Yet another GAF thread - I still haven't got over it :( (No spergfits allowed)

[Mr. Gundam]

Spokane actually has a decent little urban scene. Just a bit different than a lot of suburbs where it's all crappy sports bars and dance clubs in strip malls.

You have to find that scene though, which would mean exploring. People go to one or two nasty bars then assume that's all there is in places.

That's really all there is in the town I grew up in.

God, I'm so glad I'm married and don't have to deal with dating.

[radioheadrule83]

I can vaguely remember a time when I worried about my lack of progress with the opposite sex, but I remember being told - when it happens you'll wonder why you ever worried, and it's true. It's true of everything that fills you with personal anxiety - the moment you stop caring and relax about it is when you're most able to deal with everything. I feel sorry for younger people tying themselves in knots over it..

Some part of me actually looks back on the blissful ignorance of never having physical attachments with some fondness actually. Innocence lost is never gained.

[Mr. Gundam]

I can vaguely remember a time when I worried about my lack of progress with the opposite sex, but I remember being told - when it happens you'll wonder why you ever worried, and it's true. It's true of everything that fills you with personal anxiety - the moment you stop caring and relax about it is when you're most able to deal with everything. I feel sorry for younger people tying themselves in knots over it..

I had a big breakup in college that kinda devastated me for months. Once I stopped worrying about being alone and just had fun with life, it worked out.

[Shadow Mod]

Spokane actually has a decent little urban scene. Just a bit different than a lot of suburbs where it's all crappy sports bars and dance clubs in strip malls.

You have to find that scene though, which would mean exploring. People go to one or two nasty bars then assume that's all there is in places.

That's really all there is in the town I grew up in.

God, I'm so glad I'm married and don't have to deal with dating.

That blows chunks. Around me in my early 20s it seemed like all anyone wanted to do was go clubbing =/.

[Mr. Gundam]

God, clubbing. I hated that shit.

Met my wife at college, but we didn't start dating until after graduation when I was over in Ellensburg for graduate school and she was living and working in Seattle. Lots of movies, concerts and late dinners at greasy spoon dive bars.

[Rahxephon91]

I can vaguely remember a time when I worried about my lack of progress with the opposite sex, but I remember being told - when it happens you'll wonder why you ever worried, and it's true. It's true of everything that fills you with personal anxiety - the moment you stop caring and relax about it is when you're most able to deal with everything. I feel sorry for younger people tying themselves in knots over it..

Some part of me actually looks back on the blissful ignorance of never having physical attachments with some fondness actually. Innocence lost is never gained.

Well for me it happen and well..........I fleet worse after it.

I've always felt like a loser, low self-confidence is a big issue(yes I know, how original), but I have had sex. Unfortunately I feel like I did a terrible job at it and well when that idea is combined with an already self defeating attitude it's just a huge self pity fest. And well the idea of having sex again is kind of well I'm not sure scary is the word, but you know I feel extermley nervous about the whole thing to the point I don't even think I could put myself in situations where it could happen.

But I just feel like gee I'm 23 and I've wasted a good portion of my adult life. I hear of other guys and their sexual escapades and feel like well "jesus I'm just kind of shitty". It's possible to not worry about it because by now the fact that I haven't had a gf and a good amount of sex you start to feel like something is wrong with you. And well obviously my self image is a problem, but this dosen't help. it kind of creates a shitty cycle, a shitty self fullfulling prophecy on my end.

I mean I won't sit here and lie and say "oh yeah I've tried everything" because thats obviously a lie. I don't see myself as some unwashed neckberd, because well if you saw me I doubt you'd think I'm some super nerd. I don't behave like some white knight, what I'm trying to say regardless of my internet persona, I'm not a GAFTARD. I'm just a quiet dude who keeps to himself, I'd like to say I'm decent once you get to know me. But unfortunately I don't let people know me, it's really hard for me to even talk to people I don't know. I know going to school and just going to school and nothing else is the wrong thing to do, but that's what I do. And since I don't live on campus, I'm not forced into talking to people.

In general i just feel kind of crummy. I have no confidence in the general girl area. Hell my entire life no girl has ever shown interests in me and well that takes a crap on my confidence. I really doubt my abilities in sex, so that makes me completely nervous about doing it and thats not a good thing. It just feels like a pretty lose lose situation for me.

[Polari]

Oh that reminds me. Didn't some post a thread about wanting to change or some shit like a month ago? Wonder how that all is panning out.

[Shadow Mod]

Oh that reminds me. Didn't some post a thread about wanting to change or some shit like a month ago? Wonder how that all is panning out.

Fistful you mean?

[Polari]

Yeah that's right. You gonna bump with an update Fistful?

[brawndolicious]

I have no confidence in the general girl area. Hell my entire life no girl has ever shown interests in me and well that takes a crap on my confidence. I really doubt my abilities in sex, so that makes me completely nervous about doing it and thats not a good thing. It just feels like a pretty lose lose situation for me.

I think you're falling into the trap of that thinking that a relationship is what makes you happy. I'm just guessing here. But you really should be happy with yourself before you're ready to begin a relationship, it's not a competition or a reward for something.

[Rahxephon91]

Maybe, but I don't think relationships are the end all be all. I don't think I need to be in one to be happy.

I have a friend who just got married and all I can think is how kind of dumb it is to be married at 23. Why would you want to be tied down at that age?

Likewise I have a really mopey friend who is constantly sad about not being in relationship as if it's the end all be all. Then again he has mother issues, but it's still annoying.

I don't need one to be happy, in fact sometimes I'm plenty happy with just my friends. I also value my alone time. I don't mean to come off as some emo angsty dude, because that couldn't be further from the truth. I just have low confidence, not to the point where I talk about how crappy I am all the time, I doubt my friends even think I talk like this. I just think it's strange that by 23 I haven't had any real female experience, it's kind of sad. I dont want to be 30 and have my first one, that will end badly. You'll have a 30+ woman with probably serious relationship experience. It's going to be hard for her to deal with someone who's never been in one and dosen't know the ins and outs. I mean, don't you agree?

But I also think you're right. You gotta like yourself first, and well thats a problem.

[demi]

Maybe, but I don't think relationships are the end all be all. I don't think I need to be in one to be happy.

I have a friend who just got married and all I can think is how kind of dumb it is to be married at 23. Why would you want to be tied down at that age?

Likewise I have a really mopey friend who is constantly sad about not being in relationship as if it's the end all be all. Then again he has mother issues, but it's still annoying.

I don't need one to be happy, in fact sometimes I'm plenty happy with just my friends. I also value my alone time. I don't mean to come off as some emo angsty dude, because that couldn't be further from the truth. I just have low confidence, not to the point where I talk about how crappy I am all the time, I doubt my friends even think I talk like this. I just think it's strange that by 23 I haven't had any real female experience, it's kind of sad. I dont want to be 30 and have my first one, that will end badly. You'll have a 30+ woman with probably serious relationship experience. It's going to be hard for her to deal with someone who's never been in one and dosen't know the ins and outs. I mean, don't you agree?

But I also think you're right. You gotta like yourself first, and well thats a problem.

You dont really have to explain yourself. Those threads are venus fly traps for lulz. Dont get stuck.

[fizzel]

Holy shit, the gaming side is just fucking deplorable. Worse than it was at the beginning of last gen.

So many ritalin-laden posts.

Blue balls near bursting from the long generation, and new consoles that look a bit shit.

[fistfulofmetal]

Yeah that's right. You gonna bump with an update Fistful?

Nothing major has happened yet. I went to my first doctor visit on Monday and will be scheduling my first therapist session soon so I'll probably update it after I do that.

[StealthFan]

http://www.thecoli.com/threads/moments-you-realized-maybe-you-not-hitting-the-puzzy-as-good-as-you-thought.146955/

[Michael Moaner]

Maybe, but I don't think relationships are the end all be all. I don't think I need to be in one to be happy.

I have a friend who just got married and all I can think is how kind of dumb it is to be married at 23. Why would you want to be tied down at that age?

Likewise I have a really mopey friend who is constantly sad about not being in relationship as if it's the end all be all. Then again he has mother issues, but it's still annoying.

I don't need one to be happy, in fact sometimes I'm plenty happy with just my friends. I also value my alone time. I don't mean to come off as some emo angsty dude, because that couldn't be further from the truth. I just have low confidence, not to the point where I talk about how crappy I am all the time, I doubt my friends even think I talk like this. I just think it's strange that by 23 I haven't had any real female experience, it's kind of sad. I dont want to be 30 and have my first one, that will end badly. You'll have a 30+ woman with probably serious relationship experience. It's going to be hard for her to deal with someone who's never been in one and dosen't know the ins and outs. I mean, don't you agree?

But I also think you're right. You gotta like yourself first, and well thats a problem.

I would definitely recommend therapy to get your self-esteem on track. It's kind of a tired phrase, but ultimately - you really can't love/appreciation someone else until you do the same for yourself first. Otherwise, any relationship you have is going to become beyond unhealthy for a variety of reasons.

[Steve Youngblood]

Holy shit, the gaming side is just fucking deplorable. Worse than it was at the beginning of last gen.

So many ritalin-laden posts.

I honestly don't have a good frame of reference for that time. While I was around on GAF and a couple of other places/perusing a few news sites, 2005-2006 was among my least active times in terms of both playing games and reading forums.

[Shadow Mod]

Jesus you can't add context to a thread without someone spinning it in an entirely wrong direction.

[Phoenix Dark]

God, clubbing. I hated that shit.

Met my wife at college, but we didn't start dating until after graduation when I was over in Ellensburg for graduate school and she was living and working in Seattle. Lots of movies, concerts and late dinners at greasy spoon dive bars.

GAFers can't pull that off. Bars are probably the "easier" alternative to them, but even those require socializing and they're stumped on how to move from A ("cocky/funny/pop culture reference") to B ("wanna come to my mom's house tonight?").

These are people who didn't talk to women in middle school, high school, etc. That alone limits their experience to 0, and ensures they never have those "hey, are you x" moments most people have with the opposite sex. Now they're grown and don't talk to women at work or anywhere else. How do you "fix" that? IMO it's pretty much game over for them...

[Polari]

God, clubbing. I hated that shit.

Met my wife at college, but we didn't start dating until after graduation when I was over in Ellensburg for graduate school and she was living and working in Seattle. Lots of movies, concerts and late dinners at greasy spoon dive bars.

These are people who didn't talk to women in middle school, high school, etc. That alone limits their experience to 0, and ensures they never have those "hey, are you x" moments most people have with the opposite sex. Now they're grown and don't talk to women at work or anywhere else. How do you "fix" that? IMO it's pretty much game over for them...

Drink enough and you'll get there eventually

[jiji]

I was going to make a joke about phonetic names using a variation of "Erica" as an example, but then I remembered...

http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showpost.php?p=81690465&postcount=168

Bad idea!

[Atramental]

God, clubbing. I hated that shit.

Met my wife at college, but we didn't start dating until after graduation when I was over in Ellensburg for graduate school and she was living and working in Seattle. Lots of movies, concerts and late dinners at greasy spoon dive bars.

These are people who didn't talk to women in middle school, high school, etc. That alone limits their experience to 0, and ensures they never have those "hey, are you x" moments most people have with the opposite sex. Now they're grown and don't talk to women at work or anywhere else. How do you "fix" that? IMO it's pretty much game over for them...

(Image removed from quote.)

Drink enough and you'll get there eventually

Yep.

It's my current crutch but it's not like I want a relationship or anything serious right now. Just want sum fuck, gurl. 

Now, as for those uptight virgin gaffers who don't drink...  they're fucking screwed.

[StealthFan]

Whatever happened to golfham? I say golfham instead of goddamn IRL. Loved that guy.

[nudemacusers]

God, clubbing. I hated that shit.

Met my wife at college, but we didn't start dating until after graduation when I was over in Ellensburg for graduate school and she was living and working in Seattle. Lots of movies, concerts and late dinners at greasy spoon dive bars.

Tav burgers

But your posts burns, I met my wife at the coke rail. In our defense, it was Halloween.

[Olivia Wilde Homo]

I can vaguely remember a time when I worried about my lack of progress with the opposite sex, but I remember being told - when it happens you'll wonder why you ever worried, and it's true. It's true of everything that fills you with personal anxiety - the moment you stop caring and relax about it is when you're most able to deal with everything. I feel sorry for younger people tying themselves in knots over it..

Some part of me actually looks back on the blissful ignorance of never having physical attachments with some fondness actually. Innocence lost is never gained.

Well for me it happen and well..........I fleet worse after it.

I've always felt like a loser, low self-confidence is a big issue(yes I know, how original), but I have had sex. Unfortunately I feel like I did a terrible job at it and well when that idea is combined with an already self defeating attitude it's just a huge self pity fest. And well the idea of having sex again is kind of well I'm not sure scary is the word, but you know I feel extermley nervous about the whole thing to the point I don't even think I could put myself in situations where it could happen.

But I just feel like gee I'm 23 and I've wasted a good portion of my adult life. I hear of other guys and their sexual escapades and feel like well "jesus I'm just kind of shitty". It's possible to not worry about it because by now the fact that I haven't had a gf and a good amount of sex you start to feel like something is wrong with you. And well obviously my self image is a problem, but this dosen't help. it kind of creates a shitty cycle, a shitty self fullfulling prophecy on my end.

I mean I won't sit here and lie and say "oh yeah I've tried everything" because thats obviously a lie. I don't see myself as some unwashed neckberd, because well if you saw me I doubt you'd think I'm some super nerd. I don't behave like some white knight, what I'm trying to say regardless of my internet persona, I'm not a GAFTARD. I'm just a quiet dude who keeps to himself, I'd like to say I'm decent once you get to know me. But unfortunately I don't let people know me, it's really hard for me to even talk to people I don't know. I know going to school and just going to school and nothing else is the wrong thing to do, but that's what I do. And since I don't live on campus, I'm not forced into talking to people.

In general i just feel kind of crummy. I have no confidence in the general girl area. Hell my entire life no girl has ever shown interests in me and well that takes a crap on my confidence. I really doubt my abilities in sex, so that makes me completely nervous about doing it and thats not a good thing. It just feels like a pretty lose lose situation for me.

When I was 19, I was pretty pissed that I went my first year of college without putting my pencil in some lady of easy virtue.

So I made it a point to be in situations where teh sex happened regularly.  By that I don't mean pulling a dark_chris and just fondling every woman and calling her a special friend, I'm talking being at parties.  While being at parties, I couldn't just stand in a corner, I had to socialize in a way that made sure I could at least kiss a girl.  I really had to move out of my comfort zone because my Friday nights (including this one) were usually spent on the internet and jerking off.  It was a big shift and I eventually found an easygoing girl with big boobs who didn't mind me thrusting away into her.

Late term virgins (people who are virgins after 20) tend to think that there needs to be some higher purpose in getting laid.  In reality, that is all bullshit and is reluctance due to insecurity.  I can understand, I can't see a woman getting excited at banging some thirtysomething gaffer who probably can't even get it up due to all of the mental pressure and issues that are being deeply suppressed.  This is why TDM will never be able to put his penis in trab pu kcip, no matter how desperately he wants to.  Chances are a lot of these guys need a lot of therapy because self adjusted guys who are older virgins are rare and safe to say that if you post on GAF, you pretty much have your answer.

In the end, you're wasting prime years of your life suppressing your feelings.  Life is too short coming up with new excuses as to why you don't want to get laid.  I mean, it's your life and everything, but it doesn't seem worth it to keep suppressing or explaining away your desires.

[Michael Moaner]

Oh noes!

So now asking simple questions and being up front about my intentions are creepy and awkward?

Good to know... it's probably why people in this thread have such a hard time breaking out of their shells or putting themselves out there because when they do in a non imposing way and are upfront they are quickly labeled creepy and awkward.

http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showpost.php?p=81697957&postcount=469

Dude was trying to creep on some girl (who I think was actually a guy/Trans) and got called out 

This fucking thread.

[Rahxephon91]

I can vaguely remember a time when I worried about my lack of progress with the opposite sex, but I remember being told - when it happens you'll wonder why you ever worried, and it's true. It's true of everything that fills you with personal anxiety - the moment you stop caring and relax about it is when you're most able to deal with everything. I feel sorry for younger people tying themselves in knots over it..

Some part of me actually looks back on the blissful ignorance of never having physical attachments with some fondness actually. Innocence lost is never gained.

Well for me it happen and well..........I fleet worse after it.

I've always felt like a loser, low self-confidence is a big issue(yes I know, how original), but I have had sex. Unfortunately I feel like I did a terrible job at it and well when that idea is combined with an already self defeating attitude it's just a huge self pity fest. And well the idea of having sex again is kind of well I'm not sure scary is the word, but you know I feel extermley nervous about the whole thing to the point I don't even think I could put myself in situations where it could happen.

But I just feel like gee I'm 23 and I've wasted a good portion of my adult life. I hear of other guys and their sexual escapades and feel like well "jesus I'm just kind of shitty". It's possible to not worry about it because by now the fact that I haven't had a gf and a good amount of sex you start to feel like something is wrong with you. And well obviously my self image is a problem, but this dosen't help. it kind of creates a shitty cycle, a shitty self fullfulling prophecy on my end.

I mean I won't sit here and lie and say "oh yeah I've tried everything" because thats obviously a lie. I don't see myself as some unwashed neckberd, because well if you saw me I doubt you'd think I'm some super nerd. I don't behave like some white knight, what I'm trying to say regardless of my internet persona, I'm not a GAFTARD. I'm just a quiet dude who keeps to himself, I'd like to say I'm decent once you get to know me. But unfortunately I don't let people know me, it's really hard for me to even talk to people I don't know. I know going to school and just going to school and nothing else is the wrong thing to do, but that's what I do. And since I don't live on campus, I'm not forced into talking to people.

In general i just feel kind of crummy. I have no confidence in the general girl area. Hell my entire life no girl has ever shown interests in me and well that takes a crap on my confidence. I really doubt my abilities in sex, so that makes me completely nervous about doing it and thats not a good thing. It just feels like a pretty lose lose situation for me.

When I was 19, I was pretty pissed that I went my first year of college without putting my pencil in some lady of easy virtue.

So I made it a point to be in situations where teh sex happened regularly.  By that I don't mean pulling a dark_chris and just fondling every woman and calling her a special friend, I'm talking being at parties.  While being at parties, I couldn't just stand in a corner, I had to socialize in a way that made sure I could at least kiss a girl.  I really had to move out of my comfort zone because my Friday nights (including this one) were usually spent on the internet and jerking off.  It was a big shift and I eventually found an easygoing girl with big boobs who didn't mind me thrusting away into her.

Late term virgins (people who are virgins after 20) tend to think that there needs to be some higher purpose in getting laid.  In reality, that is all bullshit and is reluctance due to insecurity.  I can understand, I can't see a woman getting excited at banging some thirtysomething gaffer who probably can't even get it up due to all of the mental pressure and issues that are being deeply suppressed.  This is why TDM will never be able to put his penis in trab pu kcip, no matter how desperately he wants to.  Chances are a lot of these guys need a lot of therapy because self adjusted guys who are older virgins are rare and safe to say that if you post on GAF, you pretty much have your answer.

In the end, you're wasting prime years of your life suppressing your feelings.  Life is too short coming up with new excuses as to why you don't want to get laid.  I mean, it's your life and everything, but it doesn't seem worth it to keep suppressing or explaining away your desires.

Well there's one thing going for me, I've had sex and lived the GAF dream of it being an Asian women and then later a black women who were pretty decent looking. I don't discriminate.

But while I'm not a virgin I sure feel like a little awkward one when it comes to this.

You're probably right, most if not all the battle is actually getting out of you're comfort zone. I rarely do and yeah I spend my Fridays playing games and being on the internet AKA porn.

Going to parties scares me, because hell I know very few people so even figuring out how to get into a party is hard. But if I were to get in I wouldn't know how or who to talk to. Now I'm not going to talk about fucking Metal Gear Solid or X-men, no one wants to hear that shit. And really honestly I don't talk about that stuff with most of my friends so I know I can. it's just I get really uncomfortable around people I don't know where basically I can't even behave like a normally do. It's not that I'm afraid to talk, the idea that they will hate me or something isn't running through my head. It's simply I don't know what to say that would be funny or just not stupid, like I don't know how to read these people to know what will work. So parties have never been fun for me.

I don't know what my problem is. When I'm comfortable I'm pretty talkative and social, but when I'm not I'm just as quite as can be. This is beyond just a girl problem(now that is a self-image problem) it's just with making friends or people in general. Which sucks because I'm in an art school and you would think there'd people I'd like, maybe there are I just have no social abilities here. Basically every friend I've made has been made by them reaching out to me and I think in general I'm probably a bit stand-offish. I probably look like I don't want to be bothered.

[Jansen]

[Jansen]

http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showpost.php?p=81711237&postcount=7710
http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showpost.php?p=81709729&postcount=7691

 

[Shadow Mod]

http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showpost.php?p=81711237&postcount=7710
http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showpost.php?p=81709729&postcount=7691

 

How the fuck is that considered a spoiler?

[Joe Molotov]

http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showpost.php?p=81711237&postcount=7710
http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showpost.php?p=81709729&postcount=7691

 

How the fuck is that considered a spoiler?

GTAfegs don't want to know that it's shit yet. 

Sup, Himu. 

[Shadow Mod]

But seriously is gaming side that fucking ridiculous that god damn gameplay comments is considered spoiling? The fuck is going on over there.

[radioheadrule83]

kmg90 so butthurt by framerate comment that he/she considers it spoilers

I'm picturing a guy playing a game through FRAPS and going into school/college the next day and being like "boy - that moment in the third mission, it briefly dipped below 30fps, but then it stayed rock solid until the next cutscene. Man that was some good shit!"

should probably legitimately kill his/herself tbh. Life is gonna prove tough.

[Rahxephon91]

They've always been sensitive about spoilers. Hell you make a thread about spoilers with SPOILERS in the thread, people would still complain.

[Shadow Mod]

They've always been sensitive about spoilers. Hell you make a thread about spoilers with SPOILERS in the thread, people would still complain.

But gameplay comments and framerate drops are spoilers? The fuck at that place.

[Shadow Mod]

But seriously is gaming side that fucking ridiculous that god damn gameplay comments is considered spoiling? The fuck is going on over there.

ehn, i know tons of people who like to go into games blind, completely, so sure, i can see that being a spoiler.  a more compelling question is what a person like that is doing reading a thread related to the game on a gaming message board.

Because the board is catering to that nonsense or something.

[Eel O'Brian]

so he basically wants a thread of nothing but

"it's gonna be good"
"man i hope it's good"
"it sure does look good"
"i hope it isn't bad"

[Eel O'Brian]

well, anyway, tty guys later, i'm gonna go read a thread about this movie i want to see, sure hope they don't mention the movie

[radioheadrule83]

well, anyway, tty guys later, i'm gonna go read a thread about this movie i want to see, sure hope they don't mention the movie

hate to break it to you bud, but there's a continuity error at 34:10.

[TakingBackSunday]

so he basically wants a thread of nothing but

"it's gonna be good"
"man i hope it's good"
"it sure does look good"
"i hope it isn't bad"

Ok guys, so its the start of the new week, so I was wondering if I should ask you guys...

Do you all think this will be good?

[Joe Molotov]

so he basically wants a thread of nothing but

"it's gonna be good"
"man i hope it's good"
"it sure does look good"
"i hope it isn't bad"

Ok guys, so its the start of the new week, so I was wondering if I should ask you guys...

Do you all think this will be good?

If you think it's gonna be good, does that count as a spoiler?

[helios]

so he basically wants a thread of nothing but

"it's gonna be good"
"man i hope it's good"
"it sure does look good"
"i hope it isn't bad"

Ok guys, so its the start of the new week, so I was wondering if I should ask you guys...

Do you all think this will be good?

If you think it's gonna be good, does that count as a spoiler?

Just mentioning it is a spoiler

[etiolate]

if these fuckers treated upcoming games like they treated girls, they'd never have to worry about spoilers

[Rahxephon91]

They've always been sensitive about spoilers. Hell you make a thread about spoilers with SPOILERS in the thread, people would still complain.

But gameplay comments and framerate drops are spoilers? The fuck at that place.

While not as bad as that, I did make a thread regarding the idea of dream sequences in games and how lame they are. I said spoilers in the thread title and then spoiler tagged my Mass Effect three spoilers. Which by the way, were hardly about the plot, just the game's lame attempt at using them.

But people were pretty pissed off that I spoiled the fact that Mass Effect 3 had a dream sequence. I mean I guess I could see why, but it just seemed a bit dramatic. I gave them fair warning, but I also just didn't think the mere idea of knowing there is a dream sequence without even saying what happens was anything to care about. I guess I was wrong and the thread was deleted.

I mean people get mad at trailers, claiming they spoil everything, which I've also never felt. Because most of the time I don't even know the context or order of what the heck I'm seeing, nor do I know what the heck the people are talking about.

But I guess I'm just not spoiler sensitive. I mean when I say I'm going in blind, I mean I'm just not going to read what happens. I won't stay away from every detail or trailers.

[Shadow Mod]

if these fuckers treated upcoming games like they treated girls, they'd never have to worry about spoilers

Just say to them spoiler alert: YOU WILL DIE ALONE.

[Sausage]

I can vaguely remember a time when I worried about my lack of progress with the opposite sex, but I remember being told - when it happens you'll wonder why you ever worried, and it's true. It's true of everything that fills you with personal anxiety - the moment you stop caring and relax about it is when you're most able to deal with everything. I feel sorry for younger people tying themselves in knots over it..

Some part of me actually looks back on the blissful ignorance of never having physical attachments with some fondness actually. Innocence lost is never gained.

Well for me it happen and well..........I fleet worse after it.

I've always felt like a loser, low self-confidence is a big issue(yes I know, how original), but I have had sex. Unfortunately I feel like I did a terrible job at it and well when that idea is combined with an already self defeating attitude it's just a huge self pity fest. And well the idea of having sex again is kind of well I'm not sure scary is the word, but you know I feel extermley nervous about the whole thing to the point I don't even think I could put myself in situations where it could happen.

But I just feel like gee I'm 23 and I've wasted a good portion of my adult life. I hear of other guys and their sexual escapades and feel like well "jesus I'm just kind of shitty". It's possible to not worry about it because by now the fact that I haven't had a gf and a good amount of sex you start to feel like something is wrong with you. And well obviously my self image is a problem, but this dosen't help. it kind of creates a shitty cycle, a shitty self fullfulling prophecy on my end.

I mean I won't sit here and lie and say "oh yeah I've tried everything" because thats obviously a lie. I don't see myself as some unwashed neckberd, because well if you saw me I doubt you'd think I'm some super nerd. I don't behave like some white knight, what I'm trying to say regardless of my internet persona, I'm not a GAFTARD. I'm just a quiet dude who keeps to himself, I'd like to say I'm decent once you get to know me. But unfortunately I don't let people know me, it's really hard for me to even talk to people I don't know. I know going to school and just going to school and nothing else is the wrong thing to do, but that's what I do. And since I don't live on campus, I'm not forced into talking to people.

In general i just feel kind of crummy. I have no confidence in the general girl area. Hell my entire life no girl has ever shown interests in me and well that takes a crap on my confidence. I really doubt my abilities in sex, so that makes me completely nervous about doing it and thats not a good thing. It just feels like a pretty lose lose situation for me.

When I was 19, I was pretty pissed that I went my first year of college without putting my pencil in some lady of easy virtue.

So I made it a point to be in situations where teh sex happened regularly.  By that I don't mean pulling a dark_chris and just fondling every woman and calling her a special friend, I'm talking being at parties.  While being at parties, I couldn't just stand in a corner, I had to socialize in a way that made sure I could at least kiss a girl.  I really had to move out of my comfort zone because my Friday nights (including this one) were usually spent on the internet and jerking off.  It was a big shift and I eventually found an easygoing girl with big boobs who didn't mind me thrusting away into her.
 

hmm similar situation here. I kinda have a party I can go to tonight, but I don't feel like driving. Such is life  :'(

[Barry Egan]

Maybe, but I don't think relationships are the end all be all. I don't think I need to be in one to be happy.

I have a friend who just got married and all I can think is how kind of dumb it is to be married at 23. Why would you want to be tied down at that age?

Likewise I have a really mopey friend who is constantly sad about not being in relationship as if it's the end all be all. Then again he has mother issues, but it's still annoying.

I don't need one to be happy, in fact sometimes I'm plenty happy with just my friends. I also value my alone time. I don't mean to come off as some emo angsty dude, because that couldn't be further from the truth. I just have low confidence, not to the point where I talk about how crappy I am all the time, I doubt my friends even think I talk like this. I just think it's strange that by 23 I haven't had any real female experience, it's kind of sad. I dont want to be 30 and have my first one, that will end badly. You'll have a 30+ woman with probably serious relationship experience. It's going to be hard for her to deal with someone who's never been in one and dosen't know the ins and outs. I mean, don't you agree?

But I also think you're right. You gotta like yourself first, and well thats a problem.

BuSpar.  Look in to it.

[thisismyusername]

BuSpar is anti-anxiety. That helps one of his problems, but not the self-confidence issue. And frankly, I don't really have a solution for that being in the same boat as Rah in terms of not having a relationship, not really caring too much, but having it gnaw in the back of my mind that I'm a twenty-something with no future planned.

I will say that Rah should probably look into counseling. I'm doing that, and while it doesn't feel too big of an improvement it has improved my situation a little.

[Barry Egan]

having less anxiety will indeed help with his confidence. 

it's also a very low-risk drug and starts working almost immediately. 

worth looking in to, I'd say.

[thisismyusername]

  I'm of the opinion that he should start talking it out before looking into drugs, personally.

But anyway; looked at the GTA5 thread over there and it's basically doing scans of the manual(?) or making the image look like it. Also the credits at the end...  Why would anyone care?

[Tasty]

http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?t=677865

[etiolate]

of course James Joyce is the origin of the word

[Shadow Mod]

http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showpost.php?p=81793337&postcount=3

How do recessive genes work bro.


http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?t=677933

Gold mine comin'.

[Tasty]

http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?t=677933

Didn't think VirginGAF's pitty party could get more pathetic but lo.

[Shadow Mod]

That guy who's like 41 and hasn't done shit, damn.

 

[Tasty]

http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?p=80911889#post80911889

Calling something that is unreadable out for being unreadable is apparently racist.

[king of the internet]

http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?t=677933

Didn't think VirginGAF's pitty party could get more pathetic but lo.

http://m.neogaf.com/showpost.php?p=81821989

...

[Barry Egan]

 

[brob]

Paraphrasing Shaka,

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