I’m breaking the embargo because Cheebs isn’t worth it.
I am going to attempt to be intelligent about this but I think it will be long and ranty so forgive me.
mojovino you live the life most married men want after they are tired of marriage. I think unconsciously you are disappointed with the women you sleep with is because of how easy it is but will someday they will be somebody’s wife and mother to somebody’s children. But that’s okay most of these women couldn’t fathom you being a father to their children. It’s a judgement call on all who play the game, I included. In short it’s disappointing how readily people exercise their choice so rapidly ‘in this day and age’ apparently. How could one let go of this choice when they are married? This isn’t only related to sexual partners but children, careers, where we live, religious affiliation, political affiliation, the clothes we wear, the food we eat etc. We are spoilt by choice. As Toxic Adam puts it- freedom. It can’t unless you somehow are some special type of person who has a special type of conviction to for the most part stay the same. And maybe marriage is that special insane type of conviction.
And maybe that’s an interesting parallel with ‘Mad Men’ because I get what Willco is saying now about people being obsessed about the infidelity in it. The 60’s with the advent of consumerism and sexual liberation is perfect. Maybe really there is no difference between changing your brand of cigarettes and cheating on your spouse.
Because yes it is good to agree to those big life affirming decisions now but what happens when one partners decides to exercise their choice when the monotony is too much?
But then it comes to what type of choices we choose to make. Is it ‘lyrical’ or ‘epic’? If it’s lyrical your chances at marriage it would seem are better but if it’s epic you’ve got no fucking hope.
The guys advocating marriage on this forum now are living in the golden years- newly married, still in ‘love’, young children. From what I’ve seen on the ‘outside’, life doesn’t really seem to get better than this but then it ends. Sometimes these guys then channel their infidelity, boredom or frustration into some sort of hobby or their career and the women channel theirs into their house, career, children, some hobby or worse still ‘Gawd’. I mean what better father\husband figure can you have? The others just have affairs and\or divorce.
The ironic use of the ‘one’ is that when this ‘one’ pisses us off you know you can find another ‘one’. And that’s what the serial monogamists are about.
Maybe in the end it just comes down to biology (expects Indian compatriot to offer scientific evidence from the ‘Selfish Gene’) and ironically enough our saggy middle-sized balls (lennesday annihilated)
For clues to human sexual evolution, Simmons says, it pays to looks at testicles. "The size of an animal's testicles have been shown to be directly related to the promiscuity of the females," he explains. "This is because when sperm from two or more males are present in a female's reproductive tract, there will be competition between them to fertilise the egg. The more promiscuous the female, the larger the male's testicles have to be and the more sperm they have to produce."
Chimps and bonobos, our closest primate relatives, are prodigiously promiscuous; not surprisingly, they have large testicles for their body size (a 45 kilogram bonobo has testes the size of chicken eggs), not to mention huge sperm production capabilities. Gorillas, on the other hand, have testicles the size of kidney beans, which are hidden inside the body. This is because gorillas establish harems: once a silverback establishes his dominance, there is no sperm competition. Human testicles are smaller than those of chimps and bonobos but far larger than those of gorillas, suggesting, Simmons says, "we have in the past been something other than monogamous".
Ryan, who also examines this phenomenon, points to recent reductions in human sperm counts and testicular volumes, and even suggests, half jokingly, that "sexual monogamy may be shrinking men's balls".
http://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/lifematters/were-just-swingers-after-all-20100730-10zsn.htmlSexual liberation has always been part of our biology but not always part of our society. Marriage is a social construct that suits some people more than others now, the other choice is socially acceptable for men and women (still less though however). However other choices about children, jobs, houses etc which generations before us couldn’t really make or were limited to, are now in the equation as well making marriage work a bit more complicated.
