I've tried establishing myself as leader, first and foremost. This really isn't my dog, it's my fathers. But he doesn't do shit with her, and never spends time with her, so she latched onto me.
I first noticed when we got her that she immediately rushes outside when it's time to eat. I put a stop to that quickly, and made it so that she always follows me outside even if the door is wide open. She won't do a thing unless I walk outside even with food in my hand.
That works. She isn't allowed in the kitchen, that works. She has been house trained beautifully.
But when it comes to walking or doing anything remotely "us" time, she doesn't heel. I've tried making her calm down before the walk, and making her sit down, calm down, with the door open. Just like how I have with the food. Only this time I've got a leash. That goes well, and she doesn't barge out the door anymore, but as soon as we get outside she's on the lead even if I make the step outside first. If she is, I stop, let her calm down, start again, and try to get the lead, and she walks ahead no matter what. Eventually on the walk she gets tired, and it becomes stress free, the way a walk should be. But I chalk that up to physical exhaustion rather than legitimate acknowledgement of the pack leader.
She won't even listen to me when outside. It's like she is in her own little world.
boxers are really, really high energy. bulldogs take a lot of maintenance too. really bad choice for a first-time dog owner.
well, hang in there. if you end up having to give the dog to a farm, so be it. but i'm not going to lie to you and tell you it's going to be candy and rollercoasters owning a dog. sometimes it's good, sometimes it's shitty. it's a living thing.
I'm not a first time dog owner, this is my 5th dog. I've had black labs, a beagle, even a rotweiller, and none were this high maintenance. Then again I was a kid. I'm not expecting sunshine and rainbows; owning a dog is hard, but it shouldn't be this hard to the point where I groan when I think of doing things as simple as walks.