death in the family

[elektrikluv]

Sorry for the morbid topic.

Yesterday my aunt, whom I was close to, died aged 42. I'm finding it a lot harder to deal with than I thought. My grandma died recently too and whilst it was upsetting, she was 87 and it was expected, she was in and out of hospital for a while and it was just old age. My aunt's death has just come as a horrible sudden shock and as the funeral is in Morocco (she lived there) I can't even pay my respects. She wasn't ill long term or anything, just a week ago she went into hospital for some tests and said she was ill and then was discharged from hospital. The next thing I know, the neighbour is calling my mum from Morocco to tell her she just found her dead in her bed. If there was something deadly wrong, how could the hospital and doctors not have noticed and let her go home? Moroccan public hospitals are terrible.

Has anyone else lost close family members and if so, how did you deal with it? How long did it take for you to stop being so upset about it?

[Brehvolution]

I'm sorry for your loss.  :'(

I lost an uncle and a grandfather within a month of each other. I just tried to be there for my mom because it was her brother and her dad. Over time, your mind just moves on in an out of site, out of mind sort of way.

[Tauntaun]

I lost my Aunt (I believe she was in her 40's too) to liver failure because of years of alcohol abuse.  :'(  It's really rough when they pass unexpected.  Sorry elektrikluv

[G The Resurrected]

First my condolences for your loss, I know first hand how hard it is. I hope you and your family can remember the good times cause in the end thats all that matters.

My mother suddenly passed away in august of this past year. The death left me shocked and stunned to this day I dont believe it. My grandfather found her and didnt even call me till the next day. I moved away from my mother (single parent, single child, disabled ) a few years ago cause my girlfriends mother (single parent, single child, disabled) passed away. It was unexpected but at least she was in a hospital when she passed away. I came up to move in with my girlfriend and not even a little more than a year my own mother passes away.  :'(

We still dont have a cause of death cause the circumstances of my moms death are under investigation. I hate wrongful death lawyers, but someone did some wrong and they will pay. But it wont bring her back.

Again i'm sorry for your loss, and i wish you the best with your grieving.

[tiesto]

Sorry about your loss... I have had a number of family members, including my father and an aunt, die suddenly and it's always really hard to cope with.

[Phoenix Dark]

So sorry for your loss

All three of my grandparents are elderly and sick, to various degrees; it's not a matter of time before they go. And while their circumstances and old age makes death expected like you said, I'm sure it'll still be tough. But honestly, I doubt it will be as tough as watching them deteriorate

[T-Short]

sorry for your loss.

my father died in 2006, heart attack. I wasn't that taken aback by it, he was pretty much a case waiting to happen.

[Tauntaun]

sorry for your loss.

my father died in 2006, heart attack. I wasn't that taken aback by it, he was pretty much a case waiting to happen.

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[Rman]

My condolences.

[elektrikluv]

Thanks everyone 

I feel a bit better, as when you're in grief it can be easy to feel like your pain is the centre of the universe which makes it all the more heavier to carry. Everyone's stories have helped put things into more perspective.

[drozmight]

That blows, sorry to hear.


Same kinda thing happened to a relative of mine.  The doctor said they were fit as a whistle one day, but they died the next randomly when an aneurysm popped.  Life's unpredictable and doctors just fly by the seat of their pants and can't find or know everything that's wrong with you.