Hey, check this out, if you want to use the word so badly, I will be happy to send you to Opa-Ages. The end!
Not all derogatory terms are created equal. Some offend the community, some don't. That does. There's not much more to discuss. We have a pretty laid back atmosphere, but you can't say whatever you want. If you don't like it, you're free to leave. We don't even ban the use of the word. If folks creatively get around the censor, it usually results if everyone ignoring that poster and no more. But the censor is in place so it's not easy for people to spam it, get out of hand in racial discussions, etc.