Author Topic: minor inconveniences that are not struggles (Read 919260 times)

Phoenix Dark · « **Reply #2280 on:** May 03, 2016, 01:31:59 PM »

I decided not to acknowledge the pics. Saw the chick today at work, had a cordial work-related convo plus some random chit chat as usual. TBH I can only think of one thing that might have prompted this: last month she told me I smelled nice that day (don't remember what I was wearing, probably just aftershave lmao) and I said thanks so do you. Was that a fuck up? Ehh.

I did send the screenshot to my gf last night, almost asap. I'll see her tonight so I assume it'll be fine, since I have nothing to hide. But still.

Mupepe · « **Reply #2281 on:** May 03, 2016, 01:59:29 PM »

Can you forward them to me?

Am_I_Anonymous · « **Reply #2282 on:** May 03, 2016, 02:01:26 PM »

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 03, 2016, 01:31:59 PM

I decided not to acknowledge the pics. Saw the chick today at work, had a cordial work-related convo plus some random chit chat as usual. TBH I can only think of one thing that might have prompted this: last month she told me I smelled nice that day (don't remember what I was wearing, probably just aftershave lmao) and I said thanks so do you. Was that a fuck up? Ehh.

I did send the screenshot to my gf last night, almost asap. I'll see her tonight so I assume it'll be fine, since I have nothing to hide. But still.

NO dude, NO.

I mean handle your shit with the coworker but if it ain't your wife it ain't worth the struggle to defend yourself. Women get heated over shit you can't even fathom. Trust me.

Rufus · « **Reply #2283 on:** May 03, 2016, 02:06:02 PM »

Yeah, my initial though was that she now knows that there's someone you see almost every day who is for sure interested in you. Then again, I assume that people are fairly insecure, which PD's lady might not be at all.

brawndolicious · « **Reply #2284 on:** May 03, 2016, 02:06:28 PM »

He did the right thing and if the gf blows up at him then he learns that she has issues trusting him.

I mean I can't tell if he did the right thing but he did the "right" thing.

Am_I_Anonymous · « **Reply #2285 on:** May 03, 2016, 02:11:13 PM »

Quote from: brawndolicious on May 03, 2016, 02:06:28 PM

He did the right thing and if the gf blows up at him then he learns that she has issues trusting him.

I mean I can't tell if he did the right thing but he did the "right" thing.

No, rookie, he didn't. If he hasn't been dating his girl for more than oh...a year....it's best to handle that business in private, which I know he is capable of. All he is doing is providing free bullets for the "you don't treat me right" gun.

Phoenix Dark · « **Reply #2286 on:** May 03, 2016, 02:31:59 PM »

My reasoning is I'd rather have it out in the open than to be surprised by something in the future and have it look like I wasn't truthful. At least now she knows, I was up front about it, and I have nothing to hide.

The potential problem is that I know she has self confidence issues. She doesn't mention it often but she's done it enough for me to know she feels bad about her "big" nose (smh white people), small boobs and average ass. Meanwhile the chick who sent the pics is a voluptuous Latina.

We'll see brehs. I think it'll be fine, but AiA is right that I'll hear about this again at a random moment in the future. But at least it won't be "so who is this girl who is sending you pics?"

Am_I_Anonymous · « **Reply #2287 on:** May 03, 2016, 03:40:28 PM »

White girl....oh lord breh

"PD who was that girl talking to you?"

"Oh that's Janet she works in sales at my company"

"Oh like that last bitch who sent you pics? What's wrong with your company?"

Cue 2 solid weeks of begging for sex.

Am_I_Anonymous · « **Reply #2288 on:** May 03, 2016, 03:41:53 PM »

Oh yeah and a Latina in the wild is worth 2 white girls nicca. Get your head on straight. They just fuck you harder when they get jealous.....well until they cut your ass. It's a fine line.

I'm a Puppy! · « **Reply #2289 on:** May 03, 2016, 06:47:29 PM »

Wait. Wait....
Your GF's a white girl and the chick that sent you pics was a voluptuous latina? And the first thing you did was send the pic to your GF?

Am_I_Anonymous · « **Reply #2290 on:** May 03, 2016, 07:11:05 PM »

That's what I'm sayin.

brawndolicious · « **Reply #2291 on:** May 03, 2016, 07:56:56 PM »

You also believed your son watches porn "because white women told him to".

Pd just make sure you can explain how she got your number (workplace directory?)

Madrun Badrun · « **Reply #2292 on:** May 03, 2016, 11:52:12 PM »

PD is angling for a threesome. "Remember that one time we watched lesbian porn together, well..."

Joe Molotov · « **Reply #2293 on:** May 04, 2016, 01:16:23 AM »

"We heard you were looking for a threesome, well here we are!"

Cerveza mas fina · « **Reply #2294 on:** May 04, 2016, 04:52:32 AM »

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 03, 2016, 01:31:59 PM

I decided not to acknowledge the pics. Saw the chick today at work, had a cordial work-related convo plus some random chit chat as usual. TBH I can only think of one thing that might have prompted this: last month she told me I smelled nice that day (don't remember what I was wearing, probably just aftershave lmao) and I said thanks so do you. Was that a fuck up? Ehh.

I did send the screenshot to my gf last night, almost asap. I'll see her tonight so I assume it'll be fine, since I have nothing to hide. But still.

did you send the pics to your ex gf yet?

Phoenix Dark · « **Reply #2295 on:** May 04, 2016, 02:27:08 PM »

Well it went well in some ways but I can tell I'm going to pay for this. Telling her ASAP clearly won me some points, she believes me...but the impression I started to get is that she thinks I must have instigated things with the chick. Never said it outright but yea...smh. She wanted to know as much about her as possible, including asking me if she's funny. Do you think she's cute. etc etc

I can also tell her self confidence issues are coming to the front. But I'm going to keep the dialogue open.

BTW the chick at work hasn't talked to me today yet.

Joe Molotov · « **Reply #2296 on:** May 04, 2016, 09:47:55 PM »

His gf suspected something was up when he started eating at Taco Bell so much.

Kara · « **Reply #2297 on:** May 04, 2016, 10:20:25 PM »

Trust other people brehs.

Kara · « **Reply #2298 on:** May 04, 2016, 11:09:48 PM »

I may or may not prepare a "should I tell the truth" flowchart to help you navigate life in a non-Ned Stark manner, but in the meantime here is Vularai's Maxim:

If asked a direct question, answer it truthfully, but do not otherwise volunteer the truth freely, and do not contradict the inferences made by others to try and fill in the gaps that arise from living thusly unless asked to do so directly.

Example: I was sharing a meal out with my girlfriend--who knows little about my unsavory past--when she said something along the lines of, "That's because we're both only children." Now this is untrue, she simply inferred it because I have never spoken of my sibling (whom I have not spoken to in 15 months now, and have no intention of ever speaking with again), but instead of going, "Actually..." and ruining the meal with an infodump about my benighted kindred, I simply let the conversation move along and didn't engage with that.

Rufus · « **Reply #2299 on:** May 04, 2016, 11:25:18 PM »

I'm with you in spirit. So long as you don't let stuff like that pile up into an inevitable "why wouldn't you tell me x, y and z"-revelation.

I'm a Puppy! · « **Reply #2300 on:** May 05, 2016, 12:07:31 AM »

Yeah....that's going to come up some day.

Kara · « **Reply #2301 on:** May 05, 2016, 12:25:27 AM »

Quote from: Kaffir The Reaper on May 05, 2016, 12:22:32 AM

It's Kara, guys. That's what he wants.

Life is so dull, you have to set the stage yourself to ensure things get interesting.

Atramental · « **Reply #2302 on:** May 05, 2016, 12:27:50 AM »

I don't think anyone knows, in my immediate group of casual friends & acquitances, how big of a loser I really am.

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Who am I kidding? They know.

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Rufus · « **Reply #2303 on:** May 05, 2016, 12:31:54 AM »

Quote from: Pallando on May 05, 2016, 12:27:50 AM

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Who am I kidding? They know.
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And they don't really care.

brawndolicious · « **Reply #2304 on:** May 05, 2016, 12:52:10 AM »

I've been a bigger loser than you before Mr Pal. When I did the eventual moaning about my problems to real life friends they were like "wtf I had no idea you were so much stupider/less social savvy than I thought". Then it hit me.

Sometimes you just gotta jerk off, shit yourself, and then walk out of the bathroom you're hiding in like nothing happened. That's the way life works.

Kara · « **Reply #2305 on:** May 05, 2016, 01:13:18 AM »

Quote from: brawndolicious on May 05, 2016, 12:52:10 AM

I've been a bigger loser than you before Mr Pal. When I did the eventual moaning about my problems to real life friends they were like "wtf I had no idea you were so much stupider/less social savvy than I thought". Then it hit me.

Sometimes you just gotta jerk off, shit yourself, and then walk out of the bathroom you're hiding in like nothing happened. That's the way life works.

Like I said, don't offer the truth unless directly asked.

Madrun Badrun · « **Reply #2306 on:** May 05, 2016, 01:15:46 AM »

and even then

Kara · « **Reply #2307 on:** May 05, 2016, 01:18:18 AM »

Nah, you have to be truthful when asked. It's the Go Fish exception to the rule.

Mupepe · « **Reply #2308 on:** May 05, 2016, 10:20:24 AM »

The average person has a plethora of insecurities personal issues. They just learn to hide them.

Phoenix Dark · « **Reply #2309 on:** May 05, 2016, 10:48:22 AM »

While I generally agree that offering little personal info makes sense, I wouldn't include this on the list. I'm going to pay for this but my gamble is that the L I take in the future is significantly smaller than the L I would have taken if I never told her about this and she somehow found out x months later.

As an example of shit I don't mention...like Kara I have a brother I don't talk to, and I will not discuss that with anyone. That's personal info that has nothing to do with our relationship.

Mupepe · « **Reply #2310 on:** May 05, 2016, 11:01:20 AM »

What's the general consensus on sharing kinky fantasies? At what point do you let the freak flag fly and say "Baby, I'm into some weird shit."?

I'm a Puppy! · « **Reply #2311 on:** May 05, 2016, 11:08:45 AM »

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 05, 2016, 10:48:22 AM

While I generally agree that offering little personal info makes sense, I wouldn't include this on the list. I'm going to pay for this but my gamble is that the L I take in the future is significantly smaller than the L I would have taken if I never told her about this and she somehow found out x months later.

As an example of shit I don't mention...like Kara I have a brother I don't talk to, and I will not discuss that with anyone. That's personal info that has nothing to do with our relationship.

Don't mention you have a brother you don't speak to because it's personal. Show pics of voluptuous latinas that were sent to you privately to your GF because they might find out some months later brehs

Brehvolution · « **Reply #2312 on:** May 05, 2016, 11:25:25 AM »

Seasons don't Kaffir the Reaper. Nor do the wind, the sun or the rain.

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I'm sorry

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Kara · « **Reply #2313 on:** May 05, 2016, 11:48:39 AM »

Quote from: The Walrus on May 05, 2016, 10:54:17 AM

Is this a new girlfriend, Kara, or did you get back with the ex?

If you've explained this in the relationship thread already I apologize, I haven't gone in there in awhile.

I haven't posted much in months, you didn't miss anything.

She's not my ex, but I talk to my ex quite regularly still. I met her on Tinder.

bork · « **Reply #2314 on:** May 05, 2016, 01:29:12 PM »

PD, another 'L' here is that you didn't show us those lingerie pics.

Phoenix Dark · « **Reply #2315 on:** May 05, 2016, 02:27:25 PM »

I might need to send them to valued Latina experts Puppy and Mupepe.

Madrun Badrun · « **Reply #2316 on:** May 05, 2016, 02:35:52 PM »

To certify her worth? To have her appraised as a 10 Kart Latino?

Kara · « **Reply #2317 on:** May 05, 2016, 02:43:00 PM »

Latina. Aren't you a linguistics TA?

Madrun Badrun · « **Reply #2318 on:** May 05, 2016, 03:22:39 PM »

I got a linguistics degree. I just though latino sounded better with kart than latina. You know what they say, comedy before word gender.

Samson Manhug · « **Reply #2319 on:** May 05, 2016, 04:29:48 PM »

Quote from: Kara on May 04, 2016, 11:09:48 PM

I may or may not prepare a "should I tell the truth" flowchart to help you navigate life in a non-Ned Stark manner, but in the meantime here is Vularai's Maxim:

If asked a direct question, answer it truthfully, but do not otherwise volunteer the truth freely, and do not contradict the inferences made by others to try and fill in the gaps that arise from living thusly unless asked to do so directly.

Example: I was sharing a meal out with my girlfriend--who knows little about my unsavory past--when she said something along the lines of, "That's because we're both only children." Now this is untrue, she simply inferred it because I have never spoken of my sibling (whom I have not spoken to in 15 months now, and have no intention of ever speaking with again), but instead of going, "Actually..." and ruining the meal with an infodump about my benighted kindred, I simply let the conversation move along and didn't engage with that.

This is good advice for obtaining a security clearance, but really bad advice for someone you are developing intimacy with.

Kara · « **Reply #2320 on:** May 05, 2016, 07:48:45 PM »

When you cynically calculate to tell the truth not because it's what you would want someone to do for you were the roles reversed but because the outcome of doing so is less calamitous than not doing so, I would argue that there already are fundamental intimacy issues.

Rufus · « **Reply #2321 on:** May 05, 2016, 08:18:50 PM »

That only makes sense if your assumption bears out to be true.

There's an argument to be made for not making someone worry for no reason, especially when you know they're insecure. However, there's still a chance the small problem to turn into a bigger problem down the line when a potential threat gets multiplied by it being kept secret. The why's to that one are all uncomfortable. PD's reasoning is sound. I would have gambled on it not ever coming up again, simply to avoid any immediate trouble, but that's me.

Olivia Wilde Homo · « **Reply #2322 on:** May 05, 2016, 08:52:03 PM »

For sure it will be used as a weapon against him later but I think PD is in the right here.

CatsCatsCats · « **Reply #2323 on:** May 06, 2016, 03:32:52 PM »

Honestly it would depend on my level of commitment. Would only preempt if there was a significant chance the girl is gonna be wifey. Otherwise

chronovore · « **Reply #2324 on:** May 06, 2016, 06:22:29 PM »

From where I sit, PD is manufacturing problems for himself and his SO.

Office girl sent something unsolicited. Delete it, give Office Girl a graceful out by never bringing it up, and don't cause problems by introducing nonexistent drama to your chosen partner's life.

chronovore · « **Reply #2325 on:** May 08, 2016, 03:05:42 AM »

One of my two wi-fi routers died.

Rufus · « **Reply #2326 on:** May 08, 2016, 05:14:15 AM »

Quote from: chronovore on May 06, 2016, 06:22:29 PM

From where I sit, PD is manufacturing problems for himself and his SO.

Office girl sent something unsolicited. Delete it, give Office Girl a graceful out by never bringing it up, and don't cause problems by introducing nonexistent drama to your chosen partner's life.

Hm, you know, this sounds pretty wise.

It's good to have old guys around.

Phoenix Dark · « **Reply #2327 on:** May 08, 2016, 08:05:48 AM »

Chrono that's definitely good advise. I was just scared at what might happen. So far things have smoothed over though. She thanked me again for being open and I haven't gotten the impression she's brooding over it. We're still chilling like normal. Obviously I expect her to bring it up in some form or fashion one day but I don't think it'll be a huge deal.

Feeling good right now.

Huff · « **Reply #2328 on:** May 08, 2016, 02:44:08 PM »

Flight delayed two hours

Kara · « **Reply #2329 on:** May 08, 2016, 03:18:31 PM »

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 08, 2016, 08:05:48 AM

Chrono that's definitely good advise. I was just scared at what might happen. So far things have smoothed over though. She thanked me again for being open and I haven't gotten the impression she's brooding over it. We're still chilling like normal. Obviously I expect her to bring it up in some form or fashion one day but I don't think it'll be a huge deal.

Feeling good right now.

Honestly dude, you were a victim in all this but behaved anything but. I'd think about why that's going on, at the least.

Atramental · « **Reply #2330 on:** May 09, 2016, 08:40:23 AM »

Couldn't fall asleep last night.

Mupepe · « **Reply #2331 on:** May 09, 2016, 03:54:24 PM »

Wait 5 hours for a report to run only to find out that you forgot to select an important field. Restart the report.

I'm a Puppy! · « **Reply #2332 on:** May 09, 2016, 03:55:32 PM »

Drove about 2 hours to go to an important client meeting. Client cancels right before due to production issues.
I understand, it's not their fault at all. Still a pain.

brawndolicious · « **Reply #2333 on:** May 09, 2016, 05:54:38 PM »

I need to find solutions from multiple sources for a new control testing protocol but it looks one of the three companies we contract supplies from bought out their competitors. I point this out and half my supervisors seemed to know this and the rest are going wtf? Yes this should have been addressed long before I came here.

CatsCatsCats · « **Reply #2334 on:** May 09, 2016, 08:43:36 PM »

Found a rather large, but indistinct track in my yard. I need me a trail cam

Phoenix Dark · « **Reply #2335 on:** May 10, 2016, 12:19:22 AM »

Quote from: Kara on May 08, 2016, 03:18:31 PM

Quote from: Phoenix Dark on May 08, 2016, 08:05:48 AM
Chrono that's definitely good advise. I was just scared at what might happen. So far things have smoothed over though. She thanked me again for being open and I haven't gotten the impression she's brooding over it. We're still chilling like normal. Obviously I expect her to bring it up in some form or fashion one day but I don't think it'll be a huge deal.

Feeling good right now.

Honestly dude, you were a victim in all this but behaved anything but. I'd think about why that's going on, at the least.

We pay for the sins of our parents, Kara

Cerveza mas fina · « **Reply #2336 on:** May 11, 2016, 08:27:30 AM »

Growth Hacking - what a bullshit term

Am_I_Anonymous · « **Reply #2337 on:** May 11, 2016, 11:18:28 AM »

Quote from: The Walrus on May 11, 2016, 11:13:51 AM

When you're having a nice morning wank, and suddenly you get an overwhelming intestinal requirement.

Madrun Badrun · « **Reply #2338 on:** May 11, 2016, 11:45:47 AM »

Just remember, if you wank while pooping, that makes you like half gay.

Am_I_Anonymous · « **Reply #2339 on:** May 11, 2016, 11:46:47 AM »

Talking about masturbation if definitely a cac thing

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