I just played four ranked matches and got violated badly in all of them. How do I play this game lyte? :'(
You gotta get out of the Capcom mindset. The way normals/specials/supers counter each other is different. Make sure you make use of the guard front step move; it goes through attacks/projectiles and can be crucial in setting up big combos/getting out of traps. So many players never use it online. Throws, too. Also who are you using? Remember that this game's top tiers are Mr. Big, Kim, and Hotaru. You may want to try putting one of them on your team to start out with a bit of a "boost."
I've been doing very well with Mr. Big and King Lion. The latter has a counter move that comes in amazingly handy in this game. I just played a guy ranked #53 in the game (I'm #136). He picked Iori and Kyo and pretty much thrashed me the first time; I fucked up and didn't switch out Mr. Big in time, and then he killed my Lion before I had a chance to do much. The guy was a total rushdown player. He joined the next game I hosted, and this time I started with King Lion, and just countered EVERY FUCKING THING HE DID.

I killed his Kyo and then he got much more intense with Iori, but I was able to keep him away and when he did find an opening, the time was over.