Help :\

[lennedsay]

That sucks bub... it's honestly for the best though. Being a caretaker is so stressful and will cause other problems - health problems for yourself, relationship problems, resentment issues, etc. You will never be able to "fix" her no matter how much you want to. She has to take the responsibility on herself to find a medical team and alleviate as much of her own problems. Until recently, it sounds like she's just been relying on you for that motivation. It'd be like being supportive to someone who wants to lose 100 lbs but doesn't want to do any of the work. She has to want this badly enough to do it on her own and for herself. Some people can do that in a supportive relationship but some people can't.

No matter what happens, you should be proud of yourself. You put 200% into your relationship and her health. Most people would've bolted long ago. You gave her all the tools you had to give for her to improve her quality of life. And you opened up her eyes to the wide world of medical intervention that her family sheltered her from. You really should be proud of yourself, because none of this has been easy.

[nudemacusers]

I will have to mirror cruncheon. you need to extract yourself cleanly from this, as much as it might hurt.

[naff]

sorry Bebpo. That sounds like an extremely trying situation, grats to you for sticking with her  and helping as best you could. Splitting's likely best for both of you, I had a suicidal partner (though I didn't figure it out til fairly late in the relationship, a very guarded individual), when we broke up I helped her move back with her parents, now a few years on she's doing a lot better. family support is so important when dealing with these things. Hopefully she has some loving relations she can rely on.

As far as the pain goes I have a little experience, I've had some spinal issues, lapsed disc in my lower back which caused two vertebrae to fuse. Physio and chiropracty accompanied by special exercises worked quite well. I took a bunch of meds at points too but they only worked in tprettyhe short term and didn't leave me all that functional and often too lazy/mentally lethargic to work on my situation as well as addictive.

You mentioned she was interested in alternative therapy, and I don't know what your situation with her is now that you're not together, anyway I tried cranio sacral therapy http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Craniosacral_therapy
About as airy fairy as it gets, and I was extremely dubious but it has had a really positive effect on my physical and mental well being. I imagine it's purely some strange psychosomatic response but it did do something for me so I'll take it.

Not sure about the Marijuana, I also have crohns and have always been an irregular dope smoker but haven't noticed it have much of a positive effect. Managing my diet (drinking 4 glasses of water when I wake up, only drinking warm water after meals as it stops solids and fats separating which then line your stomach/intestines adding to inflamation, reducing the amount of fatty foods and any other foods I notice tend to cause inflammation) works way better than smoking green. I have noticed it relieves symptoms if I'm having a flare up tho as it relaxes the gastrointestinal tract but from what I've read and experience it has little preventative value.

Good luck!

[Phoenix Dark]

Sorry to hear about this Bepbo. While things didn't go work out, I think you displayed that you were not just a good bf but a good person. A lot of people who have run away from such a huge issue, but you were willing to do everything possible to help a person you love. You have my respect sir, and things can only get better from here on out.

[Mr. Gundam]

I will have to mirror cruncheon. you need to extract yourself cleanly from this, as much as it might hurt.

Yep, I'm gonna piggyback on this. You need a clean break. Any sort of contact in the short term will be unhealthy and potentially worse than not helping her.