Pallando will return in "Never Say Never Again"

[Samson Manhug]

I can't believe that wasn't axiomatic enough for y'all.

how dumb most people are about computers=how dumb me&every1 is about everything

[CatsCatsCats]

I can't believe that wasn't axiomatic enough for y'all.

What if I got it but had to look up axiomatic?

[Kara]

axiom is in the title of some recently released indie trash game, sry but no dispensation

no pity! no remorse! no fear! (shakespeare)

[CatsCatsCats]

Well, fuck you, knowitall *knocks your books to the ground*

[I'm a Puppy!]

I don't really agree with that whole "seeks its own kind".
I feel my wife and I have a great relationship and certainly its better than most of our friends. But we're not really very alike in anything other than our love for each other.  I spent all this time with people that were a lot like me and had similar interests. You know what I found?  Why would I want to hang out with someone that was just like me? I've been around myself all my life and I hate me. For us, our differences is what makes it all work. Everyone that I know is always hooking up with people that are like themselves (some even look like another version of themselves )

That's just never worked for me.

[CatsCatsCats]

It's not about being like you, it's about being about as fucked up as you are

[Rufus]

I read that more as "also crazy" not "exact same kind of crazy".

[I'm a Puppy!]

It's not about being like you, it's about being about as fucked up as you are

Equally fucked up but in a different way so you get to experience new versions of fucked up

[Mupepe]

I know the distinction was already addressed about Ronito's post, but I also don't understand people who want to date someone just like them.  Every time I end up finding someone just like me I tend to get annoyed with them.  I am annoying.  I'm self loathing.  Get away from me, people.

[Human Snorenado]

I know the distinction was already addressed about Ronito's post, but I also don't understand people who want to date someone just like them.  Every time I end up finding someone just like me I tend to get annoyed with them.  I am annoying.  I'm self loathing.  Get away from me, people.

The only thing worse than me is other people. Also, I'm never going to do anything other than hate fuck a conservative or libertarian. Nope.

[Kara]

My ex was a lot like me (imo) and I rather enjoyed that, but I'm quite narcissistic.

[Huff]

Most of my exes are like me. In that they were black out and don't remember how they ended up in bed with me either

[Atramental]

>Have no exes
>Have no flawed exes
>Have given up seeking the love and admiration of the opposite sex (AND the same sex. #NotGay  )
>Realize that true love and peace comes from within
>TFW you have attained perfection

[toku]

one day you will also sip from the cup of heartache atra-chan believe

[Rufus]

one day you will also sip from the cup of heartache atra-chan believe

You're not a real man until then.

[Kara]

>Have no exes
>Have no flawed exes
>Have given up seeking the love and admiration of the opposite sex (AND the same sex. #NotGay  )
>Realize that true love and peace comes from within
>TFW you have attained perfection

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Since you seem unfamiliar with (or uncomfortable saying) the word ataraxia, I'd say you have some miles left on the road to perfection.

[Atramental]

edit: drunk post

[Kara]

edit: drunk post

http://overwatch.gamepedia.com/File:D.Va_-_AFK.ogg

[tiesto]

Anybody here try out Plenty of Fish? Seems like the site got a facelift since I first looked at it some odd years ago... was just browsing around, seeing what's out there, since you don't need to make a profile to look (unlike a lot of other sites). Some cute girls in my area in my age range, and holy shit at the # of special ed teachers out there. Which is good because we could at least bitch about our jobs to each other on a first date or something

Not quite ready to go out dating again, there's a bunch of personal shit I want to do in the meantime (stupid stuff, like recording a new mix, or designing a small mobile game, or cleaning out my garage)... but POF may be a good site to start with.

[Kara]

I've known women who used it... no complaints (beyond the usual "being a straight woman on online dating") but none of them found a meaningful relationship there either.

California is basically perdition though.

[zomgee]

You want broken - try having a wife of 20 years getting diagnosed with bipolar disorder.

All aboard

[brawndolicious]

It helps to understand what causes her issues and how to deal with them. Although I wouldn't assume anyone exhibits all the textbook signs of any mental condition and whatever.

[Kara]

Sorry zom, I take it she has the type 2 formation?

Besides getting the appropriate medications, learning how to handle the mood swings through therapy will help a lot. (I'm inclined to say more because she will probably experience the start of a cycle before she can get medications.)

[zomgee]

I'll go through it in detail someday. It's diagnosed as being very minor, really. It's bipolar tendencies with a borderline personality disorder. She had a legendary, classic, full blown manic episode when our daughter was born 18 years ago and doctors chalked it up to wimmin-juices stuff. She had a bipolar episode brought on by the stress of a harsh pregnancy and lack of sleep. Since then she's had a couple minor (yet major to me yikes) instances that then got diagnosed upon intake. It's one of those things where she'll do something without thinking about the consequences even when people tell her what those consequences are. Turns out the always had the tendencies, maybe brought on by a rape, maybe she was born with it. Maybe it's Maybelline. She's on meds now and therapy, and we're both going to fight for her.

I guess the lesson is there's no such thing as normal.

[Kara]

I'm glad she's willing to fight. (And you too.)  With the right treatment the prognosis for people with BPD is good. (~50% remission by 2 years, IIRC.)

One of my parents has a very severe form of borderline personality disorder that was misdiagnosed as bipolarity until it became a rather impossible to miss, but they never took getting better seriously and I wish that they had, even if it would have done nothing to stop the bad blood that exists between us.

[Atramental]

I'm back on Tinder again now that I'm able to manage my anxiety a lot better. 

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I ended up swiping right because ze's cute. 

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[zomgee]

I'm glad she's willing to fight. (And you too.)  With the right treatment the prognosis for people with BPD is good. (~50% remission by 2 years, IIRC.)

One of my parents has a very severe form of borderline personality disorder that was misdiagnosed as bipolarity until it became a rather impossible to miss, but they never took getting better seriously and I wish that they had, even if it would have done nothing to stop the bad blood that exists between us.

Reading that made me really, really sad.

[I'm a Puppy!]

at least she's willing to work on it. I have an ex that was diagnosed with bipolar disorder but doesn't really take it seriously. It's sad because over the years she's essentially pushed everyone in her life away through her actions/selfishness and she's essentially all alone now. I think if she got treatment and worked on it she could function but she doesn't believe she has a problem it's everyone else that has the problem. So the fact that your wife is getting treatment is a very very good sign. Hang in there.

[Rahxephon91]

I'm going to a Beer Share thingy hosted by my friend this upcoming Monday and his cousin is supposedly going to be there. I only meant her once, but she must have left an impression because I remember her being nice, very smart(probably too good for me who's stuck in the nebulous pre-real adult stage). I hope I'm able to strike up a solid conversation, I'll take that as a victory.

[Mupepe]

God, I love cousins.

[Olivia Wilde Homo]

One of the hookers I've been seeing has invited me to an orgy that's supposed to happen in a few weeks.  Not sure if I'm going to do it or not.  It doesn't sound very appealing to me but the YOLO factor is strong here.

[Phoenix Dark]

One of the hookers I've been seeing has invited me to an orgy that's supposed to happen in a few weeks.  Not sure if I'm going to do it or not.  It doesn't sound very appealing to me but the YOLO factor is strong here.

Is this a high class escort, and a high class event?

[Olivia Wilde Homo]

Yes to the first part, not sure about the second.  I asked for more information.

[Kara]

My (internal) reactions to a couple of recent situations have made it clear to me that some of my existing psychological malformations are virtually ineradicable and to be in a relationship means either concealing those malformations and feeling shitty in a way that I don't care to feel or subjecting someone to unnecessary pain and neither option there strikes me as being particularly desirable. After my current relationship ends (and it will end as I am involved in it) I think I'm going to hang 'em up. At the very least I've proven to myself that I can be better than I have been.

[Bebpo]

One of the hookers I've been seeing has invited me to an orgy that's supposed to happen in a few weeks.  Not sure if I'm going to do it or not.  It doesn't sound very appealing to me but the YOLO factor is strong here.

Can't you always leave if you walk in and it's not appealing?  I'd be real careful about STDs though. 

[VomKriege]

My (internal) reactions to a couple of recent situations have made it clear to me that some of my existing psychological malformations are virtually ineradicable and to be in a relationship means either concealing those malformations and feeling shitty in a way that I don't care to feel or subjecting someone to unnecessary pain and neither option there strikes me as being particularly desirable. After my current relationship ends (and it will end as I am involved in it) I think I'm going to hang 'em up. At the very least I've proven to myself that I can be better than I have been.

Come on now, Marxism is a terrible affliction, but not to that point.

[I'm a Puppy!]

One of the hookers I've been seeing has invited me to an orgy that's supposed to happen in a few weeks.  Not sure if I'm going to do it or not.  It doesn't sound very appealing to me but the YOLO factor is strong here.

Is it a pay event? If so, you're not paying for an orgy, you're paying for a gangbang.

[Kara]

Come on now, Marxism is a terrible affliction, but not to that point.

Nah, the "I can't deal with this" is already starting. And unlike my last serious relationship there's no context / shared experience for any of it to offset my bullshit.

One step closer to being Ultra Romance.

Thanks for the chuckle though. 

[Olivia Wilde Homo]

Gen_Y_Divorce.txt

- A good friend of mine is getting divorced after being married six years.  Apparently he found that she had a secret credit card and things went downhill quickly from there.
- She tried to flip it on him and said that the reason they're getting divorced is because he has a small dick.
- To prove he has a small dick, she uploaded a bunch of their nude pictures and homemade videos onto a dropbox.
- Regret sets in hours later but too late, too many people downloaded a copy (including me ).
- The pictures and videos are now spreading like wildfire and despite begging and pleading, you can't unring that bell.
- Now she claims she is being cyberbullied and that it's all one giant conspiracy led by her soon to be ex-husband.  The ex-husband (my friend) was simultaneously pleading for people to delete the pictures and videos.
- Girl is now threatening legal action against everyone who downloaded the pictures and videos.

It blows my mind that people want to get married these days.  Here's hoping Generation Z learns from our mistakes.

[Atramental]

Get married, brehs.
Trust other people, brehs.

Wizard excellence.

[Bebpo]

- To prove he has a small dick, she uploaded a bunch of their nude pictures and homemade videos onto a dropbox.

 

How does that even make logical sense? 

[VomKriege]

I know people can be driven mad spiteful because of a breakup, that there's violence and you can't keep it nice and clean between the two of you but why even do that shit of giving the rope to be hanged with ?

[Olivia Wilde Homo]

She was hoping that people would point and laugh at how small my friend's dick is.  Didn't quite turn out that way.

His dick is pretty normal sized too, which is the kicker.

[Kara]

Until the law catches up with reality, marriage will always have a certain utility (next of kin, inheritance, et cetera).

Good luck getting the Bible thumpers to go along with eroding the one country, two systems we currently have though. Discrimination is cool if it sunsidizes a particular value system or something.

[Rufus]

So women suffer from the same porn delusions, huh.

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Do keep filming yourself though, it's the best material.

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[Phoenix Dark]

Did any of the pics/videos include nudes of her?

send nude videos to a woman brehs

trust other people brehs

[nudemacusers]

Skip marriage, be forever alone brehs   

[SmokyDave]

Eh, I like being married. Didn't really care about marriage until about an hour after the ceremony, but I'm definitely digging it now.

[naff]

i thought my last partner was 'the one', i don't really have any qualms about marriage now. i used to be really anti-institution and while i still think it's a relatively pointless symbolic gesture i find the idea of celebrating a relationship publicly more interesting as i get older, and shit i do seem to love long drawn out relationships where you slowly develop resentment til eventually your partnership crumbles.  The struggle is so real when you understand your pattern but remain consistent.

Bill Cosby and Camille, now THAT is a solid relationship - just do a bit of raping every now and again to keep things happy at home.

[Bebpo]

Yeah, I'm in no rush, but I'd like to get married at some point with the right person after a 3 year make-sure-this-is-working period including 1 year+ of living together.

Kids though, 50/50 at this point in my life (which is better than 0% want where I was five years ago).  It's weird how I never started feeling old and limited time life choices until this year where I'm turning 35.  I feel like before 35 you can fuck around and have fun, concentrate on yourself, career, family, friends, gfs,  but 35-40 is where you really need to decide if you want to settle down & be a parent.

[Atramental]

Skip marriage, be forever alone brehs   

I'll just overdose on heroin if the loneliness becomes too overwhelming. 

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Kidding.

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Sorta.

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[Kara]

Skip marriage, be forever alone brehs   

By the time free university for all in America covers MFAs and renders this a plausibility for me, I'll be close enough to natural death that I can marry a mail order bride and transmit my estate tax free to the developing world while making Americans pay her my Social Security benefits after I kick the bucket.

[toku]

[Samson Manhug]

Love yourself because you are the only person you’re guaranteed to spend the rest of your life with.

As Fitnessbore readers know, I’m in the process of getting divorced. She’s done some things I’d rather she hadn’t, but in the end I’m not bitter about her or the institution. The next one will be better and in the meantime I get to be born-again single. Viktor Frankl said, “Live as if you were living already for the second time and as if you had acted the first time as wrongly as you are about to act now!” So in a way, I get to do that.

And honestly, being married is awesome. Best 3 years of my life.

[king of the internet]

My (internal) reactions to a couple of recent situations have made it clear to me that some of my existing psychological malformations are virtually ineradicable and to be in a relationship means either concealing those malformations and feeling shitty in a way that I don't care to feel or subjecting someone to unnecessary pain and neither option there strikes me as being particularly desirable. After my current relationship ends (and it will end as I am involved in it) I think I'm going to hang 'em up. At the very least I've proven to myself that I can be better than I have been.

I've reached this point as well. Some people are meant to be on their own. Atm I'm pretty certain that I'll never be in another relationship for the remainder of my wretched existence. 

[Cerveza mas fina]

Guys cheer up, after my last gf over a decade ago now I thought I'd just cruise through life single because I was not able to be in a successful relationship due to me being me.

Then I met my wife.

Stuff can happen and maybe you and your craziness can't change that much, but you might meet someone that will complement you.

[chronovore]

Get married, brehs.
Trust other people, brehs.

Wizard excellence.

It's really nice to have someone who looks after me when I'm sick, supports me when I'm down, and cheers me on from the sidelines. I highly recommend it.

- To prove he has a small dick, she uploaded a bunch of their nude pictures and homemade videos onto a dropbox.

 

How does that even make logical sense?

Bebs. Behhhhhhhhhbs. After all your ladyfriend shenanigans, is that a rock you want to throw, from within your crystalized silicon domicile?

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No, it makes no fucking sense.

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[I'm a Puppy!]

went out with a friend that married a hot young irresponsible guy. She had a few kids with him. Turns out he's sleeping around.
She was like "I can't believe he's cheating on me."
I was like

For the record being married is easily the best thing in my life. BUT! I know we're an odd case and certainly know that it doesn't work for most people.

[TakingBackSunday]

this thread took a dark turn

[Kara]

Guys cheer up, after my last gf over a decade ago now I thought I'd just cruise through life single because I was not able to be in a successful relationship due to me being me.

Then I met my wife.

Stuff can happen and maybe you and your craziness can't change that much, but you might meet someone that will complement you.

I didn't want to get into specifics, but I'll throw out some of the most obviously Manichean situations to demonstrate.

1. A few weeks ago we went out for a nice day in nature and she got a decent sunburn as well as having a bad reaction to the suntan lotion she used (to the point where she had to go to the doctor 2 days later). She didn't suffer in silence with either of these things, and spent the rest of the weekend at my place moping around on top of that. Externally I was supportive and understanding throughout all of this, but internally I was experiencing a profound sense of revulsion at the weakness of the flesh on display. The kind of revulsion you might feel if you walked into an abattoir after the cows were processed (like most eaters of flesh I assume you don't think about how your tasty treats get to plate too much), not the kind you might feel as a man socialized to suck it up / walk it off when saddled with someone not equally socialized.

2. She was raised by elderly relatives, one of whom has been experiencing health problems lately. They live close enough to us that she can be pressed into service in emergencies, but not close enough where this just involves a 90 minute drive there. At the prospect of being called up for an umpteenth time for one of them for the same health issue (and its unforeseen consequences) she was mopey and said, "But I miss you!" when I said that I completely understood if she had to cancel our plans so that she could go pitch in. I responded by saying that it's not like she wanted this to happen and that I would miss her too but internally I was like, "Then tell them to fuck off. Your relative is old, they get sick and die ex officio."

I not only have a very malformed lovemap, but as a being capable of rational thought I know it's one where if I encountered someone who actually fit it that the person would be the kind of person who leaves you in a burning building after running a cost/benefit analysis, or forever loathes themselves for fishing you out.