Are you still on good terms with your ex's?

[whiteACID]

This question stems from two of my x-boyfriends contacting me this past week. A few days ago my first real boyfriend from Junior year of high school sent me a message on facebook asking how I was doing and what was going on and all that. It’s the first time I have talked to him since we broke up probably. Mostly because his girlfriend then (and now wife) hated me with a passion and according to him she still does, and that’s why I can’t be his friend on Facebook.  But I wished him the best and hoped everything was going well for him. And I really do, there’s no jealousy or anything there, of course it’s been 6 years since we went out, but I still care about him as a person.

Yesterday the boyfriend I had my senior year IM’ed me. He’s living in Florida now, just being single and having the time of his life. So we talked for a little while about all the crazy shit we did in high school. I also wished him the best, it was nice talking to him.

I don’t know if I really have a point, but I believe that people that you are in serious relationships with in the past, present or future always change you in some little way and ultimately everything that happens to you, be it good or bad makes you into the person that you are today.

Even relationships that have ended bad in the past, I can always look back in a couple of years and forgive the person and genuinely care how they are doing and hope they are happy.

[Tauntaun]

Yeah I think not only do our experiences help shape us, but more importantly, how we deal with those experiences has a lasting influence.  Growing up is weird.   

[cloudwalking]

Even relationships that have ended bad in the past, I can always look back in a couple of years and forgive the person and genuinely care how they are doing and hope they are happy.

yeah that's how i feel as well. i think that things are mostly still on good terms for me, at least that's how i see it.

[whiteACID]

Even relationships that have ended bad in the past, I can always look back in a couple of years and forgive the person and genuinely care how they are doing and hope they are happy.

yeah that's how i feel as well. i think that things are mostly still on good terms for me, at least that's how i see it.

Can you look back now and say that you are glad that you didn't go through with your marriage? Do you still believe that at 19 you are ready to be married? I'm not trying to be bitchy, I'm really curious. At 19 I was also engaged for about a month or two, after we broke up I looked back and couldn't believe that I thought I could settle down like that at so young of an age.

[Phoenix Dark]

Even relationships that have ended bad in the past, I can always look back in a couple of years and forgive the person and genuinely care how they are doing and hope they are happy.

yeah that's how i feel as well. i think that things are mostly still on good terms for me, at least that's how i see it.

Can you look back now and say that you are glad that you didn't go through with your marriage? Do you still believe that at 19 you are ready to be married? I'm not trying to be bitchy, I'm really curious. At 19 I was also engaged for about a month or two, after we broke up I looked back and couldn't believe that I thought I could settle down like that at so young of an age.

lol I remember everyone begging Cloud not to get married. 

Now she's going to be my GFE

[Madrun Badrun]

Whats this about Cloud getting married?  Also what happened with her and Demi? 

[Bloodwake]

Whats this about Cloud getting married?  Also what happened with her and Demi? 

First question: dunno, but she didn't. She made a thread about it.

Second question: as far as I can tell.... JAROSH.

[Shuri]

Jarosh is a real man that takes care of her and her womanly needs.
Demi is a shut-in and is really looking forward his latest rental titles from gamezflix.com in the mail.

that's all there is to be said.

[Prost]

nah, last x-girlfriend was a bitch.  she smoked , went shopping, and spent money like crazy.  after i told her to basically fuck off she went out with my best friend for 2 years, cheated on him, basically which was an emotional kill shot to him, and pretty much ruined our friendship for those 2 years.  I've seen her on campus twice and I walk past her like I didn't even notice.  I even have it pre-planned that if she does say something I will automatically reply "You cheated on my best friend, what I have to say to you is not a positive thing, so I'm just not going to say it, cya later" and keep walking.

The hate doesnt really have to do with me, but moreso what she did to my friend.

[Cyanista]

. . your best friend dated your ex?  That's beyond fucked up.

[Mupepe]

I am on good terms with most of my ex's. 

[G The Resurrected]

I guess i dont know where i fit. But how do you be friends that you have feelings for? You all seem to have just had balls and left. For better or for worse I'm stuck. And I want to try and do the best I can. Cause if theres ever a posibility its gonna be me. Selflessness is the only thing I can think of here. Being the better person and rising above my own problems to be there for someone I still care about. If nothing than just a friend.

How do you do it? All that strange ackwardness that goes with being friends with your Ex's.

[Saint Cornelius]

I can answer this easily: no.

[tiesto]

Yeah, I'm friends with one of them...

[cloudwalking]

Even relationships that have ended bad in the past, I can always look back in a couple of years and forgive the person and genuinely care how they are doing and hope they are happy.

yeah that's how i feel as well. i think that things are mostly still on good terms for me, at least that's how i see it.

Can you look back now and say that you are glad that you didn't go through with your marriage? Do you still believe that at 19 you are ready to be married? I'm not trying to be bitchy, I'm really curious. At 19 I was also engaged for about a month or two, after we broke up I looked back and couldn't believe that I thought I could settle down like that at so young of an age.

i don't know if it has so much to do with the age, but it definitely would have been a bad time in general, looking back.

there's a girl i work with who's my age and is engaged. her fiance only knew her for 4 months when he proposed and they won't have even known each other a year before they are married... i was shocked when she told me that, but if they feel like they know each other well enough and are in love, i can't judge.

[Mupepe]

i really don't think most people realize how much strain marriage puts on a relationship and actually how big of a step it is.  I know I didn't.

[Madrun Badrun]

Cloud answer my questions!   

[captainbiotch]

Yes.  I've talked to three of them in the past few days in fact.  I don't hold grudges.

[The Sceneman]

I have nightmares about my exes all the time. Basically Im really keen to kick all their faces in, as Ive always been dumped with no real closure or reason for the break-up

[etiolate]

Some I am still friends with, some not. My favorites are the ones who pull the "I still want to be friends afterwards" line and then make no effort to be friends.

[Stocky]

Depends on which one you talk to, really.

Stephanie was really sweet in the beginning, but became a vile bitch near the end. I never talk to her anymore.

Lois was a fucking dancer, so that was a big mistake to begin with. We talk every once in awhile.

Laura is a spoiled bitch, and I didn't know that until it was too late. I call her to remind her of how much I hate her.

[Prost]

. . your best friend dated your ex?  That's beyond fucked up.

His only girlfriend ever, and she was begging him.  I don't blame him at all.  I told the poor guy it would end bad for him, and he likes to go against what I say... which is probably why it lasted 2 years instead of ending much quicker.

[xnikki118x]

I'm friends with both of my exes on Facebook. I haven't talked to either in quite some time, but I still have a special place in my heart for each. I was an awful bitch to one of them and even though he was never nasty to me or anything after we broke up, I still hope he's forgiven me. I hope the other has forgiven me for being a crazy stalker ex after he broke up with me--I was messed up for a while after that.

I guess I consider myself to be on civil terms with both of them, but I often wish I wasn't so horrible when I was younger because then maybe I woudln't feel as badly about how things turned out.

I think that if you really cared about someone though, part of you always will.

[Mr. Gundam]

I'm good friends with my old high school girlfriend (dated from 1996 to 2001). My wife and her get along really well.

I never kept in touch with any of the other girls I dated, though.

[Human Snorenado]

Usually I fuck up a relationship so spectacularly there's no communication afterwards.  I think it's the only way I know how to end stuff like that. 

[The Sceneman]

Some I am still friends with, some not. My favorites are the ones who pull the "I still want to be friends afterwards" line and then make no effort to be friends.

fucking typical, Ive had that shit so many times. Fucking shitheads

[G The Resurrected]

Some I am still friends with, some not. My favorites are the ones who pull the "I still want to be friends afterwards" line and then make no effort to be friends.

fucking typical, Ive had that shit so many times. Fucking shitheads

I think the problem there is they've already moved on, and your getting the news late. They say it as a protection thing. Cause they know we cant handle it and turn off our feelings for them. So by asking to be friends it then becomes your fault. So then they can get away with the way they feel guilt free. Aint that a fucking trip?

[CrystalGemini]

HAHHAHAHAHAHHA...no.


We act like we're ok when we speak or on that rare occasion see each other, but there's this underlying tension because of what happened.  Neither one of us has forgotten - the pain's still there, but at the same time we both want the best for each other.  It's not a bad thing.  I wouldn't call it good either.

[etiolate]

Some I am still friends with, some not. My favorites are the ones who pull the "I still want to be friends afterwards" line and then make no effort to be friends.

fucking typical, Ive had that shit so many times. Fucking shitheads

The real meaning of that is "Because we agreed to eb friends, you can not tell anyone about my bad things, like how I'm a dead fish in bed or the mole on my clit.".

[The Sceneman]

  Yeah I really hate the dead fish style, you just lie on top and pound them for an hour and they dont even touch your balls in return

[G The Resurrected]

"MOLE ON CLIT" !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!   WHAT IN GODS NAME!!!! Nah its a guilt thing et honestly just think about it. It does make sense.

[tiesto]

Some I am still friends with, some not. My favorites are the ones who pull the "I still want to be friends afterwards" line and then make no effort to be friends.

fucking typical, Ive had that shit so many times. Fucking shitheads

The real meaning of that is "Because we agreed to eb friends, you can not tell anyone about my bad things, like how I'm a dead fish in bed or the mole on my clit.".

 

LJBF is one of the worst things you can hear from a girl... right below "I've got an STD" or "your best friend was better in bed"

[Catz]

I'm not on the greatest terms with any of my exes really. I'm cordial with them but we're not friends. We're not mean to each other either. I guess it's just sort of awkward.