Think of this as an intervention.
I too was drawn in by the allure of IRC. A gathering of like-minded individuals that vaguely share some sort of connection (gaming, pro wrestling, anime, laverne and shirley, etc), but really are just bored and agorophobic to certain degrees. A communion of misery, if you will.
Early 1998, the internet was just shaking off it's AOL-boom hangover and IRC offered you something more than the shitastic chatrooms on MSN, AOL or the like. There was control over the asshole population .. there was collaborations of people with similar interests ... there was automated trivia! Ahhh .. a new age had risen. Sending fake links of goatse was still hilarious and people actually posted messages on Usenet.
At the time, it seemed like a novel way to stay on top of current internet events and still keep the coffee house/bar appeal. Anyone could walk in and pull up a chair ... anyone could rant on whatever they wanted. Freedom of expression .. in real time.
But, in actuality, it was a bunch of miscreants from around the country that were 1) too broke to do anything else 2) too afraid to interact with real people 3) a way for weak-minded people to feel powerful in a virtual world.
Number 3 is the one that always bothered me. It seemed like the ones who seek moderation are the ones who least deserve it. People devoid of personality, so they use authority (or this virtual authority) to create some sort of persona. A way to curry favor with others that had personalities. Cliques.
And that is the shitty irony of it all ... People that were ostracised or made miserable by the cliques of High School ... Carry that burden into their adult lives and then repeat that process in an on-line forum or chat room. How many times have you been in an IRC chatroom and all the "regulars" never even chat? They send IM's to those they want to interact with. Hours and hours of idling in IRC interacting with only those you deem worthy. You truly do become what you hate.
So, do yourself a favor. Delete IRC off of your hard drives. You are wasting your lives. There are 1000 other hobbies that are actually good for your mind and soul. Not chat rooms.