Being in love is a rough racket.

[TakingBackSunday]

There's a girl I've been friends with (FRIENDZONE!!!!) for two and a half years who broke up with her boyfriend of five years several weeks ago.  As soon as I met here, I fell in love.  Yeah, it's lame.  I get it.  I've had girlfriends and flings since meeting her, but she's the girl I always think off.  I told her my feelings last week and she told me it was too soon.  But tonight she's fucking around with some faggy looking Mick Jagger wannabe, and I'm pretty sure they went to go have sex.  And she also told me tonight it was "being friends or nothing at all."

I know the responses that will come:  "lol dude move on, she's a slut, what a homo," but this is a girl I match with so much and see a future with.  It sucks, for sure.  I'm sure everyone's been in this position.  I think maybe in a few weeks/months she'd be receptive to me, but I don't wanna seem like that annoying creeper.

There's really no point to this thread other than ranting.  I just hate having love for someone and not having it reciprocated.

[MrAngryFace]

It's weird ever since my last failed relationship it's like I just can't feel that way anymore, which is honestly fine with me. Shits obnoxious to deal with.

[Cerveza mas fina]

You shouldnt have told her how you feel but just be that dick mick jagger type and take it from there.

Also that dude is just rebound nookie so dont sweat it.

Maaan telling her how you feel before anything happens is like blowing your load in foreplay.

[TakingBackSunday]

Yeah I get that.  Alcohol man, fuck.  Why is that shit legal.  I think our elected representatives should outlaw it.

[Cerveza mas fina]

One day youll be older and think about this and laugh. You really werent thinking about how she feels at all when you told her. You put so much pressure on her telling her you love her in a period if her life she needs to sort shit out, youve gone from friend to another thing she has to figure out.

Also why tell someone how you feel if you cant even kiss her? That should tell you all abour her feelings bro.

Im not trying to be mean but just advice.

[TakingBackSunday]

I don't want to just have sex with her though, Lager.  I legit love her.

edit: yeah you're right.  Shit's stupid of me.  I'll just be cool and wait it out and see what happens.

I got laid last weekend at least, so dat's pretty coo'

[Cerveza mas fina]

Yeah I didnt suggest you just want to get laid, but saying you love her is like going all in poker before lookibg at the cards.

[Cerveza mas fina]

Btw sounds like it might be one of those I cant get her crushes, been there. I still facepalm myself for some of those desperate attempts I made.

I think my biggest fail was sleeping in the same bed with a girl and getting nowhere 

[Cerveza mas fina]

Your good looking youll be fine.

[TakingBackSunday]

I'm sure I'll meet some other girls, I just really love this one.

[chronovore]

It seems like you have a tendency to fall for women who are already taken but are in bad relationships, or are just getting out of them.

I also think you sabotage yourself by approaching women in a way which invites rejection.

"Friends or nothing," well, are you really interested in being a friend? Are you one of those "nice guys" who is really just fawning over her to get into a deeper relationship with her?

I don't think you're weak or need to grow a pair or anything, I think you need to try going after a different type of woman.

[Trent Dole]

Ditch this bitch.

[fistfulofmetal]

something about something being on a pedestal or something

[Diunx]

I made the same mistake last year so I can't judge :'(

[Mupepe]

"Friends or nothing at all"

That should tell you everything you need to know.  Either suck it up and accept the friendship or bail out.  You are the creeper if you approach her again.  She knows how you feel.  She's not an idiot.  If anything changes on her end she won't forget what you said.  Find someone else.

Also you love her?  And she's not even reciprocating?  You're not more than friends and she never wants to be?  It doesn't seem like you really know her that well if this shit she's pulling is surprising you.  I think you need to take a long hard look at your relationship with her and re evaluate it.  Sounds more like a proximity infatuation to me.

[MrAngryFace]

Another healthy option is to put everything into your job/school. Duty is probably the best coping mechanism for all this stuff

[Joe Molotov]

Don't give up BN, she'll change her tune after a few weeks in the hole.

[BlueTsunami]

Fuck at "Being friends or nothing at all". You put yourself out there, she obviously wants none of it, time to close up tent and leave. But the heart wants what the heart wants? True but that faggy looking Mick Jagger wannabe would probably tell you

No, you can't always get what you want
But if you try sometime, you just might find
You get what you need

[CajoleJuice]

I'm just annoyed by the typos

[fistfulofmetal]

bn is clearly a selfish prick who didn't think about her feelings. he loves her apparently? sounds like he just idolizes her but cares nothing about her feelings. just ended a long term relationship? probably reeling and not entirely stable? fuck that! i wanna dump all my emotional problems on your lap now. fuck your feelings. I'M IMPORTANT.

[Shaka Khan]

All I can say here is "I know that feel bro." I was in that exact situation many, many moons ago. Back when my hair was black and dick was moist. Needless to say, it ended up badly.

I think the guys got you covered, but the only thing I'll add is that it WILL become a funny memory you'll once look back to, and regardless of the outcome "fagget" is almost assuredly the label you're going to use.

I hope you learned your lesson my precious feg.

[MrAngryFace]

Fuck at "Being friends or nothing at all". You put yourself out there, she obviously wants none of it, time to close up tent and leave. But the heart wants what the heart wants? True but that faggy looking Mick Jagger wannabe would probably tell you

No, you can't always get what you want
But if you try sometime, you just might find
You get what you need

Truth. Moving on after this stuff makes you awesome

[Mupepe]

All I can say here is "I know that feel bro." I was in that exact situation many, many moons ago. Back when my hair was black and dick was moist. Needless to say, it ended up badly.

I think the guys got you covered, but the only thing I'll add is that it WILL become a funny memory you'll once look back to, and regardless of the outcome, "fagget" is almost assuredly the label you're going to use.

I hope you learned your lesson my precious feg.

Yep.  One day you'll think "what the hell was wrong with me?  Good God I dodged a bullet!"

[FlameofCallandorReturns]

How old are you man? You kind of sound like you are 19 or 20.

[tiesto]

That sucks, dude... I used to be into that unrequited crush thing back in the day before I just stopped caring so much. Try taking a vacation, those are always good to take your mind off these things I've found.

[Don Flamenco]

yeah, unreciprocated love is high on my "shitty feelings" list.  Thankfully haven't had a serious crush in a long time.

[Van Cruncheon]

this thread is MAD MO

i recommend 100cc of SACK, stat

[Brehvolution]

All I can say here is "I know that feel bro." I was in that exact situation many, many moons ago. Back when my hair was black and dick was moist. Needless to say, it ended up badly.

I think the guys got you covered, but the only thing I'll add is that it WILL become a funny memory you'll once look back to, and regardless of the outcome "fagget" is almost assuredly the label you're going to use.

I hope you learned your lesson my precious feg.

[Human Snorenado]

this thread is MAD MO

i recommend 100cc of SACK, stat

THIS

[Shaka Khan]

this thread is MAD MO

i recommend 100cc of SACK, stat

When I started school and people asked for my name, I told them "Mo," thinking it'll be less alarming. Everyone went with it. But when I later met some gay friends for the first time and told them my name, their responded with "no, uh uh."

It was too late :'(

[MrAngryFace]

U GOTTA BE TUFF, BN! TOUGH!!!!!!!

SET YER JAW! OPEN THE DOOR! STRIDE INTO THAT WORLD WITH DETERMINATION!!!!!

[Phoenix Dark]

You aren't Superman or Drake, stop trying to save women.

[MrAngryFace]

Agreed- treat them as equals...

















ON THE BATTLEFIELD

[Madrun Badrun]

ah, I remember when I use to like girls and all the terrible feelings that came with them.  Memories.

[Robo]

You aren't Superman or Drake, stop trying to save women.

Look, all he's saying is, she could do better.

[Diunx]

Is there something you want to tells us Arvie?

[Human Snorenado]

Is there something you want to tells us Arvie?

Probably has to do with the large walk-in freezer in his basement.

[Dickie Dee]

Agreed- treat them as equals...

















ON THE BATTLEFIELD

Love is a battlefield

[Madrun Badrun]

Is there something you want to tells us Arvie?

Probably has to do with the large walk-in freezer in his basement.

dude you don't know what you're talking about.  The walk-in freezer is not in my basement.

[Phoenix Dark]

You aren't Superman or Drake, stop trying to save women.

Look, all he's saying is, she could do better.

[tiesto]

Is there something you want to tells us Arvie?

Probably has to do with the large walk-in freezer in his basement.

 

[Shaka Khan]

ah, I remember when I use to like girls and all the terrible feelings that came with them.  Memories.

Out of all the people here, I'm strangely interested in your love life. What's going on with you these days man? Do you really have a walk-in in your place? Like, real talk.

[Madrun Badrun]

Real talk, I talk to like 3 girls in real life and I find them all dull.  Indeed I find everyone dull in real life.

[Shaka Khan]

That's almost a prerequisite to installing walk-ins in basements.

But seriously, how sure are you of your team? Because I think you'll be very marketable on the other.

[Madrun Badrun]

sure sure.  my terabytes of porn with girls in them is a pretty good quantitative measure.

[Bebpo]

It's weird ever since my last failed relationship it's like I just can't feel that way anymore, which is honestly fine with me. Shits obnoxious to deal with.

I feel like I have a high probability of becoming you someday.

Not saying that in a bad way.  I think it's a very viable path and tempting path to go down.  Will give the relationship thing another few tries but it could go either way.

[MrAngryFace]

If it happens it happens- but ultimately its more important that im ok with me

[Shaka Khan]

If it happens it happens- but ultimately its more important that im ok with me

In a perfect world, this would go into the newsfeed.

[Bebpo]

If it happens it happens- but ultimately its more important that im ok with me

I'm ok with you too.

[Van Cruncheon]

actually, as an aside, given the large numbers of gay folks i hang around these days, i'm trying to remove all the gay epithets from my offline vocabulary. trouble is, i REALLY need an uncontrived word that means "sissypants manchild who needs to get over himself lest he dissolve into a pool of his own overemotional narcissism". because when i call someone a "taco" i am unfortunately NOT thinking of any gay qualities; i am just thinking of someone very effete and butthurt. "taco" still shocks dudes into attention, though, and the temptation remains strong to say "man up, taco" -- when in fact, a good manly prostate bonking is just what these people NEED, ironically. any alternatives lack impact or seem far too contrived, though. "manbaby" works, but it lacks cachet. HELP ME BORE. THIS IS A SERIOUS SOCIOCULTURAL PROBLEM THAT OUR SOCIETY DESPERATELY NEEDS A SOLUTION TO: A WAY TO EFFECTIVELY INSULT ENTITLED, WHINY MEN WHO ACTUALLY CARE ABOUT FEEL.

[Dickie Dee]

hmm...

tittybaby?

[Verdigris Murder]

Love is a hangover, masturbation is the paracetamol.

[Mupepe]

actually, as an aside, given the large numbers of gay folks i hang around these days, i'm trying to remove all the gay epithets from my offline vocabulary. trouble is, i REALLY need an uncontrived word that means "sissypants manchild who needs to get over himself lest he dissolve into a pool of his own overemotional narcissism". because when i call someone a "taco" i am unfortunately NOT thinking of any gay qualities; i am just thinking of someone very effete and butthurt. "taco" still shocks dudes into attention, though, and the temptation remains strong to say "man up, taco" -- when in fact, a good manly prostate bonking is just what these people NEED, ironically. any alternatives lack impact or seem far too contrived, though. "manbaby" works, but it lacks cachet. HELP ME BORE. THIS IS A SERIOUS SOCIOCULTURAL PROBLEM THAT OUR SOCIETY DESPERATELY NEEDS A SOLUTION TO: A WAY TO EFFECTIVELY INSULT ENTITLED, WHINY MEN WHO ACTUALLY CARE ABOUT FEEL.

"you fucking pussy"

[Van Cruncheon]

hmm...

tittybaby?

see, here's the other rub: of all the gay folk i know, none have particularly effeminate qualities. in fact, most are in great shape and could kick my ass up and down the block. plus, i'm not really in the mood with the current woman-bashing political climate to suggest that "feminine qualities" are negative. EVERYONE needs to stop being whiny.

[Brehvolution]

frothy individual

[Dickie Dee]

I think the implication is that they're immature little fucks that only stop crying when they're at the teat.

[BlueTsunami]

Doctor Blue suggests you listen to some Spandau Ballet, watch some Romeo+Juliet, and spank it out to some girl next door vids. Here, I'll get the ball rollin'...

[Eel O'Brian]

in a couple of years you're gonna feel like a dingus for wasting time pining when you could've been doing other productive/entertaining things, so spare yourself the future cringe memories and move along

[FlameofCallandorReturns]

in a couple of years you're gonna feel like a dingus for wasting time pining when you could've been doing other productive/entertaining things, so spare yourself the future cringe memories and move along

This times a million man.

Also bebpo, do you really know what love is? You're infatuated by what you think she is. You are NOT in love with her.

[Human Snorenado]

Judging from the anime he watches, I'm not too sure bebpo even knows what a MAN is