Author Topic: wtf?! call me! (Read 6808 times)

recursivelyenumerable · « **on:** December 02, 2008, 01:18:14 AM »

omg this girl was all like HEY MIND IF I SIT WITH YOU, I LOVE YOUR SWEATER and OH YOU PLAY THE CLARINET, WHAT A BEAUTIFUL INSTRUMENT and meaningful conversation meaningful conversation and THANK YOU FOR A GREAT CONVERSATION, YOU REALLY MADE MY NIGHT I HOPE WE'LL MEET AGAIN and oh can I have your number, I bet you'll give me a fake number though (note: this selective collection of out of context paraphrases is borderline slander)

and then she doesn't call me?! wtf? she didn't even seem incredibly drunk or high! look you like me, I like you, can we skip the tedious anxiety and second-guessing please? omg this is SO DUMB

MyNameIsMethodis · « **Reply #1 on:** December 02, 2008, 01:19:31 AM »

Wait you gave YOUR number to HER?

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #2 on:** December 02, 2008, 01:21:12 AM »

my cellphone was out of batteries. besides, she asked for it and generally initiated the whole business. so I figured the usual rules don't really apply.

Greatness Gone · « **Reply #3 on:** December 02, 2008, 01:21:41 AM »

She's probably a lesbian using you for your semen. Or just a rapist. Or a lesbian rapist.

She probably thinks you're a rapist.

BlueTsunami · « **Reply #4 on:** December 02, 2008, 01:21:48 AM »

You were probably victim of a reverse "She's all that"

Phoenix Dark · « **Reply #5 on:** December 02, 2008, 01:23:15 AM »

dude check your wallet, this might have been a ploy to steal your shit

MyNameIsMethodis · « **Reply #6 on:** December 02, 2008, 01:23:53 AM »

She already stole his shit, she got free drinks or whatever.

Giving her your number

You're green. You always ask for her number. ALWAYS.

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #7 on:** December 02, 2008, 01:24:37 AM »

I didn't buy her a thing. I've never bought a girl a drink in my life, I've had them buy me drinks though. Mud: stupid poster or stupidest poster?

TVC15 · « **Reply #8 on:** December 02, 2008, 01:30:52 AM »

Quote from: Genghis Cohen on December 02, 2008, 01:24:20 AM

I love that song

Phoenix Dark · « **Reply #9 on:** December 02, 2008, 01:32:32 AM »

BlueTsunami · « **Reply #10 on:** December 02, 2008, 01:33:34 AM »

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #11 on:** December 02, 2008, 01:34:56 AM »

I guess my post kinda gave the wrong idea in my rush to paraphrase the ego-stroking bits. We mostly had an actual legitimate, reasonably intelligent conversation, her few ego stroking remarks were kind of anomalous. But she's a folk/hippie singer-songwriter, which I guess gives you a license to say odd gushy things from time to time.

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #12 on:** December 02, 2008, 02:02:04 AM »

I found her myspace and facebook pages via googlestalking btw, so I could contact her if I really wanted, but am not sure that's kosher. her music is pretty good though!

BlueTsunami · « **Reply #13 on:** December 02, 2008, 02:11:58 AM »

Yeah, I wouldn't contact her. Giving her your number put the ball in her hands. If she doesn't act on it then it sucks.

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #14 on:** December 02, 2008, 02:13:08 AM »

she's playing a show on Saturday so I could even show up in person if I wanted to be really creepy

Don Flamenco · « **Reply #15 on:** December 02, 2008, 02:27:21 AM »

Quote from: recursivelyenumerable on December 02, 2008, 02:13:08 AM

she's playing a show on Saturday so I could even show up in person if I wanted to be really creepy

stand in the front row, right in front of her, staring right at her the whole time, occasionally shifting your glance from directly into her eyes to her hands. Have someone record it and post it here

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #16 on:** December 02, 2008, 02:30:05 AM »

that sounds so romantic

think I'll do it!

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #17 on:** December 02, 2008, 02:47:17 AM »

but seriously, doesn't the fact that she started it and all give me at least a little bit of leeway in contacting her? I mean I'm not saying I'm free to harass her in perpetuity, if she's decided she's not interested after all that's cool, but I think I ought to be spotted a followup contact.

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #18 on:** December 02, 2008, 02:53:05 AM »

and of course I can't necessarily assume she's interested in a relationship or whatever --- maybe she just wants a friend or a music partner. which is totally cool too

Don Flamenco · « **Reply #19 on:** December 02, 2008, 03:06:42 AM »

Sure, in a week, drop one line through a myspace PM and just put it out there that you wouldn't mind hanging out with her again. If she doesn't write back (or doesn't seem happy about the note), it wasn't meant to be and leave it at that...though if she does write something like "quit stalking me" then apologize and let it be known you won't try writing again after that. No harm done.

Tieno · « **Reply #20 on:** December 02, 2008, 03:48:20 AM »

Write a song for her and give it to her. She'll be touched and totally fall in love with you. I guarantee it.

Powerslave · « **Reply #21 on:** December 02, 2008, 06:40:05 AM »

Tell her you're pregnant when she's performing on Saturday.

MyNameIsMethodis · « **Reply #22 on:** December 02, 2008, 12:33:31 PM »

It's giving out your number and not getting hers in return. That's just plain distinguished mentally-challenged.

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #23 on:** December 02, 2008, 12:35:33 PM »

If she gave me her number I'd never call it anyhow. I have about a dozen numbers of various reasonably appealing women I met at bars and cafes on my cell phone and I've never called any of them. I've sent them odd text messages in the middle of the night though. Anyway, I already explained that my cell phone was out of batteries.

FatalT · « **Reply #24 on:** December 02, 2008, 12:38:13 PM »

DO NOT CONTACT HER.

I repeat.

DO NOT CONTACT HER.

Wait for her to contact you. How long has it been since you gave her your number?

Learn from my mistakes. I did the exact same thing as you're planning on doing and it got me this:

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WTF!!!! you are one crazy mofo!!!
Stalk people much?? huh huh huh?
Geepers Creepers, you sooo took my name from my video account and then searched me...sad really!
hmmm I dont know if i should even accept you as my myspace friend...I mean what would we even talk about.. FFXI?? that game is soo old school!
haha
Have a good one
Oh BTW the movie that I just got... (Code name: the cleaner) was pretty funny.
Peace in the Middle east
Sodonia

The situation in question was also posted on GAF (without that Myspace message included so I could at least have a bit of my dignity left): http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?t=145853

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #25 on:** December 02, 2008, 02:41:36 PM »

fatalt sharing his research findings for the greater enrichment of society

we should start a wiki, where everyone can post their experiences until one day we have a knowledge base that anyone can use to find what to do and what not to do in any given situation.

Madrun Badrun · « **Reply #26 on:** December 02, 2008, 03:16:26 PM »

Quote from: recursivelyenumerable on December 02, 2008, 02:41:36 PM

fatalt sharing his research findings for the greater enrichment of society

we should start a wiki, where everyone can post their experiences until one day we have a knowledge base that anyone can use to find what to do and what not to do in any given situation.

amazing idea. As long as no one acts like an alpha male on it. They intimidate me.

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #27 on:** December 02, 2008, 03:17:15 PM »

we were there till closing time, though.

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #28 on:** December 02, 2008, 03:18:54 PM »

yeah, we'll have to implement a zero-tolerance policy on alpha behavior

Tauntaun · « **Reply #29 on:** December 02, 2008, 03:49:49 PM »

Quote from: recursivelyenumerable on December 02, 2008, 03:18:54 PM

yeah, we'll have to implement a zero-tolerance policy on alpha behavior

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #30 on:** December 02, 2008, 04:07:14 PM »

zero. tolerance.

Barry Egan · « **Reply #31 on:** December 02, 2008, 04:09:13 PM »

maybe you guys could find a non-intimidating, empathetic alpha like Will Smith in that one movie

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #32 on:** December 02, 2008, 04:19:17 PM »

that's the most dangerous kind! no, we won't be fooled.

Don Flamenco · « **Reply #33 on:** December 02, 2008, 04:30:44 PM »

I wouldn't use FatalT's situation as the litmus test.
--he didn't notice her wedding ring, apparently. she was married.
--that chick sounds seriously immature/stupid.

If you had a good, long conversation with someone, ensuring that you're not a random stalker, I think trying to contact them once through something like myspace or facebook is fair game. that's practically what those sites were made for. I've reconnected with some people that I've forgotten to exchange info with that way with no problems. Of course, she's supposed to call you. Give it a week or more, then drop a light message. nothing you can lose with that.

On the other hand, googling a work email address or something like that, where they know you had to search hard to get it, is probably less appropriate.

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #34 on:** December 02, 2008, 04:46:19 PM »

yeah, I think this situation is slightly different. she never did give me her full name though, so I had to use a bit of ingenuity to find her (googled her first name + the name of a cafe she'd mentioned she'd played recently) which makes it a bit more stalkerish.

Madrun Badrun · « **Reply #35 on:** December 02, 2008, 04:58:33 PM »

Quote from: Chipopo on December 02, 2008, 04:09:13 PM

maybe you guys could find a non-intimidating, empathetic alpha like Will Smith in that one movie

Mups

MCD · « **Reply #36 on:** December 02, 2008, 05:27:22 PM »

where did you two met? maybe she will be there again.

drozmight · « **Reply #37 on:** December 03, 2008, 08:18:54 AM »

Quote from: BlueTsunami on December 02, 2008, 01:33:34 AM

Jesús Cristo

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #38 on:** December 03, 2008, 12:39:35 PM »

in other news they delayed the start of the LHC till next summer because of some accident?! no wonder my love life is going nowhere.

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #39 on:** December 13, 2008, 12:36:17 AM »

on the advice of my roommate ("if she's interested, she's unlikely to interpret anything you do as creepy, and if she's not interested, you'll find out right away and it won't matter anyway"), which I tend to trust as he is nerdier than me but somehow has always had considerable success with women, I went to her show last Sat. and ... she wasn't there. apparently she had a work party to attend. tho maybe she googlestalked me, found this EB thread, and decided to stay away!

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #40 on:** December 13, 2008, 12:39:56 AM »

ok, I sent her a myspace message

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Hi, this is Max. I met you at [place] a couple weeks ago (play clarinet, study linear algebra, etc.) Are you still interested in getting together sometime to jam or talk or whatever? Maybe I'll come to your next show if that's OK.
I really like [song]

now it's your turn to tell me how lame this message was. tried to keep it simple and to the point, but that probably just made it weak and boring.

otoh, if I'd spent time trying to think up the perfect message, I would probably end up never sending it.

Vizzys · « **Reply #41 on:** December 13, 2008, 12:50:56 AM »

lets jam

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #42 on:** December 13, 2008, 12:55:29 AM »

Madrun Badrun · « **Reply #43 on:** December 13, 2008, 01:05:30 AM »

hope it goes well.

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #44 on:** December 13, 2008, 04:56:14 PM »

she didn't respond (and she's logged in today). Guess that's that; I'm not going to try and contact her anymore unless she contacts me. I don't get it, but whatever.

fistfulofmetal · « **Reply #45 on:** December 13, 2008, 05:08:05 PM »

Quote from: recursivelyenumerable on December 13, 2008, 04:56:14 PM

she didn't respond (and she's logged in today).

that doesn't really mean anything.

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #46 on:** December 13, 2008, 05:10:26 PM »

it means she must've seen my message and chosen not to respond, doesn't it?

fistfulofmetal · « **Reply #47 on:** December 13, 2008, 05:13:09 PM »

not necessarily
i've gotten messages/IMs/emails from good friends that I don't respond to immediately

of course you could be right, but give it a little more time before you make the decision.

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #48 on:** December 13, 2008, 05:14:40 PM »

granted, I'm one to talk; I usually wait weeks to respond to a girl's messages, even if I like her. but I thought I was unusually dysfunctional.

in any case, it's entirely up to her now, no reason to keep it on my mind unless/until I get a response.

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #49 on:** December 15, 2008, 01:12:20 PM »

$:-\$
well at least I've got some inspiration from this: I will make a romantic comedy where after the initial meet-cute, the hero and heroine never meet again and the rest of the movie just alternates between scenes of each of their boring lives

Madrun Badrun · « **Reply #50 on:** December 15, 2008, 01:14:23 PM »

It would be a lot funnier if it was scenes of her awesome sex filled life and whenever it cut to the dude he was pulling his hair out starting at his emails.

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #51 on:** December 15, 2008, 01:18:29 PM »

on the plus side, I randomly messaged one of her attractive facebook friends with a Marx quote and she responded by friending me

Akala · « **Reply #52 on:** December 15, 2008, 01:20:14 PM »

Quote from: Father_Mike on December 15, 2008, 01:14:23 PM

It would be a lot funnier if it was scenes of her awesome sex filled life and whenever it cut to the dude he was pulling his hair out starting at his emails.

Wouldn't that be more of a Documentary?

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #53 on:** December 15, 2008, 01:20:53 PM »

if she had an awesome sex filled life, what was she doing talking to me?

Reb · « **Reply #54 on:** December 15, 2008, 01:21:47 PM »

Rubbing it in.

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #55 on:** December 15, 2008, 01:24:05 PM »

well uh ... more power to her I guess

Phoenix Dark · « **Reply #56 on:** December 15, 2008, 02:20:54 PM »

She probably gets a ton of messages each day, maybe she's sorting through stuff?

BlueTsunami · « **Reply #57 on:** December 17, 2008, 09:34:37 AM »

Quote from: recursivelyenumerable on December 15, 2008, 01:18:29 PM

on the plus side, I randomly messaged one of her attractive facebook friends with a Marx quote and she responded by friending me

smh

That's the last thing you should do. Once they put two and two together, it'll freak her out (the original girl). She'll assume your trying to get into her "clique" or something.

DJ_Tet · « **Reply #58 on:** December 17, 2008, 09:45:41 AM »

Quote from: BlueTsunami on December 17, 2008, 09:34:37 AM

Quote from: recursivelyenumerable on December 15, 2008, 01:18:29 PM
on the plus side, I randomly messaged one of her attractive facebook friends with a Marx quote and she responded by friending me

smh

That's the last thing you should do. Once they put two and two together, it'll freak her out (the original girl). She'll assume your trying to get into her "clique" or something.

Yep, she'll see her friend on your friends list and be like wtf?

Oh, and lol @ a poster named 'recursivelynumera' who studies linear algebra letting a dead cell phone keep him away from getting her digits

I know I can't remember a phone number, but surely you have the ability to retain 7 sequential digits for the amount of time it would take to get to a pad of paper and write it down.

Kids these days.

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #59 on:** December 17, 2008, 02:51:23 PM »

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That's the last thing you should do. Once they put two and two together, it'll freak her out (the original girl). She'll assume your trying to get into her "clique" or something.

That occurred to me too, but OH WELL. her friend looked cool so I messaged her. I didn't make the friend request, she did.

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Author Topic: wtf?! call me! (Read 6808 times)