While you'll hear people in both circles/cultures complaining about that just the same, with more obsessiveness over physical appearances in gay circles, I'm siding with ToxisAdam on this one.
I feel people need to stop having those distinguished mentally-challenged, demoralizing, internal conversations with themselves and instead start paying more attention to their surroundings with a healthier sense of worth and reasonable standards. But that's just my (oversimplified) take.