Author Topic: Should I seek counseling/psychotherapy help? (Read 3860 times)

whiteACID · « **on:** March 30, 2007, 11:29:59 AM »

Does sitting on a couch and talking to someone about your feeling/problems actually do anything for you? I am a little fucked in the head, the first step is admittance.

ToxicAdam · « **Reply #1 on:** March 30, 2007, 11:35:17 AM »

Yes.

By the way, these new default smilies suck ass ..

Saint Cornelius · « **Reply #2 on:** March 30, 2007, 11:38:59 AM »

What does your husband think?

Mupepe · « **Reply #3 on:** March 30, 2007, 11:39:53 AM »

It didn't help me at all. Why don't you and I just talk to each other about our problems? I bet we could help each other

Madrun Badrun · « **Reply #4 on:** March 30, 2007, 11:43:12 AM »

Talk to Mupepe, I've talked to him about girl problems, he's great.

A shrink might help you get some meaning or control in your life, which ever your needing, but then again they might not but its always worth trying.

Tauntaun · « **Reply #5 on:** March 30, 2007, 11:44:56 AM »

in my experience seeing a counselor is better. they are there to help you and not just charge you $800000000 for 1.5 hours then prescribe you medicine to keep you emotionless.

Flannel Boy · « **Reply #6 on:** March 30, 2007, 11:47:50 AM »

Just make sure the shrink isn't male, otherwise you might go and marry the poor guy.

Madrun Badrun · « **Reply #7 on:** March 30, 2007, 11:49:45 AM »

Quote from: Malek: King of Kings on March 30, 2007, 11:47:50 AM

Just make sure the shrink isn't male, otherwise you might go and marry the poor guy.

...be nice shes asking for help.

Saint Cornelius · « **Reply #8 on:** March 30, 2007, 11:51:24 AM »

Flannel Boy · « **Reply #9 on:** March 30, 2007, 12:07:59 PM »

Quote from: Father_Mike on March 30, 2007, 11:49:45 AM

Quote from: Malek: King of Kings on March 30, 2007, 11:47:50 AM
Just make sure the shrink isn't male, otherwise you might go and marry the poor guy.

...be nice shes asking for attention.

Phoenix Dark · « **Reply #10 on:** March 30, 2007, 12:19:26 PM »

Quote from: whiteACID on March 30, 2007, 11:29:59 AM

Does sitting on a couch and talking to someone about your feeling/problems actually do anything for you? I am a little fucked in the head, the first step is admittance.

Remember you can PM me anytime if you want to talk ok?

Van Cruncheon · « **Reply #11 on:** March 30, 2007, 12:49:22 PM »

counseling's all right if YOU honestly feel it would help to discuss your problems in an honest and forthright fashion with psychological professional. i state that in specifically obvious form because that's all it is: you talking to a dude or dudette with a degree. 80% of the act of counseling is cathartic release; the other 20% is discussion help you discover the root causes of your issues so you can address them. it won't fix any problems you have, and it won't necessarily prevent you from backsliding into the cognitive dissonance that leads folks to justify self-destructive behavior.

that said, and i say this as someone who actually thinks yer a sharp chick with serious potential: step away from the internet for awhile. you've got too much pride and personal value tied up with these idiots, both here and on the OA forums. do NOT discuss your personal life with anyone on here -- sorry, mupepe -- because they ultimately want to anonymously exploit you for their own emotional interests, just as you often do to others yourself (see: "lol drama"). do the hard thing and take some time off from the internet -- focus on you and what you want from the world. talk to a counselor or an RL friend you trust. the internet brings out the worst in all of us.

Cheebs · « **Reply #12 on:** March 30, 2007, 12:50:21 PM »

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on March 30, 2007, 12:19:26 PM

Quote from: whiteACID on March 30, 2007, 11:29:59 AM
Does sitting on a couch and talking to someone about your feeling/problems actually do anything for you? I am a little fucked in the head, the first step is admittance.

Remember you can PM me anytime if you want to talk ok?

Phoenix Dark:

Quote

I think I'm in love with whiteAcid

I'm serious. I think she's beautiful. Whenever she posts I feel this feeling. I just like responding to her posts and talking to her whenever I can. Damn I feel like a stalker but I'm not. I just like. The sad thing is that there are so many difference s between us. She drinks/smokes and I don't; hell I really don't like the smell of either.

I know it sounds all disrespectful and shit but I would PAY HER MONEY just so she could hang with me; I have scholarship money and I could give her $500 for this, and maybe more things. omg guys I have a hardon right now and I'm not joking

Saint Cornelius · « **Reply #13 on:** March 30, 2007, 01:21:41 PM »

Quote from: Drinky Crow on March 30, 2007, 12:49:22 PM

counseling's all right if YOU honestly feel it would help to discuss your problems in an honest and forthright fashion with psychological professional. i state that in specifically obvious form because that's all it is: you talking to a dude or dudette with a degree. 80% of the act of counseling is cathartic release; the other 20% is discussion help you discover the root causes of your issues so you can address them. it won't fix any problems you have, and it won't necessarily prevent you from backsliding into the cognitive dissonance that leads folks to justify self-destructive behavior.

that said, and i say this as someone who actually thinks yer a sharp chick with serious potential: step away from the internet for awhile. you've got too much pride and personal value tied up with these idiots, both here and on the OA forums. do NOT discuss your personal life with anyone on here -- sorry, mupepe -- because they ultimately want to anonymously exploit you for their own emotional interests, just as you often do to others yourself (see: "lol drama"). do the hard thing and take some time off from the internet -- focus on you and what you want from the world. talk to a counselor or an RL friend you trust. the internet brings out the worst in all of us.

great advice.

too bad you wasted it.

Bacon · « **Reply #14 on:** March 30, 2007, 02:51:20 PM »

Maybe she just needs a hug.

Flannel Boy · « **Reply #15 on:** March 30, 2007, 03:02:17 PM »

Quote from: Bacon on March 30, 2007, 02:51:20 PM

Maybe she just needs a hug.

She married the last person who hugged her.

No, what she needs is a good spankin'. And she knows it too.

Saint Cornelius · « **Reply #16 on:** March 30, 2007, 03:06:58 PM »

I think the spanker would end up the groom for a few days, too.

Flannel Boy · « **Reply #17 on:** March 30, 2007, 03:10:07 PM »

Yeah, well then he didn't spank her hard enough.

Saint Cornelius · « **Reply #18 on:** March 30, 2007, 03:12:25 PM »

Well, spanking is no fun when someone ends up with a broken pelvis.

G The Resurrected · « **Reply #19 on:** March 30, 2007, 03:20:56 PM »

I am a product of 3 years of counseling every week or two weeks. And in the past three years has it helped me? Not much, I've still done some stupid stuff and continued a relationship that everyone thinks is not right for me. Maybe yall are right but when your that emotionally envolved and cant get some real perspective on life its hard. Hence why we usually continue doing the things we do. Me personally I found It a good release to talk with someone since I have no real friends and I dont know how to make friends in real life. So having that councelor there every few weeks to get that release has helped me out a little. But It still hasnt helped me out in the long run. Its not talked me out of feeling the way I do. And I dont have a support group to fall back on (IE Family Friends)

If your really as messed up as you seem lately with all this crazyness maybe it would be best for you to see someone. And maybe they could give you some perspective. It really is up to you in how you feel about life. As to what you change and fix. I wish you luck.

BlackMage · « **Reply #20 on:** March 30, 2007, 05:07:58 PM »

I say NO. Continue your psychotic path of destruction. It's a lot more fun

Mupepe · « **Reply #21 on:** March 30, 2007, 05:47:00 PM »

Quote from: Drinky Crow on March 30, 2007, 12:49:22 PM

do NOT discuss your personal life with anyone on here -- sorry, mupepe -- because they ultimately want to anonymously exploit you for their own emotional interests, just as you often do to others yourself (see: "lol drama"). do the hard thing and take some time off from the internet

I've exploited no one!

spoiler (click to show/hide)

5 dollars a session!

[close]

Himu · « **Reply #22 on:** March 30, 2007, 05:51:13 PM »

As someone who has done this type of "counseling" can attest, it doesn't really help much. I've done it myself, and maybe I'm wrong, but the person tried to place her life into mine and tell me what I should rater than help me with my problems. "You should drop out and work for a few years." Are the type of things she said.

Be wary is all I can say. Sometimes these people make you roll your eyes a thousand times over and in the end just diagnose you with schizophrenic disorder without much consultation.

Mondain · « **Reply #23 on:** March 30, 2007, 06:45:53 PM »

Life mandates you to learn to be your own judge.

DJ_Tet · « **Reply #24 on:** March 30, 2007, 07:36:45 PM »

Quote from: Drinky Crow on March 30, 2007, 12:49:22 PM

counseling's all right if YOU honestly feel it would help to discuss your problems in an honest and forthright fashion with psychological professional. i state that in specifically obvious form because that's all it is: you talking to a dude or dudette with a degree. 80% of the act of counseling is cathartic release; the other 20% is discussion help you discover the root causes of your issues so you can address them. it won't fix any problems you have, and it won't necessarily prevent you from backsliding into the cognitive dissonance that leads folks to justify self-destructive behavior.

that said, and i say this as someone who actually thinks yer a sharp chick with serious potential: step away from the internet for awhile. you've got too much pride and personal value tied up with these idiots, both here and on the OA forums. do NOT discuss your personal life with anyone on here -- sorry, mupepe -- because they ultimately want to anonymously exploit you for their own emotional interests, just as you often do to others yourself (see: "lol drama"). do the hard thing and take some time off from the internet -- focus on you and what you want from the world. talk to a counselor or an RL friend you trust. the internet brings out the worst in all of us.

Good advice. Last summer I was so fucked in the head that four months offline helped me reassess what's important in life and how to go and grab it. Counseling will help, but you have to be brutally HONEST with yourself and your counselor. If you go the "G" route, of course it isn't going to help. I think you're awesome, you already know that. You're at a crossroads, why not try everything you can that might help? What do you have to lose at this point?

Flannel Boy · « **Reply #25 on:** March 30, 2007, 07:38:28 PM »

Quote from: Mondain on March 30, 2007, 06:45:53 PM

Life mandates you to learn to be your own judge.

Evolution has created biased judges.

Ichirou · « **Reply #26 on:** March 30, 2007, 09:59:34 PM »

whiteACID is psycho. I agree with Drinky Crow's advice 110%.

demi · « **Reply #27 on:** March 30, 2007, 10:17:30 PM »

Madrun Badrun · « **Reply #28 on:** March 30, 2007, 10:21:41 PM »

wasn't expecting that when I scrolled down.

Phoenix Dark · « **Reply #29 on:** March 31, 2007, 01:26:35 AM »

Flannel Boy · « **Reply #30 on:** March 31, 2007, 02:55:36 PM »

Well you get married and then immediately you moved in with your ex-boyfriend.

Psychologists are not miracle workers!

Candyflip · « **Reply #31 on:** March 31, 2007, 03:00:36 PM »

I'd agree that you need to get off the internet.

Cheebs · « **Reply #32 on:** March 31, 2007, 06:14:58 PM »

Quote from: Ruzbeh on March 31, 2007, 03:08:39 PM

Basically what this means is that I'll always be different from 'normal' people.

Oh, we know.

bluemax · « **Reply #33 on:** April 01, 2007, 05:14:42 AM »

No offense, but am I the only one here who hasn't gone through some crazy emotional trauma and needed therapy or counseling? It seems like any time I come to a place on the internet where people open up to each other, they're all, to put it bluntly, fucked up. I almost feel like I'm abnormal because I don't have a therapist and I'm not on meds.

G The Resurrected · « **Reply #34 on:** April 01, 2007, 05:24:12 AM »

Quote from: bluemax on April 01, 2007, 05:14:42 AM

No offense, but am I the only one here who hasn't gone through some crazy emotional trauma and needed therapy or counseling? It seems like any time I come to a place on the internet where people open up to each other, they're all, to put it bluntly, fucked up. I almost feel like I'm abnormal because I don't have a therapist and I'm not on meds.

You hide your meds too?

Seriously though I know I'm fucked up and I admit it at least.

Prost · « **Reply #35 on:** April 01, 2007, 12:55:05 PM »

Quote from: bluemax on April 01, 2007, 05:14:42 AM

No offense, but am I the only one here who hasn't gone through some crazy emotional trauma and needed therapy or counseling? It seems like any time I come to a place on the internet where people open up to each other, they're all, to put it bluntly, fucked up. I almost feel like I'm abnormal because I don't have a therapist and I'm not on meds.

nah, you're not the only one.

it's a video game forum dude, a lot of the people are gonna be fucked up watchin their anime shit and playing games all day

Madrun Badrun · « **Reply #36 on:** April 01, 2007, 01:59:20 PM »

Quote from: Prost on April 01, 2007, 12:55:05 PM

Quote from: bluemax on April 01, 2007, 05:14:42 AM
No offense, but am I the only one here who hasn't gone through some crazy emotional trauma and needed therapy or counseling? It seems like any time I come to a place on the internet where people open up to each other, they're all, to put it bluntly, fucked up. I almost feel like I'm abnormal because I don't have a therapist and I'm not on meds.
nah, you're not the only one.

it's a video game forum dude, a lot of the people are gonna be fucked up watchin their anime shit and playing games all day

if I could watch anime and play games ALL day I wouldn't be fucked.

Shuri · « **Reply #37 on:** April 01, 2007, 05:46:27 PM »

if you are over 18 and still watch animes, reconsider your life.

BlackMage · « **Reply #38 on:** April 01, 2007, 08:06:46 PM »

Quote from: Shuri on April 01, 2007, 05:46:27 PM

if you are over 18 and still watch animes, reconsider your life.

if you are over 18 and still post on video game message boards...

you'd be like me but not as cool.

Stocky · « **Reply #39 on:** April 02, 2007, 01:48:22 AM »

I'll make a deal with you.

If Ohio State happens to beat Florida, I'll pay for EVERYTHING.

If not,

you have to show me your boobies

Phoenix Dark · « **Reply #40 on:** April 02, 2007, 02:05:03 AM »

Candyflip · « **Reply #41 on:** April 02, 2007, 02:06:43 AM »

Hey I just noticed the new 50 posts per page thing. Thanks Viz.

DJ_Tet · « **Reply #42 on:** April 02, 2007, 06:39:14 AM »

Quote from: stocky on April 02, 2007, 01:48:22 AM

I'll make a deal with you.

If Ohio State happens to beat Florida, I'll pay for EVERYTHING.

If not,

you have to show me your boobies

I made that bet in football, still waiting for the pics.

Tauntaun · « **Reply #43 on:** April 02, 2007, 10:33:47 AM »

Quote from: BlackMage on April 01, 2007, 08:06:46 PM

Quote from: Shuri on April 01, 2007, 05:46:27 PM
if you are over 18 and still watch animes, reconsider your life.

you'd be like me but not as cool.

who can match that?

DeezNutzRBlue · « **Reply #44 on:** April 02, 2007, 10:53:41 AM »

Quote from: Saint Cornelius on March 30, 2007, 11:38:59 AM

What does your husband think?

I think she needs help getting through her feelings and emotions. I've tried to, but to no avail. You can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped. All you can do is watch them slip away.

Saint Cornelius · « **Reply #45 on:** April 02, 2007, 12:05:47 PM »

Even better than watching them slip away is making a big scene about it on the internet!

Van Cruncheon · « **Reply #46 on:** April 02, 2007, 12:17:14 PM »

Quote from: Saint Cornelius on April 02, 2007, 12:05:47 PM

Even better than watching them slip away is making a big scene about it on the internet!

DeezNutzRBlue · « **Reply #47 on:** April 02, 2007, 12:46:31 PM »

How can you really make a scene on the internet?

Saint Cornelius · « **Reply #48 on:** April 02, 2007, 12:57:47 PM »

I'd say you and Theresa could pretty much write a book on the topic by now, duder

DeezNutzRBlue · « **Reply #49 on:** April 03, 2007, 12:26:31 AM »

Hey, you should thank me. Since your life revolves around the internet and you probably haven't seen the sun in 2 years, you should be thanking me for the chance to live vicariously through me.

You're welcome. I am honored to be the sunlight shining in on your monitor.

Phoenix Dark · « **Reply #50 on:** April 03, 2007, 12:34:49 AM »

xnikki118x · « **Reply #51 on:** April 03, 2007, 12:54:03 AM »

Nothing wrong with counseling at all. It does much more good than harm IMO. I wanna go for pre-marital counseling when the time comes, just because it'd be a good thing.

BlackMage · « **Reply #52 on:** April 03, 2007, 02:06:59 AM »

Quote from: xnikki118x on April 03, 2007, 12:54:03 AM

Nothing wrong with counseling at all. It does much more good than harm IMO. I wanna go for pre-marital counseling when the time comes, just because it'd be a good thing.

I'll go with you

xnikki118x · « **Reply #53 on:** April 03, 2007, 03:16:53 AM »

Quote from: BlackMage on April 03, 2007, 02:06:59 AM

Quote from: xnikki118x on April 03, 2007, 12:54:03 AM
Nothing wrong with counseling at all. It does much more good than harm IMO. I wanna go for pre-marital counseling when the time comes, just because it'd be a good thing.

I'll go with you

K!

Saint Cornelius · « **Reply #54 on:** April 03, 2007, 10:46:45 AM »

Quote from: DeezNutzRBlue on April 03, 2007, 12:26:31 AM

Hey, you should thank me. Since your life revolves around the internet and you probably haven't seen the sun in 2 years, you should be thanking me for the chance to live vicariously through me.

You're welcome. I am honored to be the sunlight shining in on your monitor.

srsly, your documenting your whole "i <3 theresa" to a bunch of strangers followed by telling me how my life revolves around the internet? it makes me so sleeeeeepzzzzzzz

Prost · « **Reply #55 on:** April 03, 2007, 11:16:16 AM »

well let me step back for a moment and just say my post here is serious if you're serious. i'm not going to attack you, i'm just going to give an opinion on the topic.

i don't know if therapy would help you very much, but i think what you might be missing (if of course you feel you're missing something) is the ability to grasp other people's feelings. you sort of seem to let people get emotional while you just kind of ignore the emotion, like it's not that big of a deal. If this whole marraige thing has been serious, you seem to just kinda take the whole situation like "ahhh, no big deal."

if therapy can help with that, then i say yes on the therapy.

just imo - this post isn't an attempt to slam you like my previous posts have been.

Stocky · « **Reply #56 on:** April 05, 2007, 02:09:31 PM »

Since when did Prost become good at giving people advice?

News:

Poll

I have issues

Author Topic: Should I seek counseling/psychotherapy help? (Read 3860 times)