Planning a wedding - Serious business

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A friend of mine is planning a wedding, and funnily enough so am I (well mostly my fiancée).

All we want to do is get hitched, rent a big place for our families and friends to stay in, have a bbq or some other NORMAL food, drink a bit and have fun. Just a normal party but with us getting married. No churches and shit. The band will probably be our friends, just as the dj and the photographer.

But for this ladyfriend this shit is serious business, dresses, invitations, churches, wineries etc. What kind of rings will you guys have? What about the band? The photographer? What about this? What about the dress? What about the toilet paper your guests will have?

 

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That's exactly what we want  :jada

You think having the right kind of napkins will make for a great memory?

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I guess we just have different ideas about this B, hopefully we can put it past us.

[Barry Egan]

So my Mother's second wedding is actually in a few hours.  Overall I'd rate the preparation at Level: No Fucks Given.  The ceremony itself is only 5 minutes long.  It's taking place in a Japanese restaurant and there's going to be unlimited sushi and saki (Cool!) but also my Mother has decided to encourage everyone to wear Hawaiian clothing (Why?!). The cake is going to be a plain carrot cake completely undecorated.  My Mother sewed her own dress.  It's actually alot less formal then I would want my own wedding to be, but collectively they've both been married 3 or 4 times already and they're probably just sick of the whole process.

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Lol Barry 

[G The Resurrected]

We regret doing what we did. Which was not have a wedding at all. We did it more out of desire that we'd later be able to afford the wedding we both want. Maybe one day is now turning into maybe some year down the road. 

Do what you want and as long as you're both happy that's all that will matter at the end of the day. And that's the story you'll remember for the rest of your life.

[huckleberry]

  Eloping to the Caribbean




  Getting to screw my mother-in-law out of micro managing our wedding




  Land of Diunx

[DCharlieJP]

We asked my mother in law to be the buffer / macro manager - it saved my wife and I's sanity!

Good lucky in planning - it's a pretty stressful time.

My wedding day fun fact : ended night with wife and I looking out across Ebisu from the honeymoon suite - sitting in our night party clothes eating pot noodle.

Sigh - happy days

[nudemacusers]

Yeah, thankfully my wife has like 5 aunts so they all went hypermode in handling all the tiny details and everything. 

Our's was low-key and pretty no frills as we a) were paying for it ourselves b) graduated college about 8 months prior, so we didn't have fat stacks of cash to blow. All in all it was about 6k out of pocket. Her dress was actually her grandmother's wedding dress. Most of that was renting the place, providing booze for 70ish people, and food.

Whatever you do, don't go into huge debt. Wife's brother spent like 20k and is still paying that off. I'm not even sure where that money went, exactly.

[Olivia Wilde Homo]

I heard the more expensive a wedding is, the more likely it is to fail.

Certainly applied to my friends.  The most lavish wedding I went to supposedly cost $50,000.  They didn't have a nickel between them so their parents picked up the tab.  The marriage lasted just over two years because they were both screwing around on each other.

Conversely, I went to a few weddings that were only a few thousand and they're working out well.  A small ceremony in a church (if you're into that kind of thang) and a nice reception dinner is really all that you need.

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Nice touch with her grandma's dress 

Thanks for sharing your hitched stories dudes, not many of my friends are married (yet).

[DCharlieJP]

When I asked the wife to get hitched I assumed she'd be generally "meh" on a "big wedding" - I got that one wrong ! I was all for a quiet wedding and a generally low key affair but the wife convinced me we should make a day of it.

I don't regret a single part of it and it all went swimmingly well - plus Bore/Gaf representing : Cormacaroni, Mr Singh, Shonuff, Hotstack, Jonnyram, JohnTV, Hiroko 8-4, Fafalada and I'm sure others I am forgetting

[nudemacusers]

Bore dudes at a wedding... Sounds cool, actually. haha.

Yeah the dress thing was nice, I won five bucks* from the wife because she got weepy when her grandfather saw her for the first time in the dress.

*Five dollars is our standard betting amount, and we bet that the other would cry. I HELD STRONG BORE.

[DCharlieJP]

Yeah, having Bore at the wedding was awesome - though this was back in 2006 so it was more "Tokyopia" crowd than anything. I know almost everyone has seen this already but - effectively 8-4 + thebore + games industry gents made this for our wedding.

Caution : contains Nintendo themes

[Polari]

I don't understand why people have big super-organised weddings. Seems like a lot of stress. Just rent a hall and spend the rest of booze.

[Himu]

Anecdotal: every big elaborate wedding I've been to except two have ended in divorce. A few family members and friends, some booze, some cake, a beach or a nice field. All I need. Spending 50k for one afternoon makes no sense to me.

[Human Snorenado]

From all of my good friends in college, the only couple that got divorced had the biggest wedding. 

Of course, they ended up getting divorced because the bride found out she was a lesbian like four years later, but details, you know?

[DCharlieJP]

The correlation for divorce from people I know from home is more to do with marrying young than the wedding days themselves.  But hey.

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The correlation for divorce from people I know from home is more to do with marrying young than the wedding days themselves.  But hey.

Were both round 30

[Steve Contra]

All my friends ended up getting naked and hopping in the pool at my wedding.  Cops were called three times.  Good times.

[Trent Dole]

fun fact: wedding extravagance is negatively correlated with marriage success

Yeah, wife and I kept it simple. Mostly let her do her thing and offered input when asked. She's a very crafty type person and made most of the decor and such herself.

The correlation for divorce from people I know from home is more to do with marrying young than the wedding days themselves.  But hey.

Were both round 30

30ish is a good age to go for it. Hittin' 35 (goddamn I'm old) and 3 for bein' married this year myself. We'll have been together for 10.

Best of luck to you and your lady, Lager.

[Shadow Mod]

I dunno how dudes can marry chicks that want to basically spend on a marriage what could go towards a car or a down payment on a house.

[lennedsay]

We also did the cheapo shindig for super close friends and family, and it was fantastic. Spent about $2K on the reception facility and food. My dress was $400 off the rack. We spent a little extra money on professional flowers and cake. Everything else I did myself.

It was still serious business though, because I did so much myself to save money, and I researched the most affordable and highest quality of pretty much everything. Everyone was blown away by the food (steak and italian food anyone?) and the atmosphere. Most weddings around my hometown are pretty cookie-cutter - lower middle class area with limited wedding-related resources. Unless you're a crafty bitch like myself.


Plus, it was the least girly wedding ever (surprise). Basically, every time someone suggested something feminine and girly and froufrou, I mentally made a note to do the complete opposite. It was still beautiful for the womenfolk, but that was balanced with good food and fun and debauchery for the men and myself.


We're still married and not in debt from it, so there's that.

[T234]

The last wedding I went to I was drinking whiskey straight outta the bottle. And then I made a speech about the chemistry of love whilst blackout drunk. I even used the words "Real Talk". The 200+ semi-rich folk in attendance got a kick out of it.


I don't remember any part of it. The facebook video of said speech was pretty hard to watch, quite honestly. I haven't really drank since.

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Link plz

We're still married and not in debt from it, so there's that.

Yeah that would be nice. My fiancee is thinking of asking her mom to make the dress even now 

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[T234]

The last wedding I went to I was drinking whiskey straight outta the bottle. And then I made a speech about the chemistry of love whilst blackout drunk. I even used the words "Real Talk".


I don't remember any part of it. The facebook video of said speech was pretty hard to watch, quite honestly. I haven't really drank since.

I love the mislead in this post. Starts with typical T234 booze/drugs/crime brag but ends with an atypical shot of melancholy self-awareness.

Swerve!

Congrats on getting hitched. I can already tell you are at least already a little happier and less bitter.


Things have been quite a bit less awful in my life ever since I started a new legit gig, gave up cocaine, and I even kissed a girl.

On the lips, no less!