I don't see what the big fucking deal is. All you're doing is meeting a person you talk to on an internet message board in a public place. There is no possibility that anything could go wrong in a public place where people are. For crying out loud, just meet each other and say what the big "secret" is.
I swear, after all this hype about a big secret of Phoenix Dark, there damn well better be something truly spectacular about you. If you turn out to be a white nerdy guy instead of the supposed black guy you are, then I'm going to be pissed. If it turns out that you're handicapped and in a wheel chair, I'm going to be pissed. You better have two heads or three arms or four legs or an attached siamese twin. This is ridiculous.