Am I a bad son?

[Oblivion]

Okay, guys here's the dillio (sp.?).

About 2 years ago, my mom and dad separated, and she went to live in Ohio with her niece. Apparantly they got into a tiff or something, and she was kicked out with my idiot little brother, and have been living off welfare ever since. After a while, they seemed to stop giving my mom money (or at the very least, cut her funds) cause she was living off it for 2 years and she hasn't gotten a job since. In her defense, though she's always been a homemaker, and doesn't speak english, so it's not an easy task for her. Anyhoo, she was begging me to send her money (around $200 a month), which I had no problem with, but after a while, I thought she must be pretty miserable there and I thought I should do everything in my power to bring her back to California.

Anyhoo, here's where the problem arises. My mom and I have had a TON of arguments in the past. The annoying thing is that it would be over the most trivial of shit. For example, she kicked me out of the house for a few weeks cause I got a C in one of my college Calculus classes, and once said my habits of watching T.V. past 10 PM were tantamount to murder and rape (I shit you not!). So you can assume it's not easy living with her.

But then I thought 'hey, she's been living in Ohio all by herself without any family to take care of her for 2 years, and she might be a different person'. How wrong I was. The woman was as demanding and possessive as ever. She hadn't changed a fucking bit. And if I let her live with me, she'd think that she would be in control and I'd have to live under her rules (even if I'm the one paying the rent for all of us).

So I've been having doubts, and I'm thinking the best thing is to just help her out the way I've been doing so far, and make sure she doesn't live with me for at least a few more years. It doesn't help that everytime she calls, she always seems to think that I've dropped out of school and became a drug dealer or something (seriously, she says this EVERY FUCKING TIME). The funny thing being I was doing so much better at school when she wasn't around, then all throughout the time that she was.

But um yeah, should I feel bad about not wanting to help her come live with me? Am I a bad son?

[Madrun Badrun]

No.  you can't choose whom your born too and some times you don't get along.  200 a month is good and a lot more than some people would do. 

[Himu]

I think that under your circumstances, you have your reasons. If she doesn't live with you, however, you guys have gotta find SOME place for her to stay.

[Mupepe]

No.  you can't choose whom your born too and some times you don't get along.  200 a month is good and a lot more than some people would do. 

all that needs to be said.

and for clarification on my ideas about getting along with parents, my dad once called me from a hospital because doctors said he was most likely going to die.  he wanted to be forgiven for all the horrible things he did to us when we were little.  i was drunk and told him to fuck himself.

[Mupepe]

I think that under your circumstances, you have your reasons. If she doesn't live with you, however, you guys have gotta find SOME place for her to stay.

why does he HAVE to do anything?

[G The Resurrected]

No.  you can't choose whom your born too and some times you don't get along.  200 a month is good and a lot more than some people would do. 

all that needs to be said.

and for clarification on my ideas about getting along with parents, my dad once called me from a hospital because doctors said he was most likely going to die.  he wanted to be forgiven for all the horrible things he did to us when we were little.  i was drunk and told him to fuck himself.

Thats how I feel about my dad as well. We dont even speak for months at a time.

[demi]

You're gonna have to cut her off eventually. Looks like you just got a head start.

[Scurvy Stan]

Tell she's a big girl now and it's time she went out and got a job.

[Ichirou]

God, I'm glad my parents are good people.  I miss them.  :'(

[Oblivion]

You're gonna have to cut her off eventually. Looks like you just got a head start.

You're not doing a good job of making me feel too much better, demi.

[demi]

Come back to Ohio and let me fuck some sense into her.

[Human Snorenado]

lolz, this is why I don't deal with my family on any sort of level where we have to rely on each other.

[xnikki118x]

Tell she's a big girl now and it's time she went out and got a job.

Seriously. Also, where is she from, and how long has she lived here without speaking any English? It's about time to learn, ya think?

I think you're a wonderful son for sending that money to her. It's not your job to take care of her when she's capable but unwilling to do it herself. I think you're more than generous.

[MrAngryFace]

I havent talked to my dad in like 3 years, who cares.

[max_cool]

Always been a homemaker? Doesn't speak English? Sounds like the perfect maid.

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I'm so sorry, it's just social commentary

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[Oblivion]

Tell she's a big girl now and it's time she went out and got a job.

I think you're a wonderful son for sending that money to her. It's not your job to take care of her when she's capable but unwilling to do it herself. I think you're more than generous.

 

I havent talked to my dad in like 3 years, who cares.

Now my dad's a different matter. The bastard hated all of us, and did everything he could to make our lives miserable. Though ironically, I think I probably had the best time I've ever had lilving with him after they split up.

[Madrun Badrun]

I havent talked to my dad in like 3 years, who cares.

Your a very interesting person, and i know nothing about you.  Make a thread about your life?!