Bore dad and MOM club questions

[Cerveza mas fina]

Anyone got tips on how to live with no sleep?

Feel like Im in twilight zone since monday, longest stretch of sleep must have been 2/3 hours or something.

I'm in a rocking chair now making sure the lil angel sleeps to feeding time but my eyes are falling shut

Bonus questions:
- when does it get easier?
- when will I stop worrying about everything?

[Phoenix Dark]

Sleep? Not worrying?

[ToxicAdam]

It's a horrible experience. You are basically experiencing ego death in slow increments. Just try not to take it out on the people around you.

My low point was having to put the little guy in his car seat and driving around town at 4am because I knew that would get him back to sleep. Then when I finally get him to sleep ... he wakes up as I am pulling him out of the car. It was 4:30 am, I had to go to work in 2 hours and I wanted to cry.


There isn't really a magical day when it gets better. It just happens in small increments and one day your life is back to some kind of manageable normal.

It never gets easier, the challenges just change. You don't stop worrying until you either 1) have more babies and they dilute your fear 2) they reach school age. Then you slowly learn how to let it go.

 

[nudemacusers]

it just so happens that ego death is my fetish





the first few months are awful. just sleep when you can. you won't remember any of it anyway.

[Himu]

God i want to be a parent. not for a few more years tho

[Himu]

I also didn't know you had the kid. CONGRATS

[CatsCatsCats]

Can you soundproof the crib room or something? Or wear ear-plugs?

This is my favorite post in awhile

[nudemacusers]

Can you soundproof the crib room or something? Or wear ear-plugs?

child screams vibrate at a frequency that will permeate any material, even the aether that separates the planes of existence.

[Am_I_Anonymous]

Anyone got tips on how to live with no sleep?

Feel like Im in twilight zone since monday, longest stretch of sleep must have been 2/3 hours or something.

I'm in a rocking chair now making sure the lil angel sleeps to feeding time but my eyes are falling shut

Bonus questions:
- when does it get easier?
- when will I stop worrying about everything?

Will l get better after about 6 weeks.

You will never stop worrying.

[toku]

ego death is appealing

[ToxicAdam]

ego death is appealing

It can be freeing, but it also means you will start wearing cargo shorts and open-toed sandals.

[nudemacusers]

ego death is appealing

It can be freeing, but it also means you will start wearing cargo shorts and open-toed sandals.

[Cerveza mas fina]

Ego death, yeah I can see that happening.

I have never felt so strongly about anything in my life, all those things that mattered seem like a distant memory already.

[chronovore]

Your body will adjust to the lack of sleep, and your kid will start sleeping longer as time passes.

You can find books on early training your child to sleep on their own. The limited set of people I know who have done this have very independent children, though I suspect it’s from other aspects of their upbringing, related to this type of thinking. We didn’t do it, and it was a minor problem with the first kid, and continuing problems with the second. Looking back, I wish I’d been more strict about sleep schedules and “training.”

You will never stop worrying, but you’ll quite going in to check if they’re still breathing sometime during their second year.

[Brehvolution]

Alternate nights with your wife. It will help you both.

That feel when it's your night and the baby only gets up once.

[Am_I_Anonymous]

Ego death, yeah I can see that happening.

I have never felt so strongly about anything in my life, all those things that mattered seem like a distant memory already.

you won't necessarily have an ego death but you will start to make changes to your life. Those nights out with the boys will become very few and far between.

[Mr. Gundam]

It gets better. But then sleep regression hits. That is awful.

Then it gets better again.

[ToxicAdam]

I have never felt so strongly about anything in my life, all those things that mattered seem like a distant memory already.

This is definitely the best part of having children. It's pretty profound.

Although it can fuck with people's marriages, because once you realize this deeper kind of love (for your children) you may start to question how deep the love is for your own wife (or others).

[Van Cruncheon]

I have never felt so strongly about anything in my life, all those things that mattered seem like a distant memory already.

This is definitely the best part of having children. It's pretty profound.

i didn't have that! all the shit that mattered to me still does, although the sheer process of accruing life experience has made me hate gamers even more

having a kid has really helped me cultivate my intolerance for other human beings to a nice keen edge, and i enjoy THAT quite a bit

[jakefromstatefarm]

ego death is appealing

It can be freeing, but it also means you will start wearing cargo shorts and open-toed sandals.

done and done

[chronovore]

I have never felt so strongly about anything in my life, all those things that mattered seem like a distant memory already.

This is definitely the best part of having children. It's pretty profound.

i didn't have that! all the shit that mattered to me still does, although the sheer process of accruing life experience has made me hate gamers even more

having a kid has really helped me cultivate my intolerance for other human beings to a nice keen edge, and i enjoy THAT quite a bit

That’s ‘cos your kid is made of awesome.

[Cerveza mas fina]

Thanks for sharing guys, its all pretty overwhelming.

[Am_I_Anonymous]

Thanks for sharing guys, its all pretty overwhelming.

Remember when we were telling you to get some sleep before the baby? Now you know why.

Signed,

A Proud Father

[Cerveza mas fina]

Its very hard to remember how life was already, there is only the now

[nudemacusers]

yeah my wife and i often talk about how pre-children is a total blur as if it was another life entirely.


also I lol at myself when I thought, before he was born,, I could do all sorts of cool shit when my newborn son would nap. I can play videogames while he's sleeping! hang out with friends for a bit! it's like taking care of doll!

cool shit turned out to be pass the fuck out.

I will say #2 is easier simply because you aren't second guessing yourself nearly as much. I remember when my son first came home, he screamed for probably 2 hours straight and we had no idea what to do or what we were doing wrong.

[lennedsay]

Ego death, yeah I can see that happening.

I have never felt so strongly about anything in my life, all those things that mattered seem like a distant memory already.

I remember a TV show being on in the hospital after I had our daughter, some show we had probably watched a million times before without thought. We looked at each other and my husband goes, "Who fucking gives a shit?" Lol all that matters is that little bundle of cuteness/screaming/stinky now.

Sleeping is hard, but it does get better. Like maybe 3-4 weeks you want to die, and then you make a game plan and deal with it. You'll figure out what works best for all of you, and go with it. Everybody told us to schedule time, but that never worked for us. His job was to get baby and bring her to me and go back to bed. Then I'd nurse laying on my side. Then when she was done, he'd change her diaper and put her back down, or I would, depending on who felt shittier at that moment in time. It was the least disrupting to our sleep than one person doing everything, at least for us.

Around a month when the kid could sleep 3-4 hours straight at night, I would stay up to 11 or midnight and would wake her up when I wanted to go to bed, feed and change her and put her back down. 4 hours of sleep was pretty much the greatest thing ever at that time. Before, I would go to sleep and she'd be crying in an hour or two, completely interrupting the tiny bit of sleep I was going to get. She got older and naturally slept longer and longer. My bedtime got earlier and earlier and I slept in longer, zero interruptions. Glorious. She's still a great sleeper ever since, and now we're always up before her.

IT GETS BETTER I SWEAR. Hang in there bud! Before you know it, she'll be smiling and making silly faces at you in the middle of the night, making it kinda worth it.

[nudemacusers]

that moment when it's 7am and you and your wife realize neither of you had to get up at night

[Cerveza mas fina]

Put the baby to sleep after bottke

-oh no she is moving, gonna wake up
-oh no she is knocked out, how to check if she is alive without waking up

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