When is the last time you've truly cried and why?

[Shaka Khan]

The grandparent stuff scares the hell out of me as the kid who always sought his old man's approval. He's in his seventies and I'm close to getting my shit together. It will probably kill me if he doesn't get a chance to see me doing okay in life, after almost giving heart attacks on multiple occasions due to my fuck-ups. Shit, my eyes are welling up just from typing this.

[Shaka Khan]

I know what you are going through Lager. Back in April, my wife's sister went into labor at 22 weeks. The doctors tried to stop it but couldn't. The baby didn't live 3 days.
Stay strong for her.

My sister went through one (week 20 I believe) literally two weeks ago. She's been dealing with kidney failure for the past 18 years. My father donated her a kidney 12 years ago but her body rejected it, so she's been on dialysis 3 times a week since then. That recent miscarriage was her third. She's not supposed to be getting pregnant but she's crazy-- She wants nothing more than having one.

All i'll say is treasure the time you have with him. When you're with him, drill him with questions about your family and funny stories and stuff, because one day you might come back and he's not the same guy anymore. That's pretty much what happened to me during undergrad and I regret not spending more of my free time over at their house immensely.

:'(

[Mupepe]

The grandparent stuff scares the hell out of me as the kid who always sought his old man's approval. He's in his seventies and I'm close to getting my shit together. It will probably kill me if he doesn't get a chance to see me doing okay in life, after almost giving heart attacks on multiple occasions due to my fuck-ups. Shit, my eyes are welling up just from typing this.

One of my biggest regrets is not asking my dad more about his early life.  I had a very complicated relationship with my dad and he wasn't the best father and I held quite a grudge for a long time.  But I was still the only person in my family that talked to him anymore.  But I let all that bullshit get in the way of learning about my dad and his past and it kills me that I'll never get an answer.  I also sometimes hate myself (seriously... hate) for going weeks and months without calling him.  Like I said, our relationship was very complicated but the moment he died I realized how being so damn bitter made me miss out on so much.  It literally took seconds for me to realize it.  It's a powerful thing.

I know it's not the same as the relationship you're describing with your dad.  But I guess what I'm trying to say is make sure you don't have any "should haves" when he passes.

[Himu]

I tried asking my grandma about her earlier life and she just brushed it aside and didn't want to talk about it when I was clearly trying to get to know her better.

[Mupepe]

I tried asking my grandma about her earlier life and she just brushed it aside and didn't want to talk about it when I was clearly trying to get to know her better.

My dad always wanted to talk about it but I brushed them aside as old man ramblings   Yeah, I'm fucking terrible.

[Human Snorenado]

When I was a kid, I was really pissed at my dad for a long time, which I guess lots of kids whose parents go through a divorce experience being mad at one or both of the parents.  I was fortunate in that as I got older and had relationships of my own, I could then understand how (god love her, but SERIOUSLY) my mother's personality traits would make her just about the most annoying fucking person to be in a relationship with.

So, I'm glad I got to get closer with my dad as I got older, because that motherfucker has some hilarious stories.  He was a young surf punk in Florida, those are some of the best.  I also never knew he got shot- that was a crazy story to hear.  By some chick's drunk father who HAD THE WRONG ADDRESS AND WAS SHOOTING AT THE WRONG PEOPLE.  Thank god the dude was drunk and a shitty aim, or I'd never be here.

[PigSpeakers]

I think it was 2009. There may have been other times in between then, but that's definitely the big one. Not a single one of my friends was talking to me, and despite trying to reach out, none of them invited me to things either. One of my brothers was in california, the other was in brazil, then my sister was stationed somewhere out of state. Maybe out of country. Can't remember. The band I was in kicked me out, which really sucked because I considered them close friends and then found out they were all talking behind my back about me. I also didn't have my driver's license nor a job and wasn't taking classes over the summer. So, basically I felt like I was all alone and didn't have a single friend or person that cared about me. I remember going up to my dad and telling him this, and then I just let loose with the tears. My dad reminded me that him and my mom still cared about me. I don't know what I would have done if my parents weren't still around.

Since then, I haven't really cried that I can remember. I went to a funeral of a friend that I'd only just met a few months prior. She had cancer and died at the age of 19 sometime around february. They asked me to play piano with the choir and they had me do a sort of improvised solo partway through (really I was just playing the song, but broke it into arpeggios so nothing too crazy for a funeral service). Then a couple people in the audience started to choke up during this and then I started to feel it to, but I can't exactly cry while I'm playing, so I didn't.

[Positive Touch]

I tried asking my grandma about her earlier life and she just brushed it aside and didn't want to talk about it when I was clearly trying to get to know her better.

this is my whole damn family. WHO ARE YOU PEOPLE JUST LET ME KNOW FFS

[Olivia Wilde Homo]

A long, long time.

Although when my hound dies, I know for sure I'll be crying.  A lot.

[Steve Contra]

Yeah imma lose my shit (along with certain forum members) when my dog dies.

[Human Snorenado]

Yeah imma lose my shit (along with certain forum members) when my dog dies.

...your dog is immortal.  IMMORTAL, YOU HEAR ME???

[ToxicAdam]

I didn't cry when my kids were born, but when my wife told me we were having twins, I (legit) cried out of sheer terror and dread.

That was an unusual experience.

[Reb]

Still though guys, he was like lonely, and unwanted.

[radioheadrule83]

I never cry. Good films, TV and music have sometimes moved me to near tears, but if we're talking emotional distress - I'm normally really chilled out...

The last time was after travelling 115 miles to see someone and having a meal together, I got dumped in public on a street in London. It came with the added injury that she'd considered it over for a long time. I don't really blame her, because I can't have been fun -- I was at peak stress in my job and being pushed towards redundancy, I was being crushed financially, and she had her own problems too. Doing things together had become difficult and I'd sensed there were problems for a while. My attempts to try and talk feelings actually pushed her away, and gave her a totally false impression of what I wanted out of the thing. When I cried it wasn't like bawling, it was more like head in my hands - a silent tears type thing. I remember feeling false -- like it wasn't really because of the dumping itself, although obviously that did upset me and I still cared about her...... but I think it was more because I felt like I didn't know how to handle anything. I remember scrambling my words and saying all sorts of things I don't really mean before and after. I completely lost my shit for a while. I think I was actually in the midst of a mental breakdown and depression of some sort, because I don't recognise the person I was then in myself right now.

Money stress is the fucking worst. I'm no mercenary or anything, I'm not in love with money -- but it has an important influence on our happiness and those around us. It's been way over a year since then now and just thinking about that time, not just things with her, brings back all kinds of horrible feelings and memories of stress and anxiety...

Overall, I don't think I'd react like that again. I'm never again going to stay loyal to a job that causes me problems. I will never try long distance again unless I've got the money to support it. I don't think I'll feel so 'in love' with anyone again either. "Catching feels" as they say, has always been the dumbest thing I've ever done.

[Eli Gulgin]

My living grandmother is really starting to lose it. She just mistook me for my father. And I've just realized that this is probably the last time I will ever set foot in my grandparents' house. Many of my best childhood memories are here.

Auugh yeah I still have dreams about my grandparents' house since I spent so much time there as a kid and it was such a nice place. And they had a dog and a cat that were so important to me as a kid too. Never getting that time with my grandparents at their house with their pets back :'( All the cool old stuff in the scary attic that I'll never get to explore again

[Sausage]

It was 2 years ago when I was in India and my mom was keeping me from visiting my dad's side of the family on my birthday. That whole trip was a nightmare, and I don't think I'll ever go back to India and visit family because of it. It kinda makes me feel sad that all of you guys have such strong connections with your grandparents, I've only visited them like 5 or 6 times and don't have that strong of a bond with them or anybody else in my family.

[Olivia Wilde Homo]

It was 2 years ago when I was in India and my mom was keeping me from visiting my dad's side of the family on my birthday. That whole trip was a nightmare, and I don't think I'll ever go back to India and visit family because of it. It kinda makes me feel sad that all of you guys have such strong connections with your grandparents, I've only visited them like 5 or 6 times and don't have that strong of a bond with them or anybody else in my family.

I don't have a strong bond with them either.  I spent several months in the same town as one of my grandparents and never bothered to visit.  It wasn't out of some angsty decision, it was just some shit I kept putting off until it was too late.  Oh well.

[Rufus]

I'm no different, If it makes you feel any better. I don't know anyone on my father's side of the family and have never spent any quality time with anyone on my mother's side either. No strong connections with anyone besides my mother, really. And I don't think I've ever had a real conversation with her, either. Can't remember any, anyway, just a handful of stories she's told.

[pickle]

I wish I could cry more, I always feel so good afterwards.

The last time I really cried was about a month ago when I realised just how fucked I am, and how debilitating this whole psychiatric illness thing actually is. The last time I felt normal was when I was in hospital and they had me tripping on benzos. Of course they don't prescribe those anymore for long term treatment. Too addictive and organ destroying.

 

[Mupepe]

I don't talk to my grandparents on my father's side.  Or anyone from there actually.  They pretty much disowned me for getting a mexican pregnant at 17.  For my high school graduation I got a card that told me I was an embarrassment and they weren't coming.  Why the fuck even bother to get a card at that point?  I saw them at my dad's funeral but didn't speak to them except my grandfather.

I also don't talk to my family on my mom's side.  She owned a bar and her brother stole everything from it while she was visiting us in Tennessee (living with my dad).  TV's, pool tables, jukeboxes, beer, everything.  I remember it was only about 20 minutes after they first found my grandpa's body that my cousins were trying to get into his safe.  His body was less than 3 feet away while they sat in a circle trying to figure out how to open it without the combination.

[TakingBackSunday]

dudes I was just being honest 

[Madrun Badrun]

Maybe refraining from honesty should be your thing?

[PigSpeakers]

I don't talk to my grandparents on my father's side.  Or anyone from there actually.  They pretty much disowned me for getting a mexican pregnant at 17.  For my high school graduation I got a card that told me I was an embarrassment and they weren't coming.  Why the fuck even bother to get a card at that point?  I saw them at my dad's funeral but didn't speak to them except my grandfather.

Is there a section for that at hallmark?