PRONOUN CONFUSION.
Never told my wife. He was with his 2nd wife for like 15 years. She lived with them for 10. She was looking at his Facebook just now and he had had pics of his 3rd wedding. He never told her he divorced his 2nd wife.
One time, after our honeymoon we flew into an airport 20 miles from his house. He knew we were coming. But when we landed he refused to pick us up and then told us we couldn't sleep in his guest room, told us he didn't want to be part of our 'bohemian lifestyle' (What? I worked in Marketing, she was in Non-Profit Admin at the time. We got back from our 5 week Honeymoon) and then refued to call us a cab. I had to borrow a stranger's cell phone.