Is it ok to tell your friend that someone is cheating on them...?

[Phoenix Dark]

Ok I just got back from hanging out with a couple friends. It just just a small get together where we just hung out at a friends house. Anyway while I was there one of my friends was showing no shame in completely fucking around with this one chick, whom I've never seen before. They were kissing groping, and even went up to the bathroom together only to come back 10min later. After all of this he got a call from his girlfriend, who said she was coming over to the house. Well at that point the chick left the house, and 10 minutes later the girlfriend showed up.

Now I've known her for a pretty long time. We've never been big friends, but we still talk and stuff. I just sat there and watched my friend flirt and hang with his girlfriend mere minutes after cheating on her. And the sad thing is this isn't the first time. She's a real nice girl too

If you saw a friend cheating on his girl would you confront him about it? Right now I can't help but think it's not my business. Although...I hate seeing him treat this girl like this.

 

[Vizzys]

oh dear

[captainbiotch]

I wouldn't call a scumbag like that my friend.

[Phoenix Dark]

We've known each other forever though (IE since we fought each other in kindergarden). He's always been an asshole but he have a lot of shared history...

I want to talk to him about this because it's just horrible imo

[Flannel Boy]

I had a friend who had several girls on the side and had a three-some (with two of my female friends). I was too much in awe too say anything. Plus I didn't really know his girlfriend too well.

[Phoenix Dark]

Well yeah if you don't know the girlfriend. But in this case, I know his girlfriend. And we talk...

For instance, if she were to ask me if he was cheating...?

[bagofeyes]

Tell her. It'll be good for a laugh.

[Flannel Boy]

Talk to him about it.

[APF]

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That's just the way it is.  It's his responsibility, not yours, to own-up to what he's doing and repair/stop the relationship he's in.  You can make it clear that you don't approve, but at the end of the day it's honestly not your business.  It gets trickier if you're really good friends with the GF however--especially if you knew her first (been there, it sucked).

[The Miles Trahan Burger Experiment]

Don't be a player hater.

[Mupepe]

It's the man's rules.  You can't tell on him.  Don't do it, PD.  That'd be fucked up.  Don't effin do it.  

Okay, go ahead and tell.  Break ups are always funny.  Oh and realize this, the girl will hate you by association.  It always happens.  

Still, if it was me, I wouldn't tell... unless I wanted to get a good laugh.  Oh fuck it, just tell.  But the girl will hate you, realize this.  But shit, it will be pretty funny.  But dude, guys don't do that shit to other guys.  Haven't you seen Old School?  But fuck dude, I always found break ups hilarious.

I hope this helps.

[The Miles Trahan Burger Experiment]

Yeah, this will only end badly for you if you tell. Mupepe knows what's up.

[BlueTsunami]

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That's just the way it is.  It's his responsibility, not yours, to own-up to what he's doing and repair/stop the relationship he's in.  You can make it clear that you don't approve, but at the end of the day it's honestly not your business.  It gets trickier if you're really good friends with the GF however--especially if you knew her first (been there, it sucked).

I agree with APF

If it really bothers you, don't be friends with him anymore (I know I wouldn't). Even with the past history. But you can't go and bud in and blow up his spot. You'll be forcing your values on him and the relationship.

Cheaters like that are degenerates. It always makes me angry hearing about it.

[Mupepe]

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That's just the way it is.  It's his responsibility, not yours, to own-up to what he's doing and repair/stop the relationship he's in.  You can make it clear that you don't approve, but at the end of the day it's honestly not your business.  It gets trickier if you're really good friends with the GF however--especially if you knew her first (been there, it sucked).

I agree with APF

If it really bothers you, don't be friends with him anymore (I know I wouldn't). Even with the past history.

Cheaters like that are degenerates. It always makes me angry hearing about it.

I'm a habitual cheater 

[BlueTsunami]

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That's just the way it is.  It's his responsibility, not yours, to own-up to what he's doing and repair/stop the relationship he's in.  You can make it clear that you don't approve, but at the end of the day it's honestly not your business.  It gets trickier if you're really good friends with the GF however--especially if you knew her first (been there, it sucked).

I agree with APF

If it really bothers you, don't be friends with him anymore (I know I wouldn't). Even with the past history.

Cheaters like that are degenerates. It always makes me angry hearing about it.

I'm a habitual cheater 

I guess if its flinging around, not in a serious relationship...then I could see whatsup. But a serious one on one relationship, that just isn't cool

[Mupepe]

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That's just the way it is.  It's his responsibility, not yours, to own-up to what he's doing and repair/stop the relationship he's in.  You can make it clear that you don't approve, but at the end of the day it's honestly not your business.  It gets trickier if you're really good friends with the GF however--especially if you knew her first (been there, it sucked).

I agree with APF

If it really bothers you, don't be friends with him anymore (I know I wouldn't). Even with the past history.

Cheaters like that are degenerates. It always makes me angry hearing about it.

I'm a habitual cheater 

I guess if its flinging around, not in a serious relationship...then I could see whatsup. But a serious one on one relationship, that just isn't cool

oh ok.  yeah, i've never cheated in an established long term relationship.  I haven't been in one of those in over a year now.  a year and 3 months.  wow.

[Phoenix Dark]

People who cheat disgust me.

[The Miles Trahan Burger Experiment]

People who cheat disgust me.

Believe me, they will BOTH be digusted with you for selling your boy out.

[Phoenix Dark]

People who cheat disgust me.

Believe me, they will BOTH be digusted with you for selling your boy out.

I know I know. I won't get in between this trainwreck, but it makes me sad when I see how happy she is right now...and then think about how devastated she'll be sooner or later

[Beezy]

People who cheat disgust me.

Agreed.

[Mupepe]

People who cheat disgust me.

Believe me, they will BOTH be digusted with you for selling your boy out.

I know I know. I won't get in between this trainwreck, but it makes me sad when I see how happy she is right now...and then think about how devastated she'll be sooner or later

so let her be happy.  ignorance is fucking bliss.  don't ruin it for her.  if the guy's good at what he does, he won't get caught.  if he's bad, you'll be the shoulder to cry on and you can take advantage of those tears and hit it... twice.  

Dude, most people our age fucking cheat.  it's the truth.  We're not marrying and spending the rest of our lives with these people.  Let it be.

Hell, most people cheat regardless of age.  Ignorance is bliss.

And like I said, she'll fucking hate you too.  

Was the other girl hot?

[The Miles Trahan Burger Experiment]

You should blackmail him to give you the other chick's number, and put in a good word.

[Phoenix Dark]

Was the other girl hot?

Not really; she's white.

[Beezy]

Was the other girl hot?

Not really; she's white.

what? 

[Mupepe]

Was the other girl hot?

Not really; she's white.

Tell him to at least get him a hispanic girl.

But seriously, let it go.  It's not any of your business in reality.  It will only end badly for you if you get involved.

[Phoenix Dark]

Was the other girl hot?

Not really; she's white.

what? 

Well ok: she's a real average, skinny white chick with stringy hair who dresses like a whore and hangs around black guys. You no doubt know the type I'm talking about lol. Now my friend is black, so it's like he just wants to hit a white chick or something.

His girlfriend is very beautiful, and she's black. She's extremely smart.

[The Miles Trahan Burger Experiment]

Oh, I see what's going on here. PD is hoping to get some lovin' from this dude's girl if he breaks the news to her.

That's fucked up.

[Phoenix Dark]

NO

I'm not into her, and I already have a chick so why would I take this one? She's cool but not exactly my type

[The Miles Trahan Burger Experiment]

Wait, Vampire Girl is still hangin' around? lolz

[Beezy]

Well ok: she's a real average, skinny white chick with stringy hair who dresses like a whore and hangs around black guys. You no doubt know the type I'm talking about lol.

Sadly. They get on my nerves.

Now my friend is black, so it's like he just wants to hit a white chick or something.

His girlfriend is very beautiful, and she's black. She's extremely smart.

Common would be devastated.

[Mupepe]

Was the other girl hot?

Not really; she's white.

what? 

Well ok: she's a real average, skinny white chick with stringy hair who dresses like a whore and hangs around black guys. You no doubt know the type I'm talking about lol. Now my friend is black, so it's like he just wants to hit a white chick or something.

His girlfriend is very beautiful, and she's black. She's extremely smart.

These are the white girls I avoid.

[Phoenix Dark]

Was the other girl hot?

Not really; she's white.

what? 

Well ok: she's a real average, skinny white chick with stringy hair who dresses like a whore and hangs around black guys. You no doubt know the type I'm talking about lol. Now my friend is black, so it's like he just wants to hit a white chick or something.

His girlfriend is very beautiful, and she's black. She's extremely smart.

These are the white girls I avoid.

They're probably a lot of them in Texas lol.

[Mupepe]

Was the other girl hot?

Not really; she's white.

what? 

Well ok: she's a real average, skinny white chick with stringy hair who dresses like a whore and hangs around black guys. You no doubt know the type I'm talking about lol. Now my friend is black, so it's like he just wants to hit a white chick or something.

His girlfriend is very beautiful, and she's black. She's extremely smart.

These are the white girls I avoid.

They're probably a lot of them in Texas lol.

shit loads.  I can't stand them.

[Ichirou]

Don't tell, dude.  It's a man rule.

Seriously, if the girl was cheating on the dude, none of the girl's girlfriends would tell on her either.  It's a GENDER WARZ thing.

[Van Cruncheon]

BROS

B4

HOS

[Prost]

I'll tell you what I'd fuckin do, I'd go right up to that mother fucker's ass and say I don't ever want to see that kind of shit around me because it fuckin pisses me off.  If he wants to go and cheat and do all of that shit then he can go do that on his own business, but break it off with your girlfriend if you don't want me to tell her because she's a friend of mine.  I don't like people I know getting disrespected like that.  Go fuck some other girl I don't know, go cheat on her with someone that I don't care about.. and you'll hear nothing from me, but since you're doing this shit and I'm somehow involved... I won't fuckin tolerate it.

You go up to that bitch slapper himself and bitch slap him with his own shit.  You don't let friends do fucked up things, and you don't let friends have fucked up things happen to them.  Tell him he ends it or you'll tell her your damn self because she's your friend.

your bros before hoes statement doesn't hold true because she's not a hoe, she's a nice girl, and she's being cheated on.

so man your little bitch ass up and stand up for what is right instead of sitting back being such a fucking sissy bitch about that kind of shit.  fucking grow some fucking balls you little child.

[Van Cruncheon]

i said

BROS

B4

HOS

[Ichirou]

I'll tell you what I'd fuckin do, I'd go right up to that mother fucker's  ass and say I don't ever want to see that kind of shit around me because it fuckin pisses me off.  If he wants to go and cheat and do all of that shit then he can go do that on his own business, but break it off with your girlfriend if you don't want me to tell her because she's a friend of mine.  I don't like people I know getting disrespected like that.  Go fuck some other girl I don't know, go cheat on her with someone that I don't care about.. and you'll hear nothing from me, but since you're doing this shit and I'm somehow involved... I won't fuckin tolerate it.

You go up to that bitch slapper himself and bitch slap him with his own shit.  You don't let friends do fucked up things, and you don't let friends have fucked up things happen to them.  Tell him he ends it or you'll tell her your damn self because she's your friend.

your bros before hoes statement doesn't hold true because she's not a hoe, she's a nice girl, and she's being cheated on.

so man your little bitch ass up and stand up for what is right instead of sitting back being such a fucking sissy bitch about that kind of shit.  fucking grow some fucking balls you little child.

Yes, that's it.  Unleash your anger and your path to the dark side shall be complete.

[Prost]

I'll tell you what I'd fuckin do, I'd go right up to that mother fucker's  ass and say I don't ever want to see that kind of shit around me because it fuckin pisses me off.  If he wants to go and cheat and do all of that shit then he can go do that on his own business, but break it off with your girlfriend if you don't want me to tell her because she's a friend of mine.  I don't like people I know getting disrespected like that.  Go fuck some other girl I don't know, go cheat on her with someone that I don't care about.. and you'll hear nothing from me, but since you're doing this shit and I'm somehow involved... I won't fuckin tolerate it.

You go up to that bitch slapper himself and bitch slap him with his own shit.  You don't let friends do fucked up things, and you don't let friends have fucked up things happen to them.  Tell him he ends it or you'll tell her your damn self because she's your friend.

your bros before hoes statement doesn't hold true because she's not a hoe, she's a nice girl, and she's being cheated on.

so man your little bitch ass up and stand up for what is right instead of sitting back being such a fucking sissy bitch about that kind of shit.  fucking grow some fucking balls you little child.

Yes, that's it.  Unleash your anger and your path to the dark side shall be complete.

So basically you pointed out the same thing as my wife, are you a girl?  are you offended?

[Ichirou]

So basically you pointed out the same thing as my wife, are you a girl?  are you offended?

Massage my dick and balls and I'll tell you.

[Madrun Badrun]

Do not tell on him but talk to him about it. 

[Prost]

So basically you pointed out the same thing as my wife, are you a girl?  are you offended?

Massage my dick and balls and I'll tell you.

[Ichirou]

I'll give you another bucket. 

[makaveli]

the kids got some good game now you want to fuck him over what kind of friend are you

[Ichirou]

the kids got some good game now you want to fuck him over what kind of friend are you

I would say the "kid" is a total douchebag who'll probably end up impregnating several women inadvertently, but it's still not PD's place to tattle.

[Mupepe]

I'll tell you what I'd fuckin do, I'd go right up to that mother fucker's ass and say I don't ever want to see that kind of shit around me because it fuckin pisses me off.  If he wants to go and cheat and do all of that shit then he can go do that on his own business, but break it off with your girlfriend if you don't want me to tell her because she's a friend of mine.  I don't like people I know getting disrespected like that.  Go fuck some other girl I don't know, go cheat on her with someone that I don't care about.. and you'll hear nothing from me, but since you're doing this shit and I'm somehow involved... I won't fuckin tolerate it.

You go up to that bitch slapper himself and bitch slap him with his own shit.  You don't let friends do fucked up things, and you don't let friends have fucked up things happen to them.  Tell him he ends it or you'll tell her your damn self because she's your friend.

your bros before hoes statement doesn't hold true because she's not a hoe, she's a nice girl, and she's being cheated on.

so man your little bitch ass up and stand up for what is right instead of sitting back being such a fucking sissy bitch about that kind of shit.  fucking grow some fucking balls you little child.

unf unf unf

[APF]

I'M ANGRY OVER THE INTERNET!!!!

[Phoenix Dark]

I've never been a proponent of "bros before hoes". Rather juvenile for my tastes.

I won't tell her, but the next time I see him I'll confront him about this. I'll do it in a tasteful way without seeming like I'm invasive.

[Mupepe]

But he's not really your bro.  Fuck, it will be funny.  Have you ever seen The Break Up with Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn?  Break ups are fucking hilarious.  Do it.

[Phoenix Dark]

Well if he was my best friend I'd feel more comfortable in confronting him; a best friend would know that I had his best interest in mind. This guy might think I'm just trying to take his girl, which I'm not.

[Mupepe]

then don't confront him.  Just be like "Listen, sweetheart.  Saturday night at that party, 10 minutes before you got there... James (or whoever) was making out with this skinny white girl.  This isn't the first time and it won't be the last but I'm tired of him hurting you and i want you to know.  I really don't want to be in the middle, but I felt I should at least say something."

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[omg_lemurs]

Don't get involved.

And your friend is a scumbag. It will ruin your friendship if you tell his girlfriend, if it hasn't already made you not want to be his friend anymore.

[Mupepe]

Don't get involved.

And your friend is a scumbag. It will ruin your friendship if you tell his girlfriend, if it hasn't already made you not want to be his friend anymore.

worst advice ever

tell her.  it will be hilarious

[Phoenix Dark]

Actually I don't want to be his friend anymore. I don't like associating myself with people who willingly hurt other people's feelings, and he's really setting her up for a major fall. The sad thing is that if I don't say anything I could wind up losing both of their friendships; I would lose his out of disgust, and I'm sure she would realize that I knew something and didn't say anything.

[Mupepe]

I'm pulling a John Kerry. 

TELL HER

[Ichirou]

I'm pulling a John McCain.

TELL HER. DO IT.

[Van Cruncheon]

I'm pulling a COLONEL BO GRITZ.

Find the nice girl and PUNCH HER STUPID MOUF. Life lesson -- don't be nice!