I mean, I'm definitely trying not to be outcome oriented (keyword "trying").
edit: hell, if all we do is chill out and watch movies while cuddled up next to each other in her dorm I'd be fine with that. That's more action than most gaffers are going to see in their lives. 
I believe I've said this here before, but you gotta just treat it like if it succeeds great, and if it doesn't it will give you stories/tools to make future efforts more successful. For example, I once went on a date with a chick and while were waiting for our food a friend of mine walked up to the table and started talking to me. He was a good friend so I was happy to see him. Did the intros and such and while he and were chatting just like one or two minutes after he walked up I saw my date breathing into her hand to check her breath. As is always the case my mouth engaged before my brain did and I said to her, "Now you have to decide, is it your hand or your breath that stinks?" Obviously, she was offended and got up and stormed off. My friend was like "Puppy, you should go after her!" I held up a hand and said, "Nah man, this story ends better this way."
So yeah, that was a bit of a disaster. But I've used that many times as a first date disaster story and it (along with other stories) have gotten more women than not interested in the next step. If I had just looked at it like "Oh shit! What a fuck up!" Whenever I was on a date and they wanted to swap funny date stories, I'd have nothing. But viewing every date as something to give you experience in future dates I was able to get a ton of mileage out of it.
