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[Rahxephon91]

I don't buy the 'sharp knees' thing, but all I've got is an armchair diagnosis, which I'm uncomfortable in delivering seriously. Not that it'd be particularly insightful, anyway. If anyone here could offer an epiphany, we'd have done it already.

For what it's worth, Rahx, I'm not exasperated by you or your issues, I just don't know what the fuck to say.

What is it?

[Rufus]

Risk avoidance by way of low self-confidence. In other words: if you remove all options, you won't have to risk your ego getting bruised.

No other ideas, other than trauma, which I'm not even going to attempt to guess at as it's a complete shot in the dark.

[Raist]

It was a joke because of what she had on her profile.

Look, the thing is, it doesn't read at all like a joke.

[seagrams hotsauce]

 ooops

[benjipwns]

i'm a terrible self saboteur who's also insecure and lacks confidence but i combine it with diagnosed dysthymia and chronic gad and low level ocd

but like girls are terrible too and more attractive people even look at the President, like the most self-confident people i've ever seen were a family of ugly ass superfatties eating seemingly entirely random candy out of a plastic shopping bag at a walk-in clinic (i was getting a blood draw for tests...they may have just been looking for somewhere comfy to eat their candy because they didn't take a number or anything) even they had found someone to share their beautiful hobby of eating random candy out of a shopping bag at a walk-in clinic

jon hamm spent nearly all his "prime" market years in an almost two decade long single relationship

other people flit from thing to thing all the time practically

i'm prone to off and on things for long periods that's almost assuredly terribly corrosive to other people's feelings of self worth more so than my own

there's no one ideal model even for ideal models

i'm not really posting to help rahx or anybody but after reading this new Bore poster Exodust's post on being a self saboteur i had thoughts to ramble about regarding it and recognizing how much of it i do (even outside of relationships of this threads focus and probably everything else too) and likely have always done

it's probably more concerning that i don't find it more concerning all things considered, which is probably a form of the self sabotage, so many layers

[Valkyrie]

benji, I was under the impression that you were gay.

This seems to be a common assumption by everyone on everyone here.

[benjipwns]

i've never been inherently opposed to it or anything, but i also wouldn't want to say i'm bi or anything like that as you kinda think closer to 50/50 or at least 75/25 whenever someone says that but i'd say it's probably more like 96/4 or along those lines

or like it'd be more an amount difficult, most all things that could be being equal it'd be much harder () for a male than a female to attract me especially in a romantic sense, that sort of thing

gotta be a single digit outlier at everything i guess

[benjipwns]

benji, I was under the impression that you were gay.

This seems to be a common assumption by everyone on everyone here.

it's because the mods are very strict about the ToS

[toku]

i'm a terrible self saboteur who's also insecure and lacks confidence but i combine it with diagnosed dysthymia and chronic gad and low level ocd

but like girls are terrible too and more attractive people even look at the President, like the most self-confident people i've ever seen were a family of ugly ass superfatties eating seemingly entirely random candy out of a plastic shopping bag at a walk-in clinic (i was getting a blood draw for tests...they may have just been looking for somewhere comfy to eat their candy because they didn't take a number or anything) even they had found someone to share their beautiful hobby of eating random candy out of a shopping bag at a walk-in clinic

jon hamm spent nearly all his "prime" market years in an almost two decade long single relationship

other people flit from thing to thing all the time practically

i'm prone to off and on things for long periods that's almost assuredly terribly corrosive to other people's feelings of self worth more so than my own

there's no one ideal model even for ideal models

i'm not really posting to help rahx or anybody but after reading this new Bore poster Exodust's post on being a self saboteur i had thoughts to ramble about regarding it and recognizing how much of it i do (even outside of relationships of this threads focus and probably everything else too) and likely have always done

it's probably more concerning that i don't find it more concerning all things considered, which is probably a form of the self sabotage, so many layers

sounds familiar to me 

as i get older i try to just get out of my own way and let things just happen now

[Rahxephon91]

It was a joke because of what she had on her profile.

Look, the thing is, it doesn't read at all like a joke.

Fine whatever. I don't see how it doesn't. Look your supposed to say more than hi, say something that relates to thier profile. That's all I was going for. I guess it was all wrong.

Risk avoidance by way of low self-confidence. In other words: if you remove all options, you won't have to risk your ego getting bruised.

No other ideas, other than trauma, which I'm not even going to attempt to guess at as it's a complete shot in the dark.

In real life for sure, but on Tinder. Not at all. Thats why I thought it would be easier and better to try tinder and bumble, because online dating is so assembly line that it wouldn't matter. There's no risk there.

[Mupepe]

I'd fuck Brittany

[Oblivion]

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[benjipwns]

Secondary Ed History Major

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glad i quit out of that dead end into the lucrative fields of regular history and political science

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and then added masters

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but not spending probably an extra 18 months to do at least one PhD from even Western or something

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but real talk though doing high school teacher hours

saw in the paper at parents house my old high school moved almost another half hour earlier while leaving exit time the same, we started at like 7:45 even back at the start of this century, whoever decided these were good times for teenagers

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[Himu]

Going absolutely girl crazy.

Being bi is confusing but it's so amazing.

I like that I can appreciate and love both fruits.



Embrace the bisexuality!

[Himu]

Already got a bite.

Thank you online dating!

[Atramental]

She wanted pervy jokes so I gave her one:

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*secretly hoping I get a footjob out of this* 

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[Joe Molotov]

Dad jokes let them know you're ready for fatherhood.

[Atramental]

Welp. My date with RiShawnda is in about an hour. Wish me luck. 

[Himu]

Wow. Trying to date women as a trans women is way easier! Lots of nice ladies out there who treat me as a person and don't want to instantly fuck even if they think I'm hot/beautiful;etc

Might stick with this. Dudes are dogs.

[Atramental]

If men weren't dogs the human race would've died out a long time ago.

[Himu]

Dudes are still dogs and aren't making many humans these days

[toku]

Dudes are still dogs and aren't making many humans these days

hard to be a dog and 360 no scope at the same time

[I'm a Puppy!]

Dudes are still dogs and aren't making many humans these days

Vestigial Doggyness.

[mormapope]

127 matches?!

Jesus christ, a sea of pussy and all you say rhax is you don't find many of these women attractive. Like, your mindset or how you feel is pretty sad, legitimately.

[Rahxephon91]

I doubt you would find most of them attractive either. You don't even know what they look or seem like.

[Atramental]

there's got to be some cuties amongst that 127.

[mormapope]

You give me 127 matches on tinder, im gonna get laid. I'm sitting at about 8 or 12 total matches for the past 5 months. You have no leg to stand on in this discussion.

Maybe you're in the closet.

[I'm a Puppy!]

I wish 127 people found me attractive

[Himu]

No he's on the wagon.

Date set up for this weekend with a beautiful lesbian!

[Joe Molotov]

I wish 127 people found me

[fistfulofmetal]

there are dudes who swipe right all day and don't get that many matches. having that many matches, some will be bogus, but a big portion will be legit. way more than most people have.

but ya still gotta stick the landing. but you suck at this shit so nothing ends up happening and then ya blame everyone but yourself even though you're the only constant. whatever. you suck.

[Rahxephon91]

You give me 127 matches on tinder, im gonna get laid. I'm sitting at about 8 or 12 total matches for the past 5 months. You have no leg to stand on in this discussion.

Yeah just the leg that actually knows what I'm talking about...

If you want to take a look at my tinder profile, I'll share with you the pass and everything.

But most of the women I match with are not at all attractive. They don't look like anywhere close to the women Atra posted that most of you commented on positively on. Unless I guess your into obese women.  Again, I swipe right on everything. If I didn't I'd probably have an actual match I thought was attractive once a year.

there are dudes who swipe right all day and don't get that many matches. having that many matches, some will be bogus, but a big portion will be legit. way more than most people have.

but ya still gotta stick the landing. but you suck at this shit so nothing ends up happening and then ya blame everyone but yourself even though you're the only constant. whatever. you suck.

There are also dudes like Atra and CatsCats who are able to match with chicks who they actually find attractive. So whats your point?  It's not a real confidence booster to know that the types of women you find attractive don't find you at all attractive. So what if if I have 100+ matches, again I doubt most of you would actually disagree with me if you saw them, because clearly my taste is not out of line with yours if most of you are finding the girls Atra post's attractive.

We aren't even talking about sticking the landing. I have no interests in even talking to most of those matches.

I don't understand why you keep posting in this thread. You've been saying the same shit for at least a year now.

I don't know. Probably because when I do try and be positive and even slightly attempt again, I get knocked back down and reminded of why I'm a loser at this. So it angers me.

But also because I want to prove most of you wrong and that I'm right in my mindset.

Most of everyones positive remarks and advice has been wrong in my case and I want to prove that my negativity was actually correct. I mean my life experinces really haven't proven me wrong.

[Mupepe]

Sounds like you need to get your hands on some big fat titties and enjoy the bigger things in life

[Beezy]

I don't understand why you keep posting in this thread. You've been saying the same shit for at least a year now.

I don't know. Probably because when I do try and be positive and even slightly attempt again, I get knocked back down and reminded of why I'm a loser at this. So it angers me.

What have you actually tried and for how long? Weren't you supposed to be going to the gym? How long did that last? Did you actually get a trainer to show you how to exercise properly and give you a routine or did you just dick around on a few machines while you were there?

[Himu]

Well I have a date set up for Sunday. Going to a baseball game, then drinks/dinner afterward.

My date is on Sunday too! Cheers! Here's to big, fat tits!

[Atramental]

Argh... my date with ReShawnda wasn't really a date. Thankfully she paid for her own tab.

She was nice but we didn't really have a whole lot in common.

[Atramental]

I'd fuck Brittany too in my current inebriated state

[Atramental]

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I would

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[mormapope]

Brittany has a cute smile, cute eyes, nice hair and great tits/thighs. She's a cute bbw thru and thru.

[Atramental]

After losing my v-card to a BBW I understand why people like BBWs.

They're just a big bundle of fun. 

It's like fucking a human marshmallow. 

[tiesto]

Rahx - dude... I don't even know what to say. You are seemingly doing much better than me. I swipe right at nearly everything with Bumble and I had no where near 127 matches! Only managed one date out of it... dude, the girls you matched with in that one picture you posted a few pages back were mostly cute. Brittany is nice and thicc, if she was a few years older I'd say introduce her to me!

Anyways, looks like I have a second date with the cute brunette data analyst on Saturday when she's back from NC.  She seems to like me and is pretty blatant about it, which is good since I am autistic-level at decoding signals

[Phoenix Dark]

I wish 127 people found me attractive

It's easier if you include your wives.

[CatsCatsCats]

127 is almost 4x my matches, so yeah. You keep harping on looks, matches are primarily based on looks. No one (I guess besides you the way you keep deflecting on this shit) is swiping right for people they wouldn't touch genitals with based on physical appearance. You have an air about you when conversing through text (all we know, it's the only way you communicate with us) that isn't appealing because of its self loathing nature


I wanted to find you a clip from Difficult People that made me think about you but it's not uploaded anywhere so I found the transcript for you instead and it wouldn't fucking copy and paste right on my phone so I pulled a screenshot and dealt Imgur's shitty app and had figured out how to get the direct link so I could embed it nicer just to try to make the point to you, so some asshole on the internet at least cares that much about you to do that so there's a feather in your cap, in return I would really appreciate you workin on this sourness we see from you. I really think you'd be doin just fine if you could relax a little




And that's my high internet rant for the quarter

[CatsCatsCats]

So much got posted from the time it took me to do that post you guys. May have been working off an old window.

Yo if you're not even getting an ego boost matching with these girls, why even swipe right? Just so you can say "ha yeah that uggo would like me!" Knock that off, it's good for no one

[CatsCatsCats]

Wait literally you said you were posting to prove your negativity right..


I..

My man, c'mon

[Olivia Wilde Homo]

My original theory on Rahxephon, posted way back, is that he's watched so much porn that his brain has been effectively rewired.  I guess it must be due to racism if a girl who has basketball sized silicone tits and bangs like shithouse doors in the wind doesn't want to match with him

[hampster]

I am getting messages from seriously hot girls. I mean seriously hot. The kind I wouldn't have had a chance with in college. And my matches are all way hotter than they used to be.

This fucking Goofy pic, I swear 

With Saturday and Sunday booked, I'm going to have to start scheduling dates for next week.

I wonder if any Disney character would work just as well or if Goofy is special

Could you get Rahx level likes with Max?

[toku]

My original theory on Rahxephon, posted way back, is that he's watched so much porn that his brain has been effectively rewired.  I guess it must be due to racism if a girl who has basketball sized silicone tits and bangs like shithouse doors in the wind doesn't want to match with him

i think a lot of boreans have watched "too much porn" man, myself included but we don't hate women

[fistfulofmetal]

but when you're already a fucking cock, i bet it doesn't help.

[Mupepe]

cock cock cock cock COCK

[Himu]

Cock

[Raist]

There are also dudes like Atra and CatsCats who are able to match with chicks who they actually find attractive.

Well that might be the issue here. I don't believe for a second that out of 127 matches there's not a single attractive one. Unless you have absurd standards.

[Rahxephon91]

There are also dudes like Atra and CatsCats who are able to match with chicks who they actually find attractive.

Well that might be the issue here. I don't believe for a second that out of 127 matches there's not a single attractive one. Unless you have absurd standards.

Or they could just actually be unattractive women. There's plenty of unattractive people in the world so it's actually not impossible. But no I guess I'm the wrong one.

I mean do you find the chicks Atra posted attractive? Are they models?  No, but the women I seem to attract don't look anything like that. They all look like say Melissa McCarthy or on that order. Which is nothing to say about their possible possibilities(though I match with a lot of feminists, body image positive people, and other super progressives which doesn't appeal to me). I don't find that type attractive, I'm sorry. I don't think that makes me a bad person, but I guess I have unrealistic standards because I guess I don't have a realistic idea of what's in my league. Which is actually my point in the first place I'm trying to tell you all that my league level is in the 3-5s and all your positive asscertations are incorrect. Because I only need to look at my tinder profile as actual proof.

Or rather you tell me what type of girl do you think I can possibly get look wise?

And Cats is one to talk. The dude was on tinder for a bit and quickly matched with a supposed hot nurse among other things. Clearly he is an atttractive dude so he doesn't have this problem at all.

[Raist]

Of the tiny sample (compared to 127 matches) you posted a while ago, half of these girls don't exactly strike me as "Melissa McCarthy or on that order".
But whatever I guess.

[FreeNudeLyleLanley]

Suddenly we're all too good to fuck Melissa McCarthy?

[Himu]

Rahx has ridiculous standards. He reminds me of the type of nerd who does the sharp knees thing when they're at best a 4. Except Rah is an 7 or 8. I just don't understand it.

[FreeNudeLyleLanley]

I don't see how it's possible to match with 127 women on Tinder and not find someone that's attractive enough to meet up with.

[CatsCatsCats]

I tried with u


What possible reason did you have for swiping right on 127 girls you weren't attracted to at all?

[toku]

I tried with u


What possible reason did you have for swiping right on 127 girls you weren't attracted to at all?

his sick ego

[benjipwns]

Rahx has ridiculous standards. He reminds me of the type of nerd who does the sharp knees thing when they're at best a 4. Except Rah is an 7 or 8. I just don't understand it.

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damn that girl is hot

losing at chess tho

also she's not going to get rid of that tan line being outside on a cloudy day