Author Topic: I wish I could sit every whining love-lorn nerd down... (Read 22540 times)

Barry Egan · « **Reply #60 on:** December 28, 2012, 03:36:43 AM »

Quote from: recursivelyenumerable on December 28, 2012, 02:09:12 AM

zzzzzzzzzz this is boring as shit. also I don't think I've ever encountered anyone in a fedora irl, hanging out at various hipster bars and coffeeshops; where are these people supposed to congregate?

Does OKCupid count as a place?

Human Snorenado · « **Reply #61 on:** December 28, 2012, 04:04:01 AM »

Quote from: Barry Egan on December 28, 2012, 03:36:43 AM

Quote from: recursivelyenumerable on December 28, 2012, 02:09:12 AM
zzzzzzzzzz this is boring as shit. also I don't think I've ever encountered anyone in a fedora irl, hanging out at various hipster bars and coffeeshops; where are these people supposed to congregate?

Does OKCupid count as a place?

Welp, the human race had a good run... where are the meteors when you fuckin need them

Akala · « **Reply #62 on:** December 28, 2012, 08:28:00 AM »

Quote from: recursivelyenumerable on December 28, 2012, 02:09:12 AM

zzzzzzzzzz this is boring as shit. also I don't think I've ever encountered anyone in a fedora irl, hanging out at various hipster bars and coffeeshops; where are these people supposed to congregate?

It's all a front. They never leave the house.

MyNameIsMethodis · « **Reply #63 on:** December 28, 2012, 09:22:38 AM »

im sure you guys have seen okcupidniceguys

http://niceguysofokc.tumblr.com/

Cerveza mas fina · « **Reply #64 on:** December 28, 2012, 10:50:23 AM »

The writer of that article has a few good points and a few horrible ones.

MrAngryFace · « **Reply #65 on:** December 28, 2012, 11:49:16 AM »

WELCOME TO THE INTERNET!

MyNameIsMethodis · « **Reply #66 on:** December 28, 2012, 11:58:54 AM »

while they dont have a obligation I do think its kinda ridiculous to make fun of guys for wearing silly shit and then get mad when guys make fun of girls for wearing silly shit

Shaka Khan · « **Reply #67 on:** December 28, 2012, 12:01:09 PM »

Number 6 is pretty powerful. I admit I winced from disgust reading that.

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So here is my terrible truth about the adult world: You are in that very situation every single day. Only you are the confused guy with the pocket knife. All of society is the bleeding gunshot victim.

Mupepe · « **Reply #68 on:** December 28, 2012, 12:01:11 PM »

There is no obligation to shave for women, but it's probably in their best interest to do so for social reasons. If they can handle that then *shrug*. Who gives a shit? I wouldn't date a woman who didn't shave her legs on a regular basis. Just like most women wouldn't date a man who doesn't shave, get a haircut or put on deodorant on a regular basis.

Barry Egan · « **Reply #69 on:** December 28, 2012, 12:04:19 PM »

sounds like someone in this thread where's a fedora

Himu · « **Reply #70 on:** December 28, 2012, 12:07:41 PM »

Quote from: Shaka Khan on December 28, 2012, 12:01:09 PM

Number 6 is pretty powerful. I admit I winced from disgust reading that.

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So here is my terrible truth about the adult world: You are in that very situation every single day. Only you are the confused guy with the pocket knife. All of society is the bleeding gunshot victim.

because it's true or you're actually disgusted

Mandark · « **Reply #71 on:** December 28, 2012, 12:07:51 PM »

Quote from: Barry Egan on December 28, 2012, 12:04:19 PM

sounds like someone in this thread where's a fedora

There's a fedorah!

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Barry Egan · « **Reply #72 on:** December 28, 2012, 12:09:14 PM »

owned :'(

MyNameIsMethodis · « **Reply #73 on:** December 28, 2012, 12:10:05 PM »

i wear only the finest of fedoras

Cerveza mas fina · « **Reply #74 on:** December 28, 2012, 12:14:42 PM »

Quote from: etiolate on December 27, 2012, 10:43:36 PM

I actually thought the article was dumb as hell. It's full of post-25 self hatred and machismo that generally annoys me on the internet.

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So, what do you bring to the table? Because the Zooey Deschanel lookalike in the bookstore that you've been daydreaming about moisturizes her face for an hour every night and feels guilty when she eats anything other than salad for lunch. She's going to be a surgeon in 10 years. What do you do?

She could also be working that bookstore in ten years. This article borders on the danger of still thinking girls are special and what do you have to offer them in order to win their specialness. That's not the best approach. Realize that the 22 year old bookstore girl is as aimless and clueless as the 22 year old gamestop employee. She may have dreams of being a surgeon just as the average male has dreams of becoming something spectacular, but the world doesn't make space for everyone to be spectacular or everyone to be surgeons. He may be nowhere in ten years and she may be nowhere in ten years. The only difference is that females can still fall back on being a homemaker.

Most people split down two paths: They follow their ideals and suffer from the fact that the world would rather they not follow their ideals and instead produce something they can profit off of now, or they forego ideals and aim for financial success and hope that things like ideals won't matter or can be replaced with the recreational resources money will give them. Around 30+ and into their 40s ,they start to either miss the financial security they wish they had or miss the self-assured identity they assume pursuing their idealistic interests would have given them. Some succeed on ideals, but its rare. Most tend to gravitate in the middle of their life towards whatever they gave up earlier in life to try to repair any damage they're currently dealing with. And their romantic partners won't always stay with them through either of these struggles for they aren't at that part in their maturing or their own maturing forces them down a similar but separate path.

But that's later on in life. "Girls want to know what you have to offer the world." Is just a somewhat more aged answer to the question "What do girls want?"that normally ends in "money and power". The problem is that girls, just like the dudes, mostly don't know what they want in their 20s. Finding out who you are is often a longer process than traditional marrying age allows for, so we have shoved in generalized questions and generalized answers to make it seem like we aren't all flying blind for half our lives. This article is just more of that same old shit.

Amen.

Cerveza mas fina · « **Reply #75 on:** December 28, 2012, 12:17:34 PM »

Before reading this and Cruncheons fedora tumbl I didnt know being a nice guy was a thing.

MyNameIsMethodis · « **Reply #76 on:** December 28, 2012, 12:23:20 PM »

i think its a merican thing

Phoenix Dark · « **Reply #77 on:** December 28, 2012, 12:26:02 PM »

Don Draper has ruined more than the modern fashion decisions of jawless, small men. Bros you cannot compel a woman to sleep with you based on your aura alone, you are NOT that cool. Nor will making yourself seem mysterious make women swoon. I know a mixed guy who tells nearly every woman he meets that he was born on a boat in Spain and doesn't know his parents; then he says he goes every year to find his mother. Literally, that's his tactic to fuck women. Each time I'm tempted to blurt out "you were born in Detroit and raised in a trailer park, negro" but I don't

Lesson: just be yourself. If you aren't cool, chicks will figure out real fast especially if you pretend. It goes back to my list, ie the "treat women like human beings" thing. Stop trying to impress women and instead do it with your actions. You know how many women tell me I'm we'll mannered, or that I treat people nice? I'm not simping of course, just being myself. If you're truly cool - which means not weird or an asshole - someone will notice you. Assuming you aren't locked in your room all night of course

Phoenix Dark · « **Reply #78 on:** December 28, 2012, 12:38:16 PM »

But the recrnt fedora craze among nerdom and bros is directly due to Draper. And don't post a Casablanca pic in response to this post, Mandork

Eric P · « **Reply #79 on:** December 28, 2012, 12:39:02 PM »

veto

that shit was around in the 90s too

fedoras and dusters

i saw a dude in this geek uniform a few weeks ago and was amazed. i was like "they still make your model?"

Human Snorenado · « **Reply #80 on:** December 28, 2012, 12:41:40 PM »

Yeah, there was a whole swing revival geek thing in the 90's. Man I'm glad that shit went away.

Phoenix Dark · « **Reply #81 on:** December 28, 2012, 12:43:54 PM »

objection!

True but there are more fedoras being worn among broader demographics now. People like Etoilet have worn fedoras for two decades, but today regular people wear them too in high numbers!

MyNameIsMethodis · « **Reply #82 on:** December 28, 2012, 12:45:17 PM »

no the fedora craze isnt due to some stupid obscure telebision show sorry pd

Mandark · « **Reply #83 on:** December 28, 2012, 12:50:23 PM »

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 28, 2012, 12:38:16 PM

But the recrnt fedora craze among nerdom and bros is directly due to Draper. And don't post a Casablanca pic in response to this post, Mandork

Fine, fine...

Phoenix Dark · « **Reply #84 on:** December 28, 2012, 12:57:36 PM »

headwalk · « **Reply #85 on:** December 28, 2012, 01:05:29 PM »

a tricorne works though, right? sometimes i feel self-conscious, then i remember that i'm the only me in the world and listen to some dave mathews band through my beats.

Himu · « **Reply #86 on:** December 28, 2012, 01:19:41 PM »

Lol at calling mad men obscure

Mandark · « **Reply #87 on:** December 28, 2012, 01:21:15 PM »

You know who make fedoras work? Orthodox Jews.

MyNameIsMethodis · « **Reply #88 on:** December 28, 2012, 01:23:00 PM »

Cerveza mas fina · « **Reply #89 on:** December 28, 2012, 01:32:30 PM »

Wearing something doesnt make you cool, you wear something because you are cool and then it becomes cool.

If youre a fat dorky asperg loser and put on a fedora everybody sees through that from across the street jesus.

James dean looked cool in blue jeans and a white t shirt cause hes motherfucking james dean.

Eric P · « **Reply #90 on:** December 28, 2012, 01:39:29 PM »

Quote from: Mandark on December 28, 2012, 01:21:15 PM

You know who make fedoras work? Orthodox Jews.

http://nymag.com/news/features/black-jews-2012-12/

Flannel Boy · « **Reply #91 on:** December 28, 2012, 02:21:07 PM »

Quote from: Barry Egan on December 28, 2012, 03:36:43 AM

Quote from: recursivelyenumerable on December 28, 2012, 02:09:12 AM
zzzzzzzzzz this is boring as shit. also I don't think I've ever encountered anyone in a fedora irl, hanging out at various hipster bars and coffeeshops; where are these people supposed to congregate?

Does OKCupid count as a place?

Flannel Boy · « **Reply #92 on:** December 28, 2012, 02:22:08 PM »

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 28, 2012, 12:26:02 PM

Don Draper has ruined more than the modern fashion decisions of jawless, small men. . . .
Lesson: look like Don Draper, have wealth like Don Draper, be intelligent like Don Draper, be well-spoken like Don Draper, have power like Don Draper, AND LOOK LIKE DON DRAPER!

Cerveza mas fina · « **Reply #93 on:** December 28, 2012, 02:25:48 PM »

Don Draper

Flannel Boy · « **Reply #94 on:** December 28, 2012, 02:26:34 PM »

Quote from: AWESOM-O on December 28, 2012, 12:01:13 PM

5) I've almost finished a novel

Big deal. I've finished reading several.

ctrl + f "160"

That's odd.

Flannel Boy · « **Reply #95 on:** December 28, 2012, 02:30:31 PM »

Quote from: Premium Lager on December 28, 2012, 02:25:48 PM

Don Draper

He's a fictional character played by Jon Hamm, the second hottest St. Louis Blues fan in the world.

Cerveza mas fina · « **Reply #96 on:** December 28, 2012, 02:41:02 PM »

Looks like the opposite of nerds wearing fedoras to me, he prob went home with the prom queen.

This is the new cool 16/20 year olds aspire to now?

ToxicAdam · « **Reply #97 on:** December 28, 2012, 02:41:57 PM »

Your teens and twenties are defined by trying on 'many different hats'. Especially among white males because they don't really have a cultural heritage/identity to fall back on. Unless you still live around some of the old immigrant neighborhoods of yore.

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This whole 'nice guy' shit needs to be called out for what it is. It's just the pinnacle of passive-aggressive lothario-ism. What Royce Gracie was to fighting, fronting as a 'nice guy' is to fucking. The fedora is the gui.

You don't have the skillset to approach women like many men do, so you come at them as a neutered, disinterested pal. Your aim is still the same, but when you get turned down you still get to play the victim role to assuage your hurt feelings. I only know it, because it was my game also. I just didn't cry about it to everyone I know. I moved onto the next one and tried again.

Eric P · « **Reply #98 on:** December 28, 2012, 02:43:21 PM »

Quote from: ToxicAdam on December 28, 2012, 02:41:57 PM

Your teens and twenties are defined by trying on 'many different hats'. Especially among white males because they don't really have a cultural heritage/identity to fall back on.

Flannel Boy · « **Reply #99 on:** December 28, 2012, 02:49:17 PM »

Quote from: ToxicAdam on December 28, 2012, 02:41:57 PM

Your teens and twenties are defined by trying on 'many different hats'. Especially among white males because they don't really have a cultural heritage/identity to fall back on. Unless you still live around some of the old immigrant neighborhoods of yore.

Woot. I got choices.

MyNameIsMethodis · « **Reply #100 on:** December 28, 2012, 02:51:08 PM »

youre not fooling anyone with that dunce hat klansman

Flannel Boy · « **Reply #101 on:** December 28, 2012, 03:03:30 PM »

You scored 160.

MyNameIsMethodis · « **Reply #102 on:** December 28, 2012, 03:13:26 PM »

awesomeo-o the way you answer those retorts is everything EXCEPT "No".

Oh are you in a band?
I'm actually working on a solo project right now, it's coming along great.

MyNameIsMethodis · « **Reply #103 on:** December 28, 2012, 03:17:33 PM »

2) That'll be great when you finally get a decent job at age 30. I'm gonna go talk to that guy who just turned 26 and got his JD from Yale Law.
And whats your job? Oh you are a waitress? That must be fun!

3) Sweet, I'll bet you have some great pictures!
Yeah some, but I met some real cool people also

4) Nice, if I gave you a dollar for every one of those, you'd have five dollars!
And if you ran even one of them you wouldn't be overweight.

5) Awesome, when is it coming out? (THE REST SHOULDNT HAPPEN)
I'm hoping soon, just putting some polish on it now.

MyNameIsMethodis · « **Reply #104 on:** December 28, 2012, 03:28:26 PM »

atleast you have 5 things to list off mine would be

1. i play guitar and bass
2. i am learning how to skateboard
3.

i just dont know how to approach random womenz in a bar tho, course i've never really tried but i've always always done better when i'm sober.

Mr. Gundam · « **Reply #105 on:** December 28, 2012, 03:31:09 PM »

Quote from: ToxicAdam on December 28, 2012, 02:41:57 PM

You don't have the skillset to approach women like many men do, so you come at them as a neutered, disinterested pal. Your aim is still the same, but when you get turned down you still get to play the victim role to assuage your hurt feelings. I only know it, because it was my game also. I just didn't cry about it to everyone I know. I moved onto the next one and tried again.

I fell into that rut when I was 21 after my longterm girlfriend broke up with me. Took me a year to snap out of it and then I seriously did get "mad pussy" before meeting my now-wife.

MyNameIsMethodis · « **Reply #106 on:** December 28, 2012, 03:34:07 PM »

what did you change to make that happen like what did you say

Mr. Gundam · « **Reply #107 on:** December 28, 2012, 03:39:19 PM »

Quote from: MyNameIsMethodis on December 28, 2012, 03:34:07 PM

what did you change to make that happen like what did you say

I just realized I was being stupid and pathetic and I needed to grow a spine and start talking to women with confidence. There was no magical phrase that made panties drop.

Phoenix Dark · « **Reply #108 on:** December 28, 2012, 03:39:28 PM »

Quote from: MyNameIsMethodis on December 28, 2012, 03:34:07 PM

what did you change to make that happen like what did you say

He's a wizard, Methodis

MyNameIsMethodis · « **Reply #109 on:** December 28, 2012, 03:42:24 PM »

sorry I worded it wrong, I just meant what changed in you and it was "grow a spine"

Mr. Gundam · « **Reply #110 on:** December 28, 2012, 03:46:26 PM »

I always approached women with the notion that they weren't interested and I was destined for rejection. I just got over that and started talking to them with respect AND confidence, no longer a "hopeless romantic" doormat. And what do you know, it worked well.

I also didn't have to deal with the "bar" dating scene. College and post-college functions worked well in my favor. I don't envy those who have to deal with the post-college adult life dating scene. Urgh.

ToxicAdam · « **Reply #111 on:** December 28, 2012, 03:56:52 PM »

Post-college adult dating is what drove me towards marriage. Having to navigate all the women with children or previous marriages or other emotional baggage was just too much for me. It made me realize why men in their early 30's date college girls exclusively.

It didn't help that I lived in rural Ohio. Maybe if I lived in a big city, my options would have been better.

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #112 on:** December 28, 2012, 04:03:59 PM »

The meeting and early getting to know you stuff is by far the easiest part of the relationship thing anyway, because no matter how spectacularly bad at it you may be, the law of averages decrees it will work out for you in the fullness of time. But then your fucked-up soul will be together with another fucked-up soul and omg that is trouble

Phoenix Dark · « **Reply #113 on:** December 28, 2012, 04:18:50 PM »

Quote from: Eric P on December 28, 2012, 01:39:29 PM

Quote from: Mandark on December 28, 2012, 01:21:15 PM
You know who make fedoras work? Orthodox Jews.
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http://nymag.com/news/features/black-jews-2012-12/

It's all a ploy to date Emmanuelle Chriqui

Eric P · « **Reply #114 on:** December 28, 2012, 04:20:51 PM »

Phoenix Dark · « **Reply #115 on:** December 28, 2012, 04:22:54 PM »

Even the weave is kosher

Eric P · « **Reply #116 on:** December 28, 2012, 04:27:16 PM »

i've seen some crazy wigs on the tznius chic around here. modesty through extreme artifice

Himu · « **Reply #117 on:** December 28, 2012, 04:49:23 PM »

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on December 28, 2012, 04:22:54 PM

Even the weave is kosher

MyNameIsMethodis · « **Reply #118 on:** December 28, 2012, 04:57:21 PM »

The bar scene is shit I hate it can't wait to move out of the stix and meet women's at places that aren't bars

Cerveza mas fina · « **Reply #119 on:** December 28, 2012, 05:17:15 PM »

A wedding ring is just a bigger challenge amirite guys?

/kosma

And yes the older you get the more girls will be in long term things, no shock there.

I dont think I could date a college chick anymore (not just cause i am engaged), dont see the point in getting serious with a person that still doesnt know what they want in life and or being comfortable with who they are. This obviously applies for us guys too, dont be looking for something serious just have fun and the serious stuff will happen by itself.

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Author Topic: I wish I could sit every whining love-lorn nerd down... (Read 22540 times)