She's being realistic. Women, for the most part, go for charisma and personality more than looks. If anything, men should capitalize on this, because we rate on physical appearance much more harshly and solely than the opposite sex. That doesn't mean you should be a complete slob; CrystalGemini will say she doesn't care for some of my wardrobe (I wear HULK and South Park t-shirts when I'm at home), but she will tell you when I'm out and about - I clean up good. Just look presentable and be sociable.
And yes, it helps not to be inept in the sack.