Are you neurotic?

[Rman]

Not literally obviously.  But, you know, type A, highly strung, always worrying about stuff, can't relax.  Don't tell me I'm the only one here. 

The constant worrying takes place everyday, especially as fall to sleep.  I can't just fall to sleep, it usually takes me an hour or so because I'm always thinking about crap.  I sometime wish I was carefree.  Oh well.

Anyone can relate?  I'm not looking for solutions.  I've come to terms with my neurosis a long time ago.  If I wasn't like this, thinking about every disaster scenario, I'll probably be an homeless alcoholic.

[recursivelyenumerable]

and how.

[etiolate]

I've had people just blurt out "You're so neurotic" in the middle of me talking.

[Rman]

I think some people might benefit more from being neurotic.  My step-father, for example, was literally one of the happiness people I ever met, but he was unambitious, struggled with money problems, and an alcoholic.  But you can talk to him and he's like, "No worries"

[recursivelyenumerable]

The problem, at least in my case, is that my constant fretting doesn't actually lead me to do anything about the things I fret about, on the contrary it tends to paralyze me.  I feel so overwhelmed that nothing I could possibly do would make a difference, so why do anything?

It sounds like it's working out better for you, though.

[Rman]

The problem, at least in my case, is that my constant fretting doesn't actually lead me to do anything about the things I fret about, on the contrary it tends to paralyze me.  I feel so overwhelmed that nothing I could possibly do would make a difference, so why do anything?

It sounds like it's working out better for you, though.

Yeah.  Negative reinforcement works well for me.  I guess I'll never escape my Catholic roots.

[EmCeeGrammar]

Being neurotic in my case means
-being too self-centered
-irrational

I'd say yes, I am neurotic.  But mostly I'm too busy self monitoring my every thought, word, and action.  I haven't had a train of unimpeded thought for... years.  If I could learn to like myself maybe things would be better.

Lately, my apathy can be a blessing.  I've tried taking initiative in life that has ended up nowhere so many times. I'm not as sad as I used to be just lounging around for now.

However, I am squirreling away money in hopes of getting help someday. Rman, I don't think neurotic behavior is something you come to terms with.  Everything I read implies it can be altered and replaced with more beneficial and rational thought scripts.  It sounds like you're assuming you couldn't be responsible and cautious by not being neurotic.  Thats kind of a flimsy justification.

[Flannel Boy]

I don't think the psychological community is fond of that term.

I think some people might benefit more from being neurotic.  My step-father, for example, was literally one of the happiness people I ever met, but he was unambitious, struggled with money problems, and an alcoholic.  But you can talk to him and he's like, "No worries"

I don't see how your step-father would have benefited by becoming a "neurotic." He was already happy. Why do people attempt to achieve fame or wealth in the first place? Ultimately, to become happy. If he was already happy, what's the point.

And, anyway, he could have been ambitious or wealthy without neurosis. In fact, it probably would have hurt him more. I agree with recursivelyenumerable; worry, anxiety, depression and stress paralyze you from actually being productive and living a joyful life.

[Rman]

I didn't mean to use the term in the psychological sense.  I'm talking about a type mental restlessness.

[Reb]

Yeah, people always tell me to chill out when I give them a peek at what's going on in my head.

It makes me awesome at my job though.

[etiolate]

neurotic in the woody allen comedy sense

[Powerslave]

No I'm sorry I'm not gay.

[Cyanista]

Nope.  I'm pretty easy going.

[FatalT]

Neurotic is basically the same thing as anxiety right? Take a chill pill, mayne.

[muckhole]

In the "Think every scenario out to it's worse possible outcome" sense, yes I am, or at least I used to be. Got it from my mom, I believe, and have made great strides in trying to reprogram myself not to do it constantly.

[Olivia Wilde Homo]

When I think "neurotic,"  I think of a Meet the Parents type of Ben Stiller who constantly worries and fumbles around.

I'm a Type A person but I think I'm pretty methodical overall.  It does take me a long time to get to sleep and I'm always worried about things.  Sometimes, it works out well (especially at work) and sometimes it doesn't.  I'm pretty pessimistic overall but I kind of just channel that into discovering alternatives.

People that are manic or fly off the handle suck.  They are Type A but they are inefficient at it.