Author Topic: Guys, I'm in a dilemma and need advice. (Read 4473 times)

Synbios459 · « **on:** September 05, 2007, 03:59:49 AM »

Here's the deal, being handicapped I can't drive, cook, clean, bathe etc. Well I signed up for a deal where a nurse will come out and do that stuff, and while I won't mind who it is for almost anything, there is one exception: bathing. Now I'm not expecting some hot Asian chick to do it by any means, but my brother works for a hospice where he deals with those type of people and he said the majority of the guys there that do that are gay. Now while I don't have a problem with gay people, I REALLY don't want a gay guy to be bathing me, so should I specifically say "no gay guys" or just hope he isn't? Oh, and here's the program: http://www.okdhs.org/programsandservices/aging/docs/#find

bagofeyes · « **Reply #1 on:** September 05, 2007, 04:01:40 AM »

Are you really handicapped?

Synbios459 · « **Reply #2 on:** September 05, 2007, 04:03:40 AM »

Quote from: bagofeyes on September 05, 2007, 04:01:40 AM

Are you really handicapped?

Yes:

demi · « **Reply #3 on:** September 05, 2007, 04:04:21 AM »

How do you bathe now?

bagofeyes · « **Reply #4 on:** September 05, 2007, 04:04:39 AM »

Got any other pictures?

Synbios459 · « **Reply #5 on:** September 05, 2007, 04:05:36 AM »

Quote from: demi on September 05, 2007, 04:04:21 AM

How do you bathe now?

My dad helps whenever he gets time off but that's only like once a week or so.

Synbios459 · « **Reply #6 on:** September 05, 2007, 04:05:59 AM »

Quote from: bagofeyes on September 05, 2007, 04:04:39 AM

Got any other pictures?

No, that was one my friend did for me.

bagofeyes · « **Reply #7 on:** September 05, 2007, 04:07:03 AM »

I kinda don't believe you

Synbios459 · « **Reply #8 on:** September 05, 2007, 04:09:08 AM »

Quote from: bagofeyes on September 05, 2007, 04:07:03 AM

I kinda don't believe you

Well, what do you want me to do? Being handicapped makes it kind of hard to take pics, which is why I don't have a camera.

Madrun Badrun · « **Reply #9 on:** September 05, 2007, 04:13:02 AM »

Quote from: bagofeyes on September 05, 2007, 04:07:03 AM

I kinda don't believe you

me either, actually.

Synbios459 · « **Reply #10 on:** September 05, 2007, 04:22:46 AM »

Quote from: Father_Mike on September 05, 2007, 04:13:02 AM

Quote from: bagofeyes on September 05, 2007, 04:07:03 AM
I kinda don't believe you

me either, actually.

Fine, don't believe me, but what should I do if it were true?

Madrun Badrun · « **Reply #11 on:** September 05, 2007, 04:39:20 AM »

Quote from: Synbios459 on September 05, 2007, 04:22:46 AM

Quote from: Father_Mike on September 05, 2007, 04:13:02 AM
Quote from: bagofeyes on September 05, 2007, 04:07:03 AM
I kinda don't believe you

me either, actually.
Fine, don't believe me, but what should I do if it were true?

Tell them what your brother said and say that you wouldn't feel comfortable with a gay guy sponging down your junk.

Fresh Prince · « **Reply #12 on:** September 05, 2007, 04:41:13 AM »

Just say you would prefer a woman.

etiolate · « **Reply #13 on:** September 05, 2007, 04:44:57 AM »

My Uncle is (partially I think) disabled and I have helped him shower. Not everyone who does it is gay. It's a little odd at first, but then you just realize it's another human body. The thing was, I didn't hardly need to touch him. Just use a washcloth a little and let him do what he can himself. Just had to make sure he didn't slip or fall. How much can you wash yourself? Can you use a washcloth? It really depends on how much the person will need to touch you.

And if you ask for a woman, that might seem creepy.

Ichirou · « **Reply #14 on:** September 05, 2007, 05:11:14 AM »

Do you honestly a gay guy would get turned on while bathing a disabled person? WTF is wrong with you?

Synbios459 · « **Reply #15 on:** September 05, 2007, 05:33:21 AM »

Quote from: Ichirou on September 05, 2007, 05:11:14 AM

Do you honestly a gay guy would get turned on while bathing a disabled person? WTF is wrong with you?

Well, it's not so much that I'm worried he'd get turned on as much as just the fact I'm being bathed by a gay guy that bothers me.

Ichirou · « **Reply #16 on:** September 05, 2007, 05:35:01 AM »

Quote from: Synbios459 on September 05, 2007, 05:33:21 AM

Quote from: Ichirou on September 05, 2007, 05:11:14 AM
Do you honestly a gay guy would get turned on while bathing a disabled person? WTF is wrong with you?
Well, it's not so much that I'm worried he'd get turned on as much as just the fact I'm being bathed by a gay guy that bothers me.

What if it were a black mexican? Would you be bothered then?

Synbios459 · « **Reply #17 on:** September 05, 2007, 06:00:34 AM »

Quote from: Ichirou on September 05, 2007, 05:35:01 AM

Quote from: Synbios459 on September 05, 2007, 05:33:21 AM
Quote from: Ichirou on September 05, 2007, 05:11:14 AM
Do you honestly a gay guy would get turned on while bathing a disabled person? WTF is wrong with you?
Well, it's not so much that I'm worried he'd get turned on as much as just the fact I'm being bathed by a gay guy that bothers me.

What if it were a black mexican? Would you be bothered then?

If you were gay, then yes.

bagofeyes · « **Reply #18 on:** September 05, 2007, 06:03:21 AM »

Quote from: Synbios459 on September 05, 2007, 06:00:34 AM

Quote from: Ichirou on September 05, 2007, 05:35:01 AM
Quote from: Synbios459 on September 05, 2007, 05:33:21 AM
Quote from: Ichirou on September 05, 2007, 05:11:14 AM
Do you honestly a gay guy would get turned on while bathing a disabled person? WTF is wrong with you?
Well, it's not so much that I'm worried he'd get turned on as much as just the fact I'm being bathed by a gay guy that bothers me.

What if it were a black mexican? Would you be bothered then?
If you were gay, the yes.

lol, he's calling you a black mexican, Ichirou

brawndolicious · « **Reply #19 on:** September 05, 2007, 07:38:43 AM »

Tauntaun · « **Reply #20 on:** September 05, 2007, 04:44:34 PM »

no homo

Phoenix Dark · « **Reply #21 on:** September 05, 2007, 05:04:53 PM »

Quote from: Ichirou on September 05, 2007, 05:11:14 AM

Do you honestly a gay guy would get turned on while bathing a disabled person? WTF is wrong with you?

While I agree with you, it's not hard to see why he would feel uncomfortable with this. If you can get a female or even straight male to do this service, good for you. But if a homosexual male is the only option, you'll have to do what you have to do. My experience with homosexuals has revealed they have very good taste, so I doubt you have anything to worry about Synbios

Beezy · « **Reply #22 on:** September 05, 2007, 05:56:45 PM »

Quote from: Synbios459 on September 05, 2007, 03:59:49 AM

Well I signed up

How?

Candyflip · « **Reply #23 on:** September 05, 2007, 06:01:04 PM »

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on September 05, 2007, 05:04:53 PM

Quote from: Ichirou on September 05, 2007, 05:11:14 AM
Do you honestly a gay guy would get turned on while bathing a disabled person? WTF is wrong with you?

While I agree with you, it's not hard to see why he would feel uncomfortable with this. If you can get a female or even straight male to do this service, good for you. But if a homosexual male is the only option, you'll have to do what you have to do. My experience with homosexuals has revealed they have very good taste, so I doubt you have anything to worry about Synbios

Whoa shit. PD going for the low blow.

Synbios459 · « **Reply #24 on:** September 05, 2007, 06:09:46 PM »

Quote from: Beezy on September 05, 2007, 05:56:45 PM

Quote from: Synbios459 on September 05, 2007, 03:59:49 AM
Well I signed up
How?

Called the ADVantage group.

Himu · « **Reply #25 on:** September 05, 2007, 06:37:39 PM »

what.........you only bathe once a week?

Eel O'Brian · « **Reply #26 on:** September 05, 2007, 08:10:33 PM »

"Dilemma"

Smooth Groove · « **Reply #27 on:** September 05, 2007, 09:20:48 PM »

Quote from: Synbios459 on September 05, 2007, 04:09:08 AM

Quote from: bagofeyes on September 05, 2007, 04:07:03 AM
I kinda don't believe you
Well, what do you want me to do? Being handicapped makes it kind of hard to take pics, which is why I don't have a camera.

If you can get someone to bathe you, why can't you get someone to take another photo? What about the person that helps you eat and wipe your butt?

CajoleJuice · « **Reply #28 on:** September 05, 2007, 09:22:07 PM »

That HL2 shirt is way too fitting...

Candyflip · « **Reply #29 on:** September 05, 2007, 09:31:35 PM »

This thread is full of wince-inducing comments.

demi · « **Reply #30 on:** September 05, 2007, 09:43:42 PM »

How do you rub one out? If I were you, I would set up two cushions and just go at it. You won't notice the difference, really.

FlameOfCallandor · « **Reply #31 on:** September 05, 2007, 09:49:10 PM »

How can you assholes make fun of him?

Eel O'Brian · « **Reply #32 on:** September 05, 2007, 09:52:40 PM »

I wasn't making fun, I was giving helpful spelling advice.

Beezy · « **Reply #33 on:** September 05, 2007, 10:05:22 PM »

Quote from: demi on September 05, 2007, 09:43:42 PM

How do you rub one out? If I were you, I would set up two cushions and just go at it. You won't notice the difference, really.

Yeti · « **Reply #34 on:** September 06, 2007, 01:15:09 AM »

Hypothetically, if a person is able to type at a keyboard, shouldn't they have enough dexterity to be able to wash themselves?

Madrun Badrun · « **Reply #35 on:** September 06, 2007, 01:16:19 AM »

Quote from: Yeti on September 06, 2007, 01:15:09 AM

Hypothetically, if a person is able to type at a keyboard, shouldn't they have enough dexterity to be able to wash themselves?

he uses his feet to type.

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Author Topic: Guys, I'm in a dilemma and need advice. (Read 4473 times)