Author Topic: so I just stood someone up for a non-date yesterday (Read 5028 times)

recursivelyenumerable · « **on:** January 23, 2009, 10:10:38 PM »

SERVES HER RIGHT AFTER ALL WOMEN HAVE DONE TO ME

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she hasn't answered the phone when I've called to try and apologize

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Positive Touch · « **Reply #1 on:** January 23, 2009, 10:13:07 PM »

jesus fucking christ if you're gonna do shit like that, then you don't deserve to be with anyone

girls aren't scary, so stop being such a wimp about all this

demi · « **Reply #2 on:** January 23, 2009, 10:13:20 PM »

Maybe she was the one planning to stand you up...

Positive Touch · « **Reply #3 on:** January 23, 2009, 10:14:39 PM »

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #4 on:** January 23, 2009, 10:15:32 PM »

it was because I had a 40-hour day at work yesterday/the day before, working on a program I'd become obsessed with finishing. no excuse for not even calling her to say I wouldn't be able to make it, though, other than delerium from sleep deprivation. well, or for not just giving up and going home at some point, for that matter.

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I did get it done though

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Flannel Boy · « **Reply #5 on:** January 23, 2009, 10:16:20 PM »

Are you a high functioning autistic?

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #6 on:** January 23, 2009, 10:17:45 PM »

i've been accused of being one on many occasions, but have never gone to a psychiatrist or anything.

duckman2000 · « **Reply #7 on:** January 23, 2009, 10:17:48 PM »

Quote from: recursivelyenumerable on January 23, 2009, 10:15:32 PM

working on a program I'd become obsessed with finishing.

Most god awful excuse ever.

Madrun Badrun · « **Reply #8 on:** January 23, 2009, 10:21:25 PM »

recursive

what was the program? Was it hot?

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was the girl ugly?

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recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #9 on:** January 23, 2009, 10:22:16 PM »

the sad thing is, there wasn't even a critical deadline on the project. i just became fixated on getting it done and couldn't bring myself to leave.

demi · « **Reply #10 on:** January 23, 2009, 10:23:19 PM »

No girl is ever worth losing work and your possible job over. You did the right thing.

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #11 on:** January 23, 2009, 10:25:14 PM »

i did not! it really wasn't time-critical and I wouldn't have lost anything but a bit of pride.

demi · « **Reply #12 on:** January 23, 2009, 10:26:29 PM »

Ok dude. So you go on your date, what then. She bails the next day and tells you to fuck off. You just wasted time you could have done work with. You did the right thing. Don't let anyone else convince you otherwise.

Madrun Badrun · « **Reply #13 on:** January 23, 2009, 10:30:06 PM »

Demi's right here. She probably didn't have enough acne scars to hold your interest anyways. It wouldn't have worked out.

Bocsius · « **Reply #14 on:** January 23, 2009, 10:55:08 PM »

The odd thing is she stood you up, too. That's why she's not answering the phone, she thinks you're upset.

Brehvolution · « **Reply #15 on:** January 23, 2009, 11:17:05 PM »

Life finds a way. just not today.

Diunx · « **Reply #16 on:** January 24, 2009, 12:43:11 AM »

Just tell her that you showed up but she wasn't there or that your step-father is in a coma.

elektrikluv · « **Reply #17 on:** January 24, 2009, 06:03:50 AM »

Urgh that's one of the shittiest things to do, is it really that much effort to call? :/

Flannel Boy · « **Reply #18 on:** January 24, 2009, 06:04:55 AM »

Quote from: elektrikluv on January 24, 2009, 06:03:50 AM

Urgh that's one of the shittiest things to do, is it really that much effort to call? :/

He had work to do and objects to spin.

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #19 on:** January 24, 2009, 06:08:25 AM »

yeah, it wasn't that it was effort, it was that i'd been staring at the computer screen for 36 hours at that point trying to get @#%$@#%@#!!%@ Outlook to do what I wanted.

it was indeed shitty tho.

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #20 on:** January 24, 2009, 06:24:19 AM »

i really llike her too, i mean she is cool

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EmCeeGrammar · « **Reply #21 on:** January 24, 2009, 07:54:41 AM »

Jesus, 40 hours?
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wanna be asspie buddies?

Flannel Boy · « **Reply #22 on:** January 24, 2009, 08:01:24 AM »

Quote from: EmCeeGrammar on January 24, 2009, 07:54:41 AM

Jesus, 40 hours?
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wanna be asspie buddies?

He's high-functioning; you're a Nintendo fanboy. It would never work.

Ninja · « **Reply #23 on:** January 24, 2009, 08:07:25 AM »

Quote from: Green Shinobi on January 23, 2009, 10:30:37 PM

Things were never the same. Later on that year she became the sex columnist for the college newspaper, so I would have been a celebrity and the #1 pimp on campus if I had been hooking up with her. Ah well.

Or you would have read a column one day about how her man isn't satisfying her so she compiled a list of her top 50 dildos.

Reb · « **Reply #24 on:** January 24, 2009, 09:14:39 AM »

You're a stand up guy.

Ninja · « **Reply #25 on:** January 24, 2009, 11:15:02 AM »

Quote from: Green Man on January 24, 2009, 09:29:28 AM

Quote from: Ninja on January 24, 2009, 08:07:25 AM
Quote from: Green Shinobi on January 23, 2009, 10:30:37 PM
Things were never the same. Later on that year she became the sex columnist for the college newspaper, so I would have been a celebrity and the #1 pimp on campus if I had been hooking up with her. Ah well.

Or you would have read a column one day about how her man isn't satisfying her so she compiled a list of her top 50 dildos.

Don't you think fifty is a little high?

Variety is the spice of orgasms.

BlueTsunami · « **Reply #26 on:** January 24, 2009, 11:16:42 AM »

Recursive is like the Gregory House of Coding

Barry Egan · « **Reply #27 on:** January 24, 2009, 12:00:01 PM »

...but without the hot sex with attractive female co-workers.

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #28 on:** January 24, 2009, 12:16:53 PM »

i don't HAVE any female coworkers :'(

Barry Egan · « **Reply #29 on:** January 24, 2009, 12:22:04 PM »

recursive :'( :'( :'(

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #30 on:** January 24, 2009, 12:22:36 PM »

when I did have female coworkers there were a few who would flirt with me and stuff, but they were married.

Mupepe · « **Reply #31 on:** January 24, 2009, 03:18:40 PM »

if this is the kind of priority you give women, no wonder you're alone. this thread is noted for your future complaints of "why won't she date me?"

elektrikluv · « **Reply #32 on:** January 24, 2009, 03:25:56 PM »

Quote from: Rob Thomas on January 24, 2009, 03:18:40 PM

if this is the kind of priority you give women, no wonder you're alone. this thread is noted for your future complaints of "why won't she date me?"

This is exactly what I wanted to say

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #33 on:** January 24, 2009, 03:35:20 PM »

oh come on, now you're just piling it on. i guess i kind of asked for it though didn't i $:-\$

but can't i plead temporary insanity? i mean, exhibit a, i fucking broke my temporary tooth this morning and am going to have to blow another $500 on a new one, which i won't have till next week so it's a week of looking like a meth addict. and this is basically because i was at work all night last night and thursday night and somehow in my fucked up state, i managed to leave the thing on the floor of my office --- i wasn't even conscious that i had it out --- and stomp on it.

Reb · « **Reply #34 on:** January 24, 2009, 03:36:17 PM »

Well boo fucking hoo, you were a cunt, accept and learn.

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #35 on:** January 24, 2009, 03:38:59 PM »

i guess what i'm trying to say is, OUTLOOK MADE ME THE BROKEN SHELL OF A MAN YOU SEE BEFORE ME

you

whatever

Mupepe · « **Reply #36 on:** January 24, 2009, 03:39:36 PM »

Quote from: recursivelyenumerable on January 24, 2009, 03:35:20 PM

oh come on, now you're just piling it on. i guess i kind of asked for it though didn't i $:-\$

but can't i plead temporary insanity?

You kinda did. You made so many threads about how shitty you've been treated and then you stand someone up. And granted you were working, but man, it only takes one minute out of 40 hours. Probably not even that and you could have saved her a lot of grief. Think about how much better that would have made you feel if you were her. It just really shows what kind of priority she really was to you and maybe fit it into the bigger picture of your issues with females. Just my $.02

elektrikluv · « **Reply #37 on:** January 24, 2009, 03:40:57 PM »

We're not piling it on, merely saying that you're in no position to complain about the lack of women in your life given your treatment of them (like it or not, leaving anyone waiting for you when you decide to not show up without telling them is asshole behaviour regardless of whether it's a date scenario or not).

CajoleJuice · « **Reply #38 on:** January 24, 2009, 03:42:53 PM »

just end yourself now

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #39 on:** January 24, 2009, 03:44:14 PM »

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you made so many threads about how shitty you've been treated and then you stand someone up.

hey, I don't think that's quite right. I never seriously blamed women or anyone other than myself for my problems, either vocally or in my mind.

demi · « **Reply #40 on:** January 24, 2009, 03:44:56 PM »

Quote from: recursivelyenumerable on January 24, 2009, 03:35:20 PM

oh come on, now you're just piling it on. i guess i kind of asked for it though didn't i $:-\$

but can't i plead temporary insanity? i mean, exhibit a, i fucking broke my temporary tooth this morning and am going to have to blow another $500 on a new one, which i won't have till next week so it's a week of looking like a meth addict. and this is basically because i was at work all night last night and thursday night and somehow in my fucked up state, i managed to leave the thing on the floor of my office --- i wasn't even conscious that i had it out --- and stomp on it.

Mupepe and Elektrikluv are materialist goons. They're looking for hollow emptiness in the form of a woman slash man. You did the right thing.

Mupepe · « **Reply #41 on:** January 24, 2009, 03:46:30 PM »

Quote from: recursivelyenumerable on January 24, 2009, 03:44:14 PM

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you made so many threads about how shitty you've been treated and then you stand someone up.

hey, I don't think that's quite right. I never seriously blamed women or anyone other than myself for my problems, either vocally or in my mind.

Okay, I'll give you that. Although they usually consist of the "why won't she call/talk to me?" line. I still think it boils down to an initiative/priority issue you have with women.

BlueTsunami · « **Reply #42 on:** January 24, 2009, 03:46:41 PM »

There's a reason why this forum is called Real Talk nicca

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #43 on:** January 24, 2009, 03:53:49 PM »

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Although they usually consist of the "why won't she call/talk to me?" line.

yeah, I generally meant that as comic frustration rather than seriously blaming her for anything, but maybe that doesn't really come through.

anyway, I dunno, I'm not sure it (not calling her, not not making it) was a matter of priority. because all through Wed. night I was thinking "oh shit I fucking better not be up all night so I can't make it tomorrow" and then all through Thurs. I was thinking "so I'm not going to make it? should I call her or ..." but the reason I didn't call her is partly that i didn't want to "admit defeat" and admit to myself i wouldn't be able to make it and that i'd be stuck at work for another 12 hours. that's also sort of why i stayed there all night in the first place, i didn't want to admit to myself that i'd failed at getting the program done that night.

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #44 on:** January 24, 2009, 03:56:22 PM »

but ugh. i dunno why i didn't call. it was shitty. i did kinda figure she'd call me though? i thought maybe she'd forgotten? but then it turns out she DID call me and i somehow missed the call.

Reb · « **Reply #45 on:** January 24, 2009, 03:57:40 PM »

There's probably some other stuff you didn't want to admit to...

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #46 on:** January 24, 2009, 03:58:47 PM »

Reb · « **Reply #47 on:** January 24, 2009, 04:00:14 PM »

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #48 on:** January 24, 2009, 04:03:20 PM »

so are you saying that I was subconsciously sabotaging any potential relationship with her because I was afraid if we got too close she'd eventually discover my anime fetish and I'd be shamed forever?

Madrun Badrun · « **Reply #49 on:** January 24, 2009, 04:05:27 PM »

People describe hentai as anime now?

Olivia Wilde Homo · « **Reply #50 on:** January 24, 2009, 04:05:58 PM »

The best way to describe your persona now is "tired."

Reb · « **Reply #51 on:** January 24, 2009, 04:06:34 PM »

Yeah, something like you said, but up until the word discover.

Mupepe · « **Reply #52 on:** January 24, 2009, 04:08:00 PM »

Quote from: recursivelyenumerable on January 24, 2009, 03:56:22 PM

but ugh. i dunno why i didn't call. it was shitty. i did kinda figure she'd call me though? i thought maybe she'd forgotten? but then it turns out she DID call me and i somehow missed the call.

why she didn't call you when you didn't show up? If so, I'm surprised she did call. I wouldn't have. She probably won't pick up because you didn't. That would really be a horrible feeling.

Have you left her a voicemail or something since?

Madrun Badrun · « **Reply #53 on:** January 24, 2009, 04:08:41 PM »

Quote from: T EXP on January 24, 2009, 04:05:58 PM

The best way to describe your persona now is "tired."

$:-\$ Don't be mean now.

Olivia Wilde Homo · « **Reply #54 on:** January 24, 2009, 04:09:03 PM »

He isn't going to take any advice to fix the situation so I wouldn't bother writing anything.

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #55 on:** January 24, 2009, 04:13:29 PM »

yeah, i left her a message apologizing.

uh the situation isn't really "fixable" is it? it happened. the only thing I can do is try and develop more sane work habits

Barry Egan · « **Reply #56 on:** January 24, 2009, 04:14:39 PM »

Quote from: T EXP on January 24, 2009, 04:09:03 PM

He isn't going to take any advice to fix the situation so I wouldn't bother writing anything.

we'll fix him eventually.

Barry Egan · « **Reply #57 on:** January 24, 2009, 05:09:39 PM »

believe

recursivelyenumerable · « **Reply #58 on:** January 24, 2009, 05:40:01 PM »

talked to her. she didn't seem angry and we rescheduled for next week.

Madrun Badrun · « **Reply #59 on:** January 24, 2009, 05:42:46 PM »

Make sure you stand her up again next time, that way she will understand her place.

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Author Topic: so I just stood someone up for a non-date yesterday (Read 5028 times)