DOJ |OT| SUMMIT NOW SUMMIT NOW

[OnlyRegret]

Nepenthe got dunked on so hard and thorough in that roofie thread that she decided to take a "hiatus." Don't really understand why these people think them being online janitors on a small to medium sized forum is so hard and taxing to their psyche and that we plebs couldn't possibly understand their daily plight.

Also notice that she says all the spiel about how hard it is for her as a mod and yet made a point to say she's not resign her modship despite going on a hiatus.

It is if you are trying to babysit sadists and psychos.

[team filler]

 

[Snoopycat_]

"Right now I'm sitting in my car with a cry-headache trying to leave to go to my brother's house. I barely have the energy."

[maninthemirror]

I am a black woman. I am also a moderator.

This bit of intersectionality has been one of the hardest weeks I as an individual have had to deal with in my life. Right now I'm sitting in my car with a cry-headache trying to leave to go to my brother's house. I barely have the energy.

It's been interesting to see both sides of the spectrum, where on one end my input in threads concerning black representation and issues is valuable because I can speak from life experience and knowledge, and then on the other end I get called a cop with all of the pain and irony that entails simply because I was the fool who said "yes" to volunteering.

I have simultaneously felt valued and valueless throughout this endeavor, and it's made me question whether or not I'm even a good person. I don't know how to parse the emotional toll, other than to just ignore it and make do with what I have and serve the community with the powe rand knowledge I myself have. Because I want this place to succeed. But I admit, my emotions have been all over the place.

That's all. I figured the most appropriate thread to open up in would be this one. To anyone who has given me and the other staff members a kind word, thank you. To anyone else who is dissatisfied with our performance: I understand, and I still apologize. Just remember we are human too.

I will be taking a break. I'm not leaving the forum, or my position, but I think I've exhausted myself to the point where my basic mental and even physical faculties are beginning to degrade. Continuing in my state right now is not fair to myself or to the people who want better.

I don't know how long it'll be either. I guess just long enough to bounce back. I love you guys. See you later!   

https://www.resetera.com/threads/i-just-want-to-say-thank-you-to-the-moderation-staff.155006/post-26781456

How old are these folks. It’s a fucking forum woman . Get out to make yourself better . If words that have no meaning in the real world are the most difficult this person has had to endure how does this person survive if society delves into chaos. Era will be the next Jonestown if the world is experiencing ACTUAL chaos like WW2


This is the same woman who was cheering a guy slamming a woman head first into concrete and saying she does not care what happened to her like paralysis or death. These folks are certified nuts

[OnlyRegret]

https://www.reddit.com/r/GenderCritical/comments/e0zeqj/my_thoughts_on_asexuality/

radfems literally murdering aces, demis too

[Kara]

These are the kind of people that somehow fuck up making a basic Taco Bell taco.

Making a delicious and nutritious Taco Bell taco requires skill, precision, and passion.

[ZombieSupaStar]

I'd say if you find yourself being that worked up about whats being posted on RE, you need to go there less and less. Like divide the time you're on RE for a day in half. Use that time to read, play a game, do some work, exercise, whatever. And every couple of months, divide again, until you basically use RE as a glorified news/games aggregate and are done browsing in 5 minutes a day. Because surrounding yourself online with miserable people who are bitter that life isn't going their way, isn't going to make yours any better. It will just drag you down too.


If Trump gets reelected I don't think RE will even survive a year after honestly. They already seem that discontent.

[bork]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/my-neighbors-will-sit-in-their-cars-for-hours-a-day-and-its-forced-me-to-move.154950/

So I'm moving out of my apartment at the end of December and it's because my next door neighbors (four young women in their 20's or so) will step out of their apartments and sit in their cars multiple times a day for hours at a time.

https://www.resetera.com/threads/i-just-want-to-say-thank-you-to-the-moderation-staff.155006/post-26781456

I am a black woman. I am also a moderator.
This bit of intersectionality has been one of the hardest weeks I as an individual have had to deal with in my life. Right now I'm sitting in my car with a cry-headache trying to leave to go to my brother's house. I barely have the energy.

[benjipwns]

These are the kind of people that somehow fuck up making a basic Taco Bell taco.

Making a delicious and nutritious Taco Bell taco requires skill, precision, and passion.

KARA blessed the Garbage Thread, KARA did you see my posts that I wanted you KARA to see regarding their LLC discussion KARA?!?

http://www.thebore.com/forum/index.php?topic=46734.msg2742132#msg2742132
http://www.thebore.com/forum/index.php?topic=46734.msg2742144#msg2742144

[benjipwns]

I am a black woman. I am also a moderator.

This bit of intersectionality has been one of the hardest weeks I as an individual have had to deal with in my life. Right now I'm sitting in my car with a cry-headache trying to leave to go to my brother's house. I barely have the energy.

It's been interesting to see both sides of the spectrum, where on one end my input in threads concerning black representation and issues is valuable because I can speak from life experience and knowledge, and then on the other end I get called a cop with all of the pain and irony that entails simply because I was the fool who said "yes" to volunteering.

I have simultaneously felt valued and valueless throughout this endeavor, and it's made me question whether or not I'm even a good person. I don't know how to parse the emotional toll, other than to just ignore it and make do with what I have and serve the community with the powe rand knowledge I myself have. Because I want this place to succeed. But I admit, my emotions have been all over the place.

That's all. I figured the most appropriate thread to open up in would be this one. To anyone who has given me and the other staff members a kind word, thank you. To anyone else who is dissatisfied with our performance: I understand, and I still apologize. Just remember we are human too.

I will be taking a break. I'm not leaving the forum, or my position, but I think I've exhausted myself to the point where my basic mental and even physical faculties are beginning to degrade. Continuing in my state right now is not fair to myself or to the people who want better.

I don't know how long it'll be either. I guess just long enough to bounce back. I love you guys. See you later!   

https://www.resetera.com/threads/i-just-want-to-say-thank-you-to-the-moderation-staff.155006/post-26781456

Cerium should assist her with her mental health, and her 84 month car loan, and allow her hiatus to be permanent.

[benjipwns]

I’m trying to update the old neoGaf slogan for ResetEra in light of recent developments. Does anyone want to see if they can do better than me?

Original:

“NeoGAF is a nexus of hardcore gamers, enthusiast press, and video game industry developers and publishers.”

Mine:

“ResetEra is a nexus of hardcore acephobes, DUI enthusiasts, and a scant few video game industry developers and publishers with longstanding internet addiction issues.”

FACT CHECK: https://www.resetera.com/threads/general-guide-to-resetera.9777/

Since its founding in late 2017, ResetEra has been an inviting bonfire at the crossroads of the gaming industry. Our goal is to provide a modern platform where enthusiasts and industry professionals alike will want to talk about all kinds of video games -- and everything else under the sun. Safeguarded by technology, a vigilant staff, and some of the toughest registration screening of any public forum, ResetEra has been able to cultivate a highly active and passionate community while keeping most trolls and bad actors off of the site.

Today ResetEra is the most popular independent gaming forum on the internet as measured by traffic. It is also an inclusive space that proudly welcomes members of every gender, ethnicity, and sexual orientation. Respect and decency towards each other, regardless of background, is nonnegotiable. Posters are expected to enter discussions in good faith.

[anime tits]

"can we look to other forums and learn from their moderation tactics" 

in 2019

[bork]

"Inviting bonfire" 

[benjipwns]

An underrated part of this ongoing ACES RISE UP event has been how many prominent members have both literally and essentially said that they don't use the report feature because its feedback isn't immediate, especially in terms of someone getting banned immediately, but instead choose to publicly bitch on the forum and Discord in hopes that the mods will see it.

A lot of things make more sense when dudes out here quoting posts and refreshing all like until they see "User banned (duration pending)" finally.

[Boredfrom]

I feel the only reason why she is not resigning is because she doesn’t want the forum to openly bitch about her.

[Potato]

huh, more moderators stepped down than I noticed earlier:
Dr. Monkey, half-transphobic moderator Fiction (we love you more than your brother!), K.Jack, Ron Paul (they finally noticed I guess) all joined Volimar, Royalan and ZhugeEx this month.

wait, so... this leaves... morrigan as the sanest mod left on the staff?
e: no, Dusk Golem still staff.

everyone else: trash or nobodies.

Morrigan, sane? Wasn't she the one who tried to ban the word "cunt"? Or was that someone else?

[anime tits]

ResetEra has been an inviting tirefire for marginalized people and the trolls who imitate them to gaslight the fuck out of anyone crossing the minefield that is our discussion forums. Imagine a classic sitcom set up where siblings share a room and have a fight, then one draws a line to separate their territory, but it makes the other one's exit from the room impossible. It's a lot like that. Please enjoy, no matter which side of the line you end up on. Also, it's always open season on Asians here.

[benjipwns]

A lot of things make more sense when dudes out here quoting posts and refreshing all like until they see "User banned (duration pending)" finally.

[Kara]

These are the kind of people that somehow fuck up making a basic Taco Bell taco.

Making a delicious and nutritious Taco Bell taco requires skill, precision, and passion.

KARA blessed the Garbage Thread, KARA did you see my posts that I wanted you KARA to see regarding their LLC discussion KARA?!?

http://www.thebore.com/forum/index.php?topic=46734.msg2742132#msg2742132
http://www.thebore.com/forum/index.php?topic=46734.msg2742144#msg2742144

This is clearly a person who doesn't know a lot about limited liability companies like the majority of actual members in limited liability companies. Am I supposed to find this interesting?

[benjipwns]

Well, if you're going to be like that just because someone thought of you. Like often. All night. In their dreams.

[OnlyRegret]

These are the kind of people that somehow fuck up making a basic Taco Bell taco.

Making a delicious and nutritious Taco Bell taco requires skill, precision, and passion.

KARA blessed the Garbage Thread, KARA did you see my posts that I wanted you KARA to see regarding their LLC discussion KARA?!?

http://www.thebore.com/forum/index.php?topic=46734.msg2742132#msg2742132
http://www.thebore.com/forum/index.php?topic=46734.msg2742144#msg2742144

This is clearly a person who doesn't know a lot about limited liability companies like the majority of actual members in limited liability companies. Am I supposed to find this interesting?

Judging by his enthusiasm, yes.

[Kara]

Well, if you're going to be like that just because someone thought of you. Like often. All night. In their dreams.

Occupational hazard: so many people start limited liability companies when it's not really in their best interest. It's the getting caught red handed for successwin bidness people.

[benjipwns]

So I decide to take a chance, admittedly a little messy due to not having had a chance to find a perfect ResetERA.com post, but it is in the middle of the night, so I figured that was fine. Took one with people not understanding an LLC.

His response? "Am I supposed to find this interesting?"

I admitted to him I hadn't really tried to find something great in quite awhile, and then he said. "Not cool. Well, bye."

And I'm just like, "Wait, wait, there's only so much on ResetERA.com to work with, remember?", as I had in the earlier conversation.

He responds to me: "You need a struggle session. Sorry."

And...

I don't know.

Between how many people don't like my posts. How many people find it incredibly difficult to like every single post I've ever made due to me being very socially inept and having difficulty relating and discussing topics with people... I've been ghosted so many damn times in my life that it's hard to tell you how often it's happened. I won't lie some of it's on me, but a lot of times, it's just because of my personality, my communication skills, my behavior, and among other things, some of these which I can't control.

spoiler (click to show/hide)

https://www.resetera.com/threads/honestly-i-really-just-dont-know-anymore.86632/

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https://www.resetera.com/threads/we-need-to-have-a-discussion-about-how-members-treat-other-members-on-this-site-and-among-other-issues.154572/

[close]

[close]

[OnlyRegret]

Is this supposed to be a cry for help but with excess obfuscation to maintain a forums personality?

[Snoopycat_]

Oh sweet Jebus -

"I know exactly how much time and emotion it consumes to do this kind of work. It takes bravery. It takes sacrifice. It takes selflessness and compassion."

https://www.resetera.com/threads/i-just-want-to-say-thank-you-to-the-moderation-staff.155006/page-4#post-26787609

Bravery and sacrifice

[benjipwns]

ResetERA.com staff gathering photo, 2019

[benjipwns]

Is this supposed to be a cry for help but with excess obfuscation to maintain a forums personality?

Some of us just desperately need Kara's approval sometimes. See also: shosta, et al.

[HaughtyFrank]

I'd feel kind of bad if our shittalking did this to nepenthe, but instead it was the alphabet gang that broke her

[benjipwns]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/every-day-about-600-bad-faith-trolls-enter-resetera.154968/

User Banned (Duration Pending): Xenophobia

These are predominantly young incel men arriving mostly from 4chan, reddit, NeoNaziGAF, 8chan, Facebook and many other alt-right and white supremacist forums. ResetERA.com is a forum of about 10.5, hundred people with an aging, decreasing population. By ResetERA.com standards, 600-700 people is one new alt-right thread daily. It's also about 250k people per year, equal to one ResetERA.com Hangout of considerable size. At this rate it's very likely that in less than 20 years ResetERA.com, which is a welcoming bonfire, could be another alt-right terrorist forum.

Next to the small Hangout that I live in there is a junior poster hospitality center. In the last few years the crime rates have skyrocketed. The place that I grew up is now pretty much a Wild West where anything goes, moderator presence in non-existent or even worse, useless. Last week the community residents got together to discuss and agreed to fund and hire a private security firm to police the town streets because the ResetERA.com staff can't be bothered. It's obvious that Cerium and the forum elite is very fond of what is happening, hoping that this will help solve ResetERA.com's ageing problem and increase the population/consumer base while providing below poverty-line poster salaries.

I've never voted for the right, I am an atheist and a vegan. I try to show compassion for the hardships of other people. But is it wrong to not wish to live in an alt-right shithole in many of which I would duration pendinged or permabanned for being black and gay?

User Banned (permanent): Xenophobia

This is not the best forum to post this, OP. I may get banned for saying this, but it's not wrong to be concerned about a huge influx of bad faith posters, especially ones that have different beliefs or lifestyle than what your forum is accustomed to.

[Switters]

Being black AND a furry is probably hands down the most marginalized and vulnerable group you could possible ADMIT to being a part of, so I understand NepNep. Take all the time you need. See you at the next old white person gets the shit beat out of them BBQ.

[TVC15]

Oh sweet Jebus -

"I know exactly how much time and emotion it consumes to do this kind of work. It takes bravery. It takes sacrifice. It takes selflessness and compassion."

https://www.resetera.com/threads/i-just-want-to-say-thank-you-to-the-moderation-staff.155006/page-4#post-26787609

Bravery and sacrifice

(Image removed from quote.)

These people are such huge losers! From Finale Fireworker’s pretty disturbing post:

The work here is the hardest thing I ever did.

“Would you like fries with that?”

What the fuck do these people do? I really hope they’re not trying to do much if they’re having existential crises over this stuff.

[Nuitangg]

Duration pending and likely permanent.  While Stinkles gets a week for hating Jews.

[benjipwns]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/i-just-want-to-say-thank-you-to-the-moderation-staff.155006/page-4#post-26787609

This is amazing:

I was a mod, then an admin, and was an everyday staff member for 18 months. I retired in September. My average daily availability was around ten hours a day. I did it for as long as I could. The work here is the hardest thing I ever did.

When I started, I thought I would do it forever. I wanted to be a permanent volunteer. A fixture, even, for the community I loved. This was my home, and these were my people, and without this forum I would have nowhere else to go. The outside internet is a horrible and inhospitable place. Contributing to the maintenance and safety of this community and its members gave me immense satisfaction. It meant so much to me. This is something I've said many times here. I said it often because I never wanted anyone to doubt it. People still did, but it was still true and it still is.

How things were going on the forum dictated my entire life. Would I eat? Would I sleep? Would I cancel my plans? Would I call in sick to work? Would I talk to my wife that night? My existing blood pressure problems began to agitate and worsen. I developed insomnia because I'd be afraid to go to sleep. I went on emergency health hiatus before my wedding. I couldn't continue to do something that had such a dramatic impact on my life that had nothing to do with my family. I could have kept going if I was stronger. But I wasn't. I had so much going on and something had to go. I retired due to my deteriorated condition and how much worse I would get if I didn't make a change.

It ultimately was not a moment too soon. My father in law starts chemo on Tuesday.

I know exactly how much time and emotion it consumes to do this kind of work. It takes bravery. It takes sacrifice. It takes selflessness and compassion. It is prideless work. There is no such thing as a professional moderator. Nobody has the breadth of knowledge and context to address every single topic or situation with flawless judgment. We were just people, members of the community, trying their best for the benefit of everyone here. No decision is ever perfect, no situation is ever the same as one before it, and it never stops. However hard something hits you, or however long it took to resolve, the forum never stops. People always need you. There is always something happening somewhere. Doing that together for so long with so many people I cared so much about was one of the most enriching experiences of my life. But it was never, ever easy.

I have nothing but love and respect for the staff who keep trying, and keep working, and keep believing that a forum like ours must exist. A forum like this cannot exist without people like them. I never knew how much danger I would put myself in to help a stranger. I never knew how far I would go to serve people who don't know me. I never realized how much of myself I would give up in pursuit of an ideal. I don't regret a minute of it, but I couldn't do it anymore. The work people put in here, to me, is nothing short of heroism.


As a community, mod or member, we must love each other. We are all we have. If we cannot love each other, and trust each other, and believe in each other and why we are here, we will fail.

Thank you to everyone on staff who dedicates so much of their free time in pursuit of a better website. Thank you too to the members who wade in to topics that hurt them or cause them stress just to make reports and offer insight to situations as they develop. The difference between moderator and member is thinner than some think. All mods were members once. Many mods are now members again. So please have faith and be kind. We are all in this together.

[OnlyRegret]

ten hours a day

 

[TVC15]

The outside internet is a horrible and inhospitable place.

Newsfeed

[TVC15]

Fudge, if I spent time bolding highlights in that bizarre post I’d be spending a lot of minutes

[OnlyRegret]

Fudge, if I spent time bolding highlights in that bizarre post I’d be spending a lot of time

That sort of tedium and grunt work is best left to the expert, Benji.

[Cauliflower Of Love]

The work here is the hardest thing I ever did.

Nobody has the breadth of knowledge and context to address every single topic or situation with flawless judgment.

Oh, these people think of themselves are wisemen, who get final say on discussions instead of just rounding up assholes..

[TVC15]

As a community, mod or member, we must love each other. We are all we have. If we cannot love each other, and trust each other, and believe in each other and why we are here, we will fail.

Newsfeed.

[Joe Molotov]

Would I eat? Would I sleep? Would I cancel my plans? Would I call in sick to work? Would I talk to my wife that night?

[TVC15]

Joe Molotov, I love you. You’re all I have. If I can’t love and trust and believe in you, I will fail.

jst wanted u 2 kno

[benjipwns]

I developed insomnia because I'd be afraid to go to sleep.

[benjipwns]

It ultimately was not a moment too soon. My father in law starts chemo on Tuesday.

I get that it's family and all but... 

Also FF quit months ago.

[benjipwns]

Thank you too to the members who wade in to topics that hurt them or cause them stress just to make reports

I don't use the ter-

The work people put in here, to me, is nothing short of heroism.

god dammit

[TVC15]

This is so sad. There should be prime time news magazine segments about this new and emerging plight. You know what? We might need to make up some new DSM entries to cover this situation.

[Transhuman]

TVC are you high or sober rn just curious

spoiler (click to show/hide)

and it's none of my business

[close]

[Propagandhim]

As a community, mod or member, we must love each other. We are all we have. If we cannot love each other, and trust each other, and believe in each other and why we are here, we will fail.

Fuck offff

[TVC15]

TVC are you high or sober rn just curious

spoiler (click to show/hide)

and it's none of my business

[close]

Tell demi to upgrade the fucking forum to do BAC readings and support mobile if you want to know

[bork]

https://www.resetera.com/threads/i-just-want-to-say-thank-you-to-the-moderation-staff.155006/page-4#post-26787609

This is amazing:

I was a mod, then an admin, and was an everyday staff member for 18 months. I retired in September. My average daily availability was around ten hours a day. I did it for as long as I could. The work here is the hardest thing I ever did.

[Transhuman]

TVC are you high or sober rn just curious

spoiler (click to show/hide)

and it's none of my business

[close]

Tell demi to upgrade the fucking forum to do BAC readings and support mobile if you want to know

: (

[Cauliflower Of Love]

Imagine spending 10 hours a day moderating a forum with like 20 users and this many mods

[TVC15]

If you really want to know, Trans, I’m sober, aside from consuming cannabis since I woke up 5 hours ago but that doesn’t count.

[benjipwns]

Imagine spending 10 hours a day moderating a forum with like 20 users and this many mods

And that's like five less mods than a week ago.

[Transhuman]

If you really want to know, Trans, I’m sober, aside from consuming cannabis since I woke up 5 hours ago but that doesn’t count.

It sure doesn't

 

[benjipwns]

Fiction also posted in there:

Hugs forever


Hey guys, if you want to know why I'm no longer a mod, I couldn't take it. I just couldn't. Most of yall know I'm soft as hell but feeling like I was going to be attacked for posting on the community I love was it. Sorry everyone. My mental health sucks as is, so it was for the best.

Still <3 you all

[benjipwns]

damn i just read sooo much god damn the trans posters on here really have the cards stacked against them

[benjipwns]

ok thanks for posting these i'll read up on what's going on. i hope this forum can be a safe place for everyone cuz there are like none of those online

With 2 mods stepping down and 1 taking an indefinite hiatus, it makes me think that there is going to be a breaking point where there are only a few mods that cannot feasibly keep up with everything. I guess I'm wondering if there are plans to add more mods or not.

[OnlyRegret]

ok thanks for posting these i'll read up on what's going on. i hope this forum can be a safe place for everyone cuz there are like none of those online

With 2 mods stepping down and 1 taking an indefinite hiatus, it makes me think that there is going to be a breaking point where there are only a few mods that cannot feasibly keep up with everything. I guess I'm wondering if there are plans to add more mods or not.

Hiring: Fresh meat. Compensation, titles.

[Kara]

ResetERA.com staff gathering photo, 2019

(Image removed from quote.)

Is this loss?

[ShutUp]

damn i just read sooo much god damn the trans posters on here really have the cards stacked against them