OMG you want to hear some awkward stories?
A few days ago I mentioned that I had a weird hook up with this one girl where we had a sleep over like 12 hours before the scheduled date. We did everything but full intercourse because she said she wasn't ready to lose her virginity yet. We both signed it off as a friends with benefits type of thing since she has to move back southern california in a week so it wouldn't be possible to have a relationship. But we did fall asleep together cuddling that night and then on Friday night we did the same thing, but after we showered, I was upfront with her that it feels too weird to cuddle and do all that too knowing that there's a very real limit to the relationship. We went outside for a smoke and walked and talked for a couple of hours at the beach. I made sure that my feelings about the potential for this to get too messed up was completely clear. It was very honest and relieving to open up like that.
Then last night she sent me this link:
http://www.themodernman.com/dating/sex/sex_talk_when_no_means_yes.htmlAnd I just went in a back-and-forth texting tirade about how I don't ever play games and wouldn't be subtle about what I do and don't want, especially when we have a very soon end date for the physical stuff, and how I would expect the same of her. If she actually doesn't want to do certain things, then that's completely fine. But don't think that I'll ever assume that a no means yes. She kept going on about she just wasn't sure and yadda yadda. I said we should each take a couple days to digest this before talking again on Monday but it is probably best if we're just friends from now on.
Then there's this other girl I went on a first date with. She was really cool and we just talked for 4-5 hours. We stopped by her house to drop off some stuff and I met one of her roommates and he was pretty cool, we got along well. Later on, when this girl hears about how I like to do karaoke, she mentions a roommate of her's Jessica who does a really good Etta James cover.
She said the full name of her roommate. Her full name is the exact same as her OKC username. I immediately recognized this girl of course since I had actually messaged that roommate a week ago and we had a couple messages back and forth but then she stopped replying because I guess she lost interest. Near the end of the date, this girl who I'm having a pretty awesome time with invites me to that roommate's birthday party and combination housewarming that was in a few hours. I said sorry, but I was too busy that night. I mean, I can't imagine how awkward it would be if she recognizes me.
I guess I'll have to just cross that bridge when I get to it.
Anyways, on the bright side there's this other girl I went on two dates with about a month ago. She said that she didn't want to go on a third date until I moved back to santa cruz though. I said it wasn't that long of a drive but she didn't beat around the bush at all, she said she was only looking for fuck buddies. Hence why it is important that I have my own place...
I said that she should know that I'm actually still a virgin but she was actually okay with that. I sent her a text after a month of not talking with her saying I'm in the area if she wants to do anything again, but I'll understand if I'm too inexperienced for her. But she said not to worry about it, and we're going to meet up again this week.
