http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?t=1238500
So it's about 2am in the morning here in Kenya and Iv'e just got back from a local bar, but wanted to say this.
Here for a wedding and one of the guests is a friend I hadn't seen in about 3 or 4 years. Always loved this guy, quick with a joke or a riddle, a tradesman (electrician), highly intelligent, gregarious, stand-up guy.
But he was always super-fit and attractive. Muscular - not gym muscular, just natural from sports and working odd construction jobs from 16 on. Between his personality and his looks he could get any lady, and when I last saw him he had a really attractive Canadian girlfriend, and everything was cool. So I meet him this time, and I didn't recognise him. Must have put on 150+ pounds (at least) while losing all his muscle. Hiding his flabby chin with a massive beard. Clear and unfortunate gynecomastia on his chest. Just... huge. Obese. He mentioned that he had become a beer nut since moving to Belgium. I reckon that might have had something to do with it.
But here's the thing - I feel like I'm dealing with a new person. My mind can't accept that this is my old friend - the visual difference is too steep. Facially... the recognition is gone. The way he moves... totally different. Is this feeling normal? Anyone else experience this? It really freaked me out. We had a great night out with about 10 lads (and a couple of girls) and our musician friend joined in with a local Kenyan band and hit it off perfectly and it was fucking amazing. But while I got on with this dude as well as ever, I couldn't help the feeling that I'd met someone new, rather than met an old friend. A couple of times I almost forgot his name, in a way that wouldn't have been possible if I could accept him as the guy I've known for 20+ years.
What's weirder, I've gone from 6'2 230 to around 182lbs since I saw him, so the entire weight dynamic between us was weird - instead of being the jealous one, I'm now the fitter one. (Not that I'm fit at all, just... it has changed.) And he's still with his hot girlfriend (still slim and hot), and I had the feeling like I could have made a move their and succeeded. (Not that I'd ever do that, but the vibe there was weird.) She doesn't seem thrilled with how thigns have gone. This dude who would always dance wouldn't dance with her. Barely had the stamina. So I danced with her while our friend sang with the band and this dude recorded it. Old dude would never have seen this as an acceptable situation. He'd be the guy dancing, not the guy recording.
Anyway I know this is a boring OP and shit, but the title should get some views. Now fuck you all I'm going to bed
Scuba diving the reef tomorrow, holidays are great, if you read this far I hope you enjoy my blog
Tell me about time you met people who weren't fat but now they were (as in, they got fat)
Also, fat causes depression imo
Also, maybe being severely jetlagged (east coast US->London->Kenya) and drunk had something to do with all of this
Hooooooly fuck there is 100% chance of smug with a 80% follow up of judgement.
Here are the rules of Neogaf, they have been made clear. It is known.
If person is fat, they are to be judged. Harshly. Why don't they eat well and lift, like me? Fat people are assholes. WHO'S WITH ME?!?
But if you post about judging a fat person, you are to be judged. Harshly. Why can't you be more accepting, like me? You're an asshole. WHO'S WITH ME?!?
In short, never create a topic with anything resembling an opinion unless you are nudemacusers.
