having lots of children and loved ones to surround yourself with on your deathbed is incredibly selfish
it's like saying, I won't be able to die happy unless my death brings misery and trauma to as many other people as possible
I WANT people to love me so much that my absence is going to put them in therapy
whereas if you die alone and unloved you can rest easy knowing you have not contributed to the net misery in the world, in fact if people celebrate your death then with your final act you have brought more joy into a lot of peoples' lives