What time does your spouse get up vs you?

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Her: 6.45
Me: 7.45/8.15

Going back to sleep is almost impossible, I think I might start jogging. Or playing Diablooooo.

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Her: 6.45
Me: 7.45/8.15

Going back to sleep is almost impossible, I think I might start jogging. Or playing Diablooooo.

Same situation for me but 15 mins earlier for me/her. Drives me insane if I've had a bad nights sleep

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wait when the eff did lager get married

what the hell did i miss

I didnt get married but we moved in together 

Same situation for me but 15 mins earlier for me/her. Drives me insane if I've had a bad nights sleep

Im already dreading this too.

[Mr. Gundam]

We both get up at 6am.

[benjipwns]

But what about when you go to bed? How will we know The Bore doesn't have these problems?

Dear Ann Landers: I like to get nine or 10 hours of sleep at night, and I make sure I get to bed early enough to do so. My husband, on the other hand, is a night owl. He likes to fall asleep on the sofa while watching TV.

It bothers me a lot that my husband would prefer to sleep in front of the TV instead of with me. When I told him how upset I was, he tried to cooperate, but complained that he cannot fall asleep unless the TV is on. Now he comes to bed after midnight, long after I'm asleep, and turns on the TV. I'm then awake until dawn and tired the next day. Is there a solution to this problem? -- Deadlocked in Spokane, Wash.

My husband and I have been married for just over a year now and we lived together for 8 months prior to the wedding.  About 2 months after our wedding last year he started this "habit" (for lack of a better term) that is driving me crazy--  He won't go to bed.

We both work full time and get up early in the AM and there are days when he can't even keep his eyes open when he gets home from work, yet he refuses to go to sleep at night like a normal person.  Everyone of my friends that I have asked about this is  as befuddled as I am.  I make sure that I am in bed every night around 10-10:30pm because my alarm goes off just before 6am.  He will stay up, watching TV, playing computer games until all hours of the night and then fall alseep on the couch.  He will sometimes come to be around 3am or 4am and some morning he's still sleeping on the couch when I get in the shower.

We have discussed this at least a dozen times and each time he promises he will stop but he never does.  WHY does he refuse to go to bed when he starts to feel sleepy?  My 2 year old nephew does this type of thing, not any grown man that I know.  I'd be happy if he would just come up around 11:30 or 12:00 since he gets up around 7am but he ignores me or gets all defiant if I even suggest it.  He will not go to bed until he has fallen asleep on the couch for several hours and then woken up in the middle of the night.  I just don't get it.  It makes me so upset and I feel like we are roommates "with benefits" (he will come up if he KNOWS he's going to "get some") instead of a grown married couple.  (We are both in our mid 30's!)  I have told him that it makes me feel like my opinion doesn't matter, that it makes me feel like he doesn't care enough about me to take care of himself to help me out around the house (he's usually too tired to help with dinner, dishes, etc. because of his lack of proper sleep).  I've told him that it makes me feel like he doesn't respect me, our marriage, our relationship by continuing to act this way.  None of it has worked.  I am at the end of my rope.  I have tried going at this every way I can think of and I'm out of ideas.  Bees, PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE give me yout thoughts, suggestions, opinions, I am at a loss!

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 everything else is great.  We have fun together, we get along great, we travel, and are happy.  Except for this oen thing.  It's just such bizarre behavior to me and the fact that he won't try to work on it even though I have told him how much it bothers me.

About us: We’re both early 30’s, together ~4 years, living together since December of last year. I’m an emotional sort and he’s a bit more taciturn.

Here is how a typical conflict plays out: It’s bedtime for me, about 10:30pm. Boyfriend stays up playing a video game or watching TV. I doze lightly, but wake up a half hour later or an hour later to find boyfriend not in bed. I drag myself out of bed to find him in the living room with the TV on, and he is curled up on the couch asleep. I wake him up, sometimes with some tugging, and get him off to bed. I am now going to bed closer to 11:00 or 11:30, and stew in bed upset for another half hour before finally falling asleep.

I don’t actually have a problem with us going to bed at different times, and I wouldn’t have a problem with him staying up as late as he wants – after all, he is an adult – if I knew that he would come to bed when he got tired. But because he regularly (at least once a week) falls asleep in front of the TV instead of coming to bed fifteen feet away, I can’t trust that on any given night he will ever come to bed. So I am left trying to stay up until he comes to bed, which leaves me sleep deprived and miserable, or going to bed before him, and sleeping lightly until he wakes me up by coming to bed himself (which doesn’t bother me) or until I wake up in a panic that he’s not there and getting out of bed to find him on the couch again.

We’ve talked about this, and it ends up becoming a fight. He doesn’t understand why this is so important to me, and he doesn’t think falling asleep on the couch once a week is a big deal. (“I come to bed 6/7 nights a week!”) From my point of view, since he’s said it isn’t important, I can’t understand why he doesn’t come to bed when he knows it is so meaningful to me. I tried to use a simile by saying, “If I like steak and chicken equally, but you reeeeally love steak, why wouldn’t I make it every night?” That didn’t seem to connect.

So why is his coming to bed every night so important to me? Because I feel that unhappy couples are couples where one person is sleeping on the couch. Because it feels like he is being avoidant and unwilling to make me happy by doing something that’s important to me with (what ought to be) very little effort on his part. Because I feel rejected when he chooses not to come to bed when he’s feeling tired. I’ve brought up all of these things to him, and he says that he’s not unhappy with our relationship, that he’s not rejecting me, and that he can’t help it if he falls asleep on the couch. I don’t understand how someone can’t help it – people don’t just go from awake to asleep with no “I’m getting tired” warning from their bodies unless they have narcolepsy (which he doesn’t have). It feels like he’s saying that he chooses to ignore this signal when it is convenient to him, without regard for my feelings.

[G The Resurrected]

I wake up at around the same time but every now and again she'll be up before me. I can't sneak out of bed without waking her up. That could be cause of the earth quake I create getting out of bed.

What I hate is that we always get up at the same time but I'll rarely go to sleep at the same time. She'll nod off around 11pm and I'll be up till 4am or so.

[Fifstar]

My girlfriend always bugs me until I go to sleep with her, I'd normally go one or two hours later to bed then her.

getting up depends, most of the time she gets up before me, but I don't mind that. Knowing that you can sleep for another 40 minutes or so and breakfast is ready is great.

[bork]

Weekdays at about the same time.  I usually go to work before my wife but she tends to get up with me to either go work out and/or to give me a ride to the station in shittier or cold weather.

On weekends she'll be up way earlier than me and will go for a walk for an hour or two before I'm even up.  I like to sleep in when I can.

We seem to take turns going to bed later than each other.  Neither one of us cares when the other goes to sleep...that's a weird thing to get hung up on.

[Mupepe]

99% of the time we wake up and go to sleep at the same time

[G The Resurrected]

99% of the time we wake up and go to sleep at the same time

I have a theory that its cause you fall asleep together cuddling after some hawt

 

[Mupepe]

  usually

[Mupepe]

I have problems sleeping when the tv is on so I'll try to tough it out if my wife wants to stay up and usually I can.  Sometimes I'll just fall asleep in the living room instead and tell her to wake me up when she's ready to go to bed.  I don't care if she's up without me, but she prefers to watch tv in bed at night (so do I) but I can't sleep with the tv on. 

[Mupepe]

Thank God my wife sleeps like a rock.  I toss and turn all night but she never notices

[benjipwns]

Yeah we mostly get up and go to bed at the same time but neither of us are immature enough to throw a hissy fit if the other wants to stay up. Wtf lol

You're rejecting them! And not respecting the marriage!

[Mr. Gundam]

My wife typically goes to bed before I do. I put down the kiddo while she gets ready for bed, and once baby is asleep, I go back downstairs to watch TV or play videogames for another hour or so. It's not every night, but pretty often. She went to bed last night around 10:30pm, I didn't crawl upstairs until midnight or so.

[Mupepe]

If anyone's trying to interrupt my sleep it's my cat. I woke up covered in kitty toys this morning

kitty toys?  your wife is dropping hints, bro.

[Spurgeon]

All my past girlfriends were lazy bums who always slept in later than me. I never got a wake-up blowjob 

[demi]

@ the 2nd quote, simple solution: fuck his brains out every night

I love when women complain over the most trivial shit.

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Or playing vidya till late.

This weekend I went to bed with my gf and when she was dozing off I went to play Diablo till 3 at night.

[Madrun Badrun]

sometimes my hand stays a sleep when I get up.

[Verdigris Murder]

I'm pretty sure 'falling asleep on the couch' is a lie propagated by men, as it sounds less harmful than telling the truth.

[Van Cruncheon]

me: 6:30
her: 7:00
brat: 7:30

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I'm pretty sure 'falling asleep on the couch' is a lie propagated by men, as it sounds less harmful than telling the truth.

falling asleep on the couch is awesome - play games til i pass out, wake back up and turn the system on again

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me: 6:30
her: 7:00
brat: 7:30

Really? Arent kids supposed to wake up first.

This is good news.

Lol I've done that. That's why I want a vita if it's going to have a solid catalogue. Handheld in the nightstand

Feels so good man, like sneaking out to smoke to the balcony without your parents knowing.

I'm pretty sure 'falling asleep on the couch' is a lie propagated by men, as it sounds less harmful than telling the truth.

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