I have known the guy for a couple of years now, he has always been a big guy but it was more of a thick boned guy.
He has always been doing some gym workouts now and then and some running too i suppose, he liked it too although he always found it really exhausting. His father is really in shape and he always pressures him into working out more and so on.
He has totally let himself go especially now that he has been unemployed for 2 years and with nothing to do. All he does is sit on the couch in front of the tv and browse the web. When we are around he would even ask us to grab this or that for him on our way when we are moving around in his apartment so he doesn't have to move from his place.
He has gotten so fat that he doesn't wear clothes any longer when he is at home, he ties blankets around him and when he wears his pair of jeans at parties he wears no underwear. He even has his own place where only he sits at his place. We never see him unless we go to his place. He cooks like 3 times a year. Most of what he eats is microwaved meals, sandwiches, chips, snacks and food from the pizzeria. He even started getting constantly high as of recently which demands a shit ton of munchies.
We went to the beach yesterday, he showed up wearing a thick old black hoodie that is too small for him, the black color is even washed out, he wore it over his shirt with thick ass blue denims, the ones your grandpa would pose in. He was even trying to squeeze his hoodie around him by having his hands in the pockets and whenever no one is around he would even unbuckle his belt. He looked so out of place when every one else was walking shirtless around him.
He never leaves his apartment and when he does he walks really slow and gets really exhausted, he gets pain in his feet, knees, back and neck.
He is not searching for jobs and not doing anything about his weight, he is waiting for something i guess but i do not know what it is.
I have talked to him 1 on 1 like three times the last three months, just reminded him that all of what he is planning in his head is just excuses to delay what he has to do now and so on. I also talked to him about writing a C.V and going to the local clinic to get checked up and talking to them about his problems with his weight and exercise. He sounds very reasonable when i talk to him, he is honest with both me and himself and i feel that i really do get him motivated but unfortunately hardly any of it seems to stick the next day.
His family pretty much gave up and the friends that he has do not care. I hate to see him like this but i just do not know what to do. I am not really getting worked up by it but i feel slightly responsible for being his friend and not doing anything, I guess I also like to help my friends.
What do you guys think? Is there something I should do? being nice and reasonable doesn't seem to do anything. His father has been extremely harsh but that didn't help either.
