman that is in a supposedly commited relationship.  For me, it's been great - we're clearly drawn to one another and do not desire a relationship whatsoever.  But I'm a notoriously moral person and it's eating at me.

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Do not fuck this one on the comfy couch, dickcheese 

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[Brehvolution]

Drinking makes me feel bad, too; I still do it every night--alone.

Me too. So you are not alone.

[BlackMage]

I'm the guy fucking Disposable White guy's GF.

I'm the guy fucking blackmage--and I don't regret it.

which one?