Please share your struggle of the day

[Phoenix Dark]

Why is he mad at you AiA

They were over and the boys were playing some cards while the women made fun of us, so a normal sunday night. Wife's sister comes over and says "babe we gotta leave soon I gotta work early tomorrow" to which he replied "bitch never approach me when I'm playing cards with men, ever, got it?" thinking we'd all be like "what a cool guy."

Rather then that my uncle said "don't be disparaging females dude" and he said "it's my life" to which I simply stated "men don't treat women like that, if you do it again I'll be escorting you out of my house."

Then he made the mistake of saying "take to me like a man, because that's what I am" and I flipped the fuck out.

Whole time he didn't say shit. Then he picked up his money and left. I thought well that's that and then sister in law comes back in and tells me "don't be putting your ass in my business...you always messing with my life" and walked out....

HOLD ON

This dude is calling his wife a bitch in front of her blood relatives (her sister, uncle, etc)? The fuck...

btw this isn't the sister in law that wanted to bang you right?

[Himu]

Demented grand father called me a bastard and tried to hit me when I went to babysit him after work today

He's going to the nursing home soon.

Oh, Esch I'm so sorry. What steps is the family taking now?

And AIA that guy sounds like pretty soft. Actually, given the Facebook posturing and the posturing at the family event, I wouldn't be surprised if he were gay and possibly on the DL. Hyper machismo and the will to "prove" your manliness smells of it. I bet you he likes dicks.

[Phoenix Dark]

sorry to hear that Esch

[Himu]

Jeez, I just can't imagine going through with that. Cancer with my gramps was plenty stressful, but THAT. Wow.

[Madrun Badrun]

Ya.  My grandpa doesn't know who I am half the time I talk to him anymore and it's getting worse.  Suicide is definitely my first course of action if I ever get like that. 

[Himu]

Family assisted suicide should be legal.

[Shaka Khan]

[Positive Touch]

damn esch I'm really sorry to hear that

[parallax]

I'm just done taking care of him. I can't handle it anymore and neither can anyone else in my family. He has to go.

He was such a smart guy too. Attorney general of Fiji, they sent him to europe to learn all sorts of shit on sscholarship,  he was the man. Taught me to read and fix flats. Taught me how to cook lunch for myself.

Now he's just a mess. He eats soap, raw chicken, anything. He's hostile even on sedatives. He's still physically active so it's worse than most people I see in my research job which is also geriatric centered.

been there with my grandpa. he had dementia while my grandma was here, but when she was around it wasnt as bad. when she died, shit kicked into overdrive. eating old ass clam chowder and getting massive diarrhea, fighting us for giving him his meds and clocking out in public when we find out that he would spit them out. cussing me out for telling him he needs to take a shower, then having to bathe him. he did a lot of shit that made me pissed off at him. then right before he died i caught him watching an old church tape that had my grandma and him in it and seeing him crying made me realize thats what he has to deal with, and before i could do much he had an accident and died.

[Shaka Khan]

I didn't see Esch's post. Sorry to hear that bro.

To be fair though, he's not white.

[Madrun Badrun]

Dementia is actually a non-white person problem, Shaka

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK25535/

 

[Madrun Badrun]

I'm just done taking care of him. I can't handle it anymore and neither can anyone else in my family. He has to go.

He was such a smart guy too. Attorney general of Fiji, they sent him to europe to learn all sorts of shit on sscholarship,  he was the man. Taught me to read and fix flats. Taught me how to cook lunch for myself.

Now he's just a mess. He eats soap, raw chicken, anything. He's hostile even on sedatives. He's still physically active so it's worse than most people I see in my research job which is also geriatric centered.

been there with my grandpa. he had dementia while my grandma was here, but when she was around it wasnt as bad. when she died, shit kicked into overdrive. eating old ass clam chowder and getting massive diarrhea, fighting us for giving him his meds and clocking out in public when we find out that he would spit them out. cussing me out for telling him he needs to take a shower, then having to bathe him. he did a lot of shit that made me pissed off at him. then right before he died i caught him watching an old church tape that had my grandma and him in it and seeing him crying made me realize thats what he has to deal with, and before i could do much he had an accident and died.

[parallax]

I'm just done taking care of him. I can't handle it anymore and neither can anyone else in my family. He has to go.

He was such a smart guy too. Attorney general of Fiji, they sent him to europe to learn all sorts of shit on sscholarship,  he was the man. Taught me to read and fix flats. Taught me how to cook lunch for myself.

Now he's just a mess. He eats soap, raw chicken, anything. He's hostile even on sedatives. He's still physically active so it's worse than most people I see in my research job which is also geriatric centered.

been there with my grandpa. he had dementia while my grandma was here, but when she was around it wasnt as bad. when she died, shit kicked into overdrive. eating old ass clam chowder and getting massive diarrhea, fighting us for giving him his meds and clocking out in public when we find out that he would spit them out. cussing me out for telling him he needs to take a shower, then having to bathe him. he did a lot of shit that made me pissed off at him. then right before he died  i caught him watching an old church tape that had my grandma and him in it and seeing him crying made me realize thats what he has to deal with, and before i could do much he had an accident and died.

Honestly, this is what I wish would happen. Just let him go peacefully into that goodnight.

He's become violent and angry. when some people get dementia they just become confused and addled. Others get angry, or start wondering around a lot, become highly oppositional.. He argues and fights constantly, elbowing, punching, pinching and berating. Sometimes its different, and he's downright cheerful, and he'll call me my kid nickname (Cuppy), and give me hugs, but that's about 5% of the time.


Luckily though he's leaving for a nursing home in California. My grandma needs to be free of him. She's put up with years of taking care of him with this and deserves to enjoy the remaining life she has on her clock.

i was in that boat before when he was really acting up(i cant see a marie callendars without getting pissed off)but after he had passed i felt like shit for thinking that. but i also know some old people really want to die, and they act out because of it, so theres nothing you can really do about those cases. being in a home might be the best for him as well.

[I'm a Puppy!]

This page
 

[parallax]

This page
 

i actually shared that when you were still taking randoms. before people starting making up shit to get it posted

[Huff]

Got my first rejection email.

"While your portfolio is impressive, I regret to inform you that we will not pursue your candidacy at this time. Again, thank you for your interest and I wish you the best of luck in your future search."

Looks like I wont be heading to Missouri anytime soon

[TVC15]

New wrinkle today. I've pretty much been told when my last day has to be by. Naturally, revealing it to strangers isn't the best idea, but you'll all find out soon enough.

[Madrun Badrun]

I'm so sorry.  It must feel awful being rejected from someone from Missouri.

On the bright side you can now tell the girls you have an impressive portfolio and that you won't be going to Missouri anytime soon.

[Huff]

Post grad.

I figure 8 years in school is enough for this go round

[benjipwns]

Post grad.

I figure 8 years in school is enough for this go round

You don't know what it's like out there! I've worked in the private sector. They expect results.

[Positive Touch]

Got my first rejection email.

"While your portfolio is impressive, I regret to inform you that we will not pursue your candidacy at this time. Again, thank you for your interest and I wish you the best of luck in your future search."

Looks like I wont be heading to Missouri anytime soon

burn you don't get to hang out with stl bore

[chronovore]

Though this may not be on-time for your grandparents, hopefully this will be something which keeps it from our generation or the next...?

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/science/science-news/11280504/Has-Stanford-University-found-a-cure-for-Alzheimers-disease.html

The researchers found that, in mice, blocking EP2 with a drug reversed memory loss and myriad other Alzheimer’s-like features in the animals.

[fistfulofmetal]

getting more news about gf's new job progress (and move to nyc) during the same week she's extremely busy so i won't see her much

not feeling great right now brehs

[TVC15]

Just threw out my journals, dating from 2002 to 2014. It was tougher than I thought it would be. I drove a town over and threw the book journals in a dumpster behind a grocer store so they're far enough away that it would be inconvenient for me to go back and retrieve them before it's emptied. Deleted most of the PC ones, though I think I missed a few years (I switched to PC ~2011 because it was more convenient, but I switched places/storage mechanisms/whatever a few times. I think I got all of em but I have a nagging feeling).

[El Babua]

Was in the IRL version of TLR for the last few hours.

Triumph: Got two free beers out of it though.   

[TVC15]

[sarslip]

cut a small chunk out of my pinky finger with a bread knife 

still bleeding when i took the band aid off this morning 



owie! 

[Am_I_Anonymous]

I'm just done taking care of him. I can't handle it anymore and neither can anyone else in my family. He has to go.

He was such a smart guy too. Attorney general of Fiji, they sent him to europe to learn all sorts of shit on sscholarship,  he was the man. Taught me to read and fix flats. Taught me how to cook lunch for myself.

Now he's just a mess. He eats soap, raw chicken, anything. He's hostile even on sedatives. He's still physically active so it's worse than most people I see in my research job which is also geriatric centered.

Damn Esch, that really sucks bro.

[Am_I_Anonymous]

Why is he mad at you AiA

They were over and the boys were playing some cards while the women made fun of us, so a normal sunday night. Wife's sister comes over and says "babe we gotta leave soon I gotta work early tomorrow" to which he replied "bitch never approach me when I'm playing cards with men, ever, got it?" thinking we'd all be like "what a cool guy."

Rather then that my uncle said "don't be disparaging females dude" and he said "it's my life" to which I simply stated "men don't treat women like that, if you do it again I'll be escorting you out of my house."

Then he made the mistake of saying "take to me like a man, because that's what I am" and I flipped the fuck out.

Whole time he didn't say shit. Then he picked up his money and left. I thought well that's that and then sister in law comes back in and tells me "don't be putting your ass in my business...you always messing with my life" and walked out....

HOLD ON

This dude is calling his wife a bitch in front of her blood relatives (her sister, uncle, etc)? The fuck...

btw this isn't the sister in law that wanted to bang you right?

Nope this is the smart sister. She actually has a really good job too. She struggles with self confidence.

As for him, he's a kid. I'm willing to excuse his behavior as an attempt to "man out" once. But he isn't going to get that break from my wife.

I know some of you guys are a very mature 27 but I sure wasn't, I was still growing as a man. We all make mistakes. I don't appreciate disrespecting women though. I was raised different than that as you can see with my uncle being the first to call him out. Thank god my dad wasn't alive as he would have thrown him out by his collar.

[octopushover]

junior employee i was mentoring all last year in order to get her to join my team quit today because of constantly being mistreated by her current supervisor.

feels bad man. 

[Am_I_Anonymous]

junior employee i was mentoring all last year in order to get her to join my team quit today because of constantly being mistreated by her current supervisor.

feels bad man. 

Was she a good worker or were you trying to get it in? Be honest.

[Phoenix Dark]

I was raised to respect women as well. I know tumblr fegs disapprove but fuck them. My mom expected that I open the door first for her/women and for elderly people of both genders. I was always pressed to be respectful of women, to the point it is now second nature.

That's part of the reason I get so rustled at work about women being mistreated. Not opening doors for women doesn't make you a bad person obviously - I'm talking about guys who take advantage of their position to pressure women into things. Or guys that always want to have inappropriate conversations around women. Since when is that shit cool?

But like I said, it really makes decent dudes stand out. You look like a great guy just by not being a distinguished mentally-challenged fellow.

[Am_I_Anonymous]

I was raised to respect women as well. I know tumblr fegs disapprove but fuck them. My mom expected that I open the door first for her/women and for elderly people of both genders. I was always pressed to be respectful of women, to the point it is now second nature.

That's part of the reason I get so rustled at work about women being mistreated. Not opening doors for women doesn't make you a bad person obviously - I'm talking about guys who take advantage of their position to pressure women into things. Or guys that always want to have inappropriate conversations around women. Since when is that shit cool?

But like I said, it really makes decent dudes stand out. You look like a great guy just by not being a distinguished mentally-challenged fellow.

Totally the same way I feel.

When I was a youngster my father would literally whap the back of my head if I didn't hold the door open at Church for any woman who came  up. This sometimes had me holding the door for 15 minutes while everybody arrived. In fact it's one of my first memories.

ME "I'm gonna sit down daddy"

Pops "You see Mrs Jones?"

Me "Yeah"

Pops "Hold the door open for her"

Me "But I"

*whap

Pops "don't mouth me, do as I say"

Me "Yes sir"

[Madrun Badrun]

Fuck you and you're door openings PD.  Do you know how hard that is to do non-awkwardly when you are short and fat?  You are creating an expectation not all men can compete with!

[thabiz]

egg white or regular egg for my breakfast sandwich.  i shouldnt have to start my day like this.

[Am_I_Anonymous]

egg white or regular egg for my breakfast sandwich.  i shouldnt have to start my day like this.

Balance the healthy egg white with a couple of pieces of bacon!

[thabiz]

egg white or regular egg for my breakfast sandwich.  i shouldnt have to start my day like this.

Balance the healthy egg white with a couple of pieces of bacon!

sausage and cheese.

[Am_I_Anonymous]

egg white or regular egg for my breakfast sandwich.  i shouldnt have to start my day like this.

Balance the healthy egg white with a couple of pieces of bacon!

sausage and cheese.

Hmmmm.....spicy sausage or regular variety? Lately I've been addicted to spicy italian sausage patties for breakfast.

http://allrecipes.com/recipe/hot-italian-sausage/

[octopushover]

junior employee i was mentoring all last year in order to get her to join my team quit today because of constantly being mistreated by her current supervisor.

feels bad man. 

Was she a good worker or were you trying to get it in? Be honest.

she was a good writer. i'm a loyal boyfriend thank you very much.

[Am_I_Anonymous]

junior employee i was mentoring all last year in order to get her to join my team quit today because of constantly being mistreated by her current supervisor.

feels bad man. 

Was she a good worker or were you trying to get it in? Be honest.

she was a good writer. i'm a loyal boyfriend thank you very much.

Oh I wasn't trying to insult. It's just I've seen both sides of the equation.

[thabiz]

egg white or regular egg for my breakfast sandwich.  i shouldnt have to start my day like this.

Balance the healthy egg white with a couple of pieces of bacon!

sausage and cheese.

Hmmmm.....spicy sausage or regular variety? Lately I've been addicted to spicy italian sausage patties for breakfast.

http://allrecipes.com/recipe/hot-italian-sausage/

regular.


im hooked on soppressata for pizza.  nice and spicy.

[Am_I_Anonymous]

egg white or regular egg for my breakfast sandwich.  i shouldnt have to start my day like this.

Balance the healthy egg white with a couple of pieces of bacon!

sausage and cheese.

Hmmmm.....spicy sausage or regular variety? Lately I've been addicted to spicy italian sausage patties for breakfast.

http://allrecipes.com/recipe/hot-italian-sausage/

regular.


im hooked on soppressata for pizza.  nice and spicy.

Isn't that like pig tongues and stuff? You have more balls than I sir.

[Madrun Badrun]

I woke up with the chorus of Proud Mary in my head, now it won't leave and I'm compelled to sing it repeatedly - just the chorus. 

[thabiz]

egg white or regular egg for my breakfast sandwich.  i shouldnt have to start my day like this.

Balance the healthy egg white with a couple of pieces of bacon!

sausage and cheese.

Hmmmm.....spicy sausage or regular variety? Lately I've been addicted to spicy italian sausage patties for breakfast.

http://allrecipes.com/recipe/hot-italian-sausage/

regular.


im hooked on soppressata for pizza.  nice and spicy.

Isn't that like pig tongues and stuff? You have more balls than I sir.

yep.  pigs head, tongue, belly and stomach.  SO GOOD!

[I'm a Puppy!]

I was raised to respect women as well. I know tumblr fegs disapprove but fuck them. My mom expected that I open the door first for her/women and for elderly people of both genders. I was always pressed to be respectful of women, to the point it is now second nature.

That's part of the reason I get so rustled at work about women being mistreated. Not opening doors for women doesn't make you a bad person obviously - I'm talking about guys who take advantage of their position to pressure women into things. Or guys that always want to have inappropriate conversations around women. Since when is that shit cool?

But like I said, it really makes decent dudes stand out. You look like a great guy just by not being a distinguished mentally-challenged fellow.

I was raised the same way, never had a problem with it until for some reason in the past 5 years it's started to really backfire.
Like I'd hold a door open for people but I've had a woman say "I could've done that for myself" as she passed.
Or when I was in Seattle a few months back there was a lady standing and she had all these bags and a backpack, I got up and offered her my seat, I didn't have anything heavy and my stop was coming up. Why not? She accepted but said, "Thanks for the seat but I'm not interested in exchanging numbers or anything."
Another one was when I go on a business trip to a city where I'm alone I'll do lunch with people I know, and in return for keeping me company I ALWAYS pay. Men/Women whoever. I pay. It's my way of saying "thanks for taking time out of your day so I don't waste away in a hotel room" So I actually met up two gaffers (they actually happened to be women) and had a nice dinner, in a new place in the city I was staying in and when the check came I pulled out the card and they were like "DON'T WHITE KNIGHT ME!!" I was so flummoxed I had no idea what to say or how to respond. If someone offers to pay and I didn't want them to I'd say "Hey I appreciate it but let's split it."
The best one was I was getting off a southwest flight in Houston and this guy was getting up to leave the airplane and saw a lady was having a hard time with her bag and he said, "Here let me help you." And the woman turned around and said "Don't think you can just get into my pants by acting all gentleman like. I didn't ask for your help!" Well behind the guy was his fiance who turned around and was like "Nuh-uh bitch!" A scene from Jerry Springer ensued and the flight attendants had to break it up.

I'm not gonna stop being nice to people and doing what I do, but I am sorta perplexed at how people react to it lately.

[Am_I_Anonymous]

I've been told the same thing "I can do it myself, thanks"

I just say "Have a nice day" and smile. Dust off my shoulders man.

[sarslip]

you guys holding doors open for jerks wth 

usually what happens when doors get held open, is no one remembers or cares enough to say "thanks" to the person doing it,

or those people who hold doors open for you, when you're still far away from said door  and have to do the lame hastened-trot shit, fuck that too 

[mormapope]

 

Door holding definitely has an awkward range. Holding the door when someone is too far away always results in instant polite panic.

[Brehvolution]

What's the cut off for waiting on them to get to the door you are holding open? Personally, if I think I'll have to hold it for 3 seconds for them to get there I won't hold it.

Holding it open longer than 5 seconds is  -tier

[Madrun Badrun]

Door holding definitely has an awkward range. Holding the door when someone is too far away always results in instant polite panic.

Sometimes, only sometimes mind you, I like to hold the door in the awkward range for attractive girls, just to see them in their polite panic.  So sexy. 

[Yeti]

My holding doors open isn't gendered, I do it for everyone if I am the first one to the door. I also have a rule for how long to hold a door open if someone is on their way to the door but not quite there yet. I estimate how long it would take for the person to arrive at the door, and I estimate how long it would take the door to close if I were to let it go. If the door would fully close before the person arrived at the door, then my obligations have been met and I can walk away. I do give myself a bit of leeway though, because it wouldn't do for the person to arrive at the door only to have it close in their face. And of course if I see the person speed up their pace towards me I will hold the door open no matter how far away they are, because the person is obviously expecting you to hold it open for them and is being polite enough to speed up so you don't have to hold the door open as long.

[Madrun Badrun]

Door holding definitely has an awkward range. Holding the door when someone is too far away always results in instant polite panic.

Sometimes, only sometimes mind you, I like to hold the door in the awkward range for attractive girls, just to see them in their polite panic.  So sexy. 

Especially when they are wearing heels and their furious short steps leave them breathless by the time they get to me.  So sexy. 

[king of the internet]

I let doors slam behind me no matter how close the person behind me is, or their gender. Fuck you all.

[Phoenix Dark]

If I got the "thanks but I could open it myself" treatment I'd just say "I'm sure you can. It would be insulting for me to assume you're female based on your appearance."


take that, tumblr fegs

[recursivelyenumerable]

yet another doors thread. i expect my doors to man up and hold themselves.

[king of the internet]

Doors with the handicap button.

[MrAngryFace]

Sometimes i'll pretend I am checking myself for my wallet or engaging in some other distraction to avoid a door holding situation.

[king of the internet]

Sometimes i'll pretend I am checking myself for my wallet or engaging in some other distraction to avoid a door holding situation.

One of the great things about living in the smart phone era. Basically always have a super convenient way to pretend to not notice people exist in your pocket 24/7.

[Positive Touch]

never had anyone ever get mad at me for holding a door or helping them out. must suck for you rapey-looking trollface dudes

[Human Snorenado]

No one expects me to hold a door for them, because I look like a hobo