APARTMENT TIME WOOOOOOOO

[fistfulofmetal]

You should definitely move to a cold Nordic country with little sunlight if you're feeling depressed in the dead of winter

 

winter's my favorite season.

[Skidmark]

How would a black man be greeted in Sweden? I might move in with Fistfull.

Depending on your personality but a lot of people would want to talk to you about America and what you think of Sweden when they are drunk. People will probably thinks its fun to talk to you. Here is a guy who is black and he makes a lot of funny videos about his stay in Sweden:

[Steve Contra]

How would a black man be greeted in Sweden? I might move in with Fistfull.

They'd treat you like whites do everywhere

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Poorly, but they'd secretly want to see your dick

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[Olivia Wilde Homo]

I heard legally immigrating into those countries is a bitch: you either need to have a job in that country prior to immigrating or marry a native.

[tiesto]

How would a black man be greeted in Sweden? I might move in with Fistfull.

Anecdotal evidence, of course, but the Swedish au-pairs I know have a thing for black guys...

Fistful, I would suggest you 'start small'... maybe move to a different part of the US first instead of emigrating. I definitely agree with what demi said, 4 years in Buffalo was enough for me to want to get the hell out and back to fucking Long Island of all places...

[lennedsay]

Fistful - there's an app/website called memrise. That's what my husband and I have been using to learn basic Swedish, and for me to brush up on German. Kinda fun. You "plant seeds" and "water them." Seeds being words/phrases. And people can upload pics that help remind them. For instance the phrase for "we want to smoke" is something like "vi vill roka" so somebody put a photo of Queen referencing "we will rock you."

[archnemesis]

Don't forget the umlaut.

[Cerveza mas fina]

So Fistful why not go travelling first instead of emigrating? Thats so drastic.

By the way, if you feel unhappy talk to a psychiatrist. It won't hurt. You might have some kind of depression even if you do not feel ''sad''. I think you know what I mean. It doesn't hurt and if you find an antidepressant that works for you you might find joy again in what you do. 

While I wouldnt say going to shrink is a bad idea, it shouldn't be the first option if you don't like your life.

You should try to do something yourself to change it.

[fistfulofmetal]

Fistful - there's an app/website called memrise. That's what my husband and I have been using to learn basic Swedish, and for me to brush up on German. Kinda fun. You "plant seeds" and "water them." Seeds being words/phrases. And people can upload pics that help remind them. For instance the phrase for "we want to smoke" is something like "vi vill roka" so somebody put a photo of Queen referencing "we will rock you."

I've already started the course on the site

So Fistful why not go travelling first instead of emigrating? Thats so drastic.

Plans are not solid yet. Things probably will change. Everything is just in a stage of flux as I figure out what I'm gonna do.

[ToxicAdam]

Fistful, I would suggest you 'start small'... maybe move to a different part of the US first instead of emigrating. I definitely agree with what demi said, 4 years in Buffalo was enough for me to want to get the hell out and back to fucking Long Island of all places...

Or he could move to Erie, PA and it would make him appreciate Buffalo.

[Shaka Khan]

I have family that I was supposed to visit in Erie, PA. Is it really horrible?

[benjipwns]

Hehe. So how much do you actually know about Sweden? What's the depth of your research, here? Pretty sure we're at least as bad as Buffalo

I have watched these two videos:



Pretty sure I'm all set. I hope to re-open the Statens institut för rasbiologi as that field of study has been neglected for the last 65+ years for some odd reason.

[Eli Gulgin]

Better learn to like Swedish humor too. This always cracks me up.





I don't actually know what counts as Swedish humor really 

[fistfulofmetal]

First steps taken:

-Consolidating debt. Transferring credit card debt to single card, lowering payments. Lowering payments on student loans. Transferring money saved to savings account with additional money.
-All required documentation for passport obtained, appointment setup for passport application.

[Reb]

As inhabitant of a tiny country it always amazes me when people don't have a passport.

[lennedsay]

For further motivation, in STL it's 20 degrees, snowing like crazy, and the high tomorrow will be 1F.

Malmo is 41F still.

[Skidmark]

First steps taken:

-Consolidating debt. Transferring credit card debt to single card, lowering payments. Lowering payments on student loans. Transferring money saved to savings account with additional money.
-All required documentation for passport obtained, appointment setup for passport application.

If you drop by near Malmö let me know, we can drink a cold beer or two. 

[lennedsay]

First steps taken:

-Consolidating debt. Transferring credit card debt to single card, lowering payments. Lowering payments on student loans. Transferring money saved to savings account with additional money.
-All required documentation for passport obtained, appointment setup for passport application.

If you drop by near Malmö let me know, we can drink a cold beer or two. 

You're in Malmö?! Let me know when you find a nice accounting job for me and an IT job for my husband. Thanks!

[Skidmark]

First steps taken:

-Consolidating debt. Transferring credit card debt to single card, lowering payments. Lowering payments on student loans. Transferring money saved to savings account with additional money.
-All required documentation for passport obtained, appointment setup for passport application.

If you drop by near Malmö let me know, we can drink a cold beer or two. 

You're in Malmö?! Let me know when you find a nice accounting job for me and an IT job for my husband. Thanks!

I am an hour away from Malmö. Sorry but i really don't have much experience in job hunting but you can always keep an eye on what shows up over here: http://www.arbetsformedlingen.se/Globalmeny/Other-languages/Languages/English-engelska.html 

[fistfulofmetal]

You're in Malmö?! Let me know when you find a nice accounting job for me and an IT job for my husband. Thanks!

NO the IT job goes to ME. I'll fight you and your husband AND your daughter.

[lennedsay]

You're in Malmö?! Let me know when you find a nice accounting job for me and an IT job for my husband. Thanks!

NO the IT job goes to ME. I'll fight you and your husband AND your daughter.

Oh good you can just get my husband on at your company once you have seniority.

[thisismyusername]

But if I were to move and I solidified a place, I would hire a professional to teach me.

How would you pay this? What kind of job can someone get in a foreign country when they don't speak the native language?

Sweden, last I checked, is completely fine with you rolling with English depending on the area and job.

Honestly, I don't think this will solve your unhappiness Fistful. Changing scene is nice and all, but if you're unhappy with yourself or something like that changing the scenery isn't going to solve that.

[Polari]

I hear the cold and how it's dark all day in winter does wonders for depression.

[lennedsay]

I hear the cold and how it's dark all day in winter does wonders for depression.

Right now, it's about 40F warmer in Sweden, and I leave my house and get home in the dark all but maybe 3 months of the year. And I live further south than fistful. It'd be a step up!

[fistfulofmetal]

I like the cold and the dark

[Skidmark]

I like the cold and the dark

Buy a lot of vitamin D tablets, no joke.

If you go far far up in Sweden your life will looks more like this, a lot of indoor activities but it will be fun if you find your group of people.
http://fahrenheitminus40.tumblr.com/

[Cerveza mas fina]

You may like the cold and dark in theory, but your body and chemistry will disagree.

[archnemesis]

You get used to the cold. The darkness is more difficult. Make sure you take a walk outside whenever you see the sun shining during the winter months.

[Eli Gulgin]

You get used to the cold. The darkness is more difficult. Make sure you take a walk outside whenever you see the sun shining during the winter months.

Which will most likely be when you're at work or school and can't go out.

[Rufus]

Is that a polar bear crying? Should be a dala horse.

[chronovore]

Travel is good.
Living abroad is good.
Getting out of your comfort zone is good.

[Cerveza mas fina]

Coming home though 

[fistfulofmetal]

Put in application for passport.

[Skidmark]

Which parts of sweden are you planning on visiting?

[Skidmark]

Make a post on www.reddit.com/r/sweden great community over there and they would love to give you the advice and support you need. I highly recommend that you do that.

[fistfulofmetal]

After 25 years I'll be moving out on my own in the next three weeks or so.

I recently applied and accepted a job in Rochester NY and I'm going out tomorrow to look for an apartment. If all goes as planned by the first week of March I'll be moving my shit into my new place.


So it's not Sweden, but it's a step in that direction.

[Brehvolution]

Moving closer to me

[Mr. Gundam]

After 25 years I'll be moving out on my own in the next three weeks or so.

I recently applied and accepted a job in Rochester NY and I'm going out tomorrow to look for an apartment. If all goes as planned by the first week of March I'll be moving my shit into my new place.


So it's not Sweden, but it's a step in that direction.

Wait, were you living at home with your parents? That right there might be the source of your unhappiness. Enjoy flying solo!

[nudemacusers]

you just moved out (at 25) and want to live in a foreign country? baby steps bro.

[chronovore]

Yeah, congratulations on moving out on your own!

[hampster]

Congrats on the new job and apartment!

[Cerveza mas fina]

Congrats dude

Moving to Sweden might not have been the best idea, its no cakewalk here in Scandinavia.

[Skidmark]

Congrats, happy it all worked out for you in the end.

[Shaka Khan]

You definitely picked the right decision. Just take it one step at a time. Sweden won't go anywhere.

[fistfulofmetal]

catching some mad feels recently cuz i'll be leaving everyone i know behind. i mean it's only an hour away but still

[Phoenix Dark]

Sweden won't go anywhere.

unless Islam and the immigrationists have their way

[Shaka Khan]

I swear to Allah that's what crossed my mind as I typed that up.

Also, icon snatched.

[Shaka Khan]

catching some mad feels recently cuz i'll be leaving everyone i know behind. i mean it's only an hour away but still

That's a normal reaction to (literally) going out of your comfort zone. It's stirring, but exciting when you stop focusing on what you're leaving behind.

[Phoenix Dark]

grats Fistfull you made a good decision. What type of job? Grats on that too

[fistfulofmetal]

more IT support but supporting different kinds of things

and it's in the same company, just a different office with actual career paths due to there being a lot of different positions. which isn't the case where i am now.

[bork]

The thread title change reminded me that we gotta move in a month.

Moving to a refurbished apartment 
Higher rent 
Being forced to do this 

catching some mad feels recently cuz i'll be leaving everyone i know behind. i mean it's only an hour away but still

You're close enough that you'll be able to go meet up with people whenever, but also far away enough that you can keep people away if you need to.  Best of both worlds!

Were you living with family all this time?  Is this your first time living by yourself?  Could definitely be all that you needed.

[Huff]

Congrats FF on the move and new job.

25 is a great age to get out of your parents house. I'm in a similar spot and am finally moving out this friday

[fistfulofmetal]

yes, currently living in a very toxic environment with my mother. and i know long term it's going to be good for me.

but short-term i'm flashing back to when i had the opportunity to go to a different school for high school but didn't because i would have to make all new friends. i decided to stay.

but this time i'm not, clearly.

[fistfulofmetal]

25 is a great age to get out of your parents house. I'm in a similar spot and am finally moving out this friday

move out hype

what are your reasons?

[Himu]

Congrats

[demi]

Just know that all those toys you buy you cant really do much of now - start monitoring your finances and make sure you're secure. Being an adult is shit. You'll probably be much more depressed in my opinion. But maybe you'll pull through.

[fistfulofmetal]

getting away from my mother will nothing but improve my mental state. pretty confident about that.

[Phoenix Dark]

How does she feel about you moving? Can she afford to stay where she is, without you?

[Olivia Wilde Homo]

getting away from my mother will nothing but improve my mental state. pretty confident about that.

Does she know about your private collection?

[Huff]

25 is a great age to get out of your parents house. I'm in a similar spot and am finally moving out this friday

move out hype

what are your reasons?

i moved back home for grad school. now i'm moving back to the main campus for the last year of the program.