Author Topic: Memorial Day Weekend (Read 6772 times)

Boogie · « **Reply #60 on:** May 30, 2010, 11:19:29 PM »

How hungover was I today?

So hungover.

Human Snorenado · « **Reply #61 on:** May 31, 2010, 02:51:54 AM »

Drinkin'
Grillin'

Already watched some shitty UFC fights last night, saw some titties at the titty bar and played a bunch of cards this weekend. Oh yeah, worked some too.

Olivia Wilde Homo · « **Reply #62 on:** May 31, 2010, 07:26:35 AM »

- Reading the internet
- Hanging out with my girlfriend
- Hitting the gym
- Catassing Dynasty Warriors Gundam 2

I have the day off so I'm going to hit the gym, play another 4-5 hours of DWG2, and partake in some BBQ ribs tonight.

TakingBackSunday · « **Reply #63 on:** May 31, 2010, 10:20:07 AM »

I have to work today. :'(

Eric P · « **Reply #64 on:** May 31, 2010, 10:30:53 AM »

bout to go play some DnD outside in a park.

FatalT · « **Reply #65 on:** May 31, 2010, 12:27:57 PM »

Worked today and got time and a haaaalf.

demi · « **Reply #66 on:** May 31, 2010, 01:17:46 PM »

No stupid. Respect your superiors

The Fake Shemp · « **Reply #67 on:** May 31, 2010, 01:47:47 PM »

This weekend turned into a total disaster. I'm done with the opposite sex for awhile, I think I am going to become demi's sex butler.

EDIT: The only delicious bit of irony is that the girl I was with has complained in the past that every guy she's with ends up going back to their ex, and after I rid myself of her, I ended up crashing at my ex's apartment because I was too tired to drive back home in the middle of the night.

CajoleJuice · « **Reply #68 on:** May 31, 2010, 01:51:37 PM »

How many times have you said you're done with the opposite sex for a while? It's like Triumph saying he's "done with drinking for a while" (or anyone other than PD, for that matter).

Phoenix Dark · « **Reply #69 on:** May 31, 2010, 02:06:40 PM »

She sounds like a waste, I guess it's better to find out sooner than later. Not that I'd know much about that. Or Cajole

CajoleJuice · « **Reply #70 on:** May 31, 2010, 02:11:35 PM »

I know better than you think.

Phoenix Dark · « **Reply #71 on:** May 31, 2010, 02:12:48 PM »

So do I

CajoleJuice · « **Reply #72 on:** May 31, 2010, 02:23:28 PM »

About drinking?

CajoleJuice · « **Reply #73 on:** May 31, 2010, 02:25:22 PM »

She's crazy. I could tell from the eyes.

Kestastrophe · « **Reply #74 on:** May 31, 2010, 03:22:16 PM »

This last week has pretty much been the worst week of my life. My wife is going through some depression/identity crisis and told me that she doesn't love me anymore, which I know is a lie, most likely to hurt my feelings. Needless to say, I have been a wreck all week and I even had to call in one day because I was sick from drinking the night before. I've lost my appetite and I haven't been able to sleep for more than 5 hours or so a night, most of which is spent tossing and turning.

Anyways, the wife was planning on spending the night at a friend's house on Friday or Saturday. She left on Friday evening and I haven't seen her since. Yesterday was actually my birthday and I had reserved a restaurant for 6 close friends or so and I even reserved a local bed and breakfast hoping to work some stuff out. I receive text messages yesterday (real mature, right?) saying that literally everyone cancelled and that my friend was going out to the bar so I should tag along with him. Trying to pawn me off on a friend so she doesn't feel guilty about missing my bday (yes, that's how cold my own wife and best friend of the last 9 years has become just over the last 2 weeks :'(). So yesterday I drove to the inlaws and asked for their advice/help, knowing that my mother in law can put the fear of god into waifu. That went well and I got some good personal coping advice (and mother inlaw is in fact going to lay the smack down), but it was pretty much the worst birthday. There is much more to the story, but I don't want to get into all the details. I just feel emotionally spent. Any tips on how not to feel sorry for yourself or advice in general would be greatly appreciated

muckhole · « **Reply #75 on:** May 31, 2010, 03:28:08 PM »

That's horrible, Kestastrophe. No decent advice here, just hope everything works out for the best.

lennedsay · « **Reply #76 on:** May 31, 2010, 03:33:22 PM »

Dude, that sucks... Wth...

How long have you guys been together/married? Do you have kids? She probably needs some professional help if she's not already getting some.

Kestastrophe · « **Reply #77 on:** May 31, 2010, 03:42:37 PM »

We started dating in 2001, I was only 18 and she was 16. We got married two years ago. She does need professional help, but I doubt very much that she would be receptive to anything I have to say. I tried to talk to her earlier this week, and she threw a tantrum like a little kid. She has maturity and selfishness problems, but I am pretty sure that she is depressed. In retrospect, I should have seen it sooner, but I can't change what happened.

At first I thought that there was another man (we have sex problems i.e. she hasn't initiated it for over a year $:-\$ ), but I am certain that's not the case. I think her depression is work related, and she might be jealous of my recent success and increased independence (this is also what others think as well).

Beezy · « **Reply #78 on:** May 31, 2010, 04:19:35 PM »

Last night was unexpectedly fun. It was my friend's birthday, so we went to eat at some outdoor restaurant at the back end of City Island with some of his family (kids included) and a few friends. That was alright and relaxing, but the real fun started at like 1 AM when we left.

For those who don't know, City Island is a really small island near the Bronx with only one road in and out. We're still not sure what the actual story is, but on one of the bridges at the entrance of City Island there was an accident. Apparently a car or cars were on fire and/or a motorcyclist flew off the bridge and either 1 or 5 people died. I dunno. Traffic wasn't moving at all since cops and firefighters blocked off the bridge. So instead of everyone sitting in their cars frustrated, people started blasting music from their cars (mainly 90s hip hop from the other cars and then we played Major Lazer and Daft Punk

) and danced in the middle of the street. My friend randomly brought his hookah shit, so he ran into a bar, got some water, and set it up on the hood of his brother's car.

These white kids who I think live on City Island came out of nowhere and set up a beer pong table in the middle of the street. We didn't play with them because a couple of us were in a bar getting shots and listening to redneck white dudes tell racist jokes, but we had a huge game of flip cup with them afterward.

Some other random white kids drinking in the street too.

I forgot to mention that my friend's sister came with her boyfriend on his motorcycle, so he spent a lot of time doing wheelies, stoppies, lighting gasoline on fire, and some other shit up and down the opposite lane since it was empty. All of this went on from like 1 to 3:40 AM. They finally started letting us though around that time. I drove my friend and his cousin home and then got home myself at like 4 AM. Good times.

Here's some phone pics that my best friend, the bday boy, put on twitter:

http://twitpic.com/1sok21

http://twitpic.com/1somsd

That's me in the black shirt and hat with my friend's sister and his cousin in the back.

Mr. Gundam · « **Reply #79 on:** May 31, 2010, 04:46:27 PM »

Just got back from three awesome days on the Washington coast with my best friends. I have tomorrow off, and so does my wife, so we're looking forward to yet another day of relaxing.

T234 · « **Reply #80 on:** May 31, 2010, 05:14:28 PM »

Quote from: Kestastrophe on May 31, 2010, 03:22:16 PM

This last week has pretty much been the worst week of my life. My wife is going through some depression/identity crisis and told me that she doesn't love me anymore, which I know is a lie, most likely to hurt my feelings. Needless to say, I have been a wreck all week and I even had to call in one day because I was sick from drinking the night before. I've lost my appetite and I haven't been able to sleep for more than 5 hours or so a night, most of which is spent tossing and turning.

Anyways, the wife was planning on spending the night at a friend's house on Friday or Saturday. She left on Friday evening and I haven't seen her since. Yesterday was actually my birthday and I had reserved a restaurant for 6 close friends or so and I even reserved a local bed and breakfast hoping to work some stuff out. I receive text messages yesterday (real mature, right?) saying that literally everyone cancelled and that my friend was going out to the bar so I should tag along with him. Trying to pawn me off on a friend so she doesn't feel guilty about missing my bday (yes, that's how cold my own wife and best friend of the last 9 years has become just over the last 2 weeks :'(). So yesterday I drove to the inlaws and asked for their advice/help, knowing that my mother in law can put the fear of god into waifu. That went well and I got some good personal coping advice (and mother inlaw is in fact going to lay the smack down), but it was pretty much the worst birthday. There is much more to the story, but I don't want to get into all the details. I just feel emotionally spent. Any tips on how not to feel sorry for yourself or advice in general would be greatly appreciated

Damn son, if you were around here I'd get you faded like an old newspaper.

The Fake Shemp · « **Reply #81 on:** May 31, 2010, 06:06:39 PM »

Quote from: CajoleJuice on May 31, 2010, 01:51:37 PM

How many times have you said you're done with the opposite sex for a while? It's like Triumph saying he's "done with drinking for a while" (or anyone other than PD, for that matter).

True.

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 31, 2010, 02:06:40 PM

She sounds like a waste, I guess it's better to find out sooner than later. Not that I'd know much about that. Or Cajole

I have never run into a bigger waste of time, money and energy. I was so emotionally and physically exhausted by last night that I couldn't make it out of Virginia. Thankfully, my ex is a good friend and has a guest bedroom. And no, the sex was not worth it. The consolation is that this happened now and not later.

Although, this stuff seems like kid garbage compared to Kestastrophe's problems. Keep the faith, brother.

Kestastrophe · « **Reply #82 on:** May 31, 2010, 06:10:49 PM »

I wish you were here to hold me in your arms and tell me "everything will be alright", Will :'(

The Fake Shemp · « **Reply #83 on:** May 31, 2010, 06:13:42 PM »

I have moved from sulking to sulking while drinking Stella mixed with hard apple cider and grilling burgers and hot dogs. You're welcome to join me.

Thank God for real friends.

Akala · « **Reply #84 on:** May 31, 2010, 07:01:59 PM »

gl with that kest.

Phoenix Dark · « **Reply #85 on:** May 31, 2010, 07:12:05 PM »

single-bore

Boogie · « **Reply #86 on:** May 31, 2010, 07:20:59 PM »

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 31, 2010, 07:12:05 PM

single-bore

The Fake Shemp · « **Reply #87 on:** May 31, 2010, 07:21:22 PM »

Hey, I was better off playing games this weekend than chasing tail.

CajoleJuice · « **Reply #88 on:** May 31, 2010, 07:25:57 PM »

Games

demi · « **Reply #89 on:** May 31, 2010, 08:49:27 PM »

Quote

At first I thought that there was another man (we have sex problems i.e. she hasn't initiated it for over a year ), but I am certain that's not the case.

Nah this is normal for marriage. You're cool. It's probably just being in Michigan. It could be pretty depressing.

Kestastrophe · « **Reply #90 on:** May 31, 2010, 08:58:36 PM »

Quote from: demi on May 31, 2010, 08:49:27 PM

Nah this is normal for marriage.

Awaiting confirmation...

OptimoPeach · « **Reply #91 on:** May 31, 2010, 09:06:11 PM »

Ugh that sucks, man. At least you have the in-laws' support

Mr. Gundam · « **Reply #92 on:** May 31, 2010, 09:34:34 PM »

Quote from: Kestastrophe on May 31, 2010, 08:58:36 PM

Quote from: demi on May 31, 2010, 08:49:27 PM
Nah this is normal for marriage.

Awaiting confirmation...

It can happen, but it's not normal.

Sorry, man.

demi · « **Reply #93 on:** May 31, 2010, 09:45:24 PM »

I'd argue distant's relationship is the not normal one.

Human Snorenado · « **Reply #94 on:** May 31, 2010, 11:49:01 PM »

That really sucks Kestastrophe, I'm sorry to hear that. This is just further proof that all women should be force fed lithium every day of their lives, tho.

Bloodwake · « **Reply #95 on:** June 01, 2010, 01:01:54 AM »

Quote from: demi on May 31, 2010, 09:45:24 PM

I'd argue distant's relationship is the not normal one.

Well 50% of all marriages end in divorce, so I'm inclined to agree.

Brehvolution · « **Reply #96 on:** June 01, 2010, 10:28:58 AM »

According to the law, a year of no sex is pretty cut and dry grounds for divorce. Not that I hope that happens to you. $:-\$

Mupepe · « **Reply #97 on:** June 01, 2010, 10:54:14 AM »

Quote from: Zero Hero on June 01, 2010, 10:28:58 AM

According to the law, a year of no sex is pretty cut and dry grounds for divorce. Not that I hope that happens to you. $:-\$

Well I think they've had sex, she just doesn't initiate it. Sorry if I'm mistaken.

Sorry, Ketastrophe.

Everybody has their ups and downs and as long as neither of you do something incredibly stupid to sabotage the relationship, you can still save it. Don't give up on her.

Himu · « **Reply #98 on:** June 01, 2010, 10:59:01 AM »

Quote from: My F*cking Grandpa on May 28, 2010, 10:56:13 PM

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Kestastrophe · « **Reply #99 on:** June 01, 2010, 05:37:40 PM »

Quote from: Rob Thomas on June 01, 2010, 10:54:14 AM

Quote from: Zero Hero on June 01, 2010, 10:28:58 AM
According to the law, a year of no sex is pretty cut and dry grounds for divorce. Not that I hope that happens to you. $:-\$
Well I think they've had sex, she just doesn't initiate it.

Correct. And she likes it (

). We talked about it late last year once and she said it was work related stress, which I believe. I also think this is what her depression stems from, but she is so closed off now that there is no getting to the bottom of it. I did make an appt with a therapist for this Friday, so hopefully that helps out.

Smooth Groove · « **Reply #100 on:** June 01, 2010, 05:46:52 PM »

Quote from: Kestastrophe on June 01, 2010, 05:37:40 PM

Quote from: Rob Thomas on June 01, 2010, 10:54:14 AM
Quote from: Zero Hero on June 01, 2010, 10:28:58 AM
According to the law, a year of no sex is pretty cut and dry grounds for divorce. Not that I hope that happens to you. $:-\$
Well I think they've had sex, she just doesn't initiate it.

Correct. And she likes it ( ). We talked about it late last year once and she said it was work related stress, which I believe. I also think this is what her depression stems from, but she is so closed off now that there is no getting to the bottom of it. I did make an appt with a therapist for this Friday, so hopefully that helps out.

Maybe the problem is that you are not getting to the bottom?

Seriously though, good luck, bro. The stuff your wife has been pulling is tantamount to spousal abuse. Hopefully the therapist can help work things out.

Kestastrophe · « **Reply #101 on:** June 02, 2010, 05:40:46 PM »

Semi-update: Scheduled a therapist appointment for Friday, and Cunt Wife miraculously agreed to go without too much fuss. Also, mama bear came up and was asking questions, but it was less of a smackdown than the bitch needed. I can only imagine that she has something better in store. I talked to the bitch earlier today, apparently mother in law asked where she was on my b-day and the cunt lied and said "we got lost". lol. Lying to your own mother, on top of the inhumane shit she has done to me. I told her "good luck living with yourself", cuz I know she'll snap out of it and kick herself in the jeans when she realizes how many bridges she's burned.

In case you can't tell by the tone, I've had it. I have started looking for somewhere else to live and as of right now, I consider this over. It would take a miraculous turn in character or help in therapy to save this now. Good fucking riddance

The Fake Shemp · « **Reply #102 on:** June 02, 2010, 05:43:05 PM »

You can live with me. We can do shots and talk about women that broke our hearts. :'(

Kestastrophe · « **Reply #103 on:** June 02, 2010, 05:47:53 PM »

I actually feel relieved. After what that bitch has put me through the past two weeks, its amazing how quick you can come to not caring for someone.

Smooth Groove · « **Reply #104 on:** June 02, 2010, 06:18:44 PM »

Sounds rough, Kestastrophe. Really feel for you, pal. :'(

I hope your wife at least lets you know what's really going on. It's much more frustrating when you don't even know why someone is acting out.

Himu · « **Reply #105 on:** June 02, 2010, 06:27:10 PM »

Goddamn Kast. Push through this shit, mayne.

Brehvolution · « **Reply #106 on:** June 02, 2010, 06:34:08 PM »

Glad to here that you are doing well.

The Fake Shemp · « **Reply #107 on:** June 02, 2010, 08:38:05 PM »

Quote from: CajoleJuice on May 31, 2010, 01:51:37 PM

How many times have you said you're done with the opposite sex for a while? It's like Triumph saying he's "done with drinking for a while" (or anyone other than PD, for that matter).

I have already begun to break my self-imposed ban. I lasted like, what? Two days? $:-\$

demi · « **Reply #108 on:** June 02, 2010, 09:21:22 PM »

Quote from: Kestastrophe on June 02, 2010, 05:47:53 PM

I actually feel relieved. After what that bitch has put me through the past two weeks, its amazing how quick you can come to not caring for someone.

Welcome to the real world, Neo

Time to become a chubby chaser

Himu · « **Reply #109 on:** June 02, 2010, 09:29:31 PM »

demi

Mupepe · « **Reply #110 on:** June 02, 2010, 10:47:08 PM »

my first wife was kinda the same way, kes. she just went batshit towards the end and even wanted to tell her family we were still together and kept denying it until the end. i think she realized it wasn't a game anymore when she saw me with another girl and that I was truly done. She'll be kicking yourself, but don't delude yourself into thinking you don't care anymore. It'll come back. But if you're truly done, just remember that and remind yourself of why you don't want to go back. Prolonging it is more painful than anything. Sorry, dude. And good luck in everything.

etiolate · « **Reply #111 on:** June 02, 2010, 11:23:38 PM »

Kest:

What are you going to a therapist for? For her to get treatment? To deal with the break up? To do it for marriage counseling when you have seemingly decided on the marriage's fate would be a waste of time and money. Do you just want your feelings or suspicions confirmed by a third party?

Human Snorenado · « **Reply #112 on:** June 03, 2010, 01:17:50 AM »

Probably wants confirmation from a third party that "bitch be crazy!" but seeing as how she's a woman and they all should be on serious amounts of sedatives from puberty onward it's kind of a wasted trip.

Anyway, sorry your marriage is apparently ending this way but good on you for sticking up for yourself, dude.

Smooth Groove · « **Reply #113 on:** June 03, 2010, 03:08:28 PM »

Dedicated to our homie Kestastrophe:

[youtube=560,345]8smO4VS9134[/youtube]

Kestastrophe · « **Reply #114 on:** June 03, 2010, 05:26:39 PM »

Quote from: Smooth Groove on June 02, 2010, 06:18:44 PM

I hope your wife at least lets you know what's really going on. It's much more frustrating when you don't even know why someone is acting out.

We talked last night, and this is what she kind of did (she couldn't explain why she was so mean, other than saying that she didn't want to be with me). Anyways, it sounds like she hasn't loved me for a long time (which I still can't really believe) and she was angry because I was always dismissing her when she said that she didn't love me the past few weeks, which is true because I can't believe it. Well, I do believe that as of right now she thinks that she doesn't love me. But even last night we went out to the bar and she was looking at me like she still loves me. I don't think she really knows what she wants right now, and I know that she has been depressed and unhappy for a long time, but it never crossed my mind that she didn't love me anymore. I asked her why all of her actions showed the opposite, and she said that she's a good faker (which I don't really believe). Its not that I don't believe everything that she's saying, I just think that they're half truths.

I think a temporary separation would be good for both of us at this point, as last night was the first livable night in the apartment since we started fighting 3 weeks ago. Last night and today seriously felt like a huge weight had been lifted off of our shoulders and we were able to communicate openly and honestly. I can't tell you how happy that made me. A separation of 3 months or so would give her the space she needs and time to think about things, like I said I still think that she cares about me. I don't know if this is a "grass is greener" type of thing with her, but either way I am not ready to get a divorce. There is still hope left for our marriage, and a separation would let us get on with our lives and hopefully allow us to notice how much we actually care for and miss each other.

Mupepe · « **Reply #115 on:** June 03, 2010, 05:29:40 PM »

Good luck, dude. Hopefully everything works out for the best.

Akala · « **Reply #116 on:** June 03, 2010, 07:26:39 PM »

Quote from: Kestastrophe on June 03, 2010, 05:26:39 PM

I think a temporary separation would be good for both of us at this point, as last night was the first livable night in the apartment since we started fighting 3 weeks ago. Last night and today seriously felt like a huge weight had been lifted off of our shoulders and we were able to communicate openly and honestly. I can't tell you how happy that made me. A separation of 3 months or so would give her the space she needs and time to think about things, like I said I still think that she cares about me. I don't know if this is a "grass is greener" type of thing with her, but either way I am not ready to get a divorce. There is still hope left for our marriage, and a separation would let us get on with our lives and hopefully allow us to notice how much we actually care for and miss each other.

you will obviously know the situation more thanan internet third party, but there are red danger flags in there. who knows, maybe it's the wording. as someone who knows a few couples that tried the 'separation' method~

real talk: you should only do this if you are totally cool with her fucking someone else.

Kestastrophe · « **Reply #117 on:** June 03, 2010, 07:58:20 PM »

I am not cool with that, and it would certainly mean the end of our relationship as I set that boundary for myself. However, I left out the ending to last night

spoiler (click to show/hide)

We had sex

[close]

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twice

and it was really good. Like the most memorable sex in years. I think she would be down for bootycalls

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Smooth Groove · « **Reply #118 on:** June 03, 2010, 08:03:45 PM »

Did you straight out ask her if she's cheated? Given what's transpired, I think it's a fair question.

Having never been in such a meaningful relationship before, I can't say for sure but it almost seems likes she was trying to make you dump her.

Kestastrophe · « **Reply #119 on:** June 03, 2010, 08:09:06 PM »

Quote from: Smooth Groove on June 03, 2010, 08:03:45 PM

Having never been in such a meaningful relationship before, I can't say for sure but it almost seems likes she was trying to make you dump her.

That's what I think too, but I am positive there isn't another dude (read the sex stuff above). I believe that she thinks that she hasn't loved me for a long time and that I am the source of her unhappiness, which is why I think a separation would be good for both of us

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Author Topic: Memorial Day Weekend (Read 6772 times)