This is the Holy Grail for many men and I'll tell you why. So many guys find it pretty easy to talk to women and they do it on a regular basis. They chat to girls who are friends of friends, they speak to women in bars who they're meeting for the first time, they do it all the time. But one thing still holds them back from making a move, from taking their conversations with the opposite sex to the next level and MAKING SOMETHING HAPPEN. They simply don't know whether or not the girl likes them. And the fear of suggesting a date or getting a girl's phone number when she doesn't even like them is way too high to just wing it and "see what she says".
Their fears, in a sense, are sort of well founded. It can be hard enough at the best of times for some men to go in for the first kiss or pluck up the courage to ask for a girl's number - doing either without the assurance of knowing that she actually finds you attractive is a whole different ball game. That's why you need to increase your knowledge of how to read female body language. That way you'll be able to tell, without any doubt, when girls are digging you and when they aren't. Let's get started.
The crucial point when reading female body language
Before you learn exactly what to look for when determining whether or not a girl is attracted to you, it's important you understand a very crucial point. It is this. Noticing positive body language is good and one thing. But noticing a girl's body language CHANGE from being closed, neutral or only slightly positive, to open and very positive is a whole different thing and GREAT. Basically, watching for changes in a girl's body language as your conversation with her progresses is much better than just looking for a couple of signs here and there at the end of your conversation. This is because some women (and people, for that matter) will naturally exhibit very positive, open body language when they talk to strangers, while others won't. If you happen to talk to a girl who always displays certain types of positive body language when chatting to men she doesn't really know, you could easily get the wrong idea and decide that she's attracted to you, when in fact she may not be any more drawn to you than she would the next guy that comes along.
But when you see a girl's body language change in a positive way as you interact and talk to each other, there's no doubt about it: you're growing on her. She's liking and becoming attracted to you more and more. Her body language wouldn't change if she wasn't. Now you know about this important point, you're ready to learn exactly what changes to look for:
The changes in body language that occur when a girl likes you
Here they are, the specific gestures and signals women make and exhibit when they are attracted to you. They're in no particular order. Just remember that if a girl isn't displaying one of these in the first 10 or so minutes of talking to you, but then DOES display it, the chances are she really likes you and your company and is becoming more and more sexually attracted to you. The more positive changes you notice, the more she likes you.
Head and Face
• Eye contact increases. She holds your gaze for longer, more intense periods before looking away.
• She starts to smile more than before. When she does smile, you can see that the muscles around her eyes crinkle just a little - indicating a genuine smile.
• She nods more while you're talking, showing that you're on the same level and that she agrees with what you're saying, even if you're not making a specific statement or expressing a definite opinion on something. Combined with wide open eyes and a smile, increased head nodding is a very strong sign a girl is attracted to you.
• She tilts her head slightly to one side. This head gesture indicates that she subconsciously wants you to know that she's listening and interested in what you're saying.
• She licks her lips more often, drawing your attention to her mouth, which is a secondary sexual feature of the female body.
• She purses/clenches her lips LESS often. Pursed or tensed lips are often signs a person is a little bored. Women don't mind tensing their lips around people they're not attracted to, but will rarely do it when talking to men they feel sexual chemistry with - simply because they need their lips to look attractive and inviting.
• She bites the inside of her cheek LESS often. This is the mouth's equivalent of the twiddling of our thumbs. The less she does it, the better it is for you and your chances with her.
• She tilts her head downwards a little, lowering her chin down closer to her chest and widening her eyes at the same time. Women subliminally do this because it makes their faces more attractive to the basic instincts present in the male brain. Bigger eyes appeal to the male sexual psyche.
• Conversely, women often lower their upper eyelids a little when they're attracted to the man they're talking to. They are often known as "bedroom eyes" and are reminiscent of the facial expression seen on women's faces when they reach orgasm. When women give you bedroom eyes while you talk to them they're indicating that they're in a sexual state and want you to know it.
• She gives you a sort of slightly sideways glance instead of positioned her face so it's looking directly at you. This is a woman's way of creating sexual tension between you and her. The sideways glance is saying "chase me".
• She tilts her head to the side slightly. It's not only a sign she wants to appear to be listening to you and everything you're saying, it's also a way of exposing her neck to you and therefore appearing a little vulnerable. She sees you as an attractive, dominant man and wants you to know it.
• She flicks her hair from one side to the other. Doing this accomplishes three things. First, it draws your attention to her long, feminine hair (a positive sexual feature in the male evolutionary brain). Second, it exposes her neck (see previous point). Third, it's a noticeable, attention-grabbing motion. The movement makes you want to look at the person that's made it. Just like when you're walking down the street and you see a movement out of the corner of your eye. You naturally glance in its direction to see what it is and what it could mean to you, your safety and your general situation.
• She draws your attention to her mouth by touching or stoking her lips.
• She rubs her face, head or neck for moment with one of her hands. This raises her arm, drawing her breasts up, closer to your line of sight and exposes her underarms - an effective way of blasting her pheromones out in your direction.
• This one mainly applies before you approach and start talking to a girl. She makes eye contact with you, then, a split second after your eyes meet, looks away and turns her head either downwards or to the side.
• Her blink rate increases, which draws your attention to her eyes and long, fluttering eyelashes.
Arms and Torso
• She drops any physical barriers that were present between you and her. For example, her arms held across her body or drink held in front of her chest.
• She strokes the back of one of her hands with the other, drawing attention to her soft skin and the idea of caressing it.
• When she makes gestures with her hands, they move in close to you for a moment, perhaps even touching you briefly.
• She pulls her upper arms tight in to the sides of her breasts, making them look fuller and more pert.
• While you talk, she rests one of her elbows in the palm of her hand while holding her other hand palm-up.
• She gently encircles one of her wrists with her hand and glides it up and down her arm.
• She exposes one or both of her wrists to you. This indicates that she recognizes and likes your dominant presence and shows that she's happy being submissive to you.
• She sits with her torso facing in your direction with good posture, not slumping.
• She fingers and plays with her jewelry, especially her necklace.
• She touches your hand, shoulder or thigh while talking to you.
Legs and Feet
• She brushes her thigh up against yours more than once.
• She crosses her legs and POINTS THEM IN YOUR DIRECTION. This accomplishes two things. First, it makes her legs look longer (which is a turn-on and attractive to the subliminal male mind because it indicates youthfulness, and therefore fertility, in the female). Second, by pointing them in your direction she's signalling that it's you she wants to notice her and her sexy legs.
• She crosses her legs, dangling her foot with her shoe hanging a little way off. Women wearing high heels do this especially. It's a subliminal message that, as well as doing what's described in the point before this one, says: "I'm tired and about ready for bed..."
• She crosses then re-crosses her legs the other way. This doubles the effectiveness of crossed female legs, because of the very noticeable movement that's involved in the action of re-crossing them.
Voice/Speech
• She interjects while you're talking with enthusiastic words and phrases like, "really?", "yeah..." and "mmm..." This shows that she wants you to know that she's interested in what you're saying - a good way of getting you to like her back.
• She matches your speech speed and tonality. This means that she's speaking at the same rate as you and with similar inflections and nuances.
• She echoes some of the phrases and words you have primarily been using. For example, a few minutes after you've said it, she might also use the word "gigantic" or say the phrase "do you know what I mean?".
• The generally tone of her voice becomes more enthusiastic and happy-sounding. She is quicker to respond to the things you say and not afraid to interrupt you. This shows that she feels really comfortable in your presence.
• She uses the words "I", "my" and "me" more often to get you thinking and imagining her as much as possible in your mind's eye.
General/Behavioural Changes
• She moves in closer to you so that your bodies are less than 12 inches apart.
• She mirrors your actions a moment after you've made them. For example, taking a sip of her drink just after you.
• She uses flirtier language and smiles in a mischievous way at you (women will only tend to do this if you yourself are flirty).
• Your gut tells you she is enjoying your company and is attracted to you. Trust your gut if it's giving you this impression - the chances are that you HAVE been picking up on positive signs from the female and that they are good indicators that she's sexually attracted to you.
Remember that no woman will ever give you all of the signals and signs listed here (imagine how much she'd be doing with her arms, legs and head!)
Instead, you'll notice a few of them. For example, exposed wrists, a tilted head and lots of words that signal agreement with what you're saying.
Final advice: keep your eyes peeled for positive changes in the body language of girls you talk to and, when you see a few, consider them as good indicators that she's attracted to you and that it's worth attempting some sort of close.
