Would you date a single mother?

[Skidmark]

I want to hear your honest opinions on this issue:

Lets say you are attracted to a wonderful lady your age who has a young child from her previous partner. Would you still be interested in meeting her and/or building a relationship knowing that she is a single mother? What kind of a relationship would you allow yourself to have with her?

[Cravis]

At least you know she puts out....

[Madrun Badrun]

yes

[Madrun Badrun]

no

[TEEEPO]

no

[Skidmark]

Why?

[Reb]

If you're forty or older, yes.
Otherwise, no.

[Madrun Badrun]

Her vag probably looks like its been through the holocaust.

so looks like a regular vagina then? eh

[Eric P]

no

i hate kids

[fistfulofmetal]

depends, does she have girls or boys?

[Skidmark]

depends, does she have girls or boys?

Boy or girl, doesn't matter.

[Robo]

Haven't and wouldn't.  I have a difficult time tolerating children, let alone pretending to get along with them.  No problem with gettin' up in them guts, though. 

Err, I mean, the mother, not the kids. 

[cubicle47b]

If she was substantially more attractive than the women I'd normally date and the kid was cool, yes.  It worked out really well for my brother-in-law.

[Skidmark]

If she was substantially more attractive than the women I'd normally date and the kid was cool, yes.  It worked out really well for my brother-in-law.

How old were they when they first meet?

[brob]

yeah I would. The specifics of the situations (age of all parties involved, rate at which seriousness of relationship increases, etc) would of course have something to say about it. Like, I don't think I could date a woman over 30 with a child aged 10+ as that is clearly someone who wants to settle down, and I'm not.

 :munch

[cubicle47b]

If she was substantially more attractive than the women I'd normally date and the kid was cool, yes.  It worked out really well for my brother-in-law.

How old were they when they first meet?

She was in her early 30's, he's probably a few years older.

[Human Snorenado]

Been there, done that, no thanks in the future.

[Himu]

Would you date a mtf post-op transsexual?

[Eric P]

Would you date a mtf post-op transsexual?

does s/he have kids?

[HyperZoneWasAwesome]

did.

Couldn't get a third date.  Nice lady she was.

[Skidmark]

Been there, done that, no thanks in the future.

Can you share with us more? like at what age you meet, how long have you been together and why it didn't work out?

[Skidmark]

did.

Couldn't get a third date.  Nice lady she was.

How old were you two and the kid?

[BlueTsunami]

No and its more due to not wanting to be some revolving man in that poor kids life

Its like a package deal, you go in interested in the woman and being there for the kid or nothing at all. Though I'm thinking of it as Black and White and I'm sure it ain't as cut and dry. I know of single moms who try to keep the boyfriends out of the child's life for its protection (emotional) and as well intended as that seems what that actually does is take considerable amount of time away from the mother and kid in favor of the mom trying to find the "right guy".

[Mupepe]

No.  They're crazy.

[Skidmark]

No and its more due to not wanting to be some revolving man in that poor kids life

I want to hear more about this.
Won't it actually be better for the child to have someone else to at least support his/her mother by providing her with a shoulder to rest on?

[Himu]

Would you date a mtf post-op transsexual?

does s/he have kids?

nope!

[Beezy]

Probably... I dunno. I'd definitely smash one though.

[HyperZoneWasAwesome]

How old were you two and the kid?

the kid was very young, less then two, I was 23 and she was about the same age.

[Dickie Dee]

Chick from work I was really into, she was really cool and we'd go see shows together, hang. she was pretty awesome - but she had a 5 year old autistic kid. She was pretty clear about not looking for an insta father, but I just knew there was now way I could take on that sorta responsibility. I kinda let things fizzle. Do sort of regret it now.

[BlueTsunami]

No and its more due to not wanting to be some revolving man in that poor kids life

I want to hear more about this.
Won't it actually be better for the child to have someone else to at least support his/her mother by providing her with a shoulder to rest on?

Definitely, I'm sure single mom's like anyone feel that sense of loneliness and I feel its a case of "Who am I to judge?". But the relationship between a Man and Woman and her child is seemingly that of a balancing act of time when the man and her child are kept apart.  Then there's letting the dude fully into her life but any new relationship is unsure so how can one build a bond with the kid and then move on when it doesn't work with the mother? This is me thinking about this stuff though, I'm sure theres guys at there that don't pay it any mind. All I know is that I couldn't unless I was 100% on being with the woman and being there for the kid. If I'm not, there's a world full of single women I can be with instead.

[Skidmark]

Chick from work I was really into, she was really cool and we'd go see shows together, hang. she was pretty awesome - but she had a 5 year old autistic kid. She was pretty clear about not looking for an insta father, but I just knew there was now way I could take on that sorta responsibility. I kinda let things fizzle. Do sort of regret it now.

Regret dating her or pulling out? How old where the two of you?

[Phoenix Dark]

No

[Skidmark]

No and its more due to not wanting to be some revolving man in that poor kids life

I want to hear more about this.
Won't it actually be better for the child to have someone else to at least support his/her mother by providing her with a shoulder to rest on?

Definitely, I'm sure single mom's like anyone feel that sense of loneliness and I feel its a case of "Who am I to judge?". But the relationship between a Man and Woman and her child is seemingly that of a balancing act of time when the man and her child are kept apart.  Then there's letting the dude fully into her life but any new relationship is unsure so how can one build a bond with the kid and then move on when it doesn't work with the mother? This is me thinking about this stuff though, I'm sure theres guys at there that don't pay it any mind. All I know is that I couldn't unless I was 100% on being with the woman and being there for the kid. If I'm not, there's a world full of single women I can be with instead.

I see, so you try to avoid it all from the first place, no taking chances with dating and getting to know each other.

[Himu]

To answer your question, if I had the right frame of mind and a stable mid or high income...yes.

[Dickie Dee]

Chick from work I was really into, she was really cool and we'd go see shows together, hang. she was pretty awesome - but she had a 5 year old autistic kid. She was pretty clear about not looking for an insta father, but I just knew there was now way I could take on that sorta responsibility. I kinda let things fizzle. Do sort of regret it now.

Regret dating her or pulling out? How old where the two of you?

Regret pulling out, I was about 27 and her around 24. Anything that's come my way since then I already saw the end almost as soon as it began. Her I would've liked to stick with...

[BlueTsunami]

No and its more due to not wanting to be some revolving man in that poor kids life

I want to hear more about this.
Won't it actually be better for the child to have someone else to at least support his/her mother by providing her with a shoulder to rest on?

Definitely, I'm sure single mom's like anyone feel that sense of loneliness and I feel its a case of "Who am I to judge?". But the relationship between a Man and Woman and her child is seemingly that of a balancing act of time when the man and her child are kept apart.  Then there's letting the dude fully into her life but any new relationship is unsure so how can one build a bond with the kid and then move on when it doesn't work with the mother? This is me thinking about this stuff though, I'm sure theres guys at there that don't pay it any mind. All I know is that I couldn't unless I was 100% on being with the woman and being there for the kid. If I'm not, there's a world full of single women I can be with instead.

I see, so you try to avoid it all from the first place, no taking chances with dating and getting to know each other.

Yep. Its like, I'm not at a point in my life where I want to raise a kid so getting into a relationship with a single mother would go against that. I'd also like to add that I'm not opposed to raising another mans child if he isn't there for it and I'm in a relationship with the mother, so thats not a factor.

[Himu]

I'd adopt as well.

[Skidmark]

No, I have a weird thing about raising others kids. I'm not the kind who'd like to adopt either, if I were to raise a kid it has to be from the beginning or at least 1 year in.

So no to that and Himu's question.

But how far will you allow yourself to go when it comes to a relationship. Dating, fuck buddies, a romantic relationship, settle with her, or non of all of that?

[Mupepe]

I would never date a cheeseburger.

No matter what it's not a woman.  I don't care what the hell they say and how much they try, it's not a fucking female.  I don't have anything against what they do.  But I'd never be able to get over that.  It's still a dude.  I'm still a gay at that point.  That vagina is not going to look like a vagina.  Their voice is not going to sound like a woman's.  Their body will never really be shaped like a woman's.  Fake breasts don't feel right.  Everywhere I turn will be a reminder that there's a dude with a wig on and a gash between his legs resting his head on my stomach. 

[Skidmark]

Yep. Its like, I'm not at a point in my life where I want to raise a kid so getting into a relationship with a single mother would go against that. I'd also like to add that I'm not opposed to raising another mans child if he isn't there for it and I'm in a relationship with the mother, so thats not a factor.

I see. I personally hold a position somewhere between what you and what Brobzoid said. I definitely do not mind raising a child that is not mine but I feel that I have to be with the right one in order to seriously commit to doing that. At the same time I do not mind dating/meeting someone with a child with not intentions of settling down as long as we are both ok with that.

[Himu]

I'm surprised at mupepe's stance on transsexuals. I didn't realize the stigma that all mtf's are cross dressers was so prevalent.

[Mupepe]

I'm surprised at mupepe's stance on transsexuals. I didn't realize the stigma that all mtf's are cross dressers was so prevalent.

i'm confused.  so a dude that wants to be a female wouldn't dress like one?

[Himu]

You suggested that all transsexuals have fake breasts and wear wigs and don't have female shapes or have the ability to sound like a woman. That's pretty much false.

Cross dressers tend to wear women's clothing and wear wig's for thrills, but that's it.

[Mupepe]

...

I'm still confused.

I never said they do it for thrills.  I said I would never be able to be fully into it because those glaring issues that i find with most cheeseburger's (rough voice, manly body, fake looking hair, fake breasts, etc) would be too much of a reminder for me.

[Himu]

Oh definitely. I was mentioning it because your description was more in the way of a cross dresser than what I was thinking of.

[drew]

would date?

no

would bang?

absolutely

[TripleA]

No, a single mother is too much failure.

[Mupepe]

Oh definitely. I was mentioning it because your description was more in the way of a cross dresser than what I was thinking of.

neither are hot so maybe that's why i tend to fuse them together.

[Eric P]

No, a single mother is too much failure.

ha ha what?

wait, nevermind

[Beezy]

No, a single mother is too much failure.

wow

[Kestastrophe]

No.  They're crazy.

Thats kind of what I'm thinking too. I would still give it a shot though

[drew]

wow

he doesnt like dead rising, just do what i do and disregard everything he says

[bork]

No, a single mother is too much failure.

But you're a Nintendo fanboy.  Aren't you used to failure?

[Himu]

No, a single mother is too much failure.

jesus christ you're awful

[Saint Cornelius]

Did for ten years. Doubt I would do it again.

[Skidmark]

Did for ten years. Doubt I would do it again.

Can you share more about it? What age where the two of you and the kid when you started the relationship? How long have you been together and why didn't it work for you? What was the hard/worst part about it?

[bagofeyes]

i'd bang a single mother

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and a married one too 

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[TripleA]

ITT people in denial.

[TripleA]

No, a single mother is too much failure.

But you're a Nintendo fanboy.  Aren't you used to failure?

Are you talking about the same Nintendo that is number 1 in both the videogame console and videogame handheld market

[Eel O'Brian]

i have

the initial dating awkwardness lasts about three times longer when there is a child involved, plus the opportunities for snoggery are severely limited

the kid was really cool, though